The Hardest Things To Explain To Women According To Men

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Humans have so much to teach one another.

If only we would all listen.

A lot more listening between men and women would probably help in the battle of the sexes.

Everyone has room to grow and learn.

Men are terrible at communication. We know this, so let's be grateful they're willing to share for a minute.

Gals... pencils up.

Redditor ChadBrowGer wanted to hear from all the gents out there and asked:

"Men of Reddit, what’s the hardest thing to explain to women?"


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"It's ok to just tell me where you want to eat."


I just live...

"When you ask me how my day was or what I did today, nothing in my day usually stands out as special, so I just don't remember. I usually don't remember what I do, I just live."


"Work gets put into a box as soon as I clock out, I then spend then time it takes to get home to flush my mind of it all so I am not angry or stressed about my day."

"I don't want to think about work until I clock back in the next morning. My day was the same and something funny or interesting may have happened but I am not opening that box when I'm sitting at home staring into the neighbors trees blowing in the wind."


Calm Down

"I'm seriously not checking you out every time you walk by in the office. I turn my head for damn near everything that enters my periphery, you're really not that special."


"This makes me so freaking self-conscious in the gym. Everytime someone walks past I look, especially in the mirrors and I always catch the eye of a girl probably thinking I'm checking her out. I really don't wanna be seen as that creepy guy making girls at the gym uncomfortable. It's literally the last thing I'm thinking about."



"When we say we need time or space, that’s exactly what we need. It’s not code for 'you need to try harder.'"


"Had an ex who would keep pushing me to talk when I got angry about something. I just wanted some time to cool off before having a discussion about it."

"One of the reasons she's an ex. My wife now is fantastic, we understand each other and when it's best to just shut up and let things settle. More often than not we realise the reason for getting grumpy in the first place is trivial and we get over it."


Hands Up

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"The specifics of nod code. It’s easy to say 'up if you know them; down if you don’t' but the exact meaning of the downward nod is hard to translate. It’s seeing them, acknowledging them, and saying that neither of us have any issue with each other."


"Raise your hand if you just nodded by yourself several times."


A simple nod speaks volumes.

Who Knows?

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"Why I don't know what the heck my best friend is up to in life even after hanging out with him all day."


You First

"I don't always want to be the one that initiates sex. It makes me feel like a creep."


"It doesn’t necessarily make me feel like a creep, but it makes me think the girl doesn’t actually want sex most of the time."

"When a girl does ask for sex or initiates it in her own way, it makes it so much more fun for me and takes out a lot of the anxiety and stress that sometimes surrounds sex in a relationship because it really does feel like a two sided give and receive situation."


Conflict Resolution

"Sometimes (this is me personally so I can't say it's common) the struggle not to share emotions isn't as much the worry of backlash from society or friends, etc. It's more just a conflict within ourselves to verbalize and come out with it. I trust my friends with respecting how I feel, I just can't get it out because I'm fighting myself."


Love Me Tender

"Sometimes I’m just horny, but (in a committed relationship) sometimes I look at you and I’m just so in love that I want to be as close and intimate with you as I can, which is sex. My ex and I had different love languages, and she would worry that I don’t love her as much as she loves me which was just crazy because I was head over heels for her at all times. Trying to explain that that really close, lovey sex was one of the ways I showed her exactly how deeply I was in love with her, but she didn’t get it."


No More to Tell

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"Very often, we say something at its face value with no double meaning, or alternative meaning, behind it. It's women who ask me, 'What did you mean when you asked/said that?'"

"I said/asked exactly what I meant. If wanted to state it differently, I would have done so."


Well, that all sounds easy enough. A little clarification can go a long way.

Do you have anything to add? Let us know in the comments below.

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