Some relationships are doomed from the start.
But this might not always be obvious to the couple in question.
Sometimes, a relationship could last for months, even years, before one defining moment makes it clear that there will not be a future.
These moments might be things people can laugh about a few years later, or things they make every effort to rid from their memories.
Redditor donutnolikey was curious to hear the moment other members of the Reddit community knew that their relationship was dead in the water, leading them to ask:
"What was your “OH HELL NAH” moment in a relationship that made you leave?"
People are not always who they appear to be.
"I dated a guy who’s ex left him randomly one morning, kissed her goodbye for work and came back and her sh*t was gone."
"Changed her number, and moved back home."
"He never talked to her again, I thought it was super sad and messed up for what she did."
"He use to wake up in the morning crying over her, I pathetically just comforted him."
"But one day I woke up to him emailing his ex girlfriends mother saying he was going to come down to Seattle and kill them all!"
"It wasn’t much later I found out he was served a restraining order from the family."
"Now I see why she left without saying goodbye."- Tay14073.
"We were making out at his house and he kept pressuring me to have sex."
"I was still a young, naive virgin so I refused."
"We started watching a movie instead."
"I went to the bathroom and he stole my car keys."
"Once I was back on the couch he started trying to take off my clothes."
"I was scared so I grabbed my purse to leave."
"That's when he jingles my keys."
"He said I could have them back once I slept with him. I just ran outside and called my dad."
"My dad showed up and threatened to beat his a** if my keys weren't returned."
"Got my keys and got the f*ck out."
"He continued to stalk me for the next 7 years."- UnicornQueefsGlitter.
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Couldn't wait to get married.... to someone else.
"She stole my car, drove it from Washington to Las Vegas, and married a guy she met on Xbox Live so he could get residence."- Reverend179.
Came back an entirely different person.
"She went on vacation to have a spiritual awakening by doing drugs in the jungle and came home accusing me of being a demon."- Modifiedpoutine.
"There was a lot of crap but this was the final straw."
"I locked the door before going to bed one night when he was out late with friends."
"He had lost his house key and never bothered to mention it, which was somehow my fault."
"He woke me up by banging on the window and when I let him in began screaming and throwing things at me."
"Telling me to pack up my sh*t and leave and locked me out of our bedroom."
"I slept on the couch."
"Next morning he acted completely normal, like nothing had happened."
"I was gone that day because I no longer felt safe."- swiftsafflina.
More than they could handle
"I woke up at 3am to my partner of 11 years muttering at me when he thought I was asleep."
"His tone was so dark and disturbing I felt that if I hadn't woken up to hear him I may not have woken up at all."
"He wasn't loud so maybe it was the way he was speaking that made me wake up like I did but my brain was immediately on high alert."
"I snapped awake and alert in an instant and just knew that I should just stay still and quiet and not let him know I was awake."
"What came out of him where all sorts of wild accusatory delusions spat at me with so much venom that 6 years later I still clearly remember the feeling of dread that washed over me."
"My whole body was weighed down with it."
"Our relationship wasn't a great one by any means but it was the first time I genuinely felt afraid of what he would do."
"I was afraid to speak up but also afraid that if I stayed quiet and let him keep on his rambling that it could progress into something worse and if it came to it I could never have fought him off."
"That's when it really clicked to me how seriously he needed professional intervention and that I was not only unable to help him but also that I needed to get out from under the same roof as him as soon as possible."
"Paranoid schizophrenia is a b*tch and the available mental health care in our area is a joke."- Wonkeynut.
Delayed validation.
"She crawled through my doggie door at 1:30 am, went through my phone, and then asked me why I was talking to another woman."
"Oh, I forgot to mention that I broke up with her a month earlier."
"We were not in a relationship when she pulled that stunt."- OLPopsAdelphia.
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Over sharing?
"My ex would tell me about all the dreams he was having about killing me in vivid detail."- slightjudgment_.
Gaslighting, much?
"My ex would lie about sh*t and make me question my own reality."
"F*ck you bruh."- Suwaveh.
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Lack of sympathy.
"Ex wife started an argument with me one morning when I was headed to the funeral of a childhood friend."
"I asked if she could not do this right now."
"Her response was “ohhhh, poor you.”
"That was the beginning of the end."- Slydermv.
To assume makes an a** out of you and me...
"Was with my ex for six years."
"We had a shared apartment and when I came home from work one evening he was standing in front of the door with packed suitcases."
"I asked what was going on and he said he could no longer be in a relationship with me because he wanted children at some point and he could not imagine a life without."
"I replied completely perplexed that I also want to have children someday and that he knew that."
"Surprise: he assumed in all seriousness that I could not breastfeed children with my A cup breasts and that our child would starve miserably because too little milk fits into my tatas."
"He didn't break up with me that night, I did."- Dangerous_Slice6032
At some point, you just have to cut the chord.
"My boyfriend at the time has given me forewarning that his mother will move in with us after marriage."
"He’s a mummy’s boy."
"I acknowledge this is not a dealbreaker for other people but I accepted this is mine and responsibly walked away."- Tiarakitty
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A sad and dangerous secret.
"I lived in a pub at the time with my then wife."
"I ran it while she had another job."
"She'd come home from a bad day and scream at me in front of the customers."
"She used to go to house parties and stay out all night."
"I later found out shed stolen stock and was on coke."
"Then the final straw was when she punched me in the face 'in her sleep' giving me a black eye."
"The next night i wake up to her making weird angry sounds."
"Thinking she was having a nightmare i tried to comfort her."
"All I hear in the silence and darkness was 'you make my skin crawl'."
"'Touch me again and I'll give you another black eye'."
"She left the next day before I woke up, having cleared out the safe of all the cash."
"I couldn't pay the staff, or the brewery fees."
"The business folded a month or so afterwards and I ended up tending bar elsewhere."
"I never cheated, didn't lie to her, never ever raised a fist to her let alone hurt her."
"I was sure i had done something to cause it.. was I a bad husband?"
"Turned out she had raging bi polar disorder and some other issues she had kept a secret from me our entire relationship and was off her meds for years.'
"Genuine fear."- Haunted_Entity
Sometimes it takes another pair of eyes to see clearly
"Basically his cousin told me my ex used to physically intimidate his ex gf of 5 years."
"This was after he lied about his ex ever existing, and lied about being with her for 5 years, and lied about how they were not friends."
"What broke the camels back was when one morning while I was working from home he asked to go get coffee together."
"I drove us, because he never wanted to drive."
"As we were driving he kept asking me leading questions if I was happy and I told him: 'I am having a stressful morning, could we get back to this important conversation later in the day, when I can be emotionally prepared?'”.
"He began yelling, screaming and punching the center console of my car."
"He then opened the car door to attempt to jump out of the moving vehicle."
"I stopped the car and caught my breath."
"I drove us back home and began packing my things."
"I stayed the night at his cousins house and he revealed to me that this wasn’t the first time."
"I’ve never cried harder in my life because so much made sense."
"My ex practically spoke non stop about his ex and I was 19, he was 24."
"U didn’t have a concept of boundaries, manipulation, healthy relationships, etc."
"Once his cousin revealed that: everything clicked."
"Why he felt guilty about his ex, why he was paranoid about people hurting him, why he was unable to have stable moods."
"I left as quickly as I could and never looked back."- OhmeOhmy7202
How insensitive can you get?
"My (now ex) wife, I'll call her Beth, had an ex boyfriend reach out to her on social media."
"I found out later turned into phone calls."
"All of which she tried hiding from me.:
"Which is bad enough."
"My mom had just been diagnosed with terminal cancer (and I was the lucky one who got to tell her!) and decided she wanted to die in her home state."
"Couple weeks later, Beth tells me she thinks i should fly up to visit my mom for a long weekend, and told me she booked a ticket for me."
"The night before the flight, she says we need to talk."
"She tells me she has been talking to her ex, and she's going to fly out to visit him 'to find out if she has feelings for him', she'd be staying at his house while she's there, and she 'can't say it won't be in the same bed'."
"Yes, while I was still trying to process my emotions and feelings about my mom dying, and while I would be visiting my mom, my ex was going to go visit her ex boyfriend, and stay at his house during the visit."- Wick_E_Scratch
There are those who look for a sign, as to whether or not they should stay in their relationship.
And when their sign is as bizarre and unsettling as several of the above stories, it might make them all the more grateful to have gotten out when they did.
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When we're intoxicated, or even the slightest bit tipsy from having a little too much to drink, our immediate perspective on things is hazy.
But there's nothing like a bit of alarming news or a jarring incident to snap us out of the fog and focus on the moment.
Sometimes alcohol isn't always to blame for our impairment.
It can be a state of mind, like a perpetual numbness from being complacent in life, and all it takes is one shocking moment to rattle us back to our senses.
Curious to hear from strangers online about this type of scenario, Redditor Known_Challenge_7150 asked:
"What’s one thing that sobered you up real quick?"
These individuals were witness to shocking events that sobered them up right quick.
Bleeding Out
"Got out of a taxi and found a naked man profusely bleeding from his head crawling up the driveway in my condo. Called him an ambulance completely forgot I was absolutely wasted until 45 minutes later when I'd helped him translate and in to an amublance and stepped in my front door."
"Later a few days later learned he'd slipped in the tub and literally crawled out for help. Poor dude. He was fine but I genuinely thought he was going to die there."
– DongLaiCha
Tragic News
"At a bachelor party and we got a phone call that the groom’s father had suddenly passed."
– accountnameredacted
Bottom Of The Barrel
"I went to visit my parents back in July. I was homeless and deep into fentanyl addiction so I lost a lot of weight. My folks could see it. They knew something was up. Anyway, I spent the night and I was getting ready to leave in the morning and I looked at myself in the mirror for a good long time. I finally had enough and told them everything. They took me to detox, from there I went to rehab. Graduated in August and been living with them ever since then. I have 160 days clean and sober."
– Crotch-Monster
A reality check can be enough for some people to snap out of it.
Like Father, Like Son
"Was driving a drunk friend home, he had been on a bender again and was smart enough to call me for a lift rather than try and drive. As I helped in to his house his mother came down the stairs and said 'your as drunk as your father' and went back upstairs. I haven't seen him drunk since then, he still drinks but the thought of turning into his dad scared him out of hard drinking."
– psycospaz
Busted
"Flashing blue lights."
– FiddleOfGold
"This sobered me up just thinking about it."
– redmaple_syrup
Losing Sight
"Woke up to no sight in one eye. I had cataract surgery so just thought one of the lenses had slipped and it was an easy fix. Eye doc says nope, you had a stroke. I loved soy sauce, teriyaki sauce and salty food, which caused high blood pressure, which caused retina damage. Over six months was able to get most of my eyesight back with medication, and all back within a year. Trying to navigate life with one eye was very sobering. Started taking HBP much more seriously."
– MissHibernia
Quitting The Bottle
"Looked up someone I went to highschool with who was an awesome guy. Found out he had been dead for 3 years from alcoholism, at age 33. I made an overnight change. I hadn't started drinking that night yet, 10 months ago. Haven't touched it again since."
– omgtater
These disturbing moments were enough for Redditors to immediately come to their senses.
Unplanned House Guests
"Me and a buddy Woke up in someone’s living room, realized neither one of us knew the people, they were just nice and let 2 drunk guys sleep on their living room floor. We didn’t even say goodbye."
– Oneinsevenbillion75
Serious Health Warning
"Elevated liver enzymes."
"And the knowledge that this sh** was gonna kill me and I just couldn't orphan my family over it."
"So I opted for recovery, instead."
"Clean and sober since June 5, 2009."
– Far_Meal8674
The Joyride
"Grew up in a rural area. The little town hosted dances at the hockey arena, everyone (adults and kids) went and they overserved everyone, regardless of age. I was maybe 16 or 17 and was absolutely sh*tfaced, and jumped in the back of someone's truck with about 8 other people to go back to someone's cottage for after dance drinking. The driver (still don't know who it was) started racing one of his buddies and we whipped around small dirt roads, flying around blind corners on the wrong side of the road, going god knows how fast. It was basically a disaster waiting to happen. It was crazy scary and I was sober and thankful to be alive when we finally arrived."
– foxfood9116
The human psyche is a fascinating thing, isn't it?
How we can automatically focus on something urgent at a crucial time, even after getting buzzed from drinking too much alcohol.
But as we're in the thick of the holidays, it's a good reminder to drink responsibly and stay off the roads if you drive to your celebratory destination.
Cheers. Stay safe. And happy holidays.
We've all complained or vented about something in our lives which, in the grand scheme of things, wasn't exactly a problem, or is very easily solved.
Then there are those who complain about things that others almost hope will happen to them at some point in their lives.
These are known as "first world problems", as they are problems that pretty much only the world's one percent faces.
From having to fly business class instead of first class, or being served Roederer instead of Dom Pérignon, these complaints are often met with amusement, bewilderment, or even anger.
Redditor jennimackenzie was curious to hear the most absurd "first world problems" anyone ever complained about, leading them to ask:
"What’s the most ridiculous 'first world problem' you’ve seen people get worked up over?"
"Tale As Old As Time..."
"I once knew a mom who was legitimately devastated, to the point of tears/grief, because a doctor predicted her 8 year old daughter's final height to be around 5'2","
"Which wasn't tall enough to get cast as Belle at Disney World."
"That was the child's (and her mother's) only dream in life, apparently."
"Didn't appreciate my suggestion that she could be Minnie or Mickey."
"Lol!"
"Only a face character would do!"- TravelLovingMom
"Must Be Funny, In A Rich Man's World..."
"My boss from about a decade ago was this insanely rich dude who always went to the bank to get fresh and crisp currency."
"He'd call the bank in advance to make sure they had some on hand."
"I think he was a germaphobe."
"He had a trash can that he'd throw $1 and $5 bills in that he thought was 'dirty' and regularly just donated it vs spending it."
"I asked him why he did this and he said it was too much trouble and asked if I wanted it."
"I said f*ck yeah dumped it into my bag and when I got home it was close to $400 in singles and fives.
"Another time, he wanted to upgrade all the computers in his studio, so we went to a store and bought 10 PCs."
"They all had $150 mail in rebates and he wasn't bothered to go through the trouble of mailing them in."
"3 weeks later I received $1500 after spending a whole afternoon filling out all those goddamn forms."- azninvasion2000
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Who Wore It Better?
"When I was about 19 years old, I was at my boyfriends family BBQ."
"I was wearing this pretty floral sundress."
"His cousins girlfriend showed up in the same dress and she was SO mad that she went and changed."
"I will never understand being upset when someone is wearing the same thing as you.'
"Did you really think that your shirt you bought off the rack is going to be unique to you?"
"No."- mertsey627
Seeing Red! Or Blue In This Case...
"The blue of the balloons wasn't quite the same as the bridesmaid's sashes."
"Years ago my wife and I attended a wedding."
"It was very low key."
"The dinner was in the dining hall at the university where the couple met, cinder block walls and all."
"It was a Baptist wedding - no booze and very serious."
"The dark blue balloons attempting to liven up the hall were a slightly darker shade of blue than the sashes on the bridesmaid's dresses."
"The bride lost here sh*t and absolutely raved for nearly an hour."
"I can't remember how they finally managed to talk her down."- mechant_papa
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See You In Court!
"Rich neighbors who end up in expensive court battles because they disagree about where a tree can be planted or whether the color of a fence fits in with the street’s 'amenity'."
'These disputes get really heated and rack up huge lawyers’ bills."
"The most pathetic part is after the judgement when they are arguing about who should pay the other party’s costs."
"Lots of affidavits filed citing the 'emotional distress' they had to endure, or painting themselves as brave warriors who were forced to take a stand to fight for 'justice'."
"Also lots of pompous litigants insisting that the judge refer to them by their 'Dr' title."
"An absolutely insane dumpster fire of entitled rich people problems."- ElectrocRaisin
It's Always People With Money Who Don't Want To Pay!
"I work in a public library."
"People will get so so mad if they have to be put on a wait list for a book."
"A popular book that just came out."
"Ok our services are not only free but so are the books."
"You’re welcome, a**holes."- Switchbladekitten
A Warm Butt Is A Happy Butt!
"My own."
"We have a bidet toilet seat (Fabulous! Everyone should have one!) and not only does it wash your bum and blow dry it, but the seat's heated!"
"It's shocking how much a heated toilet seat makes the whole process more agreeable."
"Except: We had a power outage and I went to use the toilet and the seat was cold!"
"Unacceptable!"
"This shall not stand!"
"I was really upset because it didn't feel good."
"Then I stopped and thought: This is the most first-world problem anyone's ever had."
"I was really pissed because my heiny was tepid."
"I got over it."- DeathGrover
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Holy Matrimony!
"Weddings are a gold mine for this question."
"People get so hyped up over their 'most important day of their life'."
"They'll destroy friendships, go into debt, and have crazy expectations."
"It's not always the couple who go crazy, either."
"Sometimes, it's the parents or another family member who feels entitled to control the wedding."
"It's just a party."
"Be considerate of guests, have plenty of food and drinks, and enjoy it."- magicrowantree
When Fast Food Isn't Fast Enough...
"Having to pull off to the side to wait for a drive-thru order to be brought out to you because your food isn't ready and there's a line building up behind you."- demanbmore
In Case You Don't Think Customer Service Employees Are Undervalued...
"I was working the return desk at a Target next to a military base so I have so many stories."
"One of my favorites was a lady who had her baby shower before revealing the gender and was livid that she had received floral newborn diapers when she’s having a boy."
"It was a huge box of super expensive, all organic diapers, that we didn’t carry and therefore could not return."
"I cannot accurately express her fury and disgust."
"How dare either suggest her boy could wear feminine diapers."
"I suggested she donate them if she didn’t want to use them and she instead threw away the entire box."
"When she left we pulled it out and threw it in our donate bin."
"There have also been multiple times where mom’s order massive toys and when we bring them out to the car they get furious that they aren’t wrapped."
"We don’t offer wrapping services."
"Here’s the thing, if you don’t want your kids to see the toys you got them for Christmas or their bit to day DON'T BRING THE CHILD WHEN YOU PICK IT UP."
'I’ve had multiple women scream and curse me out that I had ruined their kids Christmas by bringing the toys they ordered out to the car like they requested."- clever-mermaid-mae
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Happiest Place On Earth!
"I used to work for Disney."
"That in itself should tell you everything."
"However for fun I'll give you two specific stories one form our tech department and one from my wife who worked bookings."
"I specifically worked for their call center to help with technical issues with magic band and the website."
"Suddenly got worse huh?"
"A right of passage call everyone has at least one story of is the 'Dome call'."
"Basically there is a subset of Disney Guest (TM) that believes if it rains at Walt Disney world there is someone that will push a button to encapsulate the whole of Disney property in a dome to keep out the rain."
"I'm not kidding."
"If this button is not pushed they call our tech department to angrily ask why."
"My wife worked booking."
"Pretty much everything including Bibbidi Bobbidi boutique and Pirate's league."
"These two things did roughly the same thing difference being price and theme."
"BBB was expensive did more and was focused on princesses, pirates league did a bit less and focused on mermaids and pirates."
"Lady called up my wife, and got pissed about BBB being booked up (It goes FAAAAST)."
"Karen: 'Im going to give the phone to my daughter and I want you to tell her how you are ruining her vacation by not letting her do BBB'."
"Wife proceeds to explain how pirate's league is so much cooler and how she can be a mermaid or pirate and basically gets the kid to start demanding to their parents about how they want to be a mermaid instead of a princess."- trollsong
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The horror!
Being booked into a junior suite at Disney World instead of an executive suite!
It's almost as bad as having no money for groceries, or no food to feed you children...
Said absolutely no one.