People Share What Their First Kiss Was Like And What Happened To Their First Love
First kisses are rarely the romantic, well choreographed events that Hollywood makes them out to be. They're often awkward, and sometimes messy, but many of us still look back on them fondly (if a little sheepishly). Very rarely though, they really are magical.
Reddit user EchtGeenSpanjool asked:
What was your first kiss like? What came of you and the person you kissed?
User responses were a mix of the usual embarrassing hijinks of teens feeling out how relationships work and inexperienced adults doing the same. There were a few stories that really stood out from the crowd, you'll find them below.
A Chance Meeting on Vacation
My first kiss was weird (as I assume most first kisses are) but also beautiful. I was 17, decided I was too old to not have kissed, so on vacation I kissed a guy during our first date whom I had met in a bus. This was in India, we are both Dutch. He has been my boyfriend for the past 2 years.
Sometimes It’s Worth Waiting
I was 20, and I always felt "pathetic" by not having kissed anyone during high school. So when I finally got a date with a girl it was such a fantastic feeling. I didn't intend to kiss her on our first date, I just wanted to talk and get to know her. The 2nd date we grabbed dinner and saw a movie together. Walking back to our cars, I really wanted to give her a kiss goodbye, but I was so nervous I didn't know what to do, so in a squeeky voice I asked for a hug instead and gave her a hug.
The next time we saw each other was at her house and we watched the first lord of the rings movie. Ontop of freaking out about wanting to ask for a kiss, it was the first time I was in a girl's house, so it made me even more nervous. The movie comes to an end and she is walking me out. I was her doorway about to leave, and I tried to force myself to ask her for a kiss. It is hands down, the absolute most nervous I've ever been my entire life. I could barely form a word, and my legs felt like they'd give way any second.
After what felt like an eternity, I asked if I could kiss her, and she said yes! I didn't think she'd actually say yes, so I said that I've never kissed anyone before. She said to not worry, and leaned in to kiss me. I felt like I was flying through the clouds when she kissed me! It was the most amazing experience I've had in years. Driving home after that I was smiling ear to ear, I was so dam happy. Still with her, going strong for over a year now :)
A Fondly Remembered Gift
It was a "gift" from my older buddy's 17-year-old girlfriend on my 16th birthday. It was soft and sweet and wonderful and few since have come close.
I kick myself to this day for not trying to get with her when she and my buddy broke up, but she went to college a year before I did so I lost track of her. Heard from a friend she's now married with grown kids living not far from where we went to high school, while I live 2000 miles away.
She was tall and pretty with red hair and freckles and her name was Gene because her dad wanted a boy but she was definitely NOT that.
Thanks for the memories, Gene. 47 years later I still remember you.❤️
I was 14, and I got my first and second kiss on the same night. They were two different people, a guy and a girl. I don't remember the order, because it was also the first time I'd ever gotten drunk. I just remember the feeling. I kissed the boy and I didn't feel much of anything. I kissed the girl and I felt everything. I'd had feelings for girls before that point, and that really put it in perspective.
Anyways, he's gay now, she's bi, I think, and I'm gay.
New Romance In a New Country
I was 20, and had just moved to a new country. It was at a party; he was a native and I was clearly not, but we were enchanted by each others accents nonetheless. He and I talked and flirted for an hour, and then he asked me to dance. It happened pretty quickly after that. It was really sweet, just the pure kind of "hey I like you" kiss. I remember thinking that kissing felt smaller and softer than I expected lol.
If I was bad at it, he didn't let on and we danced and shared kisses for maybe an hour again before I had to leave. He invited me to his apartment and I declined, but we did go on a date a week later. Looking back, it wasn't anything more than pleasant, but I developed a head over heels crush on him for it. I was incredibly sad when he told me the next week that he was too busy to date anyone, but it all worked out because a month and a half after that I met my first love.
I never saw him again after that date, but we're still friends on facebook, and he's still a really cool guy. It wasn't the story my 11 year old self once hoped for, but I'm happy with how it happened and it's a memory I treasure.
It was the second time I had met him, and we were both drunk. Had been the first time as well.
He was very flirtatious the first time we met, but this time it was more over the top. When he showed up he sat next to me and we partially cuddled, and a few minutes later we were inside when a friend said he should kiss me.
And so he did, and we made out for a bit on my bed. I didn't really know what I was doing but it was nice.
But then he realized he was actually straight and so nothing came of it. We were friends for a while but recently that came to an end as well.
I actually have a great/awful first kiss story to share. I was 12 or 13, in 7th grade, had my first girlfriend, and basically her friends scheduled our first makeout session to be held after school in the unisex bathroom between the boys' and girls' locker rooms. A person more nervous than me never existed before that day. I answered the call of duty though, took up my station and waited for her. She arrived, we commenced making out aggressively (probably like two snakes trying to swallow the same ostrich egg), and after several minutes we stopped and pulled away. I saw horror in her face, and she saw the same in mine. SHE WAS COVERED IN BLOOD! (As was I). We didnt know wtf happened. Turned out, she got a bloody nose. It was traumatizing, to say the least.
BONUS STORY: my most recent kiss, as a guy in his late 30s whose wife left him several months ago and is going through a divorce, is possibly WORSE! I met this awesome girl, who is young(er) extremely good looking, and 6'1 (without shoes). We had gone out on a couple of occasions, I was playing the gentleman and taking it very slow. Third date rolls around, we go to arguably the nicest restaurant in a big city, have drinks after at a private club, then go to a dive bar for a nightcap. The deal is sealed, so to speak. We are leaving the bar, about to take an Uber back to her place. We walk out of the bar, her ahead of me, hand in hand. She turns around to kiss me. I lean up on my tippy toes (I'm just shy of 6', she is wearing heels). We are on the edge of a curb. She loses her balance and is embracing me (and me her). We go down like a pair of intertwined trees, with me taking the full force on my nose/face. I broke my nose in two places and ended up with 12 stitches and a concussion. She broke up with me a week ago.
Tldr: I absolutely suck at first kisses.
It was honestly perfect.
We were standing on the edge of a dock looking onto the Lake. We were talking, but moving closer to each other slowly the whole time. Eventually she laid her head on my shoulder, I kinda leaned her way too. We then looked each other in the eyes (something I have trouble with), and we kissed.
And then she emotionally abandoned me, and now we barely talk.
Still a nice moment.
Loves Worth Holding Your Breath For
We were laying down on the couch facing each other and I was petting his beard while we talked. He leaned in and kissed me, which I was entirely expecting but I definitely didn't object. The only problem was that it was winter and one of my nostrils was blocked, and his nose was pressed against the unblocked one so I couldn't breathe. I guess I didn't mind, because we've been married a little over a year now.
But if you want to know the truth my real first kiss was in fourth grade when my lil boyfriend pecked me on the lips underwater at a pool party. We went steady for a little while, but we were like ten. We went to the same high school, but we haven't kept up much.
“This Is Why You Use Your Words!”
I was 21, she was 18. We had been friends for a couple months and I had made it clear from the beginning I liked her, but she had recently broken up with a serious boyfriend and I was cool with just being friends.
We started to get closer and eventually she told me something really personal that had happened to her before and she was really down about it. It was a very serious thing so I dropped everything to go see her. We talked for a while and I shared some bad things that have happened to me. She started inching closer and closer and me being clueless didn't notice, but I could tell she was struggling with something in her mind.
I asked her what was up and she said she was trying to decide something and I asked if it was kissing me. She said yes and asked if I wanted that.
I told her she was the person I'd always imagined being my first kiss. And described how that was the truth. (Which it was.) She smiled really big and said, "This is why you use your words!" And leaned in. It was like a fucking movie. She agreed with me later. The first time we said we loved each other was similar.
We dated for like three months, shit went down, she blocked my number for six months until I, (dead serious here,) stumbled upon her Reddit account by complete accident. We reconnected and now I consider her my best friend. She lives in another state and has a boyfriend she loves more than she loved me. I'm genuinely happy for her. She's such a strong, great, and supportive person. I'm happy to be her friend at all.
This was only a little over a year ago. I realized I'm bisexual and have a boyfriend now.
Very few people enjoy being scared.
Those very few that do enjoy being scared often seek it out, by watching scary movies, going to a haunted house, or enjoying a thrill ride.
But even those brave souls who seek out being scared do not enjoy the feeling when it comes upon them by surprise, in real life.
Finding themselves or loved ones in life-threatening situations, and leaving them with a memory they would give practically anything not to have.
"What's the scariest experience you've ever been through?"
Narrowly Avoided Drowning
"At about 10 years old, I fell through ice on a pond."
"When I came back up, I smacked into ice...instead of the hole I fell through."
"The water was too murky to see any light from the hole, and I thought that I was witnessing the end of my short life."
"I was lucky to find the opening again, but as I tried to get back up, the ice kept breaking and I'd go under again."
"The whole event probably lasted 30 seconds...but to me, it was a lifetime."
"It's been 35 years, and I'm still nervous on a frozen body of water...even if cars and trucks are driving on it."- jekern
"I was jumping off some high rocks into a river."
"It’s was a place in the town I grew up in that everyone knew."
"One day I somehow got turned around in the water after hitting and swam down, when I realized and turned around I was too deep to make it up."
"About 8 feet down I inhaled water."
"It burned and was cold at the same time."
"I could feel the pain in my ears as I tried to exhale the water."
"I don’t remember surfacing, my friends pulling me to shore or coughing up all the water."- WhatWouldTNGPicardDo
"I survived a chainsaw accident to the throat, 16th March 2022."
"Trachia, thyroid and epiglotis (hope I spelled those right) were each in two parts."
"The operating doc came by two days afterwards, with huge eyes, and told me about the puzzle pieces he had to put back together."
"I’m basically fully recovered except for my voice that sounds a bit hoarse because of nerve damage."
"It is slowly recovering and I am going for speech therapy."
"At the beginning though I did sound a bit like Lemmy Kilmister and thought about reviving Motörhead."- TokoloshNr1
Family In Danger
"Getting a phone call at work to tell me that my wife’s routine surgery had gone wrong due to an anaesthetists mistake and she was now in a coma in the ICU."
"I dropped everything and ran."
"What greeted me when I walked in was the stuff of nightmares."
"Tubes everywhere, machines beeping."
"My wife was in ICU for 23 days before they took her off life support and she died in my arms."
"Life has never been the same since."- M1r9f7i9sh
"Watching my 3yr old son whither away due to Leukemia to the point he was so weak he couldn't walk, sit up, talk, and we would have to hold his head in place so that he could watch 'Paw Patrol'."
"He's now almost 4 and back to walking again, and seems to be winning this long hard battle."- -Alter-Reality-
Held At Gunpoint
"One night I was working in a rural old wooden gas station."
"A masked man kicked the door open and robbed me with a shotgun."
"He was more scared than I was, which made me more scared than he was."
"I got him out of there with the money and all the cigarettes."
"The next day the newspaper published my name and address."- eightfingeredtypist
"I didn't even know a tick had bitten me and went from headache to shivers and extreme fever until I wasn't able to walk without my wife supporting me."
"Even reading made my head spin like crazy and I didn't know what the reason was."- DifferenceDependent6
"I was 13 years old and my dad had just picked me up from high school but had my grandma in the car too so I sat in the back seat."
"We were driving back home and my grandma wanted to quickly run into a shop so we parked up outside the shop."
"My Gran was having trouble getting up the steps out front of the shop so my dad jumped out to help her, at that exact moment I noticed my dads gold chain he lost a couple of weeks ago under the seat in front of me so ducked down and reached under to get it, as I'm trying to reach under the seat someone got in the car."
"I looked up and they kinda looked like my dad from behind so I said "Dad?"
"They turned around and I immediately saw it wasn't my dad, they clearly didn't realize anyone else was in the car and were a little startled but quickly replied 'sit back and shut up, I'll let you out in a minute'."
"The key was still in the ignition and they started the car and peeled off."
"I have never really felt fear like it, all the worst kinds of thoughts rushed through my head and I was convinced they had stolen the car because I was in it but they drove down a couple of streets and pulled over and just said 'OK, get out'."
"I ran back to the shop and halfway ran straight into the arms of my dad who had been running after the car."
"I could literally feel the relief that he was feeling through that hug."- PeyJ
"I was in a hospital for months because of something else, couldn't get up and had already lost a ton of weight which made me severely underweight."
"Then caught some kind of virus (the doctors couldn't figure out what it was) and got weaker every day, I couldn't eat or drink and vomited all the time, at some point what I spat out was entirely black, probably dried blood."
"I can hardly remember that time of my life, but looking in the mirror and seeing my bloodshot eyes where all the veins popped and my chin and neck with burns from the acidity in stomach fluid and my skinny arms and ribs was horrifying."
"I think I was around 14 at the time and was sure I'd die."
"It went on for days and then just stopped."
"We thought it was that hospital virus that happens sometimes but apparently it wasn't, still don't know what happened and how I survived."- fluorishingStripe
Near-Fatal Car Accident
"Back in the early 2000s I lived in northern Minnesota."
"I was born and raised in Louisiana, so direct opposite side of the US where the only ice on the roads was when someone dumped out a cooler into the street."
"At the time I was dating a Canadian girl and went to spend Christmas with her and her family."
"Drove across the border, went to Ontario, had a good time."
"I came back across the border a few days after Christmas, sometime late afternoon."
"It was a 5-ish hour drive from her house to mine."
"Being the middle of winter, the sun went down very early so it was dark by the time I got to the first town in Minnesota."
"I drove down highway 61 which runs along Lake Superior, and is dotted with blink-and-miss towns."
"No one travels that highway that late unless they live there or are a trucker usually driving from Duluth to Thunder Bay."
"The roads were clear, no snow, no ice that I could see, so I cruised along at my usual 60 MPH."
"I hit a curve that had a patch of black ice and sailed off the road."
"One side of the road was an almost 90-degree drop straight into Lake Superior, the other was into a forest."
"I sailed into the forest, barrel rolled a few times, and landed on my wheels in a ravine."
"I credit my seatbelt for saving my life, so I'm now a hard a** about that when anyone gets into my car."
"So there were a few problems."
"First, cell phones weren't nearly as ubiquitous as they are now, and by extension cell towers weren't covering as much area."
"I had a cheap prepaid cell phone but no signal."
"Second, I was in a ravine so I was hard to see on a road that was hardly traveled anyway."
"Third, it was the middle of winter and I think in the single digits, somewhere between 0 and 10 F."
"I had a blanket I kept in my car in case sh*t hit the fan like that, but that won't do good for long since I had to stand on side of the road to be seen, and hope no one else skidded on the ice and squashed me."
"I for certain thought I was going to freeze to death."
"A local guy named John, who lived in the town of Schroeder, found me."
"He brought me to the hospital, I think up in Grand Marais, and even let me stay with him for a few days until someone could come get me."
"He had a long distance calling card (remember those?) that I used to call my roommates and girlfriend to let them know I was alive."
"I spent the first day sleeping from the painkillers."
"Nothing broken but everything hurt."
"The second day one of my closest friends said she would come up from Duluth the following day to get me."
"I slept a lot that day too and I found out John had this massive collection of musical instruments and played blues."
"That's what we bonded over, that and him literally saving my life."
"I found out recently he passed away a few years ago, though I'm not sure where his grave is but I've been trying to find out just so I can pay my respects."- SuperflyX13
"My son's brain surgery."
"He has epilepsy and had a small portion removed in 2020 to alleviate his seizures and give him a better quality of life."
"He spent a week with wires in his brain tracking his seizures as he had them in real time."
"They slowly stopped his anti-seizure meds to induce them, he had 26 in one night as he slept."
"Once it was enough data they removed a portion of his brain near his speech and memory center."
"This was the location of his misfires."
"The general consensus was that he had a good chance of losing his speech and memory."
"His personality could disappear."
"After his surgery as he was being taken back to his room he raised his arm to touch his face, the physician told him not to and my son said 'I'm not, I just want to touch it'."
"He spoke before he was fully out of anesthesia."
"Three days later he was home, three days after that he was being transported back for emergency surgery because of a nasty infection UNDER his skull."
"The surgeon later said he was maybe 12 hours from dying if he hadn't been seen."
"He had no symptoms other than a gross drip."
"No pain, no fever, nothing."
"Another brain surgery and six weeks with a drain tube and monitor on him at home with nurse visits weekly."
"He is now seizure-free and on a much lower dose of meds than he was previously."
"1500 daily down to 100mg."
"I spent a month in the children's center helplessly watching my son slip in and out of consciousness and have hundreds of seizures."
"The possibility of him waking up with no memories and no way to speak was horrifying to me as his father."
"So the scariest moment in my life was almost losing my 16 year old child 3 times in one month."- MardawgNC
Perhaps one reason people enjoy being scared at scary movies is they know that what they're watching isn't real, and the fear and adrenaline will eventually wear off.
Reality is far more terrifying than fiction.
People Share Their Most Shocking Secrets They'd Never Tell Their Friends And Family
Everyone has secrets -- those facts about themselves that they're either ashamed of or want to keep to private.
Some secrets are harmless and not even meant to be a secret -- it just so happens no one knows.
Others are shocking and may even make people look at your differnetly.
Redditors have some shocking secrets of their own, and they are ready to share them.
It all started when Redditor Difficult-House6853 asked:
"What’s a secret that would change how the people around you look at you if they knew?"
What Happened To Just Say No?
"In high school I kept my DARE pledge in my stash box until one day when I ran out of papers and used my pledge to roll a J."
"How DARE you!!!"
Time To Leave
"All of my friends and family are Jehovahs witnesses, they think I am but I plan to leave. 85% of them will shun me when I leave."
"I hear you, left evangelicalism 20ish years ago. It’ll be scary and lonely at first but as you become the person you were meant to be instead of the person they told you to be, you’ll bond with others over shared interests and build new relationships. It takes time, be patient, but it’s worth it."
I Don't Wanna Know
"People think that I’m a good listener, and that just makes them say things to me that they really shouldn’t. I’m only listening because I don’t want to be rude, not because I care. Don’t tell me your family secrets, please."
No Rhyme Or Reason
"A few years ago, I went to the zoo during their Halloween celebration month where costumes were allowed. I dressed up as a zoo keeper. I told people that the penguins were animatronic. That when the giraffes get sick we feed them to the lions. I told a group of children that scientifically speaking, snakes and apples are cousins."
"I love how bizarre this is."
"I like Cheese Whiz"
"Not going to lie, I put that on an apple cider donut once as a gag... sh*t was soooo good. Like... I finished it. And thought about more. Never did it after that, but I think about it every now and then."
"I’m a Philadelphian and I think cheesesteaks are soooo f*cking stupid. They’re really not that good. It’s the most okayest sandwich and people around here will steal your catalytic converter if you don’t succumb to their Philly cult."
"Can't argue with this but as a "born in Philly" guy, I get irrationally angry when food places serve "Philly Cheesesteaks" and their default toppings are green peppers and onions."
Social Media Is Beneficial!
"How normal I've felt since I started using TikTok. I've learned so many things I berated myself for and told myself I was a freak are in fact things many, many other people do. There's really no unique life, everyone has something in common with someone."
Superhero! Or A Dog...
"My sense of smell is off the charts. I can usually tell if someone showers in the morning or at night by the way their hair smells. If someone ate a yogurt in an auditorium hours prior but threw out the container in the trash and I walk in on the other side of the room I can smell the yogurt. My memory is also sense-driven. I remember people by their voices or scent, not their faces, or if there is something different about them (odd gait, odd body proportions, etc). My touch memory is also weird. Did I lock the front door? I focus on my hand and go through what my hand has felt in the past 20 minutes and if the feeling of locking the door is there I’m good. I’m literally a freak and if people knew how much of their behavior/body-oddities/scent I actually have no choice but to remember, everyone would look at me like I’m a monster."
Alien! Or A Frog...
"I’m from a different planet… I just don’t want to be stereotyped as having big eyes and skinny legs and green, I’m not anything like that."
"You just described a frog"
"Do you have a waggy tail and floppy ears? Do you lollop when you run? You may be a labrador."
"This is fascinating! The closest thing is I don't read by letters, but by shapes. So if two words have the same peaks and valleys, I have trouble reading it. It's also why I can read upsidedown at the same speed as right-side up."
"I’m a janitor. But I’m worth over a million dollars because I own real estate."
"Thats awesome. I work in Wealth Management, and one of the most surprising things I have learned is how people seem as though they are poor, but are just humble people living a simple life. A guy I work with regularly lives out of his van with his dog, drives all over the US and Mexico but has millions. One of my favorite people to interact with because he is so kind and mellow."
Check The 'Yes' Box
"I’m a convicted felon. Nothing violent, a white collar crime."
"F*ck people who disrespect felons. In the face or the law, you have served your sentence and redeemed yourself. The moment you step out of jail, your criminal record should not interfere with your life in any way (unless special security checks). Everyone deserves a second chance, and anyone who thinks otherwise is an absolute idiot with no empathy."
"I get more of a rush out of training my dog than any experience I've shared with humans. Dogs just feel more intense and genuine. when you look at them you know they are there, present, with you. There's only a handful of people I can say have ever even come close to that level of understanding and none of them managed to achieve it without words the way the dogs I've worked with can."
"As someone who always had a dog growing up and not that many friends or people around, the connection you get with a dog is probably the most honest and pure form of love one can experience. I can't have a dog right now and I miss that connection very much"
It's all about the love!
Do you have any secrets you're to get off your chest? Let us know in the comments below.
CW: Domestic violence.
Losing interest in someone is a part of life.
It can happen in an instant.
You can be madly in love at midnight, and then at 12:10, you're running like Cinderella on fire from the ball.
"Let them keep the shoe!"
Pursuing someone isn't easy.
Because love isn't a guaranteed win.
And the more you learn, the less you may want.
It all can be a cruel universal joke.
A deleted Redditor wanted to hear about the times when the pursuit needed to end, so they asked:
"What made you suddenly lose interest in someone you were pursuing?"
I lose interest all the time.
A sneeze can turn me off. #foreversingle
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"Brought a kid she never mentioned on a tinder date (I’m 18)."
"After dating a woman for a few months, I took her out for breakfast on her birthday with plans to see her again that night. She went completely off the radar only to emerge the next day to confess that she had spent the night in jail for violating the restraining order placed upon her after assaulting her previous boyfriend. Hit the eject button pronto. Never looked back. I was completely caught off guard because she held a very prestigious job, had extensive real estate holdings, and presented as squeaky clean."
No Womb For You
"After the second date he said he can’t wait to put a baby in me. And when I asked if we can get to know each other first he said he doesn’t have time for a 6-12 months courtship. He already knows what he wants. Anyway... I did let him know I’m not a womb for hire, and never talked again."
"Yelled at someone at a party for a miscommunication that was no one's fault. I get it, it was frustrating, but she just yelled at this woman for no reason."
"This is a reason why a standard question for me when starting to see someone new is 'What are the odds you’ll yell at me in public?' I always phrase it almost like a joke, so the way they start saying in what situations they would definitely yell at you will tell you all you need to know. Sometimes it’s very obviously a joke, and sometimes it’s obvious how dead serious they are."
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"I realized he was using me for favors. He was always needy, but never there when I desperately needed him."
When it's all about them... run.
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"When he stopped talking to me after I didn't send him nudes, turns out he asks multiple girls for nudes, then sells the pictures to some of his friends. A complete human garbage, if you ask me."
"They hurt my dog."
"Now, I was into this guy for a while. Bigger guy. Seemed really sweet. I invited him over after we hit it off, and my dog, being a dog, came up to see this new person. He responds to this inquisitive sniffing my kicking them in the face, and seeming proud of it, saying that you 'have to show a mutt who's boss.'"
"I told him to get the f**k out of my house and never come back."
"I'm still very single, but my dogs haven't been hurt like that since."
"They started flirting with my best friend."
"I was the best friend and I didn't even do anything but it killed our friendship. We were young so looking back I think it was just emotional but damn. His girlfriend was being an a**hole to him but he saw me as the problem. It made me feel so Go**amn helpless at the time. Everyone treated me like I was a cheater. Like I led her on."
"Oof been there, my BF told me he was in love with my best friend. thankfully he told me at the exact time I was already planning on breaking up with him."
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"The biggest red flag for me is pursuing someone who loves attention on themselves but is not very interested in your life. Basically drop the pursuit right there and look for someone who is just as interested in you as you are in them."
Always follow the red flags and save yourself the trouble of becoming emotionally invested in someone troublesome.
Do you have anything to add? Let us know in the comments below.
Life is beautiful.
But life is really damn arduous.
Every day we're witness to the unfairness of it all.
That can cause some deep internal struggle.
And then that's why people change.
Sometimes for the worse.
Redditor Brianna6871 wanted to compare notes on what makes us all... over it, so they asked:
"What has caused you to become bitter?"
Becoming bitter is easy. I try to fight against it.
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"Being with my company for 8 years then finding out new people that I trained make more than me."
"If it makes you feel any better, this is very common. Loyalty is overrated. The more you stay, the more they take you for granted. I also made the same mistake."
"Attempting to stay in contact with friends and then realizing they wouldn’t do the same for you once you stop."
"I agree. I used (and still do, to some extent) to have the mentality of 'don't make it into a competition, if you care about someone- contact them!'" And I did. But after 10 times of being the one initiating the conversation I just wonder if they'd bother to do the same."
"Each time they say 'I've been meaning to call you!' and they never do. And I'm talking good friends who share history together, not someone I met a month ago at the gym. I still love them of course, but this bugs me and leaves a bitter taste whenever I think of them."
"Expectations. I had these expectations about how life was supposed to go, how I was supposed to be. Life didn't work out that way, and I know it was my own doing by having those expectations, but I'm still bitter about it."
"I find that going from 'promising and intelligent young person' to 'average middle-aged man' has been a hard pill to swallow that snuck up on me. I will say that having a young child and great partner still gives me lots of joy and hope."
"Working in healthcare."
"Worked a decade in healthcare, seven years in the military and three as a civilian. Every professional I ever met, from the doctor on down to the nursing assistant, was burned out and sick of seeing patients. It was amazing I stayed as long as I did."
"Yes, I feel like part of me changed drastically because of this. Don't get me wrong, I really like to work in a hospital but sometimes it make me lose faith in humanity."
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"Aging and realizing that good, kind people suffer and die far more often than the sh**heads of the world."
Aging is a good thing but can be sad. Who doesn't miss the past?
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"After realizing that hard work is not fairly rewarded. Someone else who is lazier and/or less competent can get something that you wanted/deserved, and there's nothing you can do about it."
"The death of my wife."
"I’m with you. My husband died 3 years and 4 days ago at the age of 42. It’s not just that your favourite person and best friend in the world is gone. It’s that everything you thought would be your future is gone too."
"Cancer f**king sucks."
"Dude I'm so sorry I couldn't imagine. Just know she wouldn't want you to be bitter at the world. She would want you to be happy, easier said then done but do some s**t for you man maybe take a trip or something."
"Nothing will ever change the pain, but shaking life up might at least mix it up with other emotions. All the love!!"
"Realizing my childhood trauma left me unable to form meaningful relationships and now I have to invest a crap ton of money and time to maybe (!) achieve some sort of progress and peace. I envy the people who grew up with loving parents and have the confidence to choose good friends, partners and look at life with hope."
Worse and worse...
"The unshakable hopelessness that the world is only getting worse and worse. No matter what we do to try and better ourselves financially will be met with some new corporate bullshi**ery that will knock us back down. I'm losing my motivation to keep pressing forward. I just want to retreat into my apartment and do what makes me happy until I die."
"Working on my masters in education right now, and as much as I want to teach in school, all the horror stories I see all over the place are making me wonder if this is the right choice. It really feels like I'm jumping into a bureaucratic hellhole, but I've invested this much time, money, and energy into this career that I have to see it through."
"My ex cheated on me. My job told me a bunch of lies to get me in the door and now I feel mistreated. Housing is a nightmare and landlords just take your application money and give the place to someone else. It feels like everybody is just out for themselves and I can’t trust what anyone says. I’m tired."
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"The general public has gotten so much worse over the years. I really dislike having to interact."
Life can certainly get us down. Even if we try squeezing the lemons into lemonade, you tend to get some pulp in your eye.
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