Being a teacher is already a hard job. But then there are the times you have to tell the parents something you don't feel equipped to handle about their child...and that hurts even more. You care about your kids, and you want to make sure they're getting the attention they deserve.
Here were some of the hardest answers.
50. The AudacityGiphy
Not a teacher but my sister is.
She teaches in a rural district in Colorado. One guy came in and when he saw my sister he looked right at her legs then gasped. He made a cross sign, stood outside the room praying for god's forgiveness for looking at a "crossdresser". He then made another teacher play telephone through the doorway.
He went to the principal to complain about my sister's "crossdressing" and violating the bible, but once he saw that the principal was also crossdressing.
His definition of crossdressing? My sister was wearing pants.
49. A Race To Get On Out
Every year my school has a reading race. The class with the most minutes wins a party with the librarian. Also, every student makes a personal goal, and if they hit that goal, they win a prize.
Well, I had a student who didn't make his goal-not even close-didn't even try. He didn't get the prize-which was a water bottle. I tried to be very subtle in handing them out-so no one knew he didn't get one.
I get a text from his mom after school saying because of my "bullsh*t" move, her son was crying the whole way home and is embarrassed to come to school. I explained why he didn't get one and even offered him another chance to do a reading race of his own to earn the prize. She never responded and she took him out of our school the next year. It's just sad that some parents don't hold their student accountable.
48. They're Just Glasses, Jane
I was teaching a sweet 13 year old girl, who obviously couldn't see the board very well and needed glasses as she was falling behind in class. I called her mother (this is in south London so imagine a jade goody voice) her mum told me to f*ck off and that "I didn't need f*cking glasses, my mother didn't need f*cking glasses so she doesn't need any f*cking glasses" and hung up.
47. Fear Trickles Down
Had an interview with a bright but extremely quiet year 9 girl's mother. She was wondering what her daughter could do to improve her confidence and grades as she consistently scored on the cusp of 90% in tests and assessments but never over.
One thing I suggested was attempting to engage in class discussions to form and present her own opinions on class texts. Her mother looked uncomfortable and explained she doesn't "allow" her daughter to contribute to class discussion or present her own opinions because the teacher might not like them. She wouldn't budge on the issue and the daughter remained very quiet despite attempts to engage and include her.
46. Flagrant CheatingGiphy
One from my mother, who taught French in secondary school. She has many, many anecdotes but this one has stuck with me:
A mother came in to discuss her son's failing marks. She listens carefully, nods a lot, and then asks: "So, how can I pass the French exam?" Not he, you'll note. Not even we. I.
Long story short, she wanted my mother to teach her French so she could do her son's homework (no, I'm not using hyperbole here, she actually said that) and then, presumably, sit the exam in a wig and acne makeup.
I don't know what's more unsettling: the fact that she thought this a sensible plan to lay before a teacher, or the fact that she wasn't the only one.
45. Ten Minutes In Scientific Hell
I'm a Physics teacher. There was a parent last year who spent all of our 10 minutes allotted showing me pictures of an experiment that he did. He wanted me to validate his crackpot theories that these pictures of strange colors that he had taken through a microscope proved something (I can't remember what) that physics says is impossible.
If I had been smart enough to get a Ph.D. I wouldn't be in this situation. Man, I don't know shit about your microscope or what's wrong with it, but I feel real bad for your kid now, so his grade is about to improve out of pity. To bad we didn't get to talk about him.
44. Ma'am I Just Shelve The Books
Parent screamed "my house burned down and my kids can't charge their devices and do their homework" so she spent the whole time insisting I give her my personal charger. I should mention I'm the librarian, and I don't grade them.
She stayed for over an hour going between ranting about their grades being my fault, and yelling for me to give them chargers.
Also a parent insisted I take a copy of the Koran (Qur'an) out of the library, I pointed out that Islam is in the global curriculum and we also had the Bible. They responded "don't bring the Bible into this! We're a military family- you must understand why we're uncomfortable with our kids being around this. I mean I sacrificed for my country to be great." That was the most uncomfortable because they honestly felt I was misguided, they cared about me and worried for me.
43. This Is Why We Have Phones
One 8th grade female student didn't do a single piece of homework. We tried to call the parents multiple time through the year (whenever we did, she said we were "doing the most"). Every call went to voicemail and was never returned.
During the conference, the student cried through the whole thing while her parents stared daggers at her while we told them how poorly she was doing.
If you would have answered your phone just once...
42. It's Literally Never Been "Chicken"
Setting: small, rural, backwoods, and backwards school.
I once had a mother visit my classroom, daughter in tow, to confront me about her daughter's grade. I was teaching a French elective at the time. The daughter had made a "B" for the quarter, and this was completely unacceptable, however generous it had actually been on my part. Her daughter made only "A" grades, as it turned out.
The mother was quite accusatory, and explained to me that her daughter had already learned the French alphabet in middle school, knew how to count in French, and was confused as to what else there could possibly be to it.
I tried in vain to explain how there is more to language learning that just those things, but I quickly lost the mother's attention. She seemed somehow satisfied, like she must've won some sort of argument with me since I was unable to explain myself, and then launched into a tirade about how greedy her daughter was, and selfish, describing her, I quote, as "one of these people who got to eat breakfast every morning."
Now, I've had worse confrontations in my stint as a teacher, but almost all of them resolved peaceably and to a good end. This one, though, left me dumbfounded.
Side note. Not too long after this, the daughter asked me after class why the French had a different word for chicken. Why they looked at a chicken, thought "chicken," and deliberately changed the word to not be "chicken" when they spoke.
41. When The Overbearing Reaches UsGiphy
In my first year of teaching fourth grade, when weekly spelling tests were still a thing, I had a parent come in with a student and while this student sat there mortified, The parent raked me over the coals for only giving the student an A and not an A+ on her spelling test. She actually told me I was damaging her daughters self-esteem. This poor girls nails were bitten down to the quick, and I offered her every tenderness I could possibly offer all through the year.
My grandfather often tells this (true) story.
My grandmother taught in a very rough school district back in the '70s. There were gang fights all the time, guns confiscated every day, an enormous drop out rate. It just wasn't your ideal school.
So one night my grandfather went with my grandmother to the conferences because she didn't want to go alone. A couple conferences in, my grandma leaves the room to go to the bathroom leaving my grandfather in the room with the kid who was scheduled next. (Parents were not there for some unknown reason.)
The boy was very quiet, and my grandfather says that he seemed to have his life in order. That quickly changed when my grandfather asked the boy what he wanted to be when he grew up.
With a blank look in his eye and a serious tone in his voice, the boy responded "pimp and a pusher."
39. Less A Routine, More "Incredibly Disturbing"
Mine is actually on behalf of my high school history teacher.
I went in with my Dad, who has always been a bit overbearing when it came to getting good grades and always expected A's, to parent teacher conference. After years of not really having any friends I had made some friends with popular kids, worked out, got fit, and played football and quickly became very popular(I'm talking like a 3 month period) and as such, developed a bit of a "School doesn't matter" attitude.
I had always got good grades but when we went into this conference I knew it would be bad...
We start talking to my history teacher and he is showing my dad the F I have in his class. My Dad looks at me and says, "you're getting beat tonight"... Now, I knew he wasn't happy but he was kidding, I wasn't getting beat, maybe grounded for a night or 2, but my teacher was legitimately freaked and concerned and I could see it on him. He tried to explain that I'm a good student and what not but my dad, ever the comedian, keeps up his routine and we leave.
From that day on there was not a teacher in school that was ever nicer or more lenient with grading than him. He was so worried for me, I feel a little guilty, lol
38. Privilege In Action
I worked at a rich, private school where the students were passed on no matter how hard they worked or if they actually passed the class. However, they all acted like grades were still important. I should also mention this is an ESL School (English as a second language). I assigned a project, and these kids were known to copy and paste and take many shortcuts on their work and projects. In my rubric before starting the project, I explicitly stated, that they are not allowed to copy and paste at all without citing their source. At this point in the year, plagiarism had been covered repeatedly by myself and my fellow teachers. They even took a test that they had to get 100% on, so they knew the rules.
During presentations of the projects, I gave them props for being able to answer random questions and based on how well they presented. However, it became very obvious after looking closer that there were some large words that a 13 year old ESL student wouldn't know unless they copied it. I started googling phrases and found tons of plagiarized content on almost every presentation. (Ironically, one of my worst students was one of the only ones not to plagiarize. I was very proud of him.)
As promised, I gave 0 points on that aspect to every student, but it was worth enough that it brought their grade below the passing level.
A few days later, I am called into the principals office to explain why they are getting calls from parents who are upset that their children are failing. I explained my rules and how I clearly set up that specific point, and there was no way I would budge on giving them the points. The principal agreed with me in theory, but kept pushing to let me pass the students. I then had to meet with at least 6 parents who were upset and demanded that I give their kid points that they didn't earn or deserve. I was accused of only failing the girls, being unfair/ unclear, and no lenient enough, none of which were true, and I had evidence to support every aspect of my argument. I stuck to my guns and denied all their pleas.
At the end of the day, it didn't really matter because all of those students moved on to the next level class anyways, and I left the school. I couldn't believe how entitled some parents are with their kids.
37. Extra Hours, Extra Emotional Work
While I was student teaching, I racked up extra hours by sitting in with the conferences. After all, I taught them and was more of a co-teacher than a student teacher. We contacted parents a lot, every parent got an email or phone call, positive or negative, every 2 or 3 weeks. Some more, upon request. One student in 7th grade missed about 3 weeks to go to Ecuador and didn't tell anyone he was going. His mom was never responding to the contact and doesn't speak English, so we needed a translator if she was going to show up. To our surprise she comes, but our translator did not show.
We needed one because her kid was failing everything. So we waited for 30 minutes before we get a call from the translator, which was the only faculty member who had ever seen this woman. We had to trust a failing kid to translate to his mother and tell the truth. Our translator comes 15 minutes in and the Mom says she understands everything and she'll make him make up work and do work he didn't do before he left.
Fast forward 2 weeks and he's out for another 2 weeks. He had to repeat 7th grade. It was awful.
36. Bad Situation Bad Situation Bad SituationGiphy
My mom is a kindergarten teacher and she had a mother come to parent teacher conferences. It was just her and the mother (of an unruly child) in the room, and the mother announced she was drunk and thought it was funny. It was not funny obviously, she had DRIVEN there. Next, she made some joke about getting mad and running kids over. This woman is a bus driver for the district.
My mom reported it, but nothing was ever done.
35. The Kid Was The Problem
Mom sat and yelled for forty minutes giving every reason possible why her son was failing. It was his eyesight and I wasn't accommodating him (it wasn't and I was). My tests were too hard (tests are written by the curriculum overlords), on and on and on. The problem was her boy was a lazy disrespectful piece of sh*t. I pour my heart into my job so there is literally nothing I can say except the truth: I've done literally everything I can, he is refusing to work and choosing to fail. At the end she starts crying and says she's just tired of fighting with him and he doesn't love her anymore. Before the meeting I didn't like him much, after the meeting I wanted to whoop his *ss. She was trying so hard to help him, I was trying so hard to help him, and he just couldn't be bothered.
34. Nothing Like Verbal Abuse
So I had this one student who's mother couldn't speak very much English, so I tried to go as easy as I could explaining how her son was doing. Well behaved kid, and an okay student, but definitely not the best. She asks me what it would take for her son to get an A, and I tried to say it was not a possibility at this point in the year. She must have thought I was saying I refused to give him an A, and started swearing at me. Apparently her English was not good, but she was fluent in every English swear word. At one point she stands up and starts swearing in her native Bulgarian, and then spat on the table as she stormed out of the library.
33. Type A Personalities Everywhere
I work at a private preschool with a pretty hefty tuition. Many of our parents are extremely successful and extremely wealthy. A few months ago, I spent a whole 30 minute conference listening to a mother go on and on about all of the work and meetings that she had recently had with former president Bill Clinton. I had to keep very politely reminding her that we were there to talk about her daughter.
32. Then Just Drop It, Thomas!
Long story short, the parent argued with me that I should accept, for no penalty, the late work of his student. The reason was because "it's too easy for him and was working on other material. Plus I told him to put it towards the end of his priority list". He also informed me that his student was thinking about dropping the class because it was too easy and I wasn't challenging him enough. This is AP Comp Sci A and his student has been programming for years before he got to my class.
31. Road To Hell--Good IntentionsGiphy
My friend who was a teacher in a rural, disadvantaged area. One of his students seemed to like school and participated well in class, but never did any homework, which didn't help him with his grades. My friend called the mother to ask why. She said "oh you know, he's really messy, so when he comes home I take all of his textbooks and school stuff, and I lock them in a cupboard, so he won't ruin them like everything he touches".
30. Overbearing Is Destructive
I've taught swim lessons for years, and I've had to deal with some pretty awful parents. But the worst was this massive guy, at least 6'6 and built like a tank, who behaved like his kids were on the damn National Team. He would stand right at the edge of the pool and scream at them to pay attention to me. Then he'd try to offer "extra" advice besides what I was telling them.
His son and stepdaughter cried constantly and almost never did what I said anyway, so of course whenever I got them to do anything, they were constantly focusing on making sure Dad was watching. Even though he terrified me, I finally worked up the nerve to tell the guy to back off. Luckily he realized his children have no talent and the kids have since quit the team. I shudder to think what sports coach he's terrorizing nowadays.
29. It Is Not Personal
Child doesn't do well in math. Probably pushed along through elementary/middle school and suddenly just can't cut it in high school where the teachers aren't about to push you through.
The whole math department (especially his teacher) is against him. I'm his science teacher. He's doing okay in my class...not great, but okay. Mom sends me an email asking why he can't have a "B" in my class...I don't respond because it's now summer time and I don't respond to those emails anyways.
I learned yesterday that he's failed his math class and mom is going crazy about it.
It amazes me that a parent would think that teachers actually have the time to just hate on their kid. Seriously. We f*cking don't. When I get home the very last thing I think about is work and/or your kid.
28. What. A. MESS.
I had a parent send me emails before school even started that were accusatory ("U KNO U R A LYER!") because she claimed I was friends with her ex-husbands new wife. I wasn't. Didn't even know the lady. The entire year I tried to avoid her because she was clearly coocoo for Cocoa Puffs.
At one point I told her I would never meet with her one on one and that every message/email she sent will be sent to our principal. She stayed pretty far away from me until the field trip. We arrived to the school after a long day and she ripped into me about ruining everyone's lives, that I'm a liar, I am a fraud, fake....just anything and everything she could think of/pronounce (but for sure not be able to spell). The daughter was caught in the middle between both parents and fed them each complete lies to pin them against one another.
Her next casualty was me. I tried to keep calm but burst out crying after she left, still trying to rip me apart in front of 150 parents. My principal was supportive and told her to leave the campus but I like to think karma took care of dealing for her for me. She ended up being sent to jail for a while for something stupid.
27. Support Children's Interests Or I Will Cut You
I taught private preschool which was a lot more like an actual school then a day care. We taught them how to read and write, speak Spanish and learn math early on and it was a great program. Kids flourished!
I taught science in the afternoon and physical education in the morning. I had a segment about yoga and all my 3 year olds loved it! It taught them how to stretch and focus and learn about their little bodies and one little boy was so excited about it he ran up to his mom when it was pick up time and told her all about it!
Well, mom thought I was teaching her son Hinduism which meant I was letting Satan into her kids heart. He had to stay out of my class when I taught it to his friends or play quietly.
I watched that child break, watching everyone do something he loved. He became a different kid and it was obvious he had a passion for many things his parents didn't want him to explore. He couldn't even be in the school play for Halloween or dress up.
The worst part of it wasn't the parent yelling at me for almost an hour and almost getting fired over it but watching a child feel left out of something he really loved because his mother was a raging b*tch.
26. Sadly Satire Is Lost On Some People
We were doing a unit on satire and I assigned "A Modest Proposal" by Jonathan Swift. Two days later, I got an angry email asking me what was wrong with me and why I would ever think it appropriate to assign a piece of literature in which eating babies is sincerely advocated. She called me some nasty things and went to the principal asking that I be fired for corrupting the youth.
I calmly explained that the purpose of the piece was satire and she didn't get it. I had to walk her through everything, explaining that Swift wasn't actually proposing eating Irish babies, but he was highlighting the notion that the English were treating the poor Irish like absolute sh*t, and most people didn't give a f*ck. But when he went to the extreme and said, well, let's eat the tasty little sh*ts, everyone freaked out about treating anyone so poorly. He used satire to accomplish his goal of shining a light on such a sensitive subject and it worked. Took the mom a while to figure it out, but when she got it, she was very interested in satire. I never got an apology from her, but she left me alone to teach the kids after that.
25. Unpleasant Surprise
I was involved in a case of harassment - the boy said some extreme things to me when I walked past him.
In the disciplinary hearing, I had to tell the parents everything that he said and use as many words as possible. The parents were upperclass people and they seemed nice.
With every sentence that I said, their faces dropped more and more.
He obviously didn't learn this from them, and they were horrified.
24. Of Course What Really Matters Is The Blame
Wife used to say it was really hard to tell a parent their child had special needs (autistic was most common). She said most parents would have no really idea, put the kids in kindergarten then the teacher would identify pretty quickly the child wasn't just a bit behind but had more going on. She would basically bring it to the parents attention it would be in everyone's best interest to have the child assessed, and most often she's be met with anger and denial and many times she was even blamed somehow.
23. This One Hurts
I used to work as a teacher assistant when I was in university. I remember once we had a student who showed signs of being verbally and physically abused. The teacher contacted the parents and we (principal, teacher and me) had a meeting with them to confront them about it. They deny everything, were verbally abusive towards us and then they change the girl to a different school. In my country there is no such a thing as Child Protections Services so there was little we could do. I still think about this girl.
22. Bad News
I work in a low income inner city school that is mostly immigrants and English Learners. As teachers, we always try to keep conferences positive, but we do relay if the kid is struggling with something, we just say it's something we're working on and offer strategies to improve at home. But some of the cultural differences mean that parents are little more...traditional and sometimes get angry with their kids for not doing well. And some of them I've had to report to CPS and know that the parent in front of me may have abused the kid or the mom. So knowing that any "bad" news could get the kid injured.
21. The Tables Were Turned
So my family was my brother and myself. My mom had another child when she was 17 I think, and rather than trying to be a 17 year old mother (she was homeless/ in and out of foster care at the time) she put the kid up for adoption. She did all the right things and she went to a really nice home and never even knew she was adopted. She was really well cared for. My mother was always really candid with us about her past and both my brother and I knew about this at a young age. So in the 7th grade my brother had told his teacher about his adopted sister. That teacher seemingly got obsessed with the idea, and like tracked down the sister. One day my brother was at another school with this teacher for like a soccer game or something like that at my sisters school. The teacher finds the sister and gets her to meet my brother.
Although my brother and I knew about her, she never knew she was adopted. And that's how she found out. Needless to say my mother was livid.
20. Again Again
Your kid is going to fail again. It was policy in my district to pass those type of kids automatically if they even tried but when they don't turn in a single thing it's very hard. It's not so bad when the kid is a jerk but this kid was actually really nice so double whammy.
Worst though I experienced was a kid was writing suggestive stories about being attracted to a teacher which she asked me to proofread and correct. I checked her schedule and I was the only teacher under the age of 50. Administration is notoriously slow but once reported that sh-t was handled in under an hour. By the end of the day she got transferred out of my class and had her parents called. With bad timing I was in that office as her mother and father came out of a meeting discussing the situation. Dad was at least 300 lbs and buff and did not look happy to see me there. Never saw that girl on my hallway again.
19. The Pun
One of my favorite rants from a parent was about lice. She called me up really angry that the nurse had sent home her daughter again. The mom said the lice was gone and it was just some dead eggs left and "the nurse is really being a nitpicker about this."
18. The Curse Reversed
I know a lot of teachers struggle to get parents to understand their child's' education needs, so this should be refreshingly different!
I had a student who had special needs and a parent that told me that their student wasn't smart enough to learn the science I was teaching. They also demanded that their child get more attention and more assistance than was required by their paperwork... this child was only low in reading, so I actually had to tell this parent that their child is smart and works hard and will be able to do things the other students do. The mom even tried to argue! I was so shocked... like how can you not believe in your child like that!?
Never thought I would have to do that.
I've had to tell parents their child was trying to look at porn on the school computers, which is dumb as the system locks any of that kind of search down automatic and emails the destitute head.
I once had to tell a parent her child was put into detention for being racist, head of department had heard it as had half the class. It was pretty vile and she just refused to believe it and I got shouted at.
The worst one was calling home to tell a parent a child had been badly hurt by another child in my room. The child who had slammed a door and caught another child's hand in it, tried to blame me for it. I have never been so glad of CCTV in my life. Again, her parents denied she did it but we had video evidence. I did not have to be in the room for that conversation.
16. Accept Your Child For Who They Are
I've had to tell parents that their child is not really G/T (gifted and talented) and that they would be more successful in a on grade level classroom. This is after collecting numerous pieces of evidence and at least 2 marking periods of D or E grades. So the burden actually falls on me to prove their child would be more successful in an on grade level classroom.
Now some people may be asking why was this hard? Because they parents desperately wanted their kids to be G/T so badly they were literally willing to do anything to make sure their kids got that label. I am talking about near- constant tutoring out of school hours, outside academic clubs that promise to improve student scores, punishing their kids for not succeeding, etc. I have seen kids' souls basically disappear in a school year because of how hard parents push their kids. It has also caused an increase in the number of our students who seek student counseling services at school due to stress, anxiety, etc. Being labeled "G/T" in my school's area is such a status symbol, 2/3 of our incoming 6th grade class are labeled G/T. Parents can waive their child in, so its only going to get worse in the upcoming years.
15. Please Have The Conversation
Not a teacher... YET! (Graduating next year!!!) But taken enough classes and seen enough to suggest to my aunt that their four year old wasn't developing in an average way. I babysat the kid since he was born and always noticed he didn't speak at all. My aunt always asked me how to "make him smart" and she seemed interested in her child, or at least she acted like it, because she just dumped that kid in a room with a tv and didn't let him touch the floor until he was three. I would try my hardest to bring blocks or let him crawl without her seeing. I started bringing books in his native language and English to read to him, hoping that would help.
My aunt came in and asked me why I was reading to him because "he's a child he won't understand you!" Even though I explained the benefits (Come on, read to your child even if he's a fetus!) she thought it was dumb. This kid was the golden baby boy of the family, and for some reason no one saw how language deficient he was! At four years old, he could only repeat the word 'fish' and only after multiple people made it a game for him to do so.
She moved away but recently visited us again, and I hoped that the kid would be better, but for two hours he screamed, cried and acted like a literal newborn. No words spoken, not even 'mama'. I got real f---ing worried! Once we were alone I basically asked my aunt what was up and she just looked at me perplexed and promised her kid was speaking.
I couldn't press the issue because she just wouldn't have it at all. She said no one has ever said her child wasn't developing well. I was like...dude your kid has never been in daycare or preschool and the family thinks the kid is an angel just cause he's cute.
Well, my comment cause a whole ruckus in the family with even my grandma asking me what the f-ck was wrong with me saying the perfect child was not perfect. People are so f---ing ignorant, and it's sad cause it's not them who are gonna suffer the consequences or work hard to deal with whatever he's going through.
14. TW: Self Harm
When I taught fourth grade, I had a student who was cutting herself. We ended up having her parents come in and meet with us and the school counselor. My student was terrified to talk to her mother about it but we explained that this was important and we would be there to help. Her mom did not take the news well. The student also wanted to tell her mom about a male neighbor that made her feel uncomfortable in which the mom just shouted at the girl and told her she was stupid. Poor kid. I wish I knew how she is doing now.
13. TW: Eating Disorders
That I was very worried about their child being anorexic. They refused to believe it and we had to call in the counselors and principal to help with the discussion. Turned out that she was very much so, ended up in the hospital off and on for years. She is now a thriving successful mother of 2
12. It's Only Been A Week Dude
Your son was looking up "Japanese girls legs." It was my second week teaching.
11. Um, I'm Sorry What?
I taught 3rd grade last year, so the child was 8 going on 9. I had to tell her mom (who seems mentally challenged) that she was touching several of the girls inappropriately, and that I had also found porn names written in one of her notebooks that she wanted to give herself when she and another student (male and was unaware of her obsession with him) were going to have sex in the bathroom. The parents (as well as I) wanted the girl removed from the class; admin didn't feel it necessary and asked me to talk with the counselor about "interventions."
When I told her mother about the incidents, she said nothing other than, 'she crazy.'
10. He Never Spoke
I was a substitute teacher in a kindergarten. I was working with 3-5 years olds first and we had this boy, who was really difficult. Let's call him Matt. Matt was 5, but would get these temper tantrums that lasted for minutes. He could scream for 15 mins, throw up and continue. When he had a good day he was an angel. He behaved like a 3 years old and I found out he is behind in his development. Fine, parents knew and didn't really care. In fact, Matt's dad was a little bit slow himself. Still, you could see he was a good dad and cared about his sons. Mom was a little bit strange, but hard working, kind and loving. In my eyes, good, caring parents.
Matt had an 1 and a half year old brother, lets call him Oliver. Oliver was the golden child. Their smart son, who they always praised. Didn't really talk yet or seem to understand speech. He didn't point to balls or flowers in books, couldn't mimic words, didn't follow any directions.
Didn't protect himself in any way, he would just play with scissors even when getting cut (happened when I wasn't at work and my coworker let him climb on a freaking shelf before noticing), eat needles (I fished one out of his mouth after the same coworker had been looking after him...) and jump from anywhere, if you let him. He usually tried to jump down head first. No big deal, he was 1.
But he wasn't. I had just thought so because of his skills. He was almost three. So I had to tell the parents that their sweet, only "normal", smart child, would in fact need some tests because he is not developed enough for his age. I didn't use those exact words, but still. They completely refused. Their son was almost 3 and hadn't said his first word. My job ended soon after that and it has been over a year now, but I still wonder about them.
Not a teacher, but when I was in second grade my teachers told my mum that I need to be in a "special needs" class for mentally challenged. Because I had trouble copying things from the blackboard. In forth grade they told my mum I am to lazy to pursuade a higher education, so I stayed at the school I was. Now I have a university degree in computer science and not much trust in teachers.
Turned out my "special need" in second grade was glasses....
On a completely different tone as some of the other ones but a lot of my year sevens HATE learning japanese!
They put barely any effort into the work and get low scores on tests, but parents are REALLY excited because their kids are learning an oriental language and most of them drill their kids on the vocab every other day.
Most of the kids eventually get to enjoy the subject, doing alright by the end of year exams, but this year (a few weeks ago) one of my students got 16% in the exams, even after I had spoken to him many times, and even called his mother who ensured me they had been doing nightly practices and he was becoming more fluent.
Of course when she received the grades she requested a parent teacher meeting demanding to talk to me... she told me he had been reciting his Japanese to her every night and she 'knew' good Japanese when she heard it. When I asked her 'really huh' in mandarin (which I dabble in! not fluent) and she told me that she had heard her son saying that in the recitals.
Asked her if she could remember anything the kid had said, but she didn't, and she eventually left, only after a long argument about changing his grades (which I of course refused).
I F*CK YOU NOT THIS HAPPENED!
The VERY NEXT DAY, she barges into my office at 5.27pm (exact) with her son in tow, and he looks like he's about to sh*t himself. I ask them what the f*ck they want at this fine hour, and she replies with something along the lines of.
"My sons here and he will prove it to you now! Ha!"
Student stands there with trembling lips and blurts out some sh*t ALL IN MANDARIN CHINESE! I didn't understand half of what he said, but I stood there with my jaw on the ground, just plain shocked!
With a tone of amazement, I slowly told her that he was talking mandarin, and to get out of my f*ckin office right now before I go into shock at your immensely low IQ!
7. Pyrex Ain't Wood, Girl
Fortunately as a TA I don't have to talk to parents (in fact my school doesn't allow me to say anything specific to parents at all, just '[child's name] is a wonderful kid' or other positive non-academic-related things like that). But some of the kids at the school I work at have parents who are teachers at that same school, so sometimes I have to tell their parents what they are up to.
The 'hardest' thing I ever had to explain was to a 5th grade teacher that their 2nd grade daughter had absolutely destroyed the pyrex bowl they had brought to class (it had chex mix in it for a class party) by 'accidentally' throwing it across the classroom to show just how indestructible pyrex is.
6. A Twinge
So I am a teacher assistant and one day a teacher from another class was sick so I had to help, and there were these twins who I would say were special.
One main thing is they were going to kindergarten soon but those 2 can't speak, they cannot communicate and they have no clue what others are saying.
I had to tell their parents, which was hard cause I was trying to say it in a not-so-rude way and not to offend them. To be fair, their parents aren't good parents, one time one twin had a tantrum and the dad just stood there smiling looking at his kid on the ground, I asked if he needed help and he said 'no, it's fine'.
5. Children Need To Be Listened To
When I taught fourth grade, I had a student who was cutting herself. She actually brought a razor to class one day to show her friend. We ended up having her parents come in and meet with us and the school counselor. My student was terrified to talk to her mother about it but we explained that this was important and we would be there to help. Her mom did not take the news well. The student also wanted to tell her mom about a male neighbor that made her feel uncomfortable in which the mom just shouted at the girl and told her she was stupid. Poor kid. I wish I knew how she is doing now.
4. Something Scary
Not a teacher, but i had one guy in my class when i was in high school who thought that if he killed a person on his 16th birthday he would become the sun prince and when he turned 18 he would be the sun god. He had packed knives in his pencil case and he drawings of how to cut people's wrists. It was pretty weird and then the police came and took him away.
Bonus points: about 2 months later he showed up at my work where i used to do the dishes, he was my new co-worker. Guess who went to the chef and said its either me gone or him gone. It was his first and last shift.
3. Sometimes Things Are Just Weird
Not a teacher but my parents came from school meeting once and told me how teacher had trouble explaining what's going on. Basically we had swimming classes as part of pe in high school, special need kid ran around naked rubbing "it" on other dudes and one kid didn't react well. They couldn't kick the kid and they called parents to get signatures to change the regional big head decision.
Either way our super cool and calm swimming instructor had to explain the issue to like 40 mom and dads and he didn't do well.
2. Sorry Bout My Mom, Dude
I'm not a teacher but I feel bad for one of my teachers. I have ADHD. It's obvious that I have ADHD. Teachers in my entire grade school career had to work really hard to get me to focus because of the ADHD. During my freshman year of high school my physics teacher tried to do me a favor and, during a parent teacher conference, attempted to speak to my mom about my struggles with my attention span (which I was also willing to admit I had) only to get a verbal lashing from my mother. I wish I could thank that teacher for trying while also apologizing for my mom's bad behavior. I also feel bad for teachers who have to deal with people like my mom who refuse to believe that their kids might have a problem.
1. Crossing Lines
A little off topic, and not actually me, but I have a bad one. So my family was my brother and myself. My mom had another child when she was 17 I think, and rather than trying to be a 17 year old mother (she was homeless/ in and out of foster care at the time) she put the kid up for adoption. She did all the right things and she went to a really nice home and never even knew she was adopted. She was really well cared for. My mother was always really candid with us about her past and both my brother and I knew about this at a young age. So in the 7th grade my brother had told his teacher about his adopted sister. That teacher seemingly got obsessed with the idea, and like tracked down the sister. One day my brother was at another school with this teacher for like a soccer game or something like that at my sisters school. The teacher finds the sister and gets her to meet my brother.
Although my brother and I knew about her, she never knew she was adopted. And that's how she found out. Needless to say my mother was f*cking livid.
As much as we'd like to assume spirits, ghosts, and paranormal happenings are relegated to movies and books, plenty of real-life stories abound.
Inexplicable sightings, things heard, and cold pockets of air are encountered by plenty of people all the time.
It's up to you if you want to believe them. But it's hard to argue with the conviction of the contributors to a recent Reddit thread.
Redditor ihadanightmarewithu asked:
"What is the scariest / paranormal story you have ever experienced?"
Many people talked about the things that caught their eye once upon a time.
Two Places At Once
"I was staying with a group of friends rock climbing in Spain. Really creepy air bnb, lots of strange things happened while we were staying there. The creepiest was one morning we were getting ready for the day, packing food and generally getting our things together, and I went upstairs to grab something."
"As I was heading back downstairs I walked past my friend's boyfriend on the landing and saw him turn and go into his and my friend's room; I think I asked him something but he didn't reply. I thought 'rude' and headed downstairs."
"Walked into the kitchen and he was there sorting food out with my friend."
"Everyone swore he'd been downstairs the whole time, plus there was only one staircase and it would have been impossible for him to overtake me and get to the kitchen before me without me noticing. I went back upstairs and checked their room and there was no one up there but me."
"I've never experienced anything creepy or inexplicable before we stayed in that air bnb and I'd say I'm v. sceptical about supernatural/paranormal stuff but multiple things happened on that trip that spooked me."
"A floating head."
"I was putting beef in the slow cooker because I wanted it done for morning, it was late at night. I reached up to grab some seasonings, and heard creaking. I told my kids to get in bed."
"I see something out of my peripheral vision and there was no body but a head of a bald, pale man floating 3 1/2 maybe 4 feet off the ground in the middle of the floor. It's face kept looking as if it was sad, or like it was begging. It locked eyes with me....I froze."
"I had a darker wall, with a coat rack with my husbands work jackets so it stood out like a store thumb. I looked away thinking it was my imagination but when I looked back it was still there so I ran out the back door because I'd have to pass it to get upstairs with my husband and kids."
"I ended up calling him on my phone to come walk me in. I was wide awake, not sleepy, not out of it, on no medication. I have no reason to see that ever."
Presences, Seen and Felt
"When I was a kid my mom took my sister and I on vacation. I only remember this happening one night while we were there but the hotel we stayed at was pretty much all flats with one bedroom. I slept in the bed with my mom and my sister was on the pull out sofa. I can't remember if I was trying to go to sleep or woke up in the night to this but I just know everyone else was asleep."
"It was really dark with just a little light from the street outside coming in on the sides of the curtains. On each side of the bed stood a black silhouette and it felt like they were all staring right at me acknowledging their presence. I didn't feel threatened or afraid of them at all and turned on the bedside light and not surprisingly nobody was there."
"I turned the light back off and there they were still in the same positions. I just looked at them for a while but must have eventually fell asleep. The only other detail of that experience I remember is waking up the next day and mentioning it at breakfast and my sister saying she felt like she was being watched the whole night. I have no explanation for it but it's a memory that has stuck with me over many years now."
"One time I was going home in my car and saw a guy that appeared to have no arms no hair and a longa** neck in a JUST a hoodie no pants no underwear trying to climb a tree in the woods with their legs and idk know if that's paranormal but it was such a fu**ing weird experience that I think it qualifies"
For others, it was all about the things they heard.
"This is something I've never been able to rationalize."
"For months after my dad died, we were getting landline calls where no one would answer on the other end. This was in 2002, so, while robo callers were a thing, it definitely wasn't as prevalent as it is today, but we did assume they were probably wrong numbers or something. (We didn't have any phones that displayed caller id at the time.)"
"Well, one time, after getting yet another call with only silence on the other end, I jokingly said, 'Dad, if that's you, call my cell phone.' "
"I want to preface this by saying I rarely ever got calls on my cell phone, and never spam calls in those days. I was 18 with an unlisted number that only my family and a few friends had."
"Just a few minutes later, my phone rang with a number I'd never seen before. With what I'd just said fresh in my mind, I kind of freaked out and didn't answer. I was on my way out to go somewhere with my mom, so when we got in the car, I told her what happened. We made the decision to call the number back."
"It never rang, but there was activity at the other end: muffled static and the sound of numbers being dialed slowly. It was the weirdest thing. Both my mom and I said hello, but no one ever answered."
"Has anyone ever had something like that happen to them when dialing a number? I've never had it happen before or since."
And the Crying Stopped
"About 10 years ago (I'd have been 24) I was still living with my parents. My bedroom was in the basement. One night, around 3am I was woken up to the sounds of a young child crying. It sounded like it was coming from just outside my window. I couldn't just look out the window because it was covered in ivy, so I quickly hopped out of bed to go help the kid."
"As I got closer to my bedroom door I could hear the crying was actually on the other side of the door. I opened the door. No one is there and the crying stopped. Spooked, I immediately jumped back in bed and the crying started again."
"Later that day at dinner, my family was sitting around the table and I brought up my experience I had. One of my sisters told a story about how when she was a kid she'd always leave her room at night to go sleep with my parents because she'd see a little girl walking out of her closet."
"As she left her room and got to my parents' door waiting to be let in because the door was locked she'd see the little girl walking up the stairs that were right there. After her telling this story my youngest sister looked scared and asked, 'the little girl, is she wearing a pink nightgown with shoulder-length brunette hair?' "
"Now my other sister was scared because that is exactly who she saw. My youngest sister told how she had similar experiences with that little girl coming out of the closet at night or walking up the stairs at night."
"I'm convinced that something happened either in that house before we moved in or on that land that my parents' house was built on."
Crying From Afar
"Not my story but my moms, apparently when I was just a baby I was always a calm sleeper and once when my mom was having a friend over downstairs they could hear a baby crying so they naturally went to check on me and I was still calmly asleep..."
"...but every time they went back downstairs they could hear some more crying, but apparently the crying was somehow off in a different way as well, one day when mom and dad were downstairs watching tv while I was sleeping upstairs, they heard crying and finally pinpointed the thing that was off..."
"...apparently it came from the opposite side of the house compared to my room and that room had the latch to the attic. Creepy stuff, but I'm not that surprised. This place is totally haunted in my book, I once heard my mom call me downstairs while I was home alone."
Finally, some people interacted directly with the spirits.
Advice From Beyond
"So once while I was home alone, my neighbor knocked on my door. This was when we still lived in Oklahoma, and I was homeschooled. He was bit younger then me but we still played Halo together. I was thirteen at the time."
"I let him in and we had a conversation about what I thought the afterlife would be like, and this was really odd for him. We talked for a few minutes before he decided to leave. When my parents got home they told me he had a heart attack at school and died."
One Time Only
"I once felt a hand on my face when I was sleeping. I had the covers covering my entire face and felt something push down lightly and then a bit harder."
"I was absolutely terrified and when I finally mustered up the courage to look, nothing was there. It never happened again but there have been a few times where something similar has happened."
A Very Helpful Ghost
"I was staying in the Banff Springs Hotel in 95 for a snowboard trip and I was leaving the room and forgot my jacket."
"When I remembered right at the door, I turned around to grab it from the bed where I left it and it was being held 2' above the bed like it was being being pinched by fingers."
"The moment I turned around it dropped to the bed."
"That blew my mind!"
"My GF's sister at the time was working concierge and she said there was a bell hop ghost and gave the paper story...lol It wasn't threating at all, but was crazy to see!"
Here's hoping you manage to sleep well despite all these spooky stories!
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Like male birds with vibrant feathers and complicated mating ritual dances, straight men will go to absurd lengths to win the attention of women.
Go to any bar or club. Scan the room and undoubtedly come across bicep-clenching shirt sleeves and loud male voices screaming into the ear of a less-than-enthusiastic listener on the dance floor.
That's not to say there are plenty of wonderful traits that draw women to men. There's a reason marriage and procreation continues.
But for all those success stories, there are so many instances that involve a man trying to win the heart of a woman using means that are antithetical to what she actually values.
Redditor Londoner421 asked:
"Women, what's the least attractive quality in a man that they usually think is attractive?"
Many women responded by describing the men who apparently feel the need to convince others that they're worthy of attention.
But nobody likes a sales pitch.
"Treating dates like an informercial for themselves." -- zazzlekdazzle
" 'But wait, there's more! Have sex with me within the next 90 minutes and you'll get not one, not two, but THREE extra orgasms! Be the envy of all of your friends with this limited one-time-only offer!' " -- nubsauce87
Wall Flower Opposite
"Over-confidence or the need to show off" -- Glasswall1
"*Famous last words: 'Hey guys! Look what I can do!!'*👍" -- AndringRasew
"TLDR: insecurity" -- lipcrnb
Nobody Cares, Dude
"Bragging about having money" -- lockdownhype
"My love will take you around the world, but my bank account won't get us past the airport." -- InternetKidsAreMean
"Nice. I'm broke af" -- RogueDeku
A Fine Line
" 'Knowing' everything. Sure, intelligence is nice, but it's fu**ing transparent when you start bullshitting just so you don't have to admit there's something you don't know. Especially if I do know it."
Other women talked about the more toxic elements of masculinity.
"Being overly aggressive with other people. Like, you are out at a club with him and he is ready to pick fights with anyone who (he thinks) looks at him or me wrong."
"I think it makes them feel macho but it's a huge turn off for me. It's happened a few times, and the last time I just turned around and took a car home."
"Expressing the need to be violent without any real cause or hint that they enjoy being violent. It just outright frightens me being anywhere need people that do that."
We Are Not Apes
" 'Alpha male' 🙄" -- justputonsomemusic
"An unstable, early iteration of male. Needs further development and testing before public release." -- DoomCircus
And other women lamented all the men that seem to think attraction is a zero-sum game. These guys apparently felt that the only way to look good is to push a possible "threat" away.
Just Be Nice
"Putting other people down, to make themselves look better."
"No, you are not making yourself look better. You're being a di**."
Again, Nobody Cares.
"The one up man. Almost always dominates the conversation and one ups everyone else's experiences and replies. Shows me you're immature and can't hold a conversation without the focus being on you."
"Guys and/or girls who pride themselves on being able to out drink or outsmoke everyone until they're a blubbering mess. Or doing a bunch of drugs."
"They think they're so epic but it's honestly embarrassing when it's a constant and people have to babysit you during a get together."
Hopefully, at least a few men will come across this list and check themselves the next time they feel a fight or a boast welling up.
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Have you ever heard something go "bump" in the night unexpectedly? How did you react? Did you say something about it?
How about something that was amazing but completely unexplainable? Many people experience moments like this. And they are endlessly fascinating to hear about.
We, as humans, are always looking for something greater than ourselves.
"What's the creepiest, most unexplainable thing that happened to you?"
Here were the answers.
"I was 12~ and had just gotten my first mobile phone. One weekend, I get a call from an older sounding man with an Australian accent (not that weird, I live in Australia, but kinda relevant)."
"He asks 'Is this [my first and last name]?' I go 'Yes...?' He takes a deep breath, sounds really emotional and says 'I'm your grandpa.'"
"All I could say was 'No you're not?' Both my grandfathers had been dead for years by that point. Plus, they were both European, I'm first generation Australian."
"There's no way that even if one of my grandmas had been getting side action that this guy was my grandpa. He sounded disappointed and hung up. Haunts me to this day."-Living_Employee_7735
"Our family cat passed away when I was 14 and it really sucked, he was a great cat."
"Fast forward to 16 years old and I'm sitting by my mom on the couch and she's showing me something on Facebook on her IPad when I swear I saw a cat out of the corner of my eye so I look up.
"It's our old cat walking into the kitchen rubbing his tail against the wall as he made the corner as he always did, my mom also looked up just after me and stared and looked back at me and I was like 'Did you just see our old cat?'"
"She replied 'yeah he just went around the corner there.' I got up and went and looked in the kitchen and he's nowhere to be found. 10 years later my mom and I still talk about how creepy that was that we both saw it."-Coach_Flaps
O Brother, Where Art Thou?
"My brother passed away in 2008. Fast forward to 2016. I was asleep and I had a dream about him as I often did since he passed away. This dream was different. It was like he was talking directly to me, looking straight in my eyes."
"In the dream I asked him: 'Is it really you?' He said: 'yes.' I said, 'Prove it.' He then reached out and touched me on the arm, and when he did I jolted up in bed wide awake covered in sweat."
"I thought all this was really strange and I went to the bathroom to put some water on my face. As I was looking in the mirror, I saw that there was a backwards 'R' written on my arm in pen exactly where he touched me in the dream."
"The letter 'R' was the first letter of his name. There were no pens in my bedroom, and I have never sleepwalked before. You can call me crazy, or lying or whatever, but that was the single most unexplainable thing that has ever happened to me."-Sardonnicus
These are the things that can really keep us up at night.
"Once when I was 8 or 9 me and my cousins went down to play on this gated community I lived."
"We were on the inside of this fence when this taxi driver pulled up, asked if we wanted to go to the magic Kingdom or something cheesy like that, pulled a saxophone from his trunk and started playing while inviting us inside his car."
"I still remember my mom's face when I told her later that day."-matalleone
"Every time my mother cooks a specific dessert, an earthquake happens in Chile, that only happened twice between 2015 and 2016, strangely the two earthquakes had almost the same magnitude."-AbelrgAb25
Dreams Of Lost Loved Ones
"I had a dream a few weeks ago. Bad times in my life, right on the cusp of things getting much better (they are now) and I was sleeping badly and just not mentally well."
"My favorite uncle, closest thing I had to a dad growing up (actual dad was not good at dadding), died suddenly of a heart attack a few years ago."
"It was abrupt and shocked everyone. I was across the country and distraught by the news. He was by far the closest of any of my family members."
"I was dreaming about something irrelevant to him or anything, and suddenly I turned around and there he was, just standing there holding his arms out and grinning like, 'heeeey!!'"
"I just lost sense of the dream immediately, I was so thrilled to see him. Like the dream was a work assignment and he was just showing up to break the monotony."
"I jumped into his arms and hugged him and kept telling him how happy I was to see him. The rest of that dream, he just hung out with me. I was just so happy."
"I've never had an experience like that because honestly I've always been the aloof black sheep of my family and I never imagined anyone would care to visit me after they died of all people, if such a thing is possible."
"But there he was, and it will stick with me always that maybe he just came to say what's up and give me a little slap on the shoulder and make sure I kept on trucking because better stuff was coming. I miss him."-OctopusPudding
"I often have meaningless dreams about certain situations which I tend to forget about quite quickly."
"But fast forward a few weeks in real life, I'll be in that same situation, will repeat the same dialogue(s), will be wearing the same clothes, will be talking to the same people and I'll only realize the deja-vu until after the moment has passed."
"It happens so often, I've come to expect it now."-slightlyboredforever
People experience the unexplained all the time, but how it impacts them is the more important part of the story.
Haha...I'm Not Stalking You...
"After moving to LA, I ran into my ex-girlfriend 5 times over the course of two months."
"For context, I had moved from South Orange County to LA for a nice office job. My ex-girlfriend had moved to San Diego after the breakup, then moved to LA after breaking up with her last boyfriend."
"I would have chalked it up to random chance that we now lived a few miles from one another, except when we first noticed one another, she immediately said, 'I'm not stalking you.'"
"Thankfully, after a fifth time we 'ran into each other' I didn't see her again for almost five years when I was getting ready to move back to Hawaii."
"I had the foresight to lie about which island I was moving to, just in case she decided to follow me at some point."-WatchingInSilence
Pay Attention To Your Friend's Feelings
"Friend of mine was in a hot tub with me. We were having fun and nothing was out of the ordinary."
"She looks at a plane in the sky and her whole demeanor changed before she said, 'Something bad is going to happen. No like serious. Something awful, I don't know.'"
"She isn't a person to do this. Seriously, she had never said anything like that before. Turns out, that night, a guy at our school and his whole family got in a terrible plane accident that killed his mother, brother, and sister."
"He survived but was in a coma for weeks. Have no clue how she knew but I always listen to her when she says something is off…"-Whywhywhywhy69
The Void Stares Back
"I was on a walk through my (safe) neighborhood when I went past this house where these notably odd people live. I moved to the other side of the road as I was coming around a curve."
"All of a sudden this older guy started following me. I didn't think much of it as a lot of people were out that evening. A few blocks later he caught up to me, and started walking next to me."
"I walked a bit faster, hoping with the age of this guy, he would slow down a bit. I eventually lost him, and I disappeared behind a tree."
"He was there, as if he knew where I was going to go. He started reaching out for my shorts, but I ran as fast as I could. Luckily, I made it to my house and locked all the doors."
"A few days later, I went on a walk, and I didn't see him again. Nor did I see him ever again. The look in his eyes, it was just...dead. It was like two black holes were staring back at me. I will never be able to forget him, just for that."-Kneeling_Fish
Did any of these stories scare you? Do you have any scary stories to share?
Life has so many dimensions, that the scary is inevitable. Keep your caution about yourself at all times.
There are three different types of comas we can have. One is called toxic-metabolic encephalopathy, which is caused by illness or infection across the body. There's the medically induced coma which is caused by medical professionals to temporary cause a deep state of unconsciousness. Then there's the persistent vegetative state where the patient is the unaware of their surroundings and unable to movement.
However, after u/Pilot_Mosley asked Reddit, we're not so sure that every coma patient is completely unaware of their surroundings. Many people reported hearing their family or the nurses talking to them. Some said the had vivid dreams, only to learn those events actually happened.
Redditor Pilot_Mosley wanted to know what actually is going on in the unconscious mind and how it changed them after:
"Patients who woke up from a long coma, what's your story? How different were things?"
Read on to find out how the coma effected these people, whether it was a day or years.
"I had a friend who was put into a medically induced coma after a bad accident that lasted months. When she woke up, she recalled being able to remember hearing everything since the moment she entered the hospital. She even remembered things her mom had said to her while she was being transferred from one hospital to another."
"She said things looked different than the way she had pictured it in her head, but she was conscious and heard everything, she just couldn't move, speak or do anything really."
"I had the same experience. I was out for 12 days. I could hear and remember every conversation. My mom, and family was crying and hugging my body, holding my hand, I felt it all. I wasn't able to respond though."
"So was it awful or did your brain make it comfortable for you?"
"It was on off, almost like a dream. I could hear and feel everything (seeing blurry images) and suddenly it was just nothing/black. I thought it was just a very intense dreams because I am one of those people who could remember their dreams vividly. When I was awake from the coma and started to feel better, I shared with mom that I had a dream of day 1, I remember scissors when they cut my hair and someone stitched my head, I could feel the whole process but I wasn't in pain. the 2nd day it was my grandma crying and she hugs me, and I can see her wearing a specific shirt, and so on until the 12 days. I was surprised when my mom told me those weren't dreams. All of those really happened when I was unconscious."
"I was 16 when that happened, now 14 years later I can still feel and remember the way my mom and grandma hugged me and squeezed my hand. Hearing their cry and calling my name in prayers."
"It's ironic that now both are passed away and this are the memory of them that keep repeating in my brain."
A year long coma.
"Back in high school a girl I knew who was younger than me was in a car accident. She was in a coma for around a year, maybe a little less. When she came out of it, she remembered snippets of conversations around her while she was "out" and even seeing a few people. The only thing was, she said everything she saw was red-tinged; so she'd see her mom at her bedside but it'd look like a red filter had been put over her vision."
"She was annoyed at how many times people told her it was all right to go on, that her mom could be free if she did. She identified a few voices she knew for sure and told her mom, who had a lot fewer friends afterward. She was 14 when the wreck happened and never made it back to school, getting her GED at 19. She still has mobility issues 30+ years later but she's doing pretty well now considering everything."
"I never thought about how I would feel knowing people would want my loved ones to move on. I mean I think I would want them to move on too. but I would also be aware of all it by the sounds of it. That sucks."
"I had a good friend die after 6 months in a coma. It's a extremely hard decision on whether or not to want them to pass on or hope for the better. At a certain point where there isn't much to do about it anymore. They don't seem to be getting better but you don't want to lose hope either. It feels like hell when that point comes."
At the start of the pandemic.
"I was out for seven weeks."
"I woke up to a pandemic and no one allowed in. Thank God for Skype."
"You lived the beginning of 28 Days Later."
"The Walking dead plot almost achieved."
Still 17 at heart.
"So, my husband was in a coma for about a month when he was 17. His was due to a frontal brain injury. Arrested development is usually seen psychologically, not necessarily physically. Like, their body will go thru puberty, but their brain development does not equal that. My husband is not still '17,' but there are times where I can see the delayed development when it comes to decision making, emotional responses. Physically, nothing stopped. But it effects a LOT. At least a brain injury does. Even when it comes to sexual drive. Sometimes it's like they never got out of that 17 year old boy phase."
Accidental overdose coma.
"Well it first started off as a dislocated shoulder and after they put it back in place they just kept giving me Dilaudid and at first it was like every hour then they switched it to every 30 minutes then they switched it every 15 minutes and I just got so sleepy they moved me up into a room last I remembered from the ER and then my friend kept saying my name but I couldn't move I couldn't open my eyes but I could still hear her. Then I heard one of the nurses come in and she couldn't get me to wake up so then the head nurse came in and she claimed that I was faking it but no matter what she did she just said I wouldn't wake up."
"So it was at this point they said that the nurse who was in charge of my painkillers put me into an accidental overdose coma. And even still in a coma they kept giving me painkillers for a while like probably one or two days before the head nurse actually noticed. I mean it wasn't a long coma but I still felt like I wanted to share my experience."
"How and why did they keep increasing the amount? Did you ever get an answer?"
"Yeah I tried to sue them but they said that I signed some papers which I don't remember signing about how they couldn't be held liable or something. And the nurse who is in charge of giving me medication told the head nurse, 'She kept saying she was in pain so I kept giving her more medication,' and the head nurse said, 'That's ridiculous she can't even move let alone talk right now. How in the f*ck do you think she even can tell you she's in pain?' And it went quiet for a while and then the head nurse said that she's in charge of me for the rest of my remainder in the hospital which was about a week because they wanted to monitor me for after that happened and I had to have several tests to make sure it didn't f*ck up my brain."
"My dad was in an induced coma for a bit over a month years ago had to undergo a very difficult surgery and he had multiple complications afterwards so that's why it took them so long to wake him up."
"Not a very long coma, but he couldn't wrap his head around how we went from freezing temperatures to nice spring sunny days."
"Maybe off topic but I have to tell this one, he had some very weird dreams during the coma. He told us one time, he dreamt about being at his own funeral... and I'm not kidding, the walls of the hall were covered in PESTO LASAGNA. Ok, it's a bit less weird maybe since we're Italian, but I still laugh thinking about it."
"Omg the dreams. I still remember them 10 years after. I was in a medically induced coma for months and all I remember is the relentless racing from dream to dream but recognizing something was wrong. Maybe due to having sleep paralysis I can sometimes wake myself up but it was not possible in a coma and it was horrible."
"I was in a "run of the mill" surgery. Everything was fine until they removed the instruments. Someone had forgotten to sheath the scalpel after they inserted into my thigh on route to my heart. When they removed the instruments my arteries were cut open from my thigh into my heart. I lost all but one liter of blood and was put on life support after extensive attempts to control my bleeding and 12 blood transfusions."
"When I came out of the coma 3 months after the surgery they removed five tubes that had replaced my normal bodily functions, at that time I could only breath deeply enough to saturate my blood to the 70% level (mid to high 90s is considered a normal range). I had to learn how to breath, something that is normally an automatic function from birth onward. It took 1 month to learn how to breath without using an oxygen machine and an additional 3 years to be able to stop using the machine."
"Prior to the surgery I had 3% body fat and was leg pressing 1100 pounds on a 5 day a week schedule. When I had a ' new to me' doctor come to ask if he could examine me I agreed but asked why he wanted to do that. He said he had previously examined about 20 patients who had similar mistakes made to them but that I was the only one he had ever seen other than in the morgue and wanted to understand why I was alive."
Though some of these stories are heartbreaking, they all have lived to tell us the tale today.
Remember, if a loved one is ever in a coma, and you decided to visit them, be careful what you say because they may remember it when they wake up.