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Self-Defense Experts Share Moves We Should All Know

Self-Defense Experts Share Moves We Should All Know

Self-Defense Experts Share Moves We Should All Know

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Self defense moves are always good to have on hand and ready to use at any point in time. No matter how tough you think you might be, there is always a more efficient way to protect yourself and others around you.

whipcreamswirl asks:

What's a self defense move everyone should know?

Get ready for some life changing tips on protecting yourself.

The best piece of advice is to avoid a fight all together

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Walking away without escalating an argument

Isn't that something only people in horror movies do?

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Run screaming loudly and DO NOT TRIP OR LOOK BACK

The money shot

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I tell my young children if the assailant is a grownup male to kick him as hard as they can in his testicles.

Go for the eye or the taint

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A buddy of mine took a course of using knifes for both defense and attack and he was told that if all else fails, stab the taint or stab the eye.

An easy way to remember

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SING!

Hit your attacker in the following order:

Solar plexus Instep Nose Groin

Staying away is always a good tactic

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Running in the opposite direction of the danger.

Use your words

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Apologize and walk away. Even if they were wrong. Infuriating idiot strangers aren't worth the stress.

Pop them a solid punch!

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A proper punch. Boxers fracture happen WAY to often.

Knowing your time and space around you

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Awareness. Being aware of your surroundings and having the ability to recognize potential threats can buy you time in a defensive encounter. Time and space being equal, time can allow you to maintain and increase your distance from a potential threat. If someone you don't know approaches you while making furtive glances and/or while fidgiting with unseen objects, it might be time to practice your running technique.

The key is in the ear and hair

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I have no idea if this is true.

But after telling a military trained friend many years ago that I didn't know how to throw a punch or any self defense moves, he advised to grab a hold of the ear or hair and then swiftly and with as much force as possible, pull towards the ground.

That might scare them!

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Pull down your pants.

You will always be against the odds in a fight

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You don't need to know any self defense if you do two things:

  1. Don't put yourself in that situation. Not being in the scary, dark alley, or dealing with a pissed off drug dealer is pretty easy if you don't interact with them at all in the first place. Don't follow people out into alleys, and most importantly, do not escalate. Try to continue to be calm, collected, and do not panic or escalate. Don't flash your piece, don't flash a knife, don't flash any weapon. Indicating you're armed will escalate the situation to the most dangerous levels.
  2. Run. Running is far, far more effective at protecting you without any kind of injury than having a gun, or a knife, or knowing 1,000 takedowns. You can learn how to run by practicing 100m sprints every few days. Being able to sprint and run for several sustained minutes will make you able to escape most situations.

Deny, deny, and deny, and you might get out of it

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The Shaggy defense- it wasn't me.

Let it go

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Life is more precious than a stupid mobile phone, wallet or bag. If you are being robbed, just let them have it. Cards can be stopped and replaced. Phone can be remotely wiped and replaced - hopefully everything is backed up and locked with a pin to begin with.

Your best self defense is your awareness

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Not wearing your earbuds while walking alone aka not being aware of your surroundings.

Good call

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Anything is a weapon if you throw it hard enough.

Expert advice

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My TKD instructor taught me, if you cannot escape from a fight and you have a single opponent:

  • Stand side on, in the ready stance. It can intimidate a potential attacker, and it makes you a smaller target. You can shuffle back, forward, side to side, switch stance faster if you stand side on with your preferred kicking leg infront.
  • Most people who are going to start a fight with you are probably past being reasoned with so if your confident you can take them then strike first, hard, fast and without mercy. Aim for areas that affect their movement, such as feet, knees and groin.
  • Once they go down, run away. Don't stand around. If you have hurt them enough that they fall down, they probably aren't going to chase you, so get away asap.
  • Nothing beats violence of action and aggression. Show them your warface. Scream at the top of your lungs. It can put them off and will help you release adrenaline and build up your confidence and get you breathing deeper, which will cause you to raise your heart rate and your reflexes will be slightly sharper which could be the difference. Also, it has the added benefit of alerting passers by who might not be in sight, and terrifying your opponent.
  • If the fight goes to ground, which is very common, you are going to want to keep hold of their arms and prevent their hips from being over yours, generally speaking. If you can prevent them from striking you and hold their arms apart, they will lose balance and you can roll them and reverse the tables. You want to use your hips as much as possible, wriggling around and searching for any impetus you can gain against your opponent. You can unbalance an attacker on top of you by rocking your hips against their support base and rolling them to the side. You want to keep your head moving, don't allow it to get pinned. The attacker will try and headbutt you, if you keep your eyes focused on his you can interpret where he might attack with his head if you have a firm grip on his arms.
  • If your pinned, and have his arms in a firm grip, they may try and prize your grip with one hand. They will let go with one hand and that is a great opportunity to smash them in the face, or put a hand over their mouth and nose to inhibit their breathing, or rake them in the eyes, or grab them by the throat and squeeze as hard as possible, or shove a hand underneath their hips and force them to dismount.

For more than one assailant, it's all about buying time. Even if the situation seems hopeless and there is no one around, you never know what might happen if you can just last that little bit longer. Give yourself a chance to survive.

  • Your going to want to be extremely mobile. Standing still and making a stand presents your assailants with an easy way to get around you and to your back and that's bad news. Constantly move. It doesn't matter if you are cornered, use the walls to gain height and just stay out of the range of more than one assailant. If you can get it where they are lined up, one behind the other trying to get at you, this generally works for a little while. Just keep moving so that the person at the back is roughly in line with the person in the front.
  • If they rush you, there isn't an awful lot you can do. You can maybe plan to hit one as hard as you can and make sure hes out of the fight before the other guys are going to get to you.
  • If your up against a wall taking punishment, keep your eyes open. It is very counter-intuitive and its really uncomfortable but no matter how hard you get hit, keep your eyes peeled and looking for where the next blow is going to come from. If you close your eyes, you might miss the punch that knocks your head back against the wall and knocks you out. If you get knocked out, it can be game over. While your unconscious, anything can happen. Normally what happens though, is they get three or four good hits at you in the face/head/body while your out of it and that can cause severe, life threatening injuries.
  • If you get knocked down and are out of the fight, protect the back of your head and your face. Tuck your head as tight as possible into your chest, bring your knees up to protect your stomach and don't expose your face. Your going to take a beating and its important to remember that if you get knocked out in this spot, your in a world of trouble (not that your not already, just extra turd added)

All the tricks

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Scream as loudly as you can. It will catch a potential attacker off-guard, and better still put your non-dominant hand behind your back or in your jacket/coat, make them think you have a weapon and hopefully get yourself even more time. The biggest threat when being attacked is panic, if you get rid of that, you'll be far better off.

That sounds unpleasant enough

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Place your thumb and index on each side of the trachea, try to make them touch behind of it, minimal effort.

Punch instead

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For the crotch shots, don't kick unless you absolutely have to. It takes you off balance and a kick is always much less accurate and harder to control than a punch.

Old Wives' Tales People Still Believe For Some Reason

"Reddit user the_spring_goddess asked: 'What is an old wives tale that people still believe?'"

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The old wives' tales.

They are the stories of legend.

I think we all need a big DEEP Google dive though.

Where did they originate?

WHO ARE THE OLD WIVES!

You don't hear about them as much anymore.

It's like science and logic are suddenly a thing.

But they sure are a good way to keep your kids and their behavior in line.

Redditor the_spring_goddess wanted to discuss the tall tales we've all been fed through life, so they asked:

"What is an old wives tale that people still believe?"

"Wait an hour to swim after eating."

What a crock!

So many summer hours wasted.

I want revenge for that one.

Say Nothing

Giphy

"An undercover cop has to tell you he's a cop if you ask him."

LonelyMail5115

"Pretty much most advice when it comes to cops are old wives tales. I’m not even a cop but most of the advice you hear is pretty off."

I_AM_AN_A**HOLE_AMA

Say Something

"That you have to wait 24 hours to report someone missing."

Severe_Airport1426

"I really think this one is important and should be the top regardless. As it’s a piece of advice that needs to be relearned and the only way to do that is through awareness."

crappycurtains

"This used to be true. I think they changed it after some guy named Brandon went missing back in the '80s or '70s. You used to have to wait 24 hours if the missing person was an adult because they had 'a right to be missing' and then everyone realized that was stupid and stopped doing it."

AlbinoShavedGorilla

Body Temps

"That drinking ice cold water after eating oily foods will solidify the oil and permanently remain in your body. I informed my coworker that if your body temperature ever reached that point, you’d have bigger problems than weight gain."

chriseo22

"Oh, I have a cousin who 100% believed this. One of those guys who believed every early 2000s internet rumor and old wives tale. One night I chugged a big glass of ice water after dinner and he started freaking out and saying my guts were gonna harden."

"I sarcastically told him to drive me to the hospital if that happened. Obviously, nothing happened and the next morning I said something like 'Thanks for being on standby in case my guts filled with hardened oil.' He just walked off muttering under his breath."

apocalypticradish

Arms Down

"When I was pregnant, I was told by young and old alike that I should NOT raise my arms above my head or exert myself in such a manner because it could cause cord strangulation to my unborn sons and daughters."

Fatmouse84

10 Years Actually

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"Chewing gum stays in your stomach for 7 years."

REDDIT

"I remember accidentally swallowing a piece of gum when I was a kid in like 1995 and just accepting my fate like welp, gonna have this in my stomach til high school I guess."

Gecko-911

I was so afraid to sallow my gum when I was young.

This tale is haunting.

High/Low

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"You can tell the sex of the baby by how you carry."

LeastFormal9366

"Pregnancy certainly wins awards for the most old wives tales. So much absolute BS was repeated to us by everyone we talked to."

IllIIIlIllIlIIlIllI

The Cursed

"If you’re a woman and you wear opal jewelry but opal is not your birthstone (October), you’ll never be able to have children, or will be widowed, or just generally have bad luck or something. You can counteract this by having a diamond in the same piece of jewelry as the opal, though."

"I have a nice opal ring that my parents gave me years ago, and I’ve had other women give me this 'advice' unprompted more than once when I’ve worn it. I have absolutely no idea where it started, but I’m pretty sure this little chunk of silicate rock has no concept of what month I was born in, let alone of how my reproductive organs work."

SmoreOfBabylon

Stay In

"Going outside with wet hair will make you get pneumonia. Or an earache. Or maybe arthritis. Depends on which old wife you listen to."

"Jokes on them - I haven't blow-dried my hair in decades and usually leave the house with wet hair in the morning. On winter mornings, the tips of my hair get frozen. No ear infections or pneumonia or arthritis yet."

worldbound0514

Dreams and Facts

"You never make anyone up in your dreams you've seen everyone in your dreams somewhere else before and never make anyone up entirely."

"How would you possibly prove that to be true? My partner adamantly believes this and tells me this 'fact' whenever I have a dream about someone I've never met before."

mattshonestreddit

"My late wife used to tell me that before she met me she would have dreams of standing at an alter on her wedding day but could never see the guy's face, no matter how hard she tried. After meeting me the face was filled in with mine. Don't know if it's true but one of those things I like thinking of every now and then when I miss her."

Darthdemented

Cracked

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"Some people still believe cracking knuckles causes arthritis."

Choice-Grapefruit-44

"There's a doctor (Donald Unger) that cracked his knuckles a couple of times a day for 60 years, but only on one hand, just to prove it. Both hands remained exactly the same."

MacyTmcterry

I love my knuckles.

Do you have any tall tales to add to the list? Let us know in the comments below.

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Some people stand firmly stand behind their beliefs that everyone would benefit from therapy and that therapy is life-changing.

It's because of the totally life-changing truth bombs their therapist had dropped during their sessions.

Curious, Redditor anonymiss0018 asked:

"What is a little bombshell your therapist dropped in one of your sessions that completely changed your outlook?"

Communication Issues

"'If you don’t have these problems with any other person in your life, why do you think you’re the problematic person in this one?'"

- maggiebear

"I love this. I have a 'friend' who I always seem to run into misunderstandings with. Every time we had a conversation, it somehow turned into a debate even if it was me talking about my day. The conversations were never easy."

"I always evaluate myself first and take into consideration his critiques. He was very good at convincing me that I was contradicting myself or wasn't good at communicating my thoughts."

"I NEVER had this issue with ANYONE else in my life. I kept trying to figure out where the miscommunication was coming from. In the end, I just minimized contact and now I don't run into this issue."

- chobani_yo

"I read this quote somewhere once (and probably have it a bit wrong): 'It's a waste of time arguing with someone who is determined to misunderstand you.'"

- Reddit

Emotional Regulation

"'You can’t control your emotions, but you can control what you do with them.'"

"At the time, I was a young adult who had learned zero healthy emotional regulation skills (only suppression and shaming) growing up, so this blew my mind."

- lil_mermaid

Tough Relationships

"'It sounds to me like you are trying to convince yourself to stay with your girlfriend. I'm not so sure it should be so difficult.'"

"At the time he said this, I remember it was like he said, 'The earth is flat.' I thought he was crazy when he suggested relationships don't need to be difficult. But eventually, I started to realize I was trying to change myself to stay with this person rather than just being who I am."

"It took me three more months to finally break up with her but from that day on, I vowed to never again abandon myself just to be with someone I had convinced myself was better than me."

- metric88

High-Stress Situation

"I was at a high-stress time, and I asked her how people live like this."

"She replied, 'Oftentimes they have cardiac events.' She said it as an urging to care for myself as much as possible."

- KittenGr8r

The End of Alcohol

"I was struggling with my alcoholism, and we were discussing how I had been cutting back."

"She asked what I would consider success, with regard to my drinking."

"I said I wanted to get to a point where it wasn't interfering with my daily life. I wanted to just be able to have a glass of wine at holiday dinners or family gatherings."

"She simply asked me why. Why was it important for me to drink at those times?"

"It was as if she'd turned on a light. Alcohol had always been a key ingredient in every family function, for my entire life. When I smell bourbon, I think of my uncle. When I smell vermouth, I think of my dad. Alcohol ran through almost every happy childhood memory."

"But, even more than that, I was very afraid of the explanation I'd have to give when family and friends asked why I wasn't having a drink. I had tried to quit before but failed. What if I admitted my problem, only to fall off the wagon?"

"When she asked why I didn't want to completely quit, it was the first time I saw that last part of the big picture. I'd be willing to drink myself to death in order to avoid being scrutinized, or judged for possible future failures."

"That was the day I quit. I've been sober since May 6th, 2017. 2,407 days."

- sophies_wish

Acceptance vs. Enjoyment

"'Accepting something doesn’t mean you have to like it.'"

"That took away a lot of my inner conflicts about situations because I could accept a situation without expending energy internally fighting against the injustice of it."

- alibelloc

Emotionally Immature Parents

"You are not responsible for your parents' emotional wellbeing. They are independent adults who have been on this earth for many more years than you."

- SmokedPears

Not So Lazy

"'Why do you think you're lazy?' Then she listed off all the things she knows I'm doing for my family, my job, and my life."

"It kind of blew my mind when I struggled to come up with an example."

"She also described family dysfunction as water. Some families are messed up in a way that everyone can see the huge waves across the surface. Others are better at hiding it, but there's still a riptide that you can't see unless you're also in the water."

"It made me realize that trying to keep the surface from ever rippling doesn't erase what is happening underneath."

- flybyknight665

The Harm in People-Pleasing

"'Why do you make people more comfortable when you are uncomfortable?' when talking about people pleasing and fawning."

- ERsandwich

Agree to Disagree

"'Stop trying to get everyone to agree. When you need everyone to agree, the least agreeable person has all the power.'"

This really changed my outlook on planning family events."

- freef

Grieve and Start Anew

"For context, I had a major TBI (traumatic brain injury), seizures, strokes, and all around not a fun brain time when I was 28."

"They said, 'You have to grieve the loss of yourself.'"

"Most people wanted me to go back to how I was. The f**ked up truth is that part of my brain is dead. The person everyone (including myself) knew died. I needed to grieve the loss of myself."

- squeaktoy_la

Multifaceted Identity

"They told me that my job and career is just a way to make money; it's not my life or identity. That took a lot of pressure off me."

- unfairpegasus

Breaking the Cycle

"They validated me."

"'You always talk about not wanting to do to your daughters what your mom did to you. You worry about it so much in every interaction you have ever had with them."

"But your children are 19 and 21 now. They are happy and healthy and they trust you because you’ve never abused them in any way. So I just want to validate for you that you really have broken that cycle of violence."

"You did that. And you should be proud of it. I’m proud of you for it.'"

- puppsmcgee74

The Grieving Process

"I was constantly bringing up how I felt like a completely different person after my mom died... like there was a marked difference between before and after her death."

"But once, she was asking about my hobbies, I got really into describing all the things I loved to do or at least used to do before I got into a deep depression."

"She was like, 'Wow, you seem very passionate.'"

"And I just sat there like, 'Well, I mean, I can't change what I like to do, they're still fun to do.'"

"And it's like she knew when to take a step back, because it was like, wow, I may be super depressed about my mom passing, but I'm still me. I'm still my passions and those don't go away."

"I don't know, maybe it only makes sense to be, but it really started getting me back on track."

- Hannibal680

Sharing the Load

"I've never really had friends. I've had colleagues and classmates and housemates and people who have hung out with me, but I never really felt close to any of them."

"And I did that thing you see on here sometimes; I stopped reaching out to see if I would be reached out to, and I wasn't, which I took as confirmation that they didn't really want me around, or at the very least, that they wouldn't mind my absence."

"I was talking to my therapist about people I'd been close to in college, and she told me to pick one and talk about him. So I did. After I shared some basic stuff like his name and his major etc., and a couple of anecdotes, she asked me what else I knew about him."

"And I couldn't answer. It wasn't really a broadly applicable bombshell, but she said, 'What else?' and I started crying because I realized that for as simple as the question was, my inability to answer spoke volumes."

"I've never had good friends because I've never been a good friend. I'm withdrawn and reserved and I always made others do the work to drag me out, without ever extending my own friendship in a meaningful way in return. If I wanted to have meaningful relationships with other people, I would have to build them."

"I'm still working on this, but I'm trying to make more offers and extend more friendliness to others in my daily life."

- Backupusername

The discoveries in this thread were incredibly touching and profound; it's no wonder these were lasting concepts for these Redditors.

It's important to keep ourselves open to inspiration and insights from others, as we have no idea how their experiences could help us, or how we could help them.

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There's something comforting about living in a small town.

It's characterized by close communities where neighbors know each other by name and there is an abundance of kindness extended to others.

Gift-giving is a commonality, as is the sharing of recipes, and people going out of their way to help each other in a time of need.

The pace of living in small towns is also a striking contradiction to city life, where crowds of people go about their busy lives without much interaction.

Curious to hear more examples of what small town living is like, Redditor official_biz asked:

"What's the most 'small town' thing you've witnessed?"

These are positive examples of a tight-knit community.

Live Updates

"We have a village Facebook page. Every time the ice cream man drives into the village, the entire page goes ballistic. People send live updates of where the van is and which direction he's heading. The ice cream man has started accepting DMs so he knows which streets to go down."

– PyrrhuraMolinae

Brush With The Law

"I’m from a town of less than 2,000 people. When I worked at the grocery store there people would often drop off stuff for my family members because they didn’t want to drive all the way down to our house. I no longer live there but recently got a call from my daughter. She had been stopped for speeding and handed over her license and insurance which happens to be in my mother’s name. The officer goes 'Hey, you’re Donnie’s granddaughter! I ain’t gonna write you a ticket but I’m telling Donnie when I see him tomorrow cause we’re going fishing.' She replied 'I think I’d rather have the ticket.'”

- Reddit

Roadside Catchup

"The traffic on the 'main street' of my town is so sparse, two drivers going opposite directions can stop and talk to each other for a few minutes without causing any problem."

– anon

When things go wrong, people take notice without incident.

Bank Robbery

"A guy robbed a bank and everyone knew immediately who he was and the teller got mad at him."

– AlexRyang

"A local bank was robbed and one of the tellers told the police to bring her a yearbook from about ten years earlier and she would be able to point the robber out. He had been in the grade before hers in school."

– Strict_Condition_632

Wise Woman

"When I worked at the bank in town there was an older lady that had worked there through 5 mergers."

"She knew everyone, there was a young guy yelling at me one day. She walked out of the back and he immediately quieted. She went off about telling his grandmother that he was treating young women like sh*t. She also said that if he didn’t straighten up not one girl in town would ever marry him she would make sure of it."

– ilurvekittens

Intoxicated Local

"Town drunk was paralyzed and used a motorized wheelchair to get around. I was driving home one Saturday night and said town drunk was passed out in his wheelchair doing circles almost directly in the town square. Had to call his brother who came and picked him up on a rollback truck. Strapped him down and drove off into the cold dark night."

– DoodooExplosion

Grazing Over To The Bar

"In my former small town, there was an older guy who'd lost his license after getting a few DUIs. Every day, he would ride his John Deere lawnmower to the corner bar around 3PM and sit around watching TV and sipping his beer well into the night. Then he'd head the couple miles back home on his mower. He even had a little canvass shell he put on when it rained or got too cold."

– brown_pleated_slacks

It's not surprising how small town people behave differently than those who are from metropolitan areas.

Welcoming Committee

"I lived in a small town. When I moved there, people would ask, 'Whose house did you buy?'"

–MoonieNine

"Move to a small town. 30 years later, you are still the new guy."

– impiousdrifter

"I lived in a small town for most of my childhood but I wasn't "from there" because my grandparents weren't from there."

– raisinghellwithtrees

"Worked with an older guy, relative of the owner of the business, he was 73. I asked him if he was a local, he said 'no his parents moved here when he was two.'"

– realneil

A Busy Day

"Lived in a town of about 5,000: A woman walked into the DMV on a Friday, saw that there were 3 people ahead of her and left to come back another time when they weren't so busy."

– KenmoreToast

Who Let The Dogs Out?

"My dogs got out while i was working. the police called my niece's elementary school (she was a 5th grader) to get her to round them up and take them back home."

– mediocrelpn

"There was a small kennel behind the police station for runaways. They called us saying they had our dog, and moments later our dog showed up home. He broke out of jail."

– Worried_Place_917

While life in a small town sounds appealing, I don't know if I can ever live in one.

I'm so used to life in big cities, I think it would be quite unnerving to adjust in a neighborhood where everyone literally knows your business.

I would be paranoid.

And I'm sure the same could be said of life in the big city.

Would you consider making the switch to life in a different setting?