As much every bride and groom might hope, the chances of everything going completely as planned on their wedding day is unlikely to happen.
In most cases, however, the bride and groom won't care, as nothing can spoil the happiest day of their lives when they commit to one another.
In rare cases, however, something might go terribly wrong.
So wrong, in fact, that it might be the only thing guests who were present at the wedding will be talking about for years to come.
Arguably ruining the wedding.
Redditor lolf*ckno was curious to hear from guests who were present at ruined weddings, and what exactly went wrong, leading them to ask:
"Those who have been to a ruined wedding, what happened?"
Wedding Brawl!
"I played a wedding where as we started playing the set, everyone ran outside and nobody was to be seen for the rest of the night."
"I originally assumed it was because nobody liked us but the bride came in afterwards and said there was a huge fight involving multiple members of both families and everyone basically went home upset, injured or in a police van."
"We couldn't stop playing since we were payed and it was our job, and the only person watching was the drunk uncle dancing on his own asking for requests we didn't know."- TornApartByLisa
Season 4 Fight GIF by Living SingleGiphyA Room Without A View...
"I was not born yet, but my parents rented the observation deck on the Hancock building in Boston for their reception."
"Tallest building in the city, beautiful view."
"My dad pored over historic weather charts to figure out what day was statistically most likely to be nice out."
"Day of the wedding comes and of course, thick fog unlike anything they'd ever seen before."
"Couldn't see a thing out the windows of the room they had picked specifically for the view."
"Worked out well though, they were happily married for nearly 30 years before cancer took my dad's life a few years ago."
"There's one other funny anecdote from that wedding."
"The wedding was held in Kings Chapel, which is an incredibly historic church here in downtown Boston that's somewhat of a major tourist attraction."
"To close that on a weekend afternoon for a wedding, it turns out, was not very expensive."
"The tourists waiting outside to see the church didn't know that, though, and someone started the rumor that my parents were incredibly wealthy, maybe even Kennedys."
"As a result, there were tons of people taking photos of them when they left the ceremony."
"Not sure if any of them ever figured out that my parents were most certainly not rich or famous."- mimicthefrench
fog GIF by Gif Gif A ChanceGiphyOne Wedding And A Funeral?
When I was 6 or 7 I went to a cousin's wedding."
"Everything was fabulous for little me, so much sugar everywhere, basically heaven."
"The reception was in a big community center that was reserved for the occasion."
"Went to the girls' bathroom, passing by the men's room to see my uncle on the floor."
"Went back to the main room to tell my dad my uncle was looking weird."
"Well, uncle had a stroke and had died."
"The bride spent the rest of the afternoon crying, and everyone except close family left."
"Bright side is the marriage is still going strong 20 years later, despite what happened that day."- DecadentOrange
Venue Is Everything
"I work at a golf course with a lot of history behind it."
"We do wedding venues inside the clubhouse and the actual ceremony is held outside by the historic water fountain and large pond."
"First problem was the weather."
"I live in the high desert and it was very warm."
"A solid 90 degrees that day and it was also pretty windy."
"So everyone's outside, no umbrellas, no ezups."
"The next problem, and probably the worst, was the golf cart incident."
"The bride and groom wanted to 'ride into the sunset' on one of our golf carts."
"Drive around a little bit on the golf course."
"To be fair, it is beautiful on the course during sunset."
"However the cart had somehow gotten a nail in the tire, tire went flat, battery on the cart went crazy and the cart ended up freaking out."
"It came to a complete stop from 15mph to zero."
"The wheels and mechanisms locked up, almost seizing."
"Both the bride and groom both fell out and rolled over a few times."
"They were totally okay, just a few bruises and perhaps a bruised ego or two."
"So retrieving that cart was fun."
"And last but not least, the power inside the clubhouse went out to do the high winds."
"There was no after party available."
"Only the cake was cut, hardly any food was given out."
"Yeah, not a great day to cover for someone on your day off."- Itsallover_
Golf Jump GIFGiphyWe May Have A Winner...
"My dad and stepmom's wedding was a sh*t show."
"For context, her family was terrible on both sides."
"Abusive father, neglectful alcoholic mother, and step parents who didn't care about her much."
"She basically ran to my father to get away from it."
"Bigger problem was, my dad was 26, also abusive, and just a real f*ckin sh*tshow of a person."
"On my father's side of things, he hated his mother and blamed everything wrong in his life on her. as he did to most women in his family, later doing it to my stepmom."
"So the wedding was doomed to be terrible."
"It started when my stepmom was walking down the aisle."
"She'd reconnected with her father in the last year and had recently been in a fight with her stepfather, so it was just her dad walking her."
"There was a branch in the way, outdoor wedding, but he pulled it out if the way for her."
"As she thanks him, he lets go and flings it back into her face and literally collapses laughing."
"She awkwardly chuckles, no doubt knowing he is going to get mad at her if she shows she's upset, and the day continues but she's visibly upset."
"After the toasts, some people didn't drink the champagne that had been set out."
"The one thing she had asked of her mom was that she not drink."
"She was even given sparkling juice rather than champagne."
"So while stepmom is changing into her reception dress, her mom goes table to table pounding down all of the alcohol she can get her hands on."
"A cousin of mine who doesn't know what's happening starts chanting "Chug! Chug! Chug! Chug!" and stepmom walks back to her mom downing the last one and denying everything."
"Cousin slips out the tent once he realizes what's going on and leaves the two alone to argue."
"Stepmom comes out crying a few minutes later, goes back to her car, and doesn't come back for a good 20 minutes."
"While all of that is happening, grandma pulls up and starts cursing out my dad for a ton of sh*t, including marrying a kid, stepmom was 25 at this point, who she hates, not letting her invite a friend to the wedding, and him owing her a bunch of money."
"Dad tells her to f*ck off and she leaves."
"Then my dad got mad at my stepmom for being gone so long, accused her of either 'being a baby' for crying or of lying and cheating on him."
"So she sat down on the fringes and tried to not cry and also remain visible to my dad for the next several hours."
"They may have been dating for 10 years, but the marriage only lasted 6 months."- GayHotAndDisabled
There are those who say the worse the wedding, the better the marriage.
And indeed, true love can withstand almost anything, including a disastrous wedding.
On the other hand, when everything goes wrong at a wedding, it could be a sign that the marriage wasn't meant to be...
Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.
Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?
But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.
It would be so great to be sure there is something else.
But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.
Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:
"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"
Sensations
Happy Good Vibes GIF by Major League SoccerGiphy"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."
PeachesnPain
Recovery
"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."
"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."
"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."
good_golly99
Take Me Back
"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."
"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."
rayrayrayray
Free
The Light Minnie GIF by (G)I-DLEGiphy"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."
TooReDTooHigh
This is why I hate surgery.
You just never know.
Shocked
Giphy"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."
Admirable_Buyer6528
The SOB
"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."
"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”
1-cupcake-at-a-time
Colors
"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"
Hannah_LL7
"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"
huntokarrr
The Fog
"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."
"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."
Fluffy-Hotel-5184
Through the Walls
"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."
"She's quite alive and well today."
Hot-Refrigerator6583
Well let's all be happy to be alive.
It seems to be all we have.
Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.
The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.
Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.
Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:
"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"
Redditors didn't see these coming.
Shiver Me Timbers
"I’m always cold now!"
– Telrom_1
"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."
– r7ndom
"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."
– mr_remy
Drawing Concern
"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."
– dee-fondy
"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"
"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."
– LizardofDeath
Unleashing Insults
"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”
"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."
– alanamablamaspama
Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight
"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."
– KeltarCentauri
"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."
– KatMagic1977
"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."
– Jaew96
These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.
Shopping
"I can buy clothes in any store I want."
– WaySavvyD
"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."
– ganache98012
No More Symptoms
"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."
– colleennicole93
Expanding Capabilities
"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."
– Ramblonius
People Change Their Tune
"How much nicer people are to you."
"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"
– LiZZygsu
"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"
"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"
– awholedamngarden
It's gonna take some getting used to.
Bones Everywhere
"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."
– Princess-Pancake-97
"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."
– bekastrange
Knee Pillow
"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."
– snic2030
"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."
– Strongbad23
More Mobility
"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."
"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."
– dma1965
People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.
But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.
That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.