The passing of a loved one can be a very difficult experience. Going through their home that once held their life can be cathartic and healing, or incredibly difficult to process.
Grief can be processed through the ritual of going through their belongings, especially if you enlist the help of others and really take the care needed to go through the stages of grief.
You may find a piece of their life that no one knew about. Maybe they had a hobby that they never shared or they kept a journal with thoughts they kept a secret.
Redditor swamptheyard asked:
"Those who've cleaned out their deceased loved one's household after their death what did you discover inside their home that was interesting?"
Get the tissue box ready.
A friend that stole her cloths.
"When I cleaned out my best friend's apartment I found a bunch of my shirts that had been missing that she'd claimed not to have. I started laughing, called her a b*tch, and then just started crying. It was just a lot of complex emotions. Feeling she could have had the world if she wanted, could have kept whatever of mine she wanted if I could just have her back. She just had to give up the needle. Felt so helpless, not being able to help her."
"Wow I lost one of my greatest friends to heroin overdose, and reading this sounds just like the relationship between her and I. You know she was cracking up when you found out she did indeed have those clothes you were looking for too, but that sister-type friendship where your love language is talking sh*t to each other knowing it's nothing but love speaking. My friend battled with trying to get clean, she, unfortunately, got bailed out of jail the night of Christmas eve to be around family and friends for Christmas. That night she decided to use and died while sitting on her bed. It still is hard to accept to this day. I wanted to go through her room to have something of hers for memorabilia, but I just couldn't step foot into the room that once was alive with laughter, goofiness and memories."
A journal for the museum.
"My grandma kept a pretty detailed journal of her life from 5 years old on up. Keep in mind, I'm old, but she crossed the US in a covered wagon to homestead in the Midwest. The journal belongs in a museum."
"I'm going to dig out the journal and do the right thing with it. I've already researched the historical museum in the town where she homesteaded. I'll see about letting them have it, maybe on loan."
"She was awesome. Traveled in a covered wagon at age 5. Lived in a sod house with a dirt floor for a year. Cooked and kept warm with buffalo and cow poop. Gathered rocks off the farm to make a foundation. Rode a horse to school every day to a one room school house. Won the county spelling bee. Became the school marm at age 16. Raised 3 kids by herself during the depression (even bought a small house). Lived to see man walk on the moon."
"Her father became a Teamster. And I mean a REAL teamster in that he drove a wagon pulled by a 20 mule team. He delivered goods to country stores. The wagons were the forerunners to 18 wheelers."
"Archivist here and I absolutely agree with everyone that says this should be preserved and made available (if you're comfortable with it). If you aren't ready to let it go, digitization is always an option, or just finding an archive, library, or museum that you can bequeath it to when you're ready."
"That's a record of the old American experience. You should [100%] contact a local library or publisher to see about saving that record. That's an extremely valuable piece of Americana art."
"I would say keep that, just for you. Or do a scan and put a PDF in like 'Gutenberg Project' maybe. :) I always wondered what life was like back then. History of America never interested me, except the stuff that happened in the bygone eras of cowboys and the like (even if I learned from a AMH professor, some of it was nostalgia and stuff from the .10cents novels). Interesting to know, that she was just like us, with less material possessions and probably got just as annoyed by the going-on in her life."
"After a close friend died, I helped clean out his house. Found shelves and shelves of (hundreds of) bottles of hot sauce. All different kinds. Boxes and boxes of MTG cards, all unopened. Dozens of pairs of sneakers, still in boxes. And a whole bathroom stacked floor to ceiling with rolls of toilet paper (pre-covid). You were a weirdo, Doug. I f*cking miss you."
"Doug invested his money apparently, and could be sitting on someone else's retirement depending on the value of the cards. Sorry you lost your friend, did you keep anything he owned in memory of him? Curious about all that hot sauce he owned though, like did he collect hot sauces, or were they empty and he ate tha on literally everything?"
"Thank you. He left everything to another friend of ours who really needed it and they are doing well now. I kept a few handwritten notes I found and a quilt :) the hot sauce was mostly full bottles, and it got distributed among our friend group."
"$30,000 in the freezer."
"Now that's some cold hard cash."
"Was it wrapped up and stuffed in a bag labeled 'Veal'?"
"Actually, no, it was in several Cool Whip containers."
"When my brother died, we had to sort through every little thing because he hid money all over the place. Taped behind drawers and pictures, in socks, hidden in all kinds of weird places. Ended up with nearly 15k by the end of it."
"My eccentric Great Uncle had almost a quarter million in grocery bags scattered around his house. He'd been a professional gambler most of his life and so never worked or trusted banks."
"I cleaned out my Dad's closet and found a pocket knife with the confederate flag on it. We're Black, so I was very confused 😂 now I carry it around because it reminds me of him. I've gotten a few stares 🥴"
Thankfully, it was forgotten about.
"My senile/Alzheimer depressive grandpa had a gun in his bedroom drawer all along. We don't know how, when or why he got it, but we're happy that he seemed to have forgotten about it and didn't use it."
"When I cleaned out my grandparents house I found a bunch of stuff my grandma took when she left Russia and now I have bunch Stalin era commie crap in my garage."
"My grandparents weren't on the winning side of the war if you catch my drift. A lot of it's bad a** cause it's from the era I just don't know what to do with it all."
"Your local museum might be interested! Doesn't hurt to ask."
"A Russian friend of mine helped clear out her grandmother's apartment after she passed away in the early 1990s. One of the coolest things they found was a freestanding kitchen cabinet with a false back. They tipped it the wrong way and a secret door cracked open. Behind the door was an Russian Orthodox shrine and her bible. Guess you didn't want to get caught with that in your house during the Stalin era."
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Dad's that kept the love strong.
"When I cleared out my dads house last year just as my dad had only just moved house I found old note pads/journals from when he use to drink a lot before he got sober and some of them were from when he was in a pretty dark place. I wish I'd never opened and read some but they were pretty detailed and one even had a 'goodbye note' in I can only imagine what else he was hiding in his mind. I found an old stuffed doll that was very poorly made it was hidden at the bottom of a box in his wardrobe, I hadn't seen it in years (I was 5 when I made it). And yet here it was, safe and sound, lovingly kept throughout the years. Although I swear it looked better when I made it haha. Thanks, dad."
"We didn't really clean out the household because it's still our family home but after my dad passed we were going through some of his things like wallets and clothes and this man kept pictures of my mom everywhere. We were constantly finding them in his pants, his duffel bag, his backpack and all of his wallets had at least 2-3 pics of my mom. It was more confirmation of just how much my dad really loved my mom and it made me happy to have seen a love like that in my parents but it also made me so sad knowing that my mom had to continue living on without him."
"My grandparents were dirt poor, so none of us expected to find an actual Rolex when clearing out my grandpas stuff. Obviously one of my relatives immediately 'went to get it valued' and ran off with the thing. The fun part is Grandma was still alive at the time, and still dirt poor. Imagine stealing the literal only thing of value your mother has for no reason. So it goes."
Not what they thought it was.
"My friend's grandmother died, and he bought her house from his parents and Aunt. It needed a ton of work and I was helping him gut the basement. We pulled down part of the ceiling and a dusty old leather bag fell out of the ceiling onto the floor. We looked at each other, at the bag, and back to each other with that 'Holy F*ckballs we just found a bag of cash' look on our faces."
"We opened up the bag, and found a bunch of old pictures of his grandma and grandpa, and a bunch of their friends. Naked. Apparently his grandparents were swingers back in the day. We did what we felt was the only proper thing to do. Put them all back in the bag and sealed it up into the new ceiling when we put it up. Hopefully it will psychologically damage some other poor souls in 50-60 years."
"We cleared out my grandfather's dresser after my grandma decided she couldn't do it. We found a bunch of t-shirts from various nudist fun runs he'd attended, the most recent of which took place when he was 75! My grandma was embarrassed when she realized he had kept the shirts, and admitted to frequenting a nudist beach with him until he got sick. I would've never guessed!"
"Wait…a t-shirt from a nudist fun run? Kind of defeats the purpose."
"Please tell me you kept some of those shirts. Like, can you imagine wearing it out to a bar and getting a compliment on it and being able to say, 'Thanks! It was my grandpas!' That, and commemorative nudist t-shirts are a weird thing to have."
"My mom like really wanted to toss them but my sister and I managed to smuggle out a couple! Mine says 'Bare Buns Fun Run' which is a delightful alliteration I think lol"
Not as clean as they thought.
"When my parents passed on I inherited their house. They were clean/organized (I am not). We found in every closet packed to the ceiling with useless crap! So they were secret … hoarders!"
Pieces of history.
"Does downsizing count? Mum dug out stuff that we never knew existed. Or never knew she kept."
"Three Purple Heart medals. Two engraved with names: my dad's and my uncle's. The third was not engraved and we have no idea who it was given to."
"Letters exchanged mostly between my dad and his mother during WWII. A whole shoebox full. Mum's wedding book with notes and pictures I had never seen. Like how they first met (at a picnic basket fund raiser) when he proposed (on a motorcycle,) and where they went on their honeymoon (Baton Rouge, Louisiana.)"
"Funeral Guest Books from her mother's and father's funerals. One from Dad's funeral. Copies of their birth and death certificates. Copies of wills, and various legal papers."
"Mum's journals she first started when she was a young girl in the late 1930s."
"I found all my great grandfather's war trophies from his time in the European Theater of WWII."
"SO many Nazi belt buckles, patches, guns, etc."
"My family has my grandpa's 'trophies' of patches and such that he would take off of Nazi soldiers he killed as well."
They didn't even know what they had.
"Not me but my grandfather and his siblings cleared out their brother's home."
"Because they all grew up in the Depression my uncle was justifiably suspicious of banks, doubly so as a Black man, so he had a lot of money hidden in the house. There was very old money and silver stuffed everywhere. My mother tried to persuade them to keep it, because of its value, but they just rolled up all the coins and stacked the bills and took them to the bank. We're talking like old Walking Liberty dollars and the like, red seal bills and everything else. He died in the early 90s, so he had money dating back decades, some of it from the previous century. It was nuts."
"I'm sure some enterprising numismatist made out like a bandit."
Memories, history, and relics from a time now in the past. We hold only these pieces of our loved ones lives to help keep their spirit alive.
Or maybe we hold onto it for our own healing or peace of mind.
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Your home should be sanctuary, which is to say that we hope that nothing bad ever happens once we move in. Unfortunately, life doesn't always work out that way, and sometimes things happen that unnerve the hell out of us.
Is there anything more creepy than being alone at home... only to get the feeling that you're not alone at all? What if you were being watched?! It's the stuff of nightmares, isn't it? And I haven't even touched on the possibility of paranormal activity yet...
People shared their stories with us after Redditor Savings_Actuator asked the online community,
"What is the creepiest thing you've ever experienced in your home?"
"At that point..."
"An intense thunder-and-lightning storm developed. During a loud clap of thunder and brilliant lightning flash (it illuminated the entire 2-story house), I heard a spooky sound simultaneous with the thunder."
"Seems that one of the chains that holds the heavy weights on the "grandfather" clock in the foyer broke, allowing the weight to whack the dong and bang the pendulum as it crashed into the bottom of the clock case."
"At that point, I was convinced that something evil was lurking in the house. So, I stayed in my room - cowering with the door locked - until my parents finally returned home."
"Whack the dong" adds some much needed humor to this story.
"One time I was in my room trying to go to sleep when my closed laptop randomly blasted screams of what sounded like a woman in pain. I still have NO IDEA how that happened, but it scared the sh*t out of me."
Move. Your house is haunted.
"I was at home alone..."
"I was at home alone with my dogs and one of them wouldn't stop barking. She had a shrill piercing bark. Suddenly a man's voice yells 'SHUT UP.' I was on the phone with my mom at the time and she asked 'who's there with you?' I said no one I don't know what that was."
"She told me to gtfo immediately. I didn't, I figure the only person who died while living in the house was my grandpa and I can't blame his ghost. That dog was being super annoying."
Truly an experience a person would never forget.
"When I was about 10..."
"When I was about 10 I was lying in my bed when a pair of hands came up from behind my headboard and started choking me. I remember trying to move or scream but I was completely paralyzed and silent. Then all of a sudden I 'woke up' but I was sitting bolt upright in my bed. Had no idea what sleep paralysis was at the time so it's safe to say it scared the absolute sh*t out of me!"
The brain can play tricks on us, that's for sure!
"I was at my mother's house..."
"I was at my mother's house and the doorbell rang. A young kid (around 8 years old) was at the door. I was opening the door and my brother was behind me being curious who it was, the kid froze up like he wasn't expecting me and my brother there and there were two men (in their mid to late 20s) hiding on each side of the door."
"They booked it immediately after we opened the door. Luckily my brother and I were there to open the door instead of my mom. I figured they wanted to rob her. I moved back in after that."
Yikes. I almost don’t want to know where this was. I'll steer clear.
"My husband is a sleepwalker/talker and he has a recurring dream that there is a portal to another dimension in the corner of our bedroom. He will wake me up saying “look it’s right there!” all the while being asleep. While I believe 100% there is no portal it’s still creepy."
Plot twist: There is a portal and you're in for a treat come your next anniversary.
"My brother and I were home from school..."
"My brother and I were home from school because we were sick. We had a craftroom in the mostly unfinished basement and we were down there playing with miniatures. Around noon we heard, VERY CLEARLY, the front door unlock, open, close, and someone walk in shoes across the foyer tile to the kitchen and turn on the sink."
"They then turned off the sink and went up the stairs to the second floor. I figured it was my step dad and called my mum to let her know he came home for lunch."
"She had just got off the phone with my step dad and he was in his office at work. She called him back and he came ripping home while we hid in the basement. Although we never heard the person come back down the stairs we didn't find anyone in the house."
It definitely wasn't your stepfather, sorry to disappoint you, kiddo.
"Someone started trying to force the door of my small garage apartment open, while I was laying in bed inches from the door, at around 2 am."
More proof that no one should be living in a garage, just saying.
"Being woken up..."
"Being woken up by my daughter whispering “mom” and then hearing her footsteps softly on the carpet as she walked away from my bed. She was not at home at the time, she was at her dad’s."
She wanted a glass of water and astral protected herself to you.
"I'm pretty sure..."
"My sister, our friend and I had just moved into an apartment and one morning found a knife stuck in our door. I'm pretty sure now that it was the woman who lived below us cause it turned out she was a total nutcase, but we had only been living there a few days at that point so it was pretty creepy."
Ummm... no thank you. Nothing worse than learning that you have a crazy neighbor!
Think again before you choose to stay home alone again! This piece is definitely an advertisement for communal living.
Have some stories of your own? Tell us more in the comments below!
It can be very embarrassing when you pronounce words wrong. Let's face it, the English language is super complicated, especially if you're learning it for the first time. You can't always trust yourself to pronounce things phonetically either because of all the different rules!
Recently, a relative pronounced the word "epitome" like "epi-tome." They were embarrassed when I corrected them. I told them that it wasn't a big deal, though they did note that they love that word, have used it for a long time, and that no one corrected them until that moment...
People told their stories after Redditor adeptwarrior asked the online community,
"What's an 'oh sh*t' moment where you realised you've been doing something the wrong way for years?"
"When I was five..."
"When I was five a Pizza Hut employee told me that the powder on the breadsticks was called fairy dust. Ordered extra fairy dust on my breadsticks until I was around 14 when an employee said ‘do you mean garlic salt?’ It still devastates me to realize how obtuse I was."
Believe it or not, Pizza Hut does refer to the mixture—made of of italian seasoning oregano, basil, garlic, marjoram, and parmesan—as fairy dust.
"When he caught me..."
"It wasn’t very long, but when I was learning to drive my dad was explaining the rule of thumb regarding a safe distance to be behind the car in front of you. I thought it meant to hold your thumb up and if your thumb didn’t cover the entire car you were too close to it."
"When he caught me doing that he asked me what I was doing. When I explained he burst out laughing, then considered it, and concluded it wasn’t a bad idea but perhaps a bit distracting."
Also every other driver thinks youre a super friendly guy or a bit passive agressive.
"We got it delivered..."
"We bought a nice liquor cabinet. We got it delivered and noticed it was a bit shorter than we thought. No biggie. Three years later, we’re moving. Lift up cabinet and these beautiful, ornate, screw on legs wrapped in tape and bubble wrap fall off the bottom. Looks so much better now!"
This is cute—it's like you discovered an entirely brand new piece of furniture!
"When he mentioned..."
"Until last week, when my father in law would made a phone call on his very basic non-touch-screen flip phone he would open the menu, scroll to the phone icon, open it, hit the soft key for contacts, scroll to the person he wanted to call, press ok, then press the soft key to call."
"When he mentioned how he preferred his landline because he could just dial the number, I said "Humour me. Just dial the number and hit the talk button." I've never seen a man so simultaneously grateful and embarrassed."
Aww, this is sweet. It's important to help older folks feel up to speed with technology. He was definitely more grateful than embarrassed.
"Since the dawn of time..."
"Since the dawn of time, I would pick up the silverware and utensils out of their tray in the dishwasher and put them away in their drawers then go back and pick up more out of the dishwasher. Then one day I saw my wife lift the tray out of the dishwasher and I legit stood there with my mouth open."
I did not ask to be attacked like this. Leave me alone!
"I always thought..."
"I always thought eggplant tasted "itchy" like itchy was a flavor, like sour or salty. Fed some to my baby and his face turned red wherever the eggplant touched, and I realized we're both just allergic to eggplant. And itchy isn't a flavor."
This is rather sweet but glad to hear that neither you nor your baby had a more serious reaction!
"Apparently the red ring around the bologna is not supposed to be eaten."
Tell that to just about everyone I grew up with.
"My mom has been pronouncing Massachusetts "Massa Two Sh*ts" for years and no one corrected her because they thought she just had strong feelings about Massachusetts."
I mean, have you heard of "Massholes"? They're a thing.
"Well the name I recorded..."
"Well... This was a few years ago. I was the director of IT for a very large company. I was given a new cellphone and told to setup my voicemail. I don’t know that when I recorded my name it would be played to whomever I leave a voice mail for."
"Well the name I recorded was, “Dooder84 Corporate IT Godddd!!!”
I worked there for 4 years until someone in the hallway referred to me as the “corporate IT GoD!” I was so embarrassed."
Wear it confidently because this type of stuff makes people like you more. They don't feel the need to be fake around you.
"My mom used to..."
"My mom used to refer to me as a “bull in a china shop." Always heard it as “bowl in a china shop." Thinking it was a compliment. At about 22 I hear someone else use the phrase and realized she meant “bull,” not “bowl."
Aww, there goes your mom telling you how dainty and priceless you are again!
Don't be too embarrassed. We all fumble, it's what makes us human. Laugh at yourself because chances are that no one else cares as much as you do.
Have some stories of your own? Tell us more in the comments below!
There are many TV shows with compelling themes and interesting character developments that impressed both critics and audiences alike back in the day.
But some of the shows that once captivated audiences have not aged well, and there are many elements in them that are outdated by today's standards.
Curious to hear examples of these, Redditor lilac_cup asked:
"Which tv series has aged like milk?"
The handling of these controversial TV story lines seem so careless in retrospect.
Addressing Child Abuse
"The very first episode of Hill Street Blues has two cops breaking up a domestic disturbance caused by a woman finding her man f'king her 15yo daughter. The man is told not to be sh**ty, the woman is told to put out more and the child is told not to be so tempting. Then the cops leave, patting themselves on the back for a job well done."
The Teacher's Secret Relationship
"Pretty Little Liars. I think even at the time, the teacher dating his 16 year old student storyline was considered creepy, but in 2022 it’s honestly unbelievable that was ever portrayed in any kind of positive light. Also that her parents didn’t immediately just report him to the police."
"Not the whole series but Ally McBeal. In one episode Ally found out her bf is bi and her reason breaking up with him was she afraid that one day her bf would be attracted to their son."
These reality shows would never fly in a "woke" world.
"There was a reality show on Fox called 'Black. White.' Where they put a white family in blackface and a black family in whiteface."
"Just reading about it, it turns out the white family wasn't even a real family. They were unrelated actors."
"Extreme makeover. I remember watching this show as a kid and being like oh wow they’re fixing all these ugly people with plastic surgery and making them happy. I just think that caused a whole generation to think they could change their body with money. Show lasted like 4 seasons. Couldn’t imagine that show today."
"Secret life of an American teenager."
"My god this show was terrible. My wife’s sister was into it and we ended up watching a lot of it when we were dating. I think they tried to make the banter like Gilmore Girls, but it ended up being the characters repeating their current plots and arcs over and over. I don’t remember the characters at all, but the main character was such a horrible person, and the audience is supposed to root for her."
"The main things I remember about it were the religious girl claiming she killed her dad by having sex with her boyfriend, and apparently you go to Bologna to get bjs."
"You Are What You Eat."
"Host Gillian McKeith (or to use her full medical title, Gillian McKeith) was an absolute quack with an online medical qualification from a Mickey Mouse university. She pretended to be a scientist by being recorded standing around in a lab wearing a white coat, spouted unscientific nonsense that anyone who had done a GCSE in science could see through, and was obsessed with getting people to shit in Tupperware boxes."
"It got cancelled after the final series when you had to have her move in with you. In the last few years she popped up again as a prominent anti-vaxxer once COVID vaccines became available."
These pageant shows glorifying good looks and talent would never be greenlit today.
"Dance moms- used to be entertaining, now all I can see is the psychological effects it must’ve had on those girls."
"Americas Next Top Model has to be #1."
"From all the behind the scenes sh*t that went on in production to what the show actually shows. It’s all just horrendous."
From Ugly To Beautiful
"The Swan, was 2 women who are considered 'ugly ducklings' participating in a pageant against each other after undergoing a three-month transformative process aka having heaps of plastic surgery."
"Right?! How were they allowed to do so many procedures in such a short time while completely isolating these women from their families? Making them diet and exercise while healing from a tummy tuck, breast implants, and veneers?! The 'therapy' sessions were a joke and were just for show while these poor women with low self esteem were preyed upon for entertainment. Just out of a safety and medical prospective…wow."
Judging The Reflection
"Didn't they also not allow the contestants/patients to have mirrors the whole time so they were surprised when they saw themselves? Psychologically having massive changes like that and it being sudden is extremely bad for your brain, you can end up rejecting the reflection because it's not 'you.'"
As audiences evolve, so does the writing and development of all forms of entertainment.
But because the changes are gradual, it is jarring when looking back and noticing how offensive and isolating some of these shows can be.
Times sure have changed in the world of entertainment–mostly for the better.
After having grown up inside the protective environment that was your childhood home, the inevitable time to leave and carve out your own path without a safety net can be terrifying.
Emotions can vary–with some people itching to leave their trappings while others terrified of adulting in the real world.
Curious to hear experiences from strangers online, Redditor WallStreetDoesntBet asked:
"People who moved out of the parent’s house before 30, how?"
Most people can't afford to live on their own.
Roommate Is Key
"yeah this exactly. I've never lived by myself, was roommates until I got a serious girlfriend and now fiance. There's exactly 0% chance of me being in the same position I'm in financially if I had been paying full rent all those years."
Not A Care In The World
"I was 17, we had 4 of us in a ghetto 2bd apt (bunkbeds) we had a beer bong on a lanyard screwed to the ceiling. We'd have keggers, party's every weekend and always had randoms crashing on the floor. Could barely afford to feed myself and pay bills but still not a worry in the world and it was the best time of my life."
One inconvenience shared by many was the sacrifice of a good, home-cooked meal.
Change Of Scenery
"Just needed a little R&R."
"Roommates and Ramen."
The "Wild" Years
"This, lol. I was kicked out at 16 and after couch-surfing for a few months I moved into a studio apartment with 4 other people."
"When I say we were poor, I mean poor - most of us didn’t have jobs. I lived off the worst of the worst food. Knockoff ramen. Dollar store canned veg. Rice and terrible year old pasta."
"It was a wild few years."
Rice For Life
"Or rice. I lived off rice for a full year. Fancied it up by adding some salsa, and then extra fancy by also adding ranch dressing."
"Those were hard times."
Having work definitely makes things easier.
Saving Up To Leave
"Started working while I was in school. Got out as soon as I could."
Not Much Fanfare
"Yep, moved out for college in 2006. Came back for the summer in 2007, but thereafter I got an internship so I just stayed in the city. Got a job at the same place after I graduated."
"It was never some big moment for me (my parents are fine, just annoying), just a natural progression for me."
Building A Life
"At 18. Worked in construction. Lived on a couch with 6 buddies in one house paying for college. Bought cheap land during the recession. Then built my own house."
Not moving out by choice seemed to be a common shared experience.
High Turnover Rate
"Got kicked out at 14. Finished high school sleeping on friends couches while serving tables. Had a ton of roommates for the next 10 years. At any given time I was living with like 3 or 4 people, it was never boring haha"
"I am hearing that so many people are actually kicked out in the really young age is well."
"But i am not getting that why parents are so tough because in my country they try to keep them under their wings."
"My friends parents were going to kick him out immediately after he graduated high school simply because 'That's what their parents did when they were his age.' His Dad fully expected him to go out at 18 and buy a house because 'he was able to.'"
"Then his Dad got pissed when my friend did not buy a house and went to live with his uncle instead. Even after his uncle broke down the whole 'Your mortgage is $2200/month with taxes and you expect your son, who works part time at $7.25 an hour to afford a mortgage? With no credit history?'"
"Some parents do it out of tough love. Some parents do it because they shouldn't have had children. Some parents still think the world is the same as it was in the 70s-80s and think minimum wage part time employees can thrive."
"My parents didn't kick me out, but there was definitely an expectation for me to be moved out and financially independent at 18. My mother walked into a job as a radio DJ at the age of 18 and then became a journalist with only a high school education a few years later (early 1970s), so she had this expectation that I could do the same. The thought of me being able to do anything like that in the 2000s was laughable."
I moved out of my parents' house because I booked my first professional gig on a cruise ship.
It couldn't have worked out better. I was paid to perform on board in the shows while my rent was already taken care of since I lived and worked on the ship.
I packed one suitcase and traveled the world doing what I loved for about two years. It was the best way to transition into an exciting new chapter in my adolescent life.
What's your moving out story?