We are really loosing the strings on what is acceptable in public.
I am at a loss on the daily from what I witness in public and in the news.
Our politicians, our friends, our movie stars.
It's all a mess.
Let's do better.
RedditorRealimTheanimalkingwanted to discuss the unfortunate acceptance of bad behavior. So they asked:
"What toxic behavior is, for some reason, becoming more accepted at this time?"
Treat your service workers with more respect! And tip accordingly!
I need it now!
Breathe Jack Black GIF by Tenacious DGiphy"Instant gratification in all things; politics, dating, job hunts, onboarding at a job, texting. Everything needs to be replied to immediately, you always need to be available. Some things take time for a reason, and I dread the shallow road society is going down."
ChrisHisStonks
The Love Search
"There's lots of bad dating advice out there on the internet for both men and women."
DiManes
"Ah yes, the 'no need to put a label on it' leads to a lot of misunderstanding. If you don't want to actually be dating, say that. It's fine to be just hooking up, no strings, fwb. You both just need to be on the same page to be happy."
PsychologicalNews573
WOOF
"A little out of left field but looks like all the big ones already addressed. People being either unwilling or too lazy to discipline their dogs , letting them get away with all kinds of bad behaviour when they're young because it's cute , then ending up with poor behaviour engrained. True also of children lol."
Chairmaker00100
Bluffer
"Not admitting fault or guilt but instead trying to overpower people even when you're wrong; essentially extreme bluffing and bravado instead of, you know, behaving like an adult and understanding it's not a big deal to be wrong, at least when it's not the world at stake."
TheSinfulBlacksheep
Pain Wars
Character Reaction GIF by cerysevansillustrationGiphy"Glorification of trauma. My pain is worse than yours because this happened to me on a greater scale or something."
LoquatBerry
Oh I feel that last one. How are we in a pain competition? We need help.
No Karen
Haircut Karen GIF by moodmanGiphy“'Because I had a bad day/ someone treated me badly, I get to treat you like crap.' This is my everyday life, please make it stop."
forest-nymph1
'Oh, wow, I hate you'
"Absurd baseless nonsense in political discussions."
Ma1
"Even just shoving your bullcrap, uninformed political opinion in everyone's face. That used to be one of the off-limits topics of polite conversation (religion being the other one), but now people lead with their crazy a** politics in random discussions with strangers. Man, I just met you, I don't want to go from 'Hi' to 'Oh, wow, I hate you' in like three minutes."
notagoodboye
"hug her"
"I knew a girl whose parents got her horse when it was a little baby, and she taught it to 'hug her' well guess what happens when 1 year later the baby is 700lbs? Total nightmare. And now the horse is 1100 lbs as an adult and lives alone in a field and they don't do anything with it because it's 'untrainable and dangerous' Like... we all saw that coming when you let IT behave badly, even other horses don't let foals that aren't their own climb on them."
eatingissometal
Cruel
"So called 'pranks.' If the other person isn't laughing or if you have to say 'chill out bro, it's just a prank' it's not a prank. It's just you being a straight up d**khead to get attention and make yourself feel better by demeaning others... otherwise known as bullying."
SpecificallyVague83
Me. Me. ME.
Cbs Child GIF by Paramount+Giphy"Freely disrupting whatever is going on because you have a personal need. For instance, the gym pool is dedicated 3 hours per week to an exercise class. In the middle of class, a swimmer comes in, stops the instructor, and demands to do laps - even though the pool has about 60 people in it."
"I see this all the time. People taking calls in the middle of meetings. People wandering in and out of church like they're watching TV. People behaving in traffic like they're the only one who needs to get somewhere and endangering people in the process. It's just basic disrespect for anything but their own needs."
Botryoid2000
Bad behavior is bad behavior. And everyone can do better. So shape up.
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Curious to hear from strangers online about their developmental growth, Redditor 1234kyou_ asked:
"What did you swear in your childhood you would never do, but ended up doing anyways?"
Some hobbies that delighted us as kids never really go away as these Redditors have experienced.
The "Bird Creep"
"Birdwatching. I used to think it was the lamest way someone could spend their time when I was a kid. How could anyone just sit around and look at birds? What are you, some kind of bird creep? ... 20 years later and I'm obsessed with birds. Love hearing their songs and seeing all the beautiful colors."
– Koala-teas
Unfilled Dream
"Give up drawing."
"I actually broke my own heart when I recently found a school project we did back when I was a kid. We had to write a letter for our future selves and mine starts with: 'Hey, did you become an artist already? I really hope you did not become a boring adult with a boring job who gave up on his dreams and passions.'"
"Well, sorry little me, but I kinda did."
– Aesma_
Tending To One's Garden
"Gardening. We had a large garden. We raised and preserved what we grew. It was me and my sister's job to care for this garden. This was back when whipping your child was acceptable punishment. I was whipped sooo many times, because I hated that I had to grew and preserved vegetables I did not like. I hated it! Swore I'd never have a garden. Never do THAT to my kids. Then I had kids. A switch flipped in my head. I had to have a garden! I never made my kids take care of it. Gardening was my 'me' time. But being little kids, they wanted to be with mom and 'help' with the garden. I 'gave' them an area and they were allowed to grow whatever they wanted. If it was a fruit or vegetables , they had to eat it. As a result, they both love gardening and neither are picky eaters."
– Eogh21
When it comes to keeping it in the family, it's not always the goal.
Like Father...
"I have become my father."
– jer1303
Like Mother...
"I have become my mom.... even the voice is similar."
– rogue1206
Dad's Cynicism
"I've taken on a lot more of my dad's cynicism than I would like, but mostly I have my mom's wonder and carefreeness."
"But my dad is rich and mom is poor."
"He does not share the wealth he just shares 'you should've done X like this'. But his advice is the level of 'tear down the sign punch them in the face and say you're looking at your new employee'. I've also never heard a single dad joke from him."
– BugTester350
Posthumous Disapproval
"When I was touring houses to buy before the pandemic, my mother's spirit must have possessed me because I opened my mouth and her voice said 'i don't know, i don't think I could live in a house without both a coat closet and a linen closet.'"
– TJtherock
Adulting is hard.
The Financial Hole
"Get into debt I can't pay off."
– lilviviv
Potty-Mouth
"I said I wouldn’t curse unless a nuke was dropped on my house. That was a f'king lie."
– -notjosh-
Can't Wait, Don't Hate
"Have sex before marriage. Thank f'k I never made good on that one since I'm 41 and have never been married."
– squid1891
I'm a pretty fussy eater. Always have been.
I grew up in a Japanese family where regularly eating natto was a thing.
Natto is a Japanese dish made from Bacillus subtilis-fermented soybeans. It's known to have magical health benefits but the smell is overwhelmingly powerful, and the nutty taste leaves little to be desired.
Many people not used to eating exotic foods can't stand the flavor and slimy, sticky texture–let alone the pungent aroma.
I swore as a child that would be the one food I would never eat again after having a bad experience.
And yet, here I am as an adult, eating it for breakfast 2-3 times a week after truly understanding the health benefits.
Natto–which is rich in protein, vitamins, and minerals– helps maintain healthy cholesterol levels, reduces blood pressure, and can prevent heart disease. Some studies have suggested it can prevent certain cancers.
Once I trained myself to get used to flavor and smell, I actually crave it now.
It's definitely an acquired taste, but it's crazy to know that we are all capable of liking or appreciating something previously thought of as repulsive once we set our mind to it.
"Hiring managers of Reddit: What makes you immediately throw out a résumé?"
Not In It For The Long Run
"I once received an application from a man in his 60s."
"Solid CV, lots of experience."
"In his cover letter he wrote 'I'm applying because the Job Centre asked me to'."
"Please note that I intend to retire in 6 months time'."
"We had a good laugh, then sent him a very polite rejection letter and wished him a great retirement."-BeerPoweredNonsense
Season 1 Lol GIF by NBCGiphyMake Sure They Actually Get The Right Document...
"One time I had someone upload how to upload their resume from Dropbox instead of their resume."- rabidwhale
Always Proof Read!
"I'll usually still interview unless there is no relevant experience, but I've seen some atrocious resumes."
"I've seen people use crutch words like 'uh' in writing for a job description."
"I've also seen a sentence 4 lines long with zero punctuation."
"The same resume will have 'attention to detail' as a skill set."
"I've interviewed for one of those resumes, and the applicant said 'I dunno" to about 80% of my questions, and it turned out he didn't even know what job he applied for'."
"It's not that I'm overly picky, but if someone can't spend the 20 minutes or less that it takes to proof read their resume, are they going to put a lot of effort into their job?"
"Maybe, but it's hard to know."- ChristyM4ck
Read Book Club GIFMake Sure It's Legible
"The only time I have ever had to throw out a resume was because someone possibly had it in a bag with their lunch and the paper was soaking wet and dissolving as I tried to unfold it."
"It was just unacceptable to process."
"The application was left in a drop box so I don’t know if it was a prank or an actual applicant."- 416unknown
Unprofessional Email Address
"Back in 98 I asked a new group of hires at GIECO to write their email addresses on a list that was passed around."
"Remember email was kinda new back then.. "
"One young female employee's email address included 'mybaldc**tchie'."- catjugglinpimp
the messengers aol GIFNever Send Someone In Your Place
"It’s been a long time but I used to do hiring for a cinema."
"Staff were often young, for many it was a first job, making popcorn and selling tickets type of gig."
"I would not pursue anything where parents came in with a CV for their teenager or if parents were contacting me on behalf of their teen."
"Big red flag."
"Either their kid didn’t want he job in the first place or they’re incapable of taking initiative and it doesn’t bode well for how they’d be as an employee."- FigJamAndCitrus
"Having your parents submit your resume while you stand silently beside them."- krim2182
It's Pure, Dumb Luck!
"I remember a meme or maybe a tv skit from a while back."
"The hiring manager had a huge pile of resumes on his desk."
"Someone asked how he was going to sift through them all."
"He took 2/3rds of the pile, threw them in the trash, and remarked 'I don't hire unlucky people'."
"Lol."- SpecialSpite7115
Im Out Breaking News GIF by Homes.comGiphyAll About The Formatting
"This doesn’t matter 100% of the time but bad formatting."
"If it’s hard to read I probably won’t read it."- Far-Gain-3081
Depends On The Job
"If it's a professional position, significant spelling errors will make me pass on a resume."
"If it's a warehouse job or something, I'm less concerned."- staffsargent
Don't Treat It Like A Text Message!
"Former hiring manager here."
"I tossed MULTIPLE resumes that used text message abbreviations throughout the resume and cover letter and one that included emojis."
"While you can do pretty much anything from your phone, it doesn’t mean you should."- spectacularuhoh
text texting GIF by Fifth HarmonyGiphyChoose Your References Wisely
"Not me, but a friend who checks resumes/CVs had a belter."
"Candidate had a conviction and his reference was his friend 'Baz'."- LexiRae24
Make Sure You Have The Relevant Skills
"I know it’s pretty specific but If your looking for a scheduling job make sure you know how to use Excel and clearly state it on your resume."
"It will probably get thrown out otherwise."- LoyalPlanets
As stated before, no two hiring departments will have exactly the same prerequisites and red flags, so no matter how hard you work, your resume is never going to please everyone.
That being said, multiple misspellings and a cheeky e-mail address are a surefire guarantee of not pleasing anyone.