Realizing that you've become your parents is one of the scariest things about being an adult. Whether that be good or bad, that moment you discover that you've gained your parents' morals and traits is a huge one- one that may not be so welcome.

itsDaco asked: What's the most "I'm turning into my parents" moment for you?

Spooky.

"Sometimes I will say certain words and I'll turn around because I thought my mom said something. It's really scary how me and her share 98% of seemingly random idiosyncrasies.

We both talk to ourselves. Full on 45 minute conversations with ourselves

We both do this counting this when some of the numbers turn breathy as we count

We both shake our heads and point our fingers the EXACT same way when we're yelling. Sometimes I'll stop mid fight because I can see my mom making the exact same motions and it freaks me out."

PaulSheldonsFeet

Mom's always have the best intuition.

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"My mom used to find things for us in a minute after we had been looking for hours. My siblings and dad sometimes lose things and ask me to help because "I always find it magically"....I'm actually very excited about the mom touch to finding things."

HeyYouThere101

Not the worst thing to have.

"I started enjoying looking at grocery ads for discounts and have 3 discount cards."

ThatGuy798

No BS here.

"I repeat stories. Every time I go home to visit, I'll hear things from my dad that he's either told me by phone already or stories I've heard 100 times. I found that I have also started telling people about stories from my past that I've already told them.

Convenient that I don't make up bs, or I'd have to remember all my bs."

BOBfrkinSAGET

As long as the restaurant isn't crowded.

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"So I'm at IHOP one day, already finished with breakfast, on my second cup of coffee, and the waiter comes with the bill. As I pull out my debit card to pay it, I put my wallet away and think to myself, "Just let me sit here and enjoy my coffee..."

Which is a phrase that my mother has used so many times at breakfast that she could patent it. I'll admit it does feel nice to just relax and enjoy it instead of rushing out the door as soon as you're done. Now it's something I do routinely."

ShiningBulwark

Grown-up taste buds.

"Over the course of college, I went from milk and sugar in my coffee to straight black with an espresso shot. I went from ketchup on a lot of things to simply salt and pepper. The sweet tooth turned into a salty/savory tooth."

Jumpsuit53535

Not wrong.

"The first time I told my kids to "shut the door, we aren't heating the outside!"

I finally get why they said it too. It costs money to heat/cool the house!"

ratacid

Oof.

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"I wake up, no alarm, everyday at 4am to get ready for work. Just sit up like clockwork at 4, never thought I would get to this point."

scarletandgray

Google.com

"I say the names of things I see while in the car. Like: "Oh, a Burger King" and "hmmm a new Wawa. Interesting". My mom does this and it used to drive me nuts when I was younger.

My husband actually types google.com into the search bar, even though our default search engine is google. It's a classic dad move."

pupperfan00

That's kinda nice.

"While driving in my car, I will put my arm out to protect the passenger if I suddenly stop...even though they are wearing a seat belt....just like my mom.

As the passenger in the front seat, I will step on the brake, even though there is no pedal. The old fake brake, just like my mom does!"

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Research into childhood trauma didn't actually begin until the 1970s, so we don't have as much knowledge about our mental health as adults as we might like.

However, a study that followed 1,420 from 1992 to 2015 found conclusive results about childhood trauma:

"'It is a myth to believe that childhood trauma is a rare experience that only affects few,' the researchers say."
"Rather, their population sample suggests, 'it is a normative experience—it affects the majority of children at some point.'"
"A surprising 60 percent of those in the study were exposed to at least one trauma by age 16. Over 30 percent were exposed to multiple traumatic events."

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Often we sit back in our own lives and wallow in our dead-end jobs with that "wish I could do that for a living mentality!"

But if you look a little closer or, much like Dorothy Gale in OZ, just wait for a Toto to push the curtain back, you'll see that a lot more is going on behind the scenes.

And the shenanigans we don't see, make all that fun... evaporate.

So many careers and high power industries are built on a foundation of lies, backstabbing, and stress. And not in that fun "Dynasty" way.

That quiet, dead-end gig may not be so bad after all.

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