Humans are a mess. That is the first life truth we should all accept and embrace. Insects shake their heads at us in disbelief. 2020 has proven we are in need of some restructuring and life assistance. And all of that knowledge can leave a harsh taste in our mouths. But we have to drink the kool-aid -the good kind- and listen. To be human is to be in a constant state turmoil, it's just how we deal with that turmoil is what matters.Redditor u/Quotestrav wanted us all to take a seat and let's sip some scolding hot chamomile about the facts of life by asking.... What are some bitter truths about human nature?
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We often use anger as a cover for everything from sadness to fear because we feel more in control with that emotion.... and that normally makes the situation worse.
We often justify things that are clearly wrong.
Sometimes that's the only way we can deal with it. Some things are too big for any one person to take down. When a bunch of us get together, we can yell really loud to make change happen. But for any one person, it tends to be easier and safer to believe that the bad thing isn't so bad. It's one of the reasons change is hard.
"I can picture in my mind a world without war, a world without hate. And I can picture us attacking that world because they'd never expect it."
-- Jack Handey
Did you know that monkeys actually wage "war" and have some leaders in their groups? I forget which type, probably a chimp, but the researcher who studied that ended up getting depressed for a while. The chimps would even selectively target and kill each other somewhat strategically.
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There's always going to be someone who will try to take advantage of you or ruin your life no matter what.
Most humans will betray their values to satisfy a basic need. If you understand how to meet someone's highest need, you can easily influence that individual's behavior. Unless your basic needs are met, it's impossible to pursue a higher level of consciousness. But if I have the luxury of contemplation without worrying about a need for safety, food, etc., what excuse do I have but to lead a life based on values and principles, rather than solely in pursuit of a selfish need?
Don't be Miserable....
Everyone can be toxic, if you allow them to be. Best thing to do is know who's right for you and who's not. Fix your life and choose the right people.
My wife can't seem to understand this, there are a number of people I have said I want nothing to do with because they are not right for me. Life is short and I don't want to spend it with people that are not right for me.
Apparently I'm miserable and intolerant.
Doing the Work
Relationships (all relationships) require investment.
It's easy when you're friends at school or work. The second it becomes inconvenient though things start fizzling out. Why? Because no one makes an effort. If you really care about someone - say it or show them. Even if its just a random text once in awhile, it's those little investments that continue to nurture the connection.
There are so many friendships I used to have that I just let dwindle to nothing. It's no one's fault, but our own - both sides play a role, but at the end of the day you can only control your own actions.
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Out of sight, out of mind. Friends drift apart.
I am learning this hard among the pandemic. Especially when people have their own families to take care of. Enjoy your friends when you have them because they don't last forever.
You have no idea....
That we are, all of us, under the right circumstances, capable of murder.
When I was in an abusive relationship I was extremely close to this point. I was in a foreign country, no friends, no family, nobody I could run to. I had nothing left. Every time he hurt me I often considered stabbing him to death so I could be free. The only reason I didn't was because he was a foot taller and 200lbs heavier than me.
He could've easily killed me, dumped my body somewhere, and gotten away with it. Obviously I eventually got out of there and that country, but sometimes I still think about how close I was to being ok with the idea of killing someone to save myself.
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It is human nature to think wisely and act foolishly.
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