People Explain How They'd Honestly React If Their Partner Asked For A Threesome

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Threesomes sounds like a good idea at first.

They are fun.

I'm not gonna lie.

But they come with consequences.

They can be crazy and they can be a disaster.

Always be ready for the fallout.

Try to be the extra if it's a relationship.

Then it's not your drama.


Redditor Tebi1003 wanted to hear from everyone who has dabbled in the more than two sex realm, so they asked:

"[Serious] How would you react if your partner told you they want to try a threesome?"

Threesomes are not the best idea. Unless you're on the same page.

Stop Thinking

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"Overanalyze it and eventually let my thoughts ruin my marriage."

Beard341

Pressure

"Did this with my ex & my pal on a wild night out. Ruined our relationship and my ex & my ex friend ended up being together, they have a kid together now (was about 12 years ago)."

"Probably wouldn’t do it again, never say never though If opportunity presents itself. Been with my current partner 10 years and neither of us are that bothered but have both had them before we met."

"As a guy, I’d honestly say it’s a bucket list for some of us (was for me) and wasn’t that great. Loads of pressure and my pal had a bigger d**k than me.

"Anyway, back to Harry Potter."

Geezer_Flip

Hate Her

"Had a girlfriend ask me this when I was about 20. I simply asked what her boundaries were and she showed jealousy from just that. I think she was trying to justify having sex with other men by allowing me to with another woman. I said no immediate and she cheated a few months later with someone in the friend circle."

F**k you Stephanie. You were a real c**t."

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The Squeeze

"I'm a guy, partners in the past have asked to have threesomes with girlfriends of theirs and I always say no. It ends up getting messy and jealousy creeps in. I have had them before and everytime after the dust has settled it always comes up in an argument."

"'I saw how you were looking at her' - 'you were really enjoying yourself' - 'you don't enjoy yourself with me like you did with her' - 'I bet you want to sleep with her again don't you.'"

"The juice isn't worth the squeeze for me."

SakeBomberman

Basics

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"If I wanted to disappoint 2 people at the same time I would just call my parents."

Foggy_Prophet

It's all gonna be a letdown.

No Thanks

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"I’m bi, but I still don’t play with that sh*t. Not if I’m in a serious relationship. It would be a massive red flag in my book, especially if they already had a person lined up or in mind. Now if I had someone I didn’t really have a romantic attachment to make this offer, maybe. Like if it was just a FWB."

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Just Shut Up

"My first husband would not stop talking about his burning need for a FFM threesome."

"It got so bad that i hesitated to even have female friends because he would start 'hypothetically talking about us seducing her.'"

"He legit would not STFU about it, even though I said no about 1000 times. Yes, I dumped his a**. Then he moved back in with his mama."

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Fantasies

"We talk about this a lot, tbh. However, I don't think it will ever go beyond sexy fantasies because that's a bell you can't unring. One person is always going to like it more than the other and I would imagine that it causes problems more often than not. Having said that, it sure is fun to talk about."

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Remix

"I honestly would need to discuss details. I need to know if she genuinely just wants to mix things up or if there's an underlying sexual dissatisfaction with our relationship."

"If she wants to mix things up and explore more of her own sexuality, I'll keep an open mind and we'll discuss boundaries."

"If there is a sense of dissatisfaction going on in the relationship, then it's time to be honest and find out if it's something that can be fixed or if it's time to break up."

YoureInMyWaySir

SURPRISE!!

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"First, I would be very, very surprised. My wife is very socially anxious and gets nervous around other men. She's never expressed any interest whatsoever in other women. Second, I'd be down for it, as long as there was some serious communication and boundary sharing ahead of time."

Behind_A_Facade

Sometimes sex is more drama than we need it to be.

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