May this thread inspire you, not depress you. There's love out there waiting for all of us, in some form, so keep your mind and heart open, especially in these dark times. And if that fails, get a cat.
Raisas03 asked: When did you realize you were in love with someone?
Submissions have been edited for clarity, context, and profanity.
So, my cats.
When you caught yourself thinking about them unintentionally all the time, not intimacy stuffs tho. And just want to be around them for no reason at all.
OMG im in love with my motorcyle.
Turns out I love my taxes.
This 100%. You look at things and naturally think "Oh, X would really like that," and you make it a point to tell them about it or buy it for them. You also notice and take note of the small things/quirks about them because you find the things/quirks endearing.
That's love, oh yeah.
When I gave him the last slice of pizza when I really wanted it.
This! I can only share the food I like if I have a crush on the person. Also, I remember reading some funny article on "how little kids explain what love is" and I remember one answer was along the lines of "you want to share your happy meal with him without asking him to do the same." That just hits home.
Yeah! And this happens almost every Friday night at our house. I figure if I ever take the last slice then it's time to break up. Which will never happen.
Oh damn. My heart just skipped a beat.
3/5/09 17:34 Central.
Amazing, you've been in love since 1909.
This is definitely special.
When I had a really bad day and went to see her, I planed on bitching about it. Second I saw her, that bad day/feeling went away. Didn't realize it until the next day that she didn't even need to do anything to cheer me up, seeing her was enough.
This is so important. I know that I genuinely feel something for someone when just walking in the door and seeing them makes the whole crappy day worth it. Not a single word has to be said but just their existence makes the world brighter.
When u tryna be mad and serious cuz bad things are happening but u start smiling just because she's around.
When I get excited about something and I really want to tell them specifically.
This. I often want to share things with friends, but when I first met my wife, I just wanted to tell her everything I got excited about. I wanted to hear about her day. I wanted to do whatever I could to make happy, because seeing her happy brought me so much joy.
Anyone else feeling attacked?
When they started distancing themselves.
I feel this. I'm in love with a man who just isn't ready for a relationship. We saw each other for a few weeks and he started to distance himself. I told him it was ok to be just friends until he was ready, if he ever gets to that point. When he agreed, and how much that hurt, that's when I knew I was actually in love this time. Whenever I get excited about something, I want to tell him (I don't). Whenever I read threads on how you know you love someone, or how did you know he was the one, or anything like that, I think of him and only him. When I see stuff he likes I put it in the cart knowing he will love it, only to have to put it back. It's all these little things, that I've never noticed with anyone else.
Life is too short man, you have to let yourself be vulnerable. Just take it slow, keep yourself in check and don't go overboard. If she isn't interested, then it's a total waste of time pining about what a relationship with her would be like in your head, cause, truth time, it probably wouldn't be that way anyway.
Love makes us silly.
When I start acting goofy and childish type of happy and cannot control it.
When I started dating my girlfriend, we both decided that we didn't want anything serious. We spoke more and more and hung out some, and I was really enjoying her company.
I felt a real eternal sadness knowing that we both agreed to keep it casual, since I thought she wouldn't be interested in being exclusive. One day I basically told her I wanted her to be my girlfriend, since I didn't want anybody else. She in turn told me she was exploring the idea of calling it off since she was getting so attached to me.
That was 9 years ago and we're doin' well together. :)
This is weird how similar it is to how my bf and I got together. Met on Tinder, both just looking for casual sex. After about two months I knew I was developing very real feelings, but since we hadn't agreed on it I was working up the courage to split up with him. Instead I got drunk and told him about how all I wanted was to be with him. Turns out he'd been feeling the same, and told me later that if I had broken things off, he would have been incredibly sad. We've been together ever since, living together for 5 months now and going strong.
The willingness to adapt.
He paid attention to things that were important to me and incorporated them into our relationship. Or things that might've seemed silly to him.
We've been married almost 5 years and he still surprises me with just because gifts or takes me to a store or somewhere because I mentioned it offhandedly.
Yeah yeah yeah.
When he held my hand. It's a pretty small thing but after getting to know each other we went on a date and while we were walking around he held my hand, weird to say but no man had ever done that in a tender non-sexual way before (only ever had girlfriends and one night stands with guys) and I normally HATE my personal space being encroached, but as soon as he held my hand I felt like never letting him go. Now three years in an amazing relationship and counting.
I've never dated or been in love but I held hands with a boy I was really into a few times and the first time it happened my heart felt like it was going to burst and I was on a giddy high of happiness for the rest of the night, my parents kept asking me why I was so upbeat