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In any relationship, one of the stickiest subjects is always going to be money, who has it, and how to have more.

In one woman's case, she's quickly learning this, as she just received a significant family inheritance, which her boyfriend now would like partial access to.


After her grandfather passed away several months ago, Reddit user "throw_709236" inherited a significant amount of money from her grandfather's estate. She took the opportunity to quit a job she hated, in order to pursue other interests, and has also made other decisions about how to use some of the money.

The situation, however, is also more complicated, because she lives with her boyfriend, who would like to see a little more financial support from her, given her new inherited wealth.

After refusing, the Reddit user turned to the "Am I the A$$hole" platform for advice about how to handle the situation with her boyfriend.

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The situation is actually quite complicated, and it's left fellow Redditers divided on whether or not she's actually being a jerk with her money.

Some have made the fairly straight-forward argument that this is her money, and her boyfriend has no legal, obligatory right to it.

"Nta as you're not married - I'd be very wary of marrying him though at this stage if this is his instant reaction to your finances. Get some urgent legal advice on the precise law where you are regarding locking up your money into a trust with named beneficiaries (you and any future children), cohab agreements, common law marriage (if it exists where you are) and anything else which a decent lawyer will know." - playhookie
"NTA. This is YOUR money. YOU have this money and YOU will do whatever YOU want to do with it." - jasono02

Others agree with this, technically speaking, but otherwise question why she wouldn't want to provide more for her boyfriend, as well as her relationship as a whole, if it's really a relationship she wishes to invest in long-time.

"I can understand where the BF is coming from. Imagine your SO inherited $4million and quit their job to pursue hobbies and interests. You work 5 days a week, coming home to find your SO playing video games and painting, you're still expected to pay half the rent and utilities. You're asking for trouble."
"There will be resentment, with this big of a lifestyle change. I understand where OP is coming fr, but I also understand where the BF is coming from." - b_rouse
"Yeah I agree with you. This whole thread is insane. She is a millionaire who will never have to work a day in her life and she cant even pick up over 50% of the rent for her live in bf? If there was no inheritance and their incomes were significantly disparate everyone would say OP was the arsehole. This is the same situation." - hakshamalah

Whether or not this Reddit user is actually being a jerk with her money, as well as her decision to not work indefinitely, is one issue.

But a resounding agreement on the Reddit thread is her need for a financial counselor of some kind, who can assist her in making more sound decisions regarding the money that could so easily be spent away.

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