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Sometimes in life, we make mistakes. Those mistakes can lead us down a path we never thought we'd lead. We can even feel regret.

Regardless of what it was, whether a small mistake was made or a life-changing decision, we learn our lessons. Those lessons we can then share with those around us and hopefully they learn as well.

We went to Reddit to know what things people have done once before and learned never to do it again.


Redditor Beyond_Human_202 asked:

"What's something you never want to do again?"

Let's see if we can take a page or two from these Redditor's books.

Putting energy into an unbalanced relationship.

"Waste time on a person who doesn't put the energy in the relationship as I do. This is draining."

- wifeofweasley

"Yeah it is better to stay out of relationships where things are not mutual."

- Beyond_Human_202

"Oof same. Not long ago I left my ex who couldn't even be bothered to come with me to my aunt's funeral. It made me crazy cynical and not hopeful for my future prospects. I've since found someone who wants to spend time with me, who listens, who cares about my wants and needs. I've felt more love from him in 6 months than I did in a 7-year relationship. If you haven't found who you're looking for yet, I wish you luck. They're out there."

- I_RATE_BIRDS

Disappointment.

"Disappoint someone I care about..."

- improbablynotahuman

"I also want to stop being disappointed in people. I don't know why I am always so shocked when I find out yet another human sucks. Why am I this way?"

- badFishTu

"For me it's lying to somebody who I love. It's so hard to disappoint someone but its not worth a lie."

- Heselmann

Been there, done that.

"High school."

- cawclot

"I would do it again if I could go back with all the memories I have now."

"Reliving it as I did the first time, though, f*ck no."

- Dahhhkness

"Idk man, that almost sounds worse. Giving up all your adult freedoms and privileges. Dealing with high school level conversations and relationships. If you really wanted a redo you could probably use your current knowledge to rock your way through high school, but there would be a ton of downsides."

- RickTitus

"Honestly I think high school would be easy as a do over, from class work and not being involved in as much petty BS because of experience and perspective... but then I think, you'd have these memories and this perspective but how much would that be compromised by being in a hormone flooded teen body again? How much of teen obnoxiousness is chemical vs perspective related?"

- whitexknight

"The hardest part wouldn't be the other teens: it'd be the adults. Will never forget the conversation with the assistant principal halfway through freshman year where he misspelled my name, and then when I corrected him politely he looked me in the eye, grinned, and answered, 'I know,' without correcting a letter. Then he held that gaze to stare me down."

"Was in his office to take care of routine paperwork because I was transferring into that school. He was a massive jerk who knew he could get away with baiting a fourteen-year-old, and I was an honor roll student with no disciplinary problems. What a nightmare that man must have been to the kids who made any minor mistake such as being late to class."

- doublestitch

Now that sounds painful.

"Bite my tongue so hard that it lacerates and then later develops a nickel-sized canker sore that prevents me from eating and speaking for two weeks. Doctor had to prescribe lidocaine mouthwash because the pain was so unbearable."

- brother_aron

"I can empathize as I get canker sores a lot from biting my tongue/cheek or otherwise. Debacterol is a life changer."

- FormalOperational

"My heart goes out to you. Those things REALLY F*CKING HURT but they don't look like a big deal so people don't get how misery making they are."

- SchrodingersLego

No amount of money should be worth this.

"Compromise my morals and standards for a sub-par paycheque."

- unnecessary_teamwork

There's actually record numbers of people quitting their jobs right now, probably for this very reason.

The irony.

"Second guess myself...maybe...hang on..."

- NEF984

"Are you sure?"

- xs3660471

"...um...possibly...I don't know if I am indecisive or not..."

- NEF984

Puppies look cute, but...

"Raise a puppy. As cute as they are, they're little monsters."

- yusase

"As I read that my 17 week old lab just pushed his way through the fly screen to get inside."

- matchformydemon

"I have raised 3 different Golden retriever puppies over the years, and while I loved them all , I will never raise a puppy again. It is very very difficult. I will likely just adopt an adult dog next time."

- ChmeeWu

Addiction is a difficult illness.

"Meth and heroin. I'm 7 years clean and I've never thought about going back."

"I started dating someone and moved in with him, he was an alcoholic and started to abuse me, before I could get out he offered me meth and when I tried it I felt like I couldn't leave. I tried it because I was being abused, believed no one wanted or needed me, no one but him could love me, and meth is what he did."

"Later in that relationship he let me try heroin and it was a turning point, I was worse on it than I was on meth."

"He didn't want me to live there so we lived in a hotel for a few months, one night I got so drunk I fell asleep outside of the hotel room, I called my family, they picked me up, I called the police and then they came and picked me up and took me to the ER. I immediately got rehab and within two weeks I decided to leave him forever. A few weeks after rehab I went to my first NA meeting and my life changed. I never went back."

- WitzEndSendHelp

Losing friends.

"Lose really nice friends due to my own insecurities."

- NmReallyMe

"The thing with friends is that you can reconnect several years later, assuming both want to reconnect."

- OldMork

"Except I messed up really bad. I've tried to reconnect but the trust is just too broken..."

- NmReallyMe

This list goes in so many different directions, but it's important to look into all aspects of life when evaluating the path we want to lead going forward.

Your future is yours to determine, so why keep doing something that makes out lives more difficult?

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