There are definitely some negative consequences when it comes to posting NSFW pictures online. True, you can do what you want- I don't judge, I was a burlesque dancer myself. But it's important to know the safety concerns, like having your "fans" approach you. Here are some of those stories. Post with caution!
u/Adrous asked: People who post NSFW pics on Reddit, have you even been approached by a "fan", if so how did it go?
Damn Tumblr.
I had always really struggled with body image stuff and didn't want anyone to look at me for the most part. I found this app called "Mobli" which was essentially Instagram for d*ck pics. I had lost a few pounds and decided to take a leap into the deep end and post a few things since I got to control who could see my "private" pics through a request/accept system. One was a photo of me in my underwear.
Someone apparently stole that and posted it on tumblr. I'm kind of a stocky/fat hairy guy with a beard so I never imagined that happening but I met someone at a party weeks later that recognized me from it. He told me he saw me there and I felt sick.
I asked him if he remembered where so he found the post and sent a link and there I was - face and all with the camera situated to put my junk all in the viewer's face. It had been reblogged like 700 times already including by some magazines specific to guys like me apparently.
Wholesome!
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Years back, there was a exotic dancer in town that I recognized from a Lil Wayne video. She was actually surprised that I knew that. Nice girl, hope she's doing well.
Yikes.
I happened to meet someone who showed me a list of his four favorite NSFW tumblr blogs he followed. Mine was on the list. I am not sure if he actually recognized it was mine and I didn't reveal the fact on my own.
Sounds like high school.
I used to post NSFW pics on tumblr, about a year after I deleted it some girls at work found the pictures and sent them to everyone at my work. I had to have a very awkward conversation with my manager.
To answer a couple of questions, the girls did get a talking to and had their probationary period extended but nothing really came of it. My manager spoke to me about it but I didn't get in trouble. I think the main reason she did was because she found out before I did and she thought I should know. The pictures had been reposted on other sites etc so I'm assuming they found them on one of those. Didn't really feel like asking them where they found them.
Awkward.
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I used to sell my underwear, socks and stuff online during my college years. I hardly ever met with clients but met this guy, let's call him Jim, a couple of times in a coffee shop to hand him the package because we lived in the same city. Super quick transaction - hi, thanks, have a good one. All was fine. Happened maybe 3-4 times. Always the same order.
Fast forward to a couple years later, I was invited to a job interview. Got there, met the CEO and we talked for a bit. Everything went great. I met a couple of other people and everyone seemed utterly lovely. At the end of the interview, CEO tells me to wait a bit because he wants me to meet the head of my future department. Well, Jim walks in. I probably wouldn't have recognised him if he hadn't acted all weird and pretty much fled the room after like 30 seconds of awkward starring. I got a call later from him today, he apologised and said that he was looking forward to working with me. I ended up taking another offer. Still get texts from him from time to time asking if I'd still sell him stuff though. So, yeah, that was fun.
Put a bag on your head.
There was a girl at my school, who had a video that her boyfriend recorded of them having sex go pretty viral on tumblr, everyone knew then, but the couple didn't really seem to care.
Fast forward to now, I sh*t you not I still see this video if I browse, not even looking it's just all over, she has had to make a post about dudes from our school hitting her up either trying to blackmail, or just sleep her because they assume she's easy?
Moral of the story, put a bag on your head.
Oh my GOD.
I posted a gif of my round man butt jiggling on Reddit about 8 years ago.
It ended up being used in some porn ads, blissfully unaware it was a man.
That's so scary.
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A friend from high school, who I knew of but didn't know, DM'd me on Facebook letting me know that there was a website dedicated to identifying GW girls. They had most of my pictures, my full name, my hometown, state, and college.
That was like 5 years ago and I haven't posted to GW since.
I owe her a lot.
Hijacking this comment for a PSA to anyone who posts anything NSFW on Reddit, even text stories: there are multiple websites out there that use automated bots to scrape content posted to Reddit and store / display it offsite, and often that includes attempts to dox the poster behind the content.
I had a friend who didn't even post nudes, just stories on r/gonewildstories, and she found that her posts were almost immediately (like, in a matter of hours after submitting) appearing on other porn sites under her username. She had a "profile" page created of her and everything, linking to all the stuff she'd posted that was stolen from Reddit and archived on other websites.
The takeaway here is that once you submit any NSFW content to a public site like Reddit, it's no longer under your control. You can delete the posts, take down the pics, even delete your account and that content will persist forever on other websites.
That's so messed up.
I used to post maybe 5 or 6 years ago. A friend of mine on Facebook warned me he'd come across my photos on a separate forum. People had taken them from reddit and posted them on a forum dedicated to doxxing women. They had my first and last name, and names of places (bars, etc) I commonly visited.
I had to change up my entire life because I was terrified of being murdered or assaults.
Edit: I edited this into a comment further down but adding here to dissuade the crazy theories. I went back to look at the Facebook message, it's been five years so I didn't remember details. He knew about it because they were extorting his sister for $500 to take down her photos. So he was looking in the (our area) thread to see if he recognized anyone else to warn. It has been taken down.
This is cute.
It was kinda cute. I was at a coffee shop and she approached me, asking about the book I was reading. I could tell something else was on her mind. I expected some pyramid scheme pitch, but she casually asked if I posted on reddit and if I was the username I used at the time.
It threw me off guard, like my real life hit with this anonymous world, but she turned out to be super nice and we ended up dating for a few months. I think she had an abnormal amount of self confidence and most people wouldn't approach.
That's kinda cool actually.
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Not exactly what is being asked and not my own experience.
But the opening scene for Wolf of Wall Street when Leonardo rips a line off of a woman's a** — she went to the same little college as I did. I didn't know her very well, as she was a couple years older.
On campus, those that ran in her circle knew and were supportive, and contrary to what might be expected, there were no creepy stalkers or whatever and it was largely accepted as a kinda neat fun fact about her.
And apparently DiCaprio is a delight.
What a strange first date.
Not this, but I was once set up on a blind date with a "fan" from FetLife. I didn't know until he called me by my username and asked if I'd do things from my profile with him. There definitely wasn't a second date.
That's creepy.
Not on Reddit but I used to be a cam girl. An older man in Walmart approached me saying he loved my videos and was very sad when I announced I wouldn't be doing them anymore. He saw my daughter (who was three months old at the time) and said "oh you got pregnant. You could have made a lot of money doing pregnant vids. I would have loved to watch you grow".
It freaked me out a bit, and my daughter and I left the store immediately. This is one of 3 people I've run into and he was the most polite, which is sad.
Yikes.
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I was a nude model in my younger years and posted some work on DeviantArt. Some of them ended up on 4chan and eventually the link to my portfolio got sent around at work in a very male dominated field. A lot of people liked to have opinions about me because they saw me naked, but had never actually spoken a single word to me in their life.
Lots of sexual harassment and unwanted attention came of it, but I still don't regret doing it. It was all very classy stuff and I'm proud of my body of work.
Thrift stores are the best places to flirt.
I had a guy recognize me in a Goodwill once. But he didn't come up to me, he messaged me a day later to tell me he had seen me but was too scared to say anything to me. We chatted for a while but never met up and it eventually fizzled out.
For many childhood memories are overrun by living nightmares.
Yes, children are resilient, but that doesn't mean that the things we see as babes don't follow us forever.
The horrors of the world are no stranger to the young.
Redditor -2sweetcaramel- wanted to see who was willing to share about the worst things we've seen as kids, so they asked:
"What’s the creepiest thing you saw as a kid?"
Serious Danger
"Me and my best friend would explore the drainage tunnels under the Vegas area where we grew up. These were miles long and it was always really cool down there so it was a good way to escape the heat of our scorching hot summers. We went into this one that goes under the Fiesta casino and found a camp with a bunch of homeless people."
"Mind you we are like 11 years old lol. And we just kept going like it was nothing. It wasn’t scary then but when I look back at it we could have been in some serious danger. Our parents had no idea we did this or where we were and we had no cellphones. We could have been kidnapped and never have been found."
oofboof2020
Waiting for Food
"I was at a portillos once when I was 12 and I was waiting with my little brother at a booth while my parents got our food. This guy was standing with his tray kind of watching me then after a couple of minutes he started to walk over really fast not breaking eye contact with me."
"He was 2 feet from the table and my dad came out of nowhere and scared the s**t out of him. He looked so surprised and just said he wanted to see if I’d get scared or not. He left his tray full of food near the door and left. My folks reported him but we never went to that location again since we found a better one closer to home."
nowhereboy1964
Captain Hobo to the Rescue
"When I was a pretty young teen, my friends and I were horsing around in San Francisco and started hanging out to smoke with some homeless guys. Another homeless dude came up and began aggressively trying to shake us down for anything (money, smokes, a ride, drugs- all of it) and wouldn’t take no for an answer."
"We got in over our heads and could tell this guy was now riling the other 2 guys up and they were acting like they wanted to jump us. Some grandfather-looking old homeless man appeared out of nowhere and yelled at us to get the f**k out of here- nice kids like us don’t belong down here at this hour!!"
"Captain Hobo saved our lives that night. My parents sincerely thought we were at a mall all day lol."
FartAttack911
Survival
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"I was 7 and survived the 2004 tsunami in Thailand. Witnessed the wave rise way above the already massive palm trees (approx. 40ft?) and my family and I watched/heard the wave crash into the ground from a rooftop."
faithfulpoo
These Tsunami stories are just tragic.
On the Sand
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"We were a group of kids who went to swim in a local lake. And there was a dead body on the beach with their hands raised and their legs bent unnaturally that local police just took out of the same lake. I've never put my foot in these waters again."
oyloff
Be Clever
"I was walking to school and I was about 5 or 6 years old and some guy pulled up beside me in his car and asked if I would get in. He also offered me sweets to do so. I said no. The creepy bit was when he calmly said ‘clever boy’ to me, then drove off. I’ve never even told my parents or anyone else about this as it would most likely freak them out."
OstneyPiz
Bad Jokes
"Dad's side of the family pranked me by burying a fake body on our back property and had me dig it up to find valuables. Was only allowed to use a lantern for light. They stuffed old clothes with chicken bones. Sheetrock mud where the head was... Random fake jewelry as the treasures... I was like maybe 10 or 11.. I remember digging up the boot first and started gagging because it became real at that point."
Alegan239
YOU
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"Woke up to find my little brother staring at me in the dark, asking, Are you really you?"
PrettyLola2004
Siblings can really be a bunch of creepers.
No one should talk to others in the dark though.
Not all pet owners have the same relationship with their pets.
While anyone who decides to become a pet owner, or pet parent as some say, love their pets equally, some never ever let them leave their side.
Taking their pet with them to work, running errands, even on vacations.
Many pet parents even allow their pets to share their bed with them when going to sleep.
For others though, this is where a line is finally drawn.
Redditor Piggythelavasurfer was curious to hear whether pet owners allowed their pets to share their bed with them, as well as the reasons why they do/don't, leading them to ask:
"Do you let your pet sleep in your bed? Why/why not?"
The Tiny Issue Of Water...
"Absolutely not."
"I have fish."- Senior-Meal3649
Everyone Gets Lonely Eventually...
"I adopted an eleven year old cat the day before Halloween."
"She has mostly lived in my closet since I got her, and she hasn’t been too interested in coming out."
"Last night, she came out of my closet and jumped up on my bed, and crawled under my covers and curled up by my feet to sleep."
"I was so happy!"- YellowBeastJeep
The Comforting Reminder That You're Not Alone...
"I recently lost my Greyhound but I used to let him sleep on my bed with me."
"The company was nice and he was no trouble to have on my bed."- HoodedMenace3
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What Do You Mean Allow?
"I have no choice."
"She is a cat, cats do whatever they want."- Small_cat1412
"He lets me sleep in my bed."- Poorly-Drawn-Beagle
Wouldn't Have It Any Other Way
"I carry my old boy upstairs to bed every night."- worst_in_show
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Who Needs An Alarm Clock?
"I let my two cats sleep with me."
"They're so full of love and just want cuddles all the time."
"And so do I."
"We've all developed a lil routine."
"Get to bed, oldest sleeps on my feet to keep them warm, youngest lies in my arm while I lie on my side (she the little spoon), then when I snooze my alarm for work in the morning the youngest paws at my face and meeps loudly to wake me up."- GhostofaFlea_
Whose Bed Is It Anyway?
"Yes."
"They're also kind enough to let me squeeze into whatever space they've left for me."
"Although I do get a few dirty looks off them."- Therealkaylor
"I found this tiny kitten screaming her head off under a car."
"Would not come out."
"Got some food and some water in dishes."
"I stood by the tire so she couldn't see my feet."
"She got curious about the food and water and started gobbling it down."
"I thought she would bolt when I squatted down."
"She was too busy eating."
"I grabbed her by the nape of the neck and all four legs went straight out and she tried to scratch me to death."
"I got her in the door and tossed her toward the couch."
"She ricocheted off the couch as if she was a ping pong off a table and I lost sight of her."
"I put out food and water and a sandbox and did not see that kitten for three days."
"On the third day, I came home and she was on my bed pillow."
"I thought she would bolt when I came near, but she didn't."
"I wanted to sleep so I tried to scoot her little butt off my pillow."
"She would not go."
"I put my head down to sleep and that is the way it was from then on."
"She ran the roost."- Logical_Cherry_7588
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Sleeping Is A Prerequisite...
"No, he's a cat and he cannot keep still during the night."
"He walks across the headboard, opens the closet doors, jumps into the windows and rustles the blinds, etc."
"If he would sleep he could stay, but alas, he's a ramblin' man."- Spong_Durnflungle
Saying No Just Isn't An Option...
"'Let'."
"Lol."
"It's a cat's world and I'm happy to be on her good side."- milaren
Felines Only!
"The cat does, the dog doesn't and the horse certainly does not either."- Xcrowzz
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Is That My Hair On That Pillow?
"My dog is perfect."
"She comes up, cuddles til we start to fall asleep, then gets down to sleep on her bed so she doesn't get too hot."
"Jumps back up in the early morning for wake up cuddles."
"The hair everywhere is the only downside but she is so cozy, what can you do."- HoodieWinchester
It is easy to understand how some people are able to fall asleep more easily knowing their friend and protector is there, in bed, with them.
Though we can't blame others who don't want to run the risk of being scratched or bitten in the middle of the night either...