MEN! Being a man isn't that arduous... Well, if you're willing to be yourself and just live. There is nothing wrong with masculinity, as long as you use it wisely. Let's all just be human.
Redditor u/Mrs_B1979 wanted to discus being masculinity in all of it's angles by asking.... Instead of discussing toxic masculinity, What does positive masculinity look like?
It looked like when I went to the gym after being sick all week. The most BUFFED superhuman I see there almost every time I go to work out, walks up to me and says: "Where were you bro, I hope you didn't decide to change gyms?" Ronnylicious
Those three mad lads who took on a terrorist with a narwhal tusk, fire extinguisher, and bare hands. XsnagglepussX
Imagine being literally anyone who is not actively on or near a pirate vessel, and some random guy comes at you with a narwhal tusk. N_Who
(she said I had to use one)
When i was in high school i cut my finger and my english teacher only had princess band-aids (she said I had to use one) when I had Bio class right after the guy sitting next to me said my bandaid looked sick and he wanted one too. WrathOfLore
Give a crap.
I want to know what positive masculinity looks like when you're a single guy with no kids. xpepsi1x
Women seem to look out for each other in ways that men are taught not to.
If you see a friend struggling, don't leave them to it.
Often it seems like nobody gives a crap when you're a guy. Give a crap. ThatsASaabStory
One thing i think is especially hard for men is how to process anger and frustration.
i think mr rogers gives a rough outline of what positive processing could look like.
i think processing negative feelings and energy shows a ton of power and is an example of positive masculinity. right-to-die
"Speak softly and carry a big stick"
I like Teddy Roosevelt's "Speak softly and carry a big stick".
If you see someone in a confrontation that they don't want to be in, step in and help them with your words and only resort to force if you really have no other choice and need to.
Most people would rather save face and stop being a fool if you ask them nicely enough. If you come off super aggressive in defense of someone else, then the other person will think he has to fight you.
Force doesn't have to be physical force either. Like if you see someone berating someone else, you could talk them down without having to get to their level and yelling. other1istake
tucking in your homies and giving them a soft kiss goodnight..... romanraspberrysorbet
Using your assertive, dominant male testosterone to help the elderly put groceries in their car. Mandula123
Lost Without You....
I think of my dad, who recently had his stepfather pass away. My bio grandpa was a horrible father, never present, extremely selfish, and didn't put his family first. Mike, the man who I did call grandpa, showed my dad how to care for his family and work hard, but also be willing to give sound advice, be emotionally there for his children, and establish strong connections with them. Without Mike, who demonstrated the true positive masculinity, despite all his faults, my dad wouldn't be the man he is. When I have issues I go to my dad, who gives the same good advice Mike did. I trust my father, and so do my brothers. Without him, I'd be lost. littleducky08
Mr. Rogers, Bob Ross, Steve Irwin, Jim Henson.
You can be strong, and still be kind. In fact, the greatest display of strength is to have power, and not use it.
A real man is capable of being cruel, but chooses not to be. A real man can break you, but would rather build you up instead.
Real power comes from what you can build, not from what you can tear down. Edymnion
One of the golden rules of life? Doctors are merely human. They don't know everything and they make mistakes. That is why you always want to get another opinion. Things are constantly missed. That doesn't mean docs don't know what they're doing, they just aren't infallible. So make sure to ask questions, lots of them.Redditor u/Gorgon_the_Dragon wanted to hear from doctors about why it is imperative we always get second and maybe third opinions by asking... Doctors of Reddit, what was the worse thing you've seen for a patient that another Doctor overlooked?
Grandma Wins<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTcxNDcxOC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY0OTQxNTgzOX0.n9IaFGgHwnULMlI2kg7RUftxDg6lyWvdM9CnhvptCRY/img.gif?width=980" id="a0857" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="9762f97a23c27ccf6b75974caa854361" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="270" />Old Lady Wine GIF by MattielGiphy<p>Not a doctor, but my grandmother saved my father's eyesight because she didn't listen to their doctor. </p>
The Mummy Appendage<p>When I was a resident, an 80yo female was admitted from the nursing home for confusion. Workup showed some mild UTI and we were giving her antibiotics. The nurse mentioned that her toe looked dark and asked me to look at it. The toe wasn't just dark, it was mummified. It looked like dry beef jerky. I touched it and pieces flaked off. So the patient from a nursing home, had a mummified toe, probably for months, that no one knew about. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lw2g2z/doctors_of_reddit_what_was_the_worse_thing_youve/gpg00qn?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Dr2ray</a></p>
The CT Save<p>Here's my story:</p><p>A guy came in to our ICU and was very septic but still talking. He had visited his primary care MD with complaints of a sore throat for a couple of days. Dismissed without any intervention since he didn't appear to have strep throat or the flu. At this point he was having pretty severe abdominal discomfort, so we sent him for a CT scan. As the scan was finishing, he coded and had to be intubated, multi-organ failure, etc. </p>
Patches<p>When I was an ER nurse we got an elderly lady in for altered mental status from a nursing home, when we undressed her to put her in a gown and hook her up to the monitor, I noticed no less than 5 fentanyl patches on her, guess I discovered the cause of the AMS. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lw2g2z/doctors_of_reddit_what_was_the_worse_thing_youve/gpg1lml?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">ChewbaccaSlim426</a></p>
Use your Words<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTcxNDcyMi9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY1MDA1NjI0MH0.WtyCdxL1vRZwD2-jpKZXMOEakwhiBaJIkp1YPnOzlvo/img.gif?width=980" id="e45ca" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="f5b98e6a4605a587dbd97579468a51d8" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="498" data-height="367" />Communication GIF by memecandyGiphy<p>Neurologist sent patient to our ED without informing her that imaging showed a glioblastoma assuring her impending death. He didn't overlook the disease, he overlooked the communication. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lw2g2z/doctors_of_reddit_what_was_the_worse_thing_youve/gpfl5t5?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">AzureSkye27</a></p>
Mad Cow Realty<p>During my residency we had this lady in her 60s who was getting progressively more forgetful, just overall declining and getting less and less able to take care of herself. She had been seeing her pcp who diagnosed her with dementia. And she saw a neurologist who agreed. She was not really able to provide an accurate history. <span></span></p>
After Birth...<p>I used to work in maternal-fetal medicine, and every single week, we would have women referred to us "because the doctor couldn't see something clearly with the baby and wanted to double check." Nope, they just didn't want to have to be the ones to tell you that your baby had a complex cardiac defect or multiple anomalies indicative of a genetic syndrome or any other of a large number of horrible things that can happen during fetal development. Still pisses me off when I think about how many women waited weeks for more information because their doctors were cowards who couldn't tell them, "There's something seriously wrong here." <span></span></p>
bad doctors<p>I'm not a doctor, but a RN. This happened to me, but isn't nearly as bad as most of the stories on here.</p><p>When I was in college, I got to where I couldn't swallow. It started with difficulty swallowing, progressed to me having to swallow bites of food multiple times/regurgitating it, and then got to where all I could swallow was broths and mashed potatoes with no chunks. I went to the doctor multiple times, and was told every time it was acid reflux and part of my anxiety disorder. <span></span></p>
The Valve...<p>He put the pacemaker lead in the subclavian artery (and across the aortic valve into the left ventricle). The proper approach is: subclavian vein to right ventricle). And then he didn't notice it for over a year. I saw the patient (a 25 yo woman who didn't need the pacemaker in the first place) when she was in congestive heart failure. <span></span><br></p>
Bitten<p>Rattlesnake bite. On a 2 year old. Patient and dad out in the fields near a small town that is several hours away from the nearest big city, where I work.</p>
When we think about learning history, our first thought is usually sitting in our high school history class (or AP World History class if you're a nerd like me) being bored out of our minds. Unless again, you're a huge freaking nerd like me. But I think we all have the memory of the moment where we realized learning about history was kinda cool. And they usually start from one weird fact.
Here are a few examples of turning points in learning about history, straight from the keyboards of the people at AskReddit.
Trees are honestly really effing cool.<p>For 60 million years trees didn't decay.</p><p>When they died the just fell over and laid there.</p><p>For 60 million years trees existed before the enzyme that broke them down when they died.</p><p>So tons of massive trees in the oxygen rich environment just laid on the ground. Until they burned. That's how we have coal.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Tkieron/" target="_blank">Tkieron</a><br></p>
Did they believe her though?<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTcxNDM1NS9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY2MjQ0MzUxNn0.MoiI9zjkaZJTqlM4TOva8YqV1YCBanmdpTnDKpIJBYk/img.gif?width=980" id="974ed" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="d6424414e43e3cadc252310f5bf52aa8" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="499" data-height="361" />disney bambi GIFGiphy<p>In 1726 there was a woman called Mary Toft who tricked doctors into believing that she gave birth to rabbits.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/solarflannels/" target="_blank">Solarflannels</a><br></p><p>There was another woman who would take the eggs from her chicken, etch "jesus has come" into them and shove them back into the chicken who would then lay it again and people actually thought the chicken was a prophet.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/stitchmidda2/" target="_blank">Stitchmidda2</a><br></p>
A whole river.<p>Some time in around the beginning of the 1500's Leonardo da Vinci and Niccolo Machiavelli conspired to try to steal the Arno river.</p><p>They both lived in the city of Florence and at the time there was hostilities with the city of Pisa which was nearer to the mouth of the Arno river and controlled trade on it. Da Vinci came up with the plan to create a canal to divert the river so it no longer flowed to Pisa which would allow Florence to dominate the whole region. Da Vinci drew up the plans and Machiavelli put them into action. However Da Vinci didn't oversee the project and instead the engineer who did decided to do it his own way which would take longer and need more people. In the middle of the project war broke out and the project had to be scrapped due to attacks from Pisa so it never came to be. Still a great historical footnote though.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Dakens2021/" target="_blank">Dakens2021</a><br></p>
Beast mode.<p>Roosevelt was shot in the chest during a speech and just continued on like nothing happened.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/alpaca1yps/" target="_blank">Alpaca1yps</a><br></p><p>He was shot just before his speech and he knew it hadn't pierced his lung since he wasn't coughing up blood, so he bandaged it and went to give his speech.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Bob-Chaos/" target="_blank">Bob-Chaos</a><br></p>
In another timeline, things might have been different.<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTcxNDM3OC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY2NDUzNjQwOX0.Xp6C-SNFh1c8LKt9uLBBcaLpydUIdlIEcdw8mozBGrI/img.gif?width=980" id="69c8a" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="0e7917ad8418cbcb9efda3fcda23606b" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="250" data-height="200" />John F Kennedy Democrat GIFGiphy<p>It is very possible - and some consider likely - that JFK could've survived the assassination had he not been wearing a thick, girdle-like back brace that kept him stiffly upright when in public.</p><p>Kennedy had terrible back problems since serving in WWII that were continually worsening. The back brace began as early as JFK met Stalin for the first time and wanted to appear tall and strong since it was at the height of the Cold War, however his pain was so bad he often walked around the WH hunched over and looked decrepit.</p><p>JFK continued to wear the brace to keep himself upright and portray the strong youthful image he crafted. When the first shot was fired, the brace made it nearly impossible to move, much less crouch down in the back seat to get out of the line of fire.</p><p>He was then struck with the infamous shot to the back/throat which rendered him more immobile and finally the headshot that killed him. Parkland doctors testified to the Warren Commission how surprised they were at the size and tightness of the brace and how long it took to get off. One remarked it likely made him a "sitting duck" because of how immobile it would've rendered him.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/StaySafePovertyGhost/" target="_blank">StaySafePovertyGhost</a></p>
Good to know before she was beheaded.<p>When King Henry VIII was still married to Anne of Cleves, Catherine Howard(his future fifth wife) was one of Cleves' ladies in waiting. They were close, even after Cleves' divorce. With all the tragedy and abuse from the men in her life, I'm just glad that she at least had one friend to trust.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/SoapySapling/" target="_blank">SoapySapling</a><br></p>
The student teaches the teacher.<p>Benjamin Franklin had a pet squirrel. As a little girl, I dressed as him, with a squirrel beanie-baby on my shoulder. My teacher had to look it up on the internet to check if I was right. She was amused.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/MasterAqua2/" target="_blank">MasterAqua2</a><br></p>
Sounds on-brand for Jackson.<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTcxNDM4NC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY1Mzk5MDg5M30.CLC30YDaNbAjTsJvxbf2J7bRTzCFZwQL-uVEncS1bbw/img.gif?width=980" id="793ac" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="992b71a8780072be5ecc28bd0389b9be" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="270" />happy dr pol GIF by Nat Geo Wild Giphy<p>When Andrew Jackson died they had to remove his pet parrot from the funeral because it couldn't stop swearing.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/belligerentbanana69/" target="_blank">Belligerentbanana69</a><br></p><p>He also had a comically large cheese wheel.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Klaudiapotter/" target="_blank">Klaudiapotter</a><br></p>
I guess we’ll never know.<p>Abraham Lincoln once gave a speech which was so good that all of reporters forgot to take notes, still to this day we don't know what exactly he said.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/SmilE_HACK/">SmilE_HACK</a><br></p>
Well-portrayed in the Hamilton musical.<p>That George Washington was known as this Really Talented Dancer, and was very in tune with the dances at the time of his being... Idk why I just never woulda thought this at all but it's dope to hear that dancing/socializing was always a thing!</p><p>Like from the passage I read it seemed like Whenever George was in attendance at the function, everyone knew he was gonna cut a rug and tear the house down.. and the ladies considered themselves lucky to be his dance partner.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/BobbyCodone303/" target="_blank">BobbyCodone303</a><br></p>
Tradespeople have some of the toughest jobs that often involve physical exertion.
Hard No<p>Adverse working conditions and difficult people can determine if a job is worth sticking around for. </p>
Flying Roaches<p>"I am an automotive tech, the only jobs I utterly refuse to work on are cars that are filled with trash and filth. I have literally had roaches fly out of the ac vents when the ac came on. Y'all would be disgusted at the way some people keep their cars."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lvr4im/electricians_plumbers_and_tradespeople_of_reddit/gpdota5?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Environmental-Wrap-5</a><br></p>
Wild Accusation<p>"I used to work on a crew that built additions on houses. One lady got upset that we were cutting a hole thru her wall for the door. She called her husband who came home from work, he told our boss that she was accusing us of trying to break in and assault her. My boss had us pack up and leave and we never went back."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.comhttps://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lvr4im/electricians_plumbers_and_tradespeople_of_reddit/gpdyvj4?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3/user/Sigg4444/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Sigg4444</a><br></p>
Too Much Wood<p>"Work in a lumber mill, a loader operator knocked 4 bundles of 2" thick by 6" wide by 16' long into the river, so over 1200 pieces and a boss told me to get it out of the river... during a thunderstorm."</p><p>"F'k all that noise sir."</p><p>"Edit: the wood wasn't 2 feet by 6 feet by 16 inches, that would be weird just fixed it lol not American my bad."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lvr4im/electricians_plumbers_and_tradespeople_of_reddit/gpdawrt?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Suka_Blyad_</a><br></p>
Unsanitary Wasteland<p>"Mechanic here.""</p><p>When I used to work on cars, I had to pull the front seats out of a horrendously dirty smelly car to remove the center console."</p><p>"Proceeded to removed the front seat, and found the whole area under the seat was stuffed full with Dirty used tampons and pads."</p><p>"I nearly threw up and I yeeted the f'k outta there. We had to call up and get biohazard guys in because she wouldn't come and clean out the car."</p><p>"'Karen' then proceeded to have a screaming match with my foreman about the bill....."</p><p>"I've seen alot of sh*t but hands down this was the worst."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lvr4im/electricians_plumbers_and_tradespeople_of_reddit/gpe6mc8?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Wheresma10mmsocket</a><br></p>
When Life Matters More<p>These people prioritized their lives over their jobs. Because they should be alive to cash their paychecks. </p>
Wobbly House<p>"Got hired to do a vapor barrier job in a crawl space. Old 1920's home. I suited up and got in about 15 ft and saw that the center load bearing beam had rotted out near the footer. Somebody took a cinder block and a 8 ton harbor freight bottle jack to shore it back up. Whole thing wobbled as folks moved around in the house. Got the f'k up out of there."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lvr4im/electricians_plumbers_and_tradespeople_of_reddit/gpdrl83?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">dreamweaver121</a><br></p>
Project Of Peril<p>"I was called out for a termite inspection. Homeowners said they had been told for years they had a problem but it took one of their bedrooms floors collapsing to finally do something about it."</p><p>"I hauled a** out of the crawl space when I found the only thing that was keeping the floor from fully collapsing was a single electrical wire that at any moment it could snap and collapse the floor on me."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lvr4im/electricians_plumbers_and_tradespeople_of_reddit/gpdzf2o?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">dahopppa</a><br></p>
Unexpected Shower<p>"I was working in a newly restarted 130 year old paper mill, they hadn't worked out the kinks in the pulp mill yet. The short version is my toolie and I got coated in black liquor that flowed from an uncapped pipe 70 feet in the air. It was outside, in December, so luckily it wasn't boiling lava hot when it hit us but we still had to make a trip to urgent care. And we lost our work truck because it was white and after the spill was black. We came back the next week, but refused to work on that end of the digester."</p><p>"Edit: I'm an electrician."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Turquoise_Tentacle/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Turquoise_Tentacle</a><br></p>
The Unexpected<p>These tradespeople found that unforeseen circumstances can be enough of a reason to peace out.</p>
Saying 'No'<p>"Landscaper here. Honestly it's about 50% of the meetings I go to. Learning how to say no is essential in this business. You can go out of business doing not good jobs quicker than you can not working."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lvr4im/electricians_plumbers_and_tradespeople_of_reddit/gpdbhrs?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">bvswcaveman</a><br></p>
The Panicked Landscaper<p>"I hired a landscaper once, small-time guy doing it as a sideline. We talked about all kinds of plans, seeding grass, cleaning up overgrown parts of the yard, and taking out two giant, ancient bushes that were crowding the house."</p><p>"He shows up to take out the bushes, and a few hours later calls be, all freaked out that the bushes have roots that go down to hell and it was taking a lot longer than estimated to get them out. I made it clear to him that I had half expected that, and that I had no problem paying for however long the job actually took. He was absolutely in a panic, though. He got the bushes done, then noped the hell out on the rest of it and never got back to me."</p><p>"Somehow, I couldn't make him understand that I was way more pissed that he bailed on the rest of the work than the fact that he underestimated the job initially."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lvr4im/electricians_plumbers_and_tradespeople_of_reddit/gpe000r?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">DMala</a><br></p>
The Clog<p>"A bit late to this but.... I'm a plumber, went to unblock an old ladies toilet, she'd tried to flush her dead cat, it was stuck, and very wet, and soggy...."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lvr4im/electricians_plumbers_and_tradespeople_of_reddit/gpe8rj9?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">tootsmalloy</a><br></p>
Result Of Depression<p>"I noped out of a job back when I was a sparky. We had ~100 men onsite at a uranium enrichment facility; pay was good, but the conditions weren't. It was way out in the middle of nowhere New Mexico, with nothing to do beyond go to work then go back to the camp and drink. I got depressed after spending 6 weeks onsite, as did a lot of others. The straw that broke the camels back for me was when we found one of the apprentices dead in his trailer. His girlfriend broke up with him because he was never home anymore, he turned to the bottle.</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lvr4im/electricians_plumbers_and_tradespeople_of_reddit/gpdyohx?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">dad_sparky_engineer</a><br></p>
The legal system isn't always fair, let alone just. Consider how many people out there commit serious crimes and get off with a slap on the wrist. Remember Brock Turner, the Stanford rapist? He was sentenced to six months in jail followed by three years of probation for raping college student Chanel Miller (and was later released after serving only three months). I haven't even gotten into how cruel the "justice system" is to survivors of sexual assault, which complicates matters further.
After Redditor maekeyisn't cool asked the online community, "What crimes do you think should have a more serious punishment?" people shared their opinions.