Let's talk about sex, baby.
I love that song and that phrase.
Yes, sex is natural and fun.
It can also cause a colossal amount of drama.
But does everyone always do it for the right reasons?
Redditor Environmental_Log257 wanted to hear about all of the wrong reasons people used for shacking up with others, so they asked:
"What’s the worst reason you hooked up with someone?"
I like to think that all of my sexual choices were thought out and wise.
But who am I kidding?
I'm no better than the rest.
I did the deed
"My first long-term gf cheated on me when she went off to college. We broke up. About two months later she got hit by a transportation bus and lost her leg. We had seen each other a couple of times after her recovery and hooked up. Years later I meet another girl with the same first name through a different ex and she had lost her leg too. I was thinking what are the odds of someone else being able to say they slept with two girls with the same name with both missing a leg…. So. I did the deed."
Justsittinghere25
I hear you
"We both had the same name and thought it would be fun to call out our names in the heat of it."
RayRayJones
"Ok, this is like… the BEST reason to hook up with someone. That sounds hilarious."
hashtagsugary
"Honestly that sounds so fun. Too bad I’ll probably never meet anyone with my name since it’s not technically a real name and I’ve never HEARD of another person being called that. My middle name is Ashley, though, and I tend to go by that in professional settings (I’m a guy, by the way) so I probably have a decent chance of trying that."
___sephiroth
That Night
"Almost dated in high school. Had a falling out in college and didn't talk for years until we both attended a mutual friend's wedding. We were the only single people there and neither wanted to go home empty-handed. So we didn't. That was about four years ago. We talk sporadically but we've only seen each other in person maybe once or twice since that night."
Current-Revolution-4
"Interesting that you’ve never developed it. In my personal experience knowing myself, if this were to happen to me, I’d so relive the moment in my mind and want to be with that person forever, assuming the action was good and the person is happy with me."
HamaDDisco
Wingman Issues
Barney Stinson Wingman GIF
Giphy
"She was hitting on my friend and he wasn’t down, so he said 'save me.' Reverse wingman lol."
SmokeAbeer
"Falling on a grenade for your comrade."
magcargoman
Bad ideas
Oh No Facepalm GIF by Aminé
Giphy
"My best friend (I'm Male she's Female) hadn't had sex in a year and asked me."
"We stopped being friends in any capacity after that."
cgulash
Feeling Unpretty
"I felt unattractive after my ex cheated on me and I needed someone to tell me I wasn't."
totalanomie
"Same-ish. Had a rough and very confusing breakup."
"She found me attractive and clearly was just looking for a little fun, with no attachment. We talked a lot and had a good time just being together, but we didn't really date. Just talked, sex, talked. It made me feel wanted again. She seemed to enjoy it and was clearly not interested in anything more than that. We parted as friends."
FaliedSalve
AOL Days
"Because she asked. I was visiting a friend in a different part of the state and she introduced me to one of her friends and she gave me my AOL username. This was back in the late 90s. 😉 A few days after returning home I received a message from that person asking for a one-night stand."
AnimeJoex
"A man has to comply to the AOL lady, it’s just sound reasoning."
hayitsnine
Truth
"I was emotionally compromised and wanted to use a person that I cared nothing about to make me feel better about a situation that I couldn’t fix."
Rounder057
"I appreciate your honesty. Honestly, 99% of people do this at one point in their life whether they admit to it or not. You're admitting to it, even if it’s anonymous, which says a lot Or maybe I’m just like you and want to feel better about myself and I’m just a crazy rando. Therapy here I come!"
dl-__-lp
Gotcha!
Wave Goodbye GIF by Beauty Brands
Giphy
"He cheated on me with his roommate’s girlfriend. So obviously his roommate and I hooked up for some revenge. It was excellent and I regret nothing."
HighQueenMarcy
Might as well
"We were bored. This was in the mid '00s when smartphones were not a thing yet and people still used CD players and DVDs. We both had no money or place to go and after doing nothing but talking with each other for 3 days we felt like we knew each other pretty well. I remember her complaining that 'there's nothing to do out here.' So I jokingly said back 'Well we could always do each other.'"
"Expecting her to punch me in the arm like she did when I made a comment about her boobs growing when she was talking about needing to go bra shopping. However, instead, she just sighed and said 'We might as well.' Before getting up and going inside her grandma's apartment. At first, I was a little confused and thought she misheard me so I followed. However once I was inside and saw her taking off her shirt I knew she heard me perfectly well."
alanalot
Wow. Sex has people doing crazy things.
It maybe a wiser choice to think things through sometimes.
Or at least get a hobby or two.
Redditor Marambal17 wanted hear about which television shows left viewers feeling empty, so they asked:
"What's the most overrated TV series of all time?"
I still don't get the love for 'The Big Bang Theory.'
I'm lost.
YUCK
Mood Riverdale GIF by Netflix PhilippinesGiphy"Riverdale... holy s**t it sucks."
kyybby
"To be fair, I feel like most people at this point watch that show to see what nonsense the writers come up with."
No_Aioli_6364
Meredith Who?
"Grey’s Anatomy… I mean how many series did they milk out of the show?"
Cometqueen
"Yeah, I stopped watching after Sandra Oh left."
GingerSchnapps3
"The first few seasons were borderline masterpieces. Very well structured, with developed, likeable characters, intersecting storylines, tense drama, comedic output, handling of evolving romance, and a phenomenal soundtrack. That’s where most of the acclaim comes from."
RobotYoshimis
I hate shows like this...
"The Curse of Oak Island. They build up the conclusion of each episode so much with conjecture and folklore to excite you, only for the outcome to be very minimal and unimpressive. Holy s**t? A piece of wood from 1704??? WE ARE FINDING THE TREASURE TOMORROW."
Hinkhall27
"I hate shows like this, and that Bigfoot show, because if they’d found anything in real life, it would have already made international news, so watching these types of shows is absolutely pointless. On a side note, I would absolutely kill to know why and how The Money Pit was made."
Beckyd123
Phonies
"Those stupid real life drama shows on MTV. They have to be staged! 'Hey baby, do you want to star on this MTV show with me to find out if Im cheating?" No freaking way they are real."
wolf805
"They’re not. People get paid to be on them."
"Source: My sister and her bf got approached at a mall and offered $1000 to be on the one where your parents hate your bf so you go on a date with three new guys and you get to choose a new guy or your old one. They didn’t do it."
misskissholder
Go Away
Dragon GIF by The Masked SingerGiphy"The Masked Singer."
TheEmbarcadero
"Everytime a commercial comes on for it I pause and go 'How the f**k is that still on the air, who watches that garbage!?'"
ComplexPackage117
I go back and forth with this show.
But my patience is running thin.
Oh Grandma
days of our lives tango GIFGiphy"The longest running show, THIS IS THE DAYS OF OUR LIVES."
Then_Collar2208
"It's just 'Days of our Lives' and the catchline is 'Like sands through the hourglass so are the days of our lives.'"
"Yes, I had a grandma who watched it daily."
9966
This is not love...
"The Bachelor and Bachelorette."
xNED37x
"An important part of this conversation is the community and media that surrounds these shows: the podcasts, the discussions with friends, watch parties, Instagram drama, or just watching together with a consistent group. My wife is a full Bachelor series watcher."
"But I get the sense that a big part of it is being able to connect with her friends and plug into comforting routines like listening to Bachelor podcasts on her morning run. I occasionally will watch an episode with her, and an episode here or there can be entertaining, but it is everything around the show that makes it a success."
robinhoodlum
Talentless
"The Got Talent. All you gotta do is make up a story about how your dead granny used to love that song and you are doing that to pay a homage to her, yadda yadda yadda, golden buzzer, yay you won, big surprise."
PensadorDispensado
"I used to really like the show, and watching people who have put forward the kind of effort to master their craft. Now days, I can't stand to watch it. Why do I need to find out you lived in an impoverished shack with three diabetic donkeys and an abusive chihuahua to enjoy your close up magic?"
TheUnbeliever
Just Die Already
"Sorry but I absolutely hate The Walking Dead. The way they stretch the storyline, and add what I call music videos that usually start when one character says to another: let’s go back to the store! And they go through the woods avoiding zombies, so cool! I was done somewhere around season 3."
neoquijote
Stop Crying
Season 3 Nbc GIF by This Is UsGiphy"This is Us. Just come up with one take of woe after another then play sappy piano music."
WWDB
"Trauma porn."
Annie_Mous
Some of the biggest issues with these shows are them not bowing out sooner.
Know when to go.
Redditor Jakubeu101 was wondering how people really felt about relationships with more than one lover, so they asked:
"What do you think about open relationships?"
It's certainly not for everyone, especially those who have a tendency to get jealous.
Yuck
First Date Dating GIF by OriginalsGiphy"Tried it for a year. Didn't work. It's perpetual dating which is the worst. Then they get jealous."
chewie8291
Avoidance
"All the hassle of 2 (or more) relationships needs to be something everyone involved needs to be okay with. It can be done correctly by couples that really know how to communicate and are strong in conflict resolution. (Usually this also means starting in an open relationship and not opening up later on) Unfortunately many couples use 'opening up the relationship' as a solution to avoid the need to communicate better. Those are doomed from the beginning."
CaelTyr
Shenanigans...
"My parents have been together for 40 years, married for 36. A couple weeks ago we went and stayed with one of my dad's childhood friends. As the wine got flowing, she regaled the rest of us with various stories of the shenanigans they got up to with their other friends. My mom was having the time of her life hearing all these stories she'd never heard before. (this was northern Wisconsin in the early 80s, lots of teenage drunken shenanigans)."
mstarrbrannigan
Consent
"Not for me, but I don't care if everyone's a consenting adult and no one is taken advantage of. The issue IMHO is that if you go from monogamous to open it is shifting the relationship in ways that rarely work, but if you come at it from the start there's decent chances of making it work."
Bi_Aint_Shi
All of It
"I think the idea that you've learned everything and there's nothing else new to know about a person is the first problem. I was in a polyamorous relationship for about a year and even to the end of it was constantly learning things about my partners, their SOs etc."
"I'm now monogamous and married, and years down the road I'm still learning things about my partner. They've lived a whole life before me, it will be many many years before I know 'everything' about them."
Dfnstr8r
Consequences
jealous GIFGiphy"I think it’s one of those things where both partners have to be 100% on board with what it means. There can’t be jealousy and you have to be ok with the idea of your partner sleeping with more people than you possibly. I think most people who consider an open relationship don’t really think about it means so it inevitably fails."
RaijinQ
It's not for everybody. Emotions in check first.
Stronger
Chair Stronger Music Video GIF by Britney SpearsGiphy"I'm in one. Going strong almost 8 years. Requires a ton of communication. Also, what counts as an open relationship varies wildly and the boundaries/rules are determined by the people within the relationship. There is no one size fits all."
nkorper
Bad Ideas
"I met a guy on tinder that was in an open marriage. We went on a few dates, one of which I was surprised to meet his wife and kids."
"They seemed like a happy family, very content with their arrangement. I enjoyed getting to know the guy, but he started to get impatient with how slowly I was moving. I wasn’t comfortable moving forward physically, so we decided to end it. Fast forward a year later, and he ended up committing suicide."
"His wife wasted no time posting online about how awful he was to her. It seems their 20-year open relationship was his game of control. He was a cheater and an abusive husband. I carry some guilt knowing he used me to upset her, and I sat there with a stupid smile on my face."
blahblah-user
Proven False
"Tried it, she screwed some dudes and when I picked up started getting jealous. Most open couples aren't really open. Usually someone wants it (or just wants to cheat without guilt) and someone's getting dragged into, pretending it's okay. Very few true open relationships, it's proven by how many last more than a year."
F33dR
Doing It All
"My husband and I did it...very enthusiastically... For about 6 years. We made the decision to try it after 24 years of marriage and because neither of us had had any other partners before we met. For us it was a fantastic experience. We never had issues with jealousy but we had a very strong relationship with a high degree of trust. We definitely saw a lot of marriages fail due to those issues."
"Eventually we sort of... faded out of it tho. It is just a lot of work. Finding people with the right chemistry-the on line dating scenes, going to the clubs, the meet up's that don't always work: it's exhausting. But for us it was definitely worth it. And if my hubby came to me tomorrow saying that he'd met someone he'd like to screw, I'd still be cool with it."
sabertoothbunni
"guilt free"
"I personally hate them because of an ex. I was pressured to make our relationship open for months, and I really didn't want to. That wasn't the kind of relationship I wanted to have. I later then found out that she was pushing so hard because she was already sleeping with other guys and wanted a 'guilt free' way to cheat on me, and ended up sleeping with three other people that I am aware of."
"Generally I don't mind them if that's what you want and all parties are okay with that situation. I have a friend who does that and he's never been happier in terms of a relationship with someone. But I will refuse to ever do an open relationship with anyone."
A_GuyThatDoesStuff
Not Me
No Way Beer GIF by BuschGiphy"I'm genuinely not a fan, i prefer monogamy as I feel a much closer bond can be created between two people rather than a group. however that is not how it is for everyone."
thra888
Life lesson?
You do you.
Just be honest and really communicate how you're feeling and the boundaries you feel comfortable with.
If you or someone you know is struggling, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
To find help outside the United States, the International Association for Suicide Prevention has resources available at https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/
Redditor Tebi1003 wanted to hear from everyone who has dabbled in the more than two sex realm, so they asked:
"[Serious] How would you react if your partner told you they want to try a threesome?"
Threesomes are not the best idea. Unless you're on the same page.
Stop Thinking
Think New Amsterdam GIF by NBCGiphy"Overanalyze it and eventually let my thoughts ruin my marriage."
Beard341
Pressure
"Did this with my ex & my pal on a wild night out. Ruined our relationship and my ex & my ex friend ended up being together, they have a kid together now (was about 12 years ago)."
"Probably wouldn’t do it again, never say never though If opportunity presents itself. Been with my current partner 10 years and neither of us are that bothered but have both had them before we met."
"As a guy, I’d honestly say it’s a bucket list for some of us (was for me) and wasn’t that great. Loads of pressure and my pal had a bigger d**k than me.
"Anyway, back to Harry Potter."
Geezer_Flip
Hate Her
"Had a girlfriend ask me this when I was about 20. I simply asked what her boundaries were and she showed jealousy from just that. I think she was trying to justify having sex with other men by allowing me to with another woman. I said no immediate and she cheated a few months later with someone in the friend circle."
F**k you Stephanie. You were a real c**t."
mfcfbro
The Squeeze
"I'm a guy, partners in the past have asked to have threesomes with girlfriends of theirs and I always say no. It ends up getting messy and jealousy creeps in. I have had them before and everytime after the dust has settled it always comes up in an argument."
"'I saw how you were looking at her' - 'you were really enjoying yourself' - 'you don't enjoy yourself with me like you did with her' - 'I bet you want to sleep with her again don't you.'"
"The juice isn't worth the squeeze for me."
SakeBomberman
Basics
Bedtime Threesome GIF by PantayaGiphy"If I wanted to disappoint 2 people at the same time I would just call my parents."
Foggy_Prophet
It's all gonna be a letdown.
No Thanks
No Way Beer GIF by BuschGiphy"I’m bi, but I still don’t play with that sh*t. Not if I’m in a serious relationship. It would be a massive red flag in my book, especially if they already had a person lined up or in mind. Now if I had someone I didn’t really have a romantic attachment to make this offer, maybe. Like if it was just a FWB."
lobster-overrun
Just Shut Up
"My first husband would not stop talking about his burning need for a FFM threesome."
"It got so bad that i hesitated to even have female friends because he would start 'hypothetically talking about us seducing her.'"
"He legit would not STFU about it, even though I said no about 1000 times. Yes, I dumped his a**. Then he moved back in with his mama."
Outside-Flamingo-240
Fantasies
"We talk about this a lot, tbh. However, I don't think it will ever go beyond sexy fantasies because that's a bell you can't unring. One person is always going to like it more than the other and I would imagine that it causes problems more often than not. Having said that, it sure is fun to talk about."
motormouth08
Remix
"I honestly would need to discuss details. I need to know if she genuinely just wants to mix things up or if there's an underlying sexual dissatisfaction with our relationship."
"If she wants to mix things up and explore more of her own sexuality, I'll keep an open mind and we'll discuss boundaries."
"If there is a sense of dissatisfaction going on in the relationship, then it's time to be honest and find out if it's something that can be fixed or if it's time to break up."
YoureInMyWaySir
SURPRISE!!
Joe Biden Shock GIF by GIPHY NewsGiphy"First, I would be very, very surprised. My wife is very socially anxious and gets nervous around other men. She's never expressed any interest whatsoever in other women. Second, I'd be down for it, as long as there was some serious communication and boundary sharing ahead of time."
Behind_A_Facade
Sometimes sex is more drama than we need it to be.
I shame anyone who doesn't use a turn signal.
Gross
Basketball Wives Ugh GIF by VH1Giphy"Leaving pee on the toilet seat when you have guests."
EmeraldDouchebag69
Stay with the truth...
"Knowingly spreading lies about someone."
GolgiApparatus1
"My life was legitimately destroyed by someone knowingly spreading lies about me. I’d been in a new town just a few weeks. It’s been almost 10 years and I still can’t make friends and my kids still have issues with their friends being allowed to hang out with them over it. All over something that never happened."
pain1994
Don't Toss It
"Littering."
EveFluff
"I remember when I was a kid this guy in a 7/11 threw trash on the ground and another little girl looked at him and said 'you're littering' in that you're in trouble voice. And the guy just said something along the lines of 'I'm an adult, it's ok.'"
wanawanka
Nasty
"Entitled rudeness."
Tobybrent
"Ummmm so I’ve had a work training that I planned, for MONTHS, and we already had to move the training once because of an internal work crisis. The training was moved to today. It's in an hour."
"This morning alone, 4 people have asked me to move it and they’ve known the training date for months. It’s so disrespectful. Moving the training from our previous date was a $500 fine, and if you can’t make it, that’s on you. Your poor planning does not constitute an emergency on my behalf."
KMKO926
First Be Better
lady bird self centered GIF by A24Giphy"Selfishness that harms others."
5s-are-cool
"I think most of us do in some ways. Hopefully people might decide to try harder at minimizing the harm we do while surviving and entertaining ourselves and others."
5s-are-cool
Humans really need to be better.
Wait your turn...
Looking On Line GIF by HULUGiphy"Trying to skip a line."
Tankisfreemason
"A lady came up to me once, asking to skip 30 people in line to buy a banana for her crying daughter at Disney, and I told her I can't speak for all 30 people behind me."
MrGurns
"Especially a traffic line where it is going one way and you get every other 15 vehicles behind that will go to the middle lane just cut in line to wait behind even more traffic."
SirGamer247
Not Always Right
"Being entitled and treating customer service workers badly."
potatopride999
"I work in a restaurant and my boss will argue with you and kick you out if you don't behave, downright telling people they are the worst people are so surprised every time they get told to leave after insulting a staff member."
Jesteress
"I dealt with this hard during the early days of the pandemic at Gamestop. When we got crappy no-mask customers when I was working with my friends, we would be rude right back and borderline harass them out of the store. The next several customers would always praise us for not taking s**t. Everyone hates crappy customers, including other customers."
Dr_prof_Luigi
Faults
"Finding the fault in others while ignoring the same fault in yourself."
idrinkkombucha
"An unfortunate truth is that a lot of adults stop emotionally maturing when they’re still children. When we’re kids, we can’t really imagine that there are adults who are less mature than us, but it’s actually depressingly common. Something stunts their ability to mature and then they’re just stuck with the emotional maturity of a teenager."
"They develop physical skills just like everyone else, and seem to live successful lives. They have careers and homes and families. But they also can’t connect with people on a deep level, lack the ability to introspect (so they can’t handle any criticism of themselves), and they can’t grow as people. It’s very sad."
eggjacket
“what the hell dude?”
"Animal abusers."
rfantasy7
"I watched someone try to run over a cat with their car in the Walmart parking lot, like 3 times. It was 2 am and they were speeding and swerving trying to hit the cat. Poor thing was running away terrified. I got out of my car and shrugged at them like 'what the f**k dude?' and they drove off."
"Tried to give the cat food and be nice to it but it wouldn’t come near, I think it’s just going to be terrified forever."
"Edit: I don’t understand it at all. I can at least conceptualize evil for the sake of personal gain, but what do you get from trying to murder a cat? It’s evil for the sake of evil and it’s freaking sick."
BrokenEffect
Savage
On Air Dj GIF by The Mowgli'sGiphy"Listening to music from their phone without using earphone in a public place."
SuvenPan
Well all of those people deserve a little shame. Some... A LOT of shame! What is wrong with people?