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People Divulge Which Things Are Normal Where They Live But Crazy Anywhere Else

People Divulge Which Things Are Normal Where They Live But Crazy Anywhere Else
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I slurp my ramen. It's how my family eats at home.


While Americans think it's rude to slurp loudly, it is encouraged in Japan.

As a matter of fact, it's considered rude NOT to slurp.

But there is also a practical reason behind the warranted practice – the Japanese slurp hot noodles to avoid burning the tongue.

Allowing the air to rush in through through slurping cools down the temperature of the noodles – which is more favorable than the unsatisfying flavor of cooled noodles in the bowl that have thickened from soaking up water.

Slurping means it's delicious!

So don't come for me when I slurp my ramen. I'm just giving compliments to the chef.

Wondering about different cultural customs, Redditor "sackofpotatosacks" asked:

"What is normal where you live but would be considered crazy anywhere else?"

Come Back Now, You Hear?

"In Australian rural towns we all had our back doors unlocked; and friends are allowed to go through the back door and make themselves a cup of tea/coffee while they wait for you to get back from whatever you were doing."

Captain_Coco_Koala

Stay As Long As You Like

"Apparently being in a restaurant for hours and hours and only eating in 1% of the time. We talk for hours before and after eating here, so we don't leave right after eating. Everyone I knew from other country found it strange."

GrumpySupport

The Line Of Shame

"In the Eifel, Germany, on the night of May 1st, people paint a long line from one house to another. The line means that someone in these households is having an affair. Every year several relationships break up because of this. I love it."

definetly_not_a_duck

Garden State Rules

"I live in NJ and it's illegal here for you to pump your own gas/fuel. All stations are full service by law. I believe Oregon is the only other state in the USA that has this law."

joey_r00

Crowded House

"still being in the same house as your parents after marriage. also with kids."

CroquetteRocket

The Best Quality Rice

"Today (in Japan) over a hundred people lined up (staggered for social distancing) at 9:00 am on a Saturday. First one hundred get a ticket. At 10:30 we all line up again. One at a time we draw a number; 1 to 5. Then we go over to a big basin of the best quality of rice and take as many scoops as the number we drew. You are encourage to make each scoop heaping. This is not a food bank thing (I hope) just the promise of 'good rice' draws a crowd."

son_of_volmer

Living With Baboons

"I live next to a game reserve in South Africa. It's not that surprising to hear baboons in your back yard, or spot a rhino 10 meters from your fence."

"One time a whole troop of baboons ran over our roof. It's only corrugated iron and we all sh*t our pants."

Designer_Towel

It's Called "Systembolaget" In Sweden

"The government has monopoly on any alcohol above 3.5% and can only be bought at one store dedicated to it."

industrialslave

"Also Finland. Can't even order alcohol from web stores..."

sissichu

Norway And Sheep

"In Norway it's normal to release two million sheep (read: two million sheep) into the wild, mostly unsupervised, where an estimated 100,000 of them die to either injuries, illness or predators, with the farmers crying and complaining (usually only to that last one), and then repeat the same process again the next year, and every year after that."

"Does Norway kind of have a f'ked up and moronic sheep farming practice? Yes, yes we do."

Katherine9009

A High School Tradition

"In my hometown, it was totally normal to say and write on your car, 'Go bust a nut!' during high school football season. My high school's mascot was the acorn."

selenedestiny

Perfectly Bilingual

"My city is EXTREMELY bilingual, everyone speaks both English and French. You'll hear people speak both languages in conversations quite often, sometimes in the same sentence. In stores, most of the time, people greet you with both languages and you reply in one of them, which tells them which language you prefer to talk in. They go 'Bonjour, Hi!' And you say Bonjour back if you want to continue in French or Hi if you rather speak English. It's kinda crazy."

R-E-D-D-l-T

Land With No Boundaries

"Where I used to live in Manitoba, nobody had fences, mainly because when the properties were divided up, the town planners left space that belonged to the town behind all of them, that was just a strip of forest and Canadian shield. So almost nobody put up fences because it cut off their view & access to what was essentially a super cool nature trail network throughout the town. Everyone knew once you hit mowed grass, that belonged to someone. Us kids barely ever went anywhere on foot via roads or sidewalks, we always took the trails (we rode bikes on the roads though, there were too many rocks on the trails for a regular kid's bike)."

"Of course, living in a forest had some unintended consequences. We frequently had bears, so I remember when I wasn't even 5 yet being taught what to do if I saw a bear. And two separate years we had a mountain lion, which was a lot worse. The town would hire someone to trap and relocate these animals but it always took a while. I remember watching a bear lying down under the crabapple tree in our front yard just eating all the windfall apples for ages, not a care in the world."

JoanOfArctic

Chips In Your Sandwich

"I live in Dublin and when we tell people who live in America that we put crisps in sandwiches they laugh at us. Just try it mate. It's so good."

[deleted]

Younger Legal Drinking Age

"Drinking alcohol for the first time when you're around 14 y/o. In Germany, it is legal to buy beer and wine when you're 16. So the majority of parents don't see it as a problem when the first drunk experience happens a few years earlier. Actually it is hard to find a teenager here that never tried alcohol before."

myrjxm

Reserving A Spot

"Putting a chair in the road to reserve a parking spot. Not only do people do it, but people respect people who do it."

chickcoreasnuts

Class Participation

"Starting college, meeting your class on week 1 and then having introductory sauna the next week, boys and girls all drunk & nekkid. Finland :3"

tasankovasara

Legalities

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"People who are 12-14 driving tractors on the roads in rural Ireland. The legal minimum age is 16, but most farmers don't really care.

EDIT: I didn't realize that this is a rural thing. Still comes as a shock to urban people though."

- computerfan0

Keeping it Cool

Many (but not all) Germans restricting themselves to exactly one hot meal per day. I've heard sentences such as:

"No I can't, I already ate warm at lunch"
"I tried so hard to find a breakfast place that sells cold food"
"Let's just eat bread, I've had hot lunch"
"You can't eat two hot meals, that's too much"

I still don't get why it has to be no more and less than one hot meal? And why do breakfast pancakes not count as hot food?

- yanbochen

The Road Menu

"Picking up roadkill for your table. Gotta temp it first, but if it's fresh or new and frozen, it's good."

Radiant_Obligation_3

"The only problem with roadkill is the meat is often ruined due to internal organ damage. If the stomach or intestines are ruptured, it's game over. And anywhere the vehicle hit or it impacted the pavement hard, there will be bruising that will ruin it."

WardenWolf

4 times a day

"Experiencing 4 seasons every day. Jacket on, jacket off, it's sunny but it's raining, freezing and windy, then it's hot again... I like to wear shorts and puffer jacket combos for both extremes. Tasmania."

- orceingiemsa

Feet to Earth

"Some people not wearing any footwear to observe a festival, for nine days, even if they go out. India, during Navratri. Though there is no naked baba.

There are few saints who live their lives nude, the point is that they have enough will power to not get erection even if they come in close quarters with women.

They are called Brahmchari or eternal celibate."

- manjeete

Minty

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"Driving over the mountains and shouting "mint sauce" out the window to the sheep....

Wales.

(And fellow welshys... Don't lie..you know you've done it)."

- vad2004

being a woman

"As a female:

1- Not having to move out of my parents' house unless I get married.

2- Obtaining a degree is a must, but working is a complete option. Also if I choose to work, I don't have to share my income with my spouse.

3- I get the superiority in lines so I don't have to stand in long lines with men. Which happens rarely anyway because women don't run errands in here."

- Nrnr_nr

Melbourne

"In the next 16 days there will be two public holidays in my city.

Both of which are to recognize different sporting events.

One of those sporting events is taking place 2000 odd kms away.

The other is taking place in my city - though with very few attendees because of 'Rona restrictions.

Gotta love Melbourne."

- TheGloveMan

Freedom Calls

"Calling an uber instead of an ambulance or going to work while sick during a pandemic.

Gotta love freedom."

- BladesQueen

"I never had a problem calling in sick in the USA... Always got a "no problem man, get better soon"... Now calling in sick in Japan... My boss wants to know which hospital I'm going too and a direct call back afterwards with an update on my condition. They usually pressure me to come back in to work afterwards too... And yes this happened during Corona when I had a fever."

- QuitMessingwithme

Yummy?

"Apparently to eat minced meat raw (seasoned and on bread). Obviously you keep it in the fridge until you eat it. And you'd have to eat it rather quickly after you bought it."

- The_Sceptic_Lemur

"Here in France it is called "filet américain". It's raw minced beef, with pepper, salt, a raw egg yolk, some herbs, raw minced onions. Add Tabasco or similar as you wish. Often served with french fries."

- Bipi7

Time and Tyme again....

"Calling a water fountain a "bubbler", calling an ATM a Time Machine, REAL tailgating, cheese on apple pie, and wearing foam cheese on your head."

- alexbx77

"YES was hoping most for this right here! Fellow Wisconsinite represent! Can confirm since childhood have heard ATM as Tyme, though never understood why, it was just a word everyone used.

Also cheese curds (what's that? Well there's variations, a not so simple ball of cheese or the more common a baked or fried ball of cheese) DEEP FRIED everything State Fair.

Also Chicken and waffles."

- Jammer590

Hexes and Taxes

"Being a witch/medium is an official job, meaning you need a permit, your profit is monitored and you pay taxes.

When killing a pig, raw skin covered in salt is the first food consumed, as it is considered a delicacy.

We also fill the pig's small intestine with a mixture of meat, rice and garlic and put it in the oven for about an hour. Yum!

Many people believe that if you look at a baby for too long, you can unknowingly put a curse on it, which will make it cry until you pour holy water on the child and pray to make the curse go away. Parents are an exception, they can not curse their own child."

- Sinister_Fish42

Free for all....

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"Free Sundays (Germany) Everything, literally everything is closed on Sundays which is amazing cuz everyone (except from the most essential like doctors, firefighters and the police) have a free day which is awesome!!"

- Rapperdonut

Across the Land

"Driving 3 hours at 100km/h and still being in the middle of nowhere (Australia). In parts of Europe you'd have crossed 3 borders in that time."

- ihavefourgirlfriends

TAG

"Drinking beer bottles while driving and left-hand lobbing them over the car to try to hit speed limit signs.

It's called "sign tag", my 60 year old aunt is the county champion. Southern Indiana."

- ImJokingNoImNot

The Facade

"A royal house with no power, no authority, is an absolute money sink and only exists for status and nostalgia. The Netherlands."

- ruffresia9

"I assume you are talking about the UK. But the money sink thing doesn't hold up when you look at it.

The royal turn over all the profits from all the land then own to the state in exchange for their living expenses being paid. And the provides from this land comes to much more than the expenses. And this ignores the impact of the royal on tourism (Yea it's not happening at the moment, but still)."

- Hops77

Kreepy Khristmas

"In Austria around Christmas/St Nicholas time we have events called "Krampusläufe" where people, mostly young (drunk) men dress up as demonic devil-like creatures called Krampus with fur suits, creepy masks and cow bells and pull of shows that include lots of fire, smoke, witch burns etc while mainly Ramstein plays in the back. They also like to whip people in the audience with cow tails. And hell yea we enjoy the show while getting drunk on hot punch. We even bring our kids along."

- confusions0up

Street Boom

"Every Last Tuesday of the year people make fire and literally blow up everything on the city streets. It's called "Charshanbe Soori" -

HamedMacsword

Delicacy

"In the north of Portugal we have a very typical rice dish that's made with the chicken or pig's blood. It´s very delicious but I met people for other countries that call us vampires."

- No_Opportunity_9811

"I think most countries in Europe have some dish that's made with blood, it's mostly the Americans who get grossed out."

- GrandDukeOfNowhere

Wheels on the bus

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"Only having a snow day if the buses can't physically get to school, or the temperature is -40° F or below without wind chill. (I'm from northern Wisconsin)."

- turkeysandwich_sock

Praying for $$$

"Where I live, it is normal for about 15% of the population not to work and get paid by the government since they are praying to God and that's important too. Off course, the rest of the ppl pay for them. Forget them and their God. The holy land."

- TheReal_KindStranger

Croc Days

"Alligators. Just... everywhere. I live in a swampy area of Florida, and it's pretty normal to come across alligators in small ponds, ditches, around pools, or just chilling in a parking lot. I've nearly tripped on alligators more times than i'd like to admit. Thankfully they're pretty chill and won't really bother you unless you mess with them or go near a nest. The police are even trained to deal with rogue alligator calls."

- SugoiBakaMatt

In Cincy

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"In Cincinnati we eat spaghetti noodles topped with a soup-like chili and a 1/4 pound of shredded cheddar cheese.

And it's delicious."

- wss1252

Hunter OGs

"During hunting season, the real OGs would sell venison jerky for $5 a small ziplock on the school bus. My bus had 2-3 hunters any given year, some was more tender, some was seasoned better, some were just bigger bags. It was awesome and I bet they made bank."

- PillsBayBay

Passing Through

"Cougars walking through my yard most nights. We live in a forest with a lot of cougars (estimated 200 within 10 miles) and since we live near the edge and don't have dogs, the cougars use our yard to pass through.

It's not a big deal unless one of the males walks under our window. They stink really strongly and will wake you up with the stench."

- Baeker

Afterlife Party

"Every now and then we dig up corpses of our loved ones, bring 'em through the village where they lived for a visit, change the tissues they where covered in (several layers) with new ones and put them back in the grave and all that while partying. Madagascar."

- Motuarsde

Cheese It

"Putting a block of cheese in your hot chocolate. It's quite good actually. Check out this reaction video: https://youtu.be/KcxxYY-1MVQ. Colombia."

- NecroPaCo

Tradition

"Hungarian villages: the slaughtering of a pig is kind of a ceremony with family and friends being invited, the day is taken up by work (preparing the meat, making products out of the different parts) and the evening is feasting. Literally almost every part of the pig is used. My mother told me that the day afterwards they are the cooked brain with the crunchy ears."

- gs_batta

Cannibal Win

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"In the rural Midwest USA, lots of bars have meat raffles. Not sure if they do that anywhere else but I always thought it was weird."

- greasywallaby

Traffic Issues

"Kids, as young as 10 years old, driving. The police don't really care much, and you see primary schoolers driving themselves and their siblings to school. Nope, most of them aren't orphans, their parents are just.... extremely free here.

Traffic accidents are the leading cause of death here unsurprisingly. I think it's a real shame that people are so careless. Saudi Arabia 😳 some other middle eastern countries are the same, though."

- paracozmic

Shoeless Joes and Janes

"People walking around barefoot. its way more common in beach suburbs, but even in suburbs 20km+ away from the beach you will see people (especially young people) walking around super markets and shopping centers with no shoes on. and not because they cant afford them. Australia."

- uduneven

Old Wives' Tales People Still Believe For Some Reason

"Reddit user the_spring_goddess asked: 'What is an old wives tale that people still believe?'"

Close up of an owl tilting their head to side, looking bewildered
Photo by Josh Mills

The old wives' tales.

They are the stories of legend.

I think we all need a big DEEP Google dive though.

Where did they originate?

WHO ARE THE OLD WIVES!

You don't hear about them as much anymore.

It's like science and logic are suddenly a thing.

But they sure are a good way to keep your kids and their behavior in line.

Redditor the_spring_goddess wanted to discuss the tall tales we've all been fed through life, so they asked:

"What is an old wives tale that people still believe?"

"Wait an hour to swim after eating."

What a crock!

So many summer hours wasted.

I want revenge for that one.

Say Nothing

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"An undercover cop has to tell you he's a cop if you ask him."

LonelyMail5115

"Pretty much most advice when it comes to cops are old wives tales. I’m not even a cop but most of the advice you hear is pretty off."

I_AM_AN_A**HOLE_AMA

Say Something

"That you have to wait 24 hours to report someone missing."

Severe_Airport1426

"I really think this one is important and should be the top regardless. As it’s a piece of advice that needs to be relearned and the only way to do that is through awareness."

crappycurtains

"This used to be true. I think they changed it after some guy named Brandon went missing back in the '80s or '70s. You used to have to wait 24 hours if the missing person was an adult because they had 'a right to be missing' and then everyone realized that was stupid and stopped doing it."

AlbinoShavedGorilla

Body Temps

"That drinking ice cold water after eating oily foods will solidify the oil and permanently remain in your body. I informed my coworker that if your body temperature ever reached that point, you’d have bigger problems than weight gain."

chriseo22

"Oh, I have a cousin who 100% believed this. One of those guys who believed every early 2000s internet rumor and old wives tale. One night I chugged a big glass of ice water after dinner and he started freaking out and saying my guts were gonna harden."

"I sarcastically told him to drive me to the hospital if that happened. Obviously, nothing happened and the next morning I said something like 'Thanks for being on standby in case my guts filled with hardened oil.' He just walked off muttering under his breath."

apocalypticradish

Arms Down

"When I was pregnant, I was told by young and old alike that I should NOT raise my arms above my head or exert myself in such a manner because it could cause cord strangulation to my unborn sons and daughters."

Fatmouse84

10 Years Actually

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"Chewing gum stays in your stomach for 7 years."

REDDIT

"I remember accidentally swallowing a piece of gum when I was a kid in like 1995 and just accepting my fate like welp, gonna have this in my stomach til high school I guess."

Gecko-911

I was so afraid to sallow my gum when I was young.

This tale is haunting.

High/Low

Hungry Debra Messing GIF by Will & Grace Giphy

"You can tell the sex of the baby by how you carry."

LeastFormal9366

"Pregnancy certainly wins awards for the most old wives tales. So much absolute BS was repeated to us by everyone we talked to."

IllIIIlIllIlIIlIllI

The Cursed

"If you’re a woman and you wear opal jewelry but opal is not your birthstone (October), you’ll never be able to have children, or will be widowed, or just generally have bad luck or something. You can counteract this by having a diamond in the same piece of jewelry as the opal, though."

"I have a nice opal ring that my parents gave me years ago, and I’ve had other women give me this 'advice' unprompted more than once when I’ve worn it. I have absolutely no idea where it started, but I’m pretty sure this little chunk of silicate rock has no concept of what month I was born in, let alone of how my reproductive organs work."

SmoreOfBabylon

Stay In

"Going outside with wet hair will make you get pneumonia. Or an earache. Or maybe arthritis. Depends on which old wife you listen to."

"Jokes on them - I haven't blow-dried my hair in decades and usually leave the house with wet hair in the morning. On winter mornings, the tips of my hair get frozen. No ear infections or pneumonia or arthritis yet."

worldbound0514

Dreams and Facts

"You never make anyone up in your dreams you've seen everyone in your dreams somewhere else before and never make anyone up entirely."

"How would you possibly prove that to be true? My partner adamantly believes this and tells me this 'fact' whenever I have a dream about someone I've never met before."

mattshonestreddit

"My late wife used to tell me that before she met me she would have dreams of standing at an alter on her wedding day but could never see the guy's face, no matter how hard she tried. After meeting me the face was filled in with mine. Don't know if it's true but one of those things I like thinking of every now and then when I miss her."

Darthdemented

Cracked

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"Some people still believe cracking knuckles causes arthritis."

Choice-Grapefruit-44

"There's a doctor (Donald Unger) that cracked his knuckles a couple of times a day for 60 years, but only on one hand, just to prove it. Both hands remained exactly the same."

MacyTmcterry

I love my knuckles.

Do you have any tall tales to add to the list? Let us know in the comments below.

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Some people stand firmly stand behind their beliefs that everyone would benefit from therapy and that therapy is life-changing.

It's because of the totally life-changing truth bombs their therapist had dropped during their sessions.

Curious, Redditor anonymiss0018 asked:

"What is a little bombshell your therapist dropped in one of your sessions that completely changed your outlook?"

Communication Issues

"'If you don’t have these problems with any other person in your life, why do you think you’re the problematic person in this one?'"

- maggiebear

"I love this. I have a 'friend' who I always seem to run into misunderstandings with. Every time we had a conversation, it somehow turned into a debate even if it was me talking about my day. The conversations were never easy."

"I always evaluate myself first and take into consideration his critiques. He was very good at convincing me that I was contradicting myself or wasn't good at communicating my thoughts."

"I NEVER had this issue with ANYONE else in my life. I kept trying to figure out where the miscommunication was coming from. In the end, I just minimized contact and now I don't run into this issue."

- chobani_yo

"I read this quote somewhere once (and probably have it a bit wrong): 'It's a waste of time arguing with someone who is determined to misunderstand you.'"

- Reddit

Emotional Regulation

"'You can’t control your emotions, but you can control what you do with them.'"

"At the time, I was a young adult who had learned zero healthy emotional regulation skills (only suppression and shaming) growing up, so this blew my mind."

- lil_mermaid

Tough Relationships

"'It sounds to me like you are trying to convince yourself to stay with your girlfriend. I'm not so sure it should be so difficult.'"

"At the time he said this, I remember it was like he said, 'The earth is flat.' I thought he was crazy when he suggested relationships don't need to be difficult. But eventually, I started to realize I was trying to change myself to stay with this person rather than just being who I am."

"It took me three more months to finally break up with her but from that day on, I vowed to never again abandon myself just to be with someone I had convinced myself was better than me."

- metric88

High-Stress Situation

"I was at a high-stress time, and I asked her how people live like this."

"She replied, 'Oftentimes they have cardiac events.' She said it as an urging to care for myself as much as possible."

- KittenGr8r

The End of Alcohol

"I was struggling with my alcoholism, and we were discussing how I had been cutting back."

"She asked what I would consider success, with regard to my drinking."

"I said I wanted to get to a point where it wasn't interfering with my daily life. I wanted to just be able to have a glass of wine at holiday dinners or family gatherings."

"She simply asked me why. Why was it important for me to drink at those times?"

"It was as if she'd turned on a light. Alcohol had always been a key ingredient in every family function, for my entire life. When I smell bourbon, I think of my uncle. When I smell vermouth, I think of my dad. Alcohol ran through almost every happy childhood memory."

"But, even more than that, I was very afraid of the explanation I'd have to give when family and friends asked why I wasn't having a drink. I had tried to quit before but failed. What if I admitted my problem, only to fall off the wagon?"

"When she asked why I didn't want to completely quit, it was the first time I saw that last part of the big picture. I'd be willing to drink myself to death in order to avoid being scrutinized, or judged for possible future failures."

"That was the day I quit. I've been sober since May 6th, 2017. 2,407 days."

- sophies_wish

Acceptance vs. Enjoyment

"'Accepting something doesn’t mean you have to like it.'"

"That took away a lot of my inner conflicts about situations because I could accept a situation without expending energy internally fighting against the injustice of it."

- alibelloc

Emotionally Immature Parents

"You are not responsible for your parents' emotional wellbeing. They are independent adults who have been on this earth for many more years than you."

- SmokedPears

Not So Lazy

"'Why do you think you're lazy?' Then she listed off all the things she knows I'm doing for my family, my job, and my life."

"It kind of blew my mind when I struggled to come up with an example."

"She also described family dysfunction as water. Some families are messed up in a way that everyone can see the huge waves across the surface. Others are better at hiding it, but there's still a riptide that you can't see unless you're also in the water."

"It made me realize that trying to keep the surface from ever rippling doesn't erase what is happening underneath."

- flybyknight665

The Harm in People-Pleasing

"'Why do you make people more comfortable when you are uncomfortable?' when talking about people pleasing and fawning."

- ERsandwich

Agree to Disagree

"'Stop trying to get everyone to agree. When you need everyone to agree, the least agreeable person has all the power.'"

This really changed my outlook on planning family events."

- freef

Grieve and Start Anew

"For context, I had a major TBI (traumatic brain injury), seizures, strokes, and all around not a fun brain time when I was 28."

"They said, 'You have to grieve the loss of yourself.'"

"Most people wanted me to go back to how I was. The f**ked up truth is that part of my brain is dead. The person everyone (including myself) knew died. I needed to grieve the loss of myself."

- squeaktoy_la

Multifaceted Identity

"They told me that my job and career is just a way to make money; it's not my life or identity. That took a lot of pressure off me."

- unfairpegasus

Breaking the Cycle

"They validated me."

"'You always talk about not wanting to do to your daughters what your mom did to you. You worry about it so much in every interaction you have ever had with them."

"But your children are 19 and 21 now. They are happy and healthy and they trust you because you’ve never abused them in any way. So I just want to validate for you that you really have broken that cycle of violence."

"You did that. And you should be proud of it. I’m proud of you for it.'"

- puppsmcgee74

The Grieving Process

"I was constantly bringing up how I felt like a completely different person after my mom died... like there was a marked difference between before and after her death."

"But once, she was asking about my hobbies, I got really into describing all the things I loved to do or at least used to do before I got into a deep depression."

"She was like, 'Wow, you seem very passionate.'"

"And I just sat there like, 'Well, I mean, I can't change what I like to do, they're still fun to do.'"

"And it's like she knew when to take a step back, because it was like, wow, I may be super depressed about my mom passing, but I'm still me. I'm still my passions and those don't go away."

"I don't know, maybe it only makes sense to be, but it really started getting me back on track."

- Hannibal680

Sharing the Load

"I've never really had friends. I've had colleagues and classmates and housemates and people who have hung out with me, but I never really felt close to any of them."

"And I did that thing you see on here sometimes; I stopped reaching out to see if I would be reached out to, and I wasn't, which I took as confirmation that they didn't really want me around, or at the very least, that they wouldn't mind my absence."

"I was talking to my therapist about people I'd been close to in college, and she told me to pick one and talk about him. So I did. After I shared some basic stuff like his name and his major etc., and a couple of anecdotes, she asked me what else I knew about him."

"And I couldn't answer. It wasn't really a broadly applicable bombshell, but she said, 'What else?' and I started crying because I realized that for as simple as the question was, my inability to answer spoke volumes."

"I've never had good friends because I've never been a good friend. I'm withdrawn and reserved and I always made others do the work to drag me out, without ever extending my own friendship in a meaningful way in return. If I wanted to have meaningful relationships with other people, I would have to build them."

"I'm still working on this, but I'm trying to make more offers and extend more friendliness to others in my daily life."

- Backupusername

The discoveries in this thread were incredibly touching and profound; it's no wonder these were lasting concepts for these Redditors.

It's important to keep ourselves open to inspiration and insights from others, as we have no idea how their experiences could help us, or how we could help them.

Aerial view of a church in a small town
Sander Weeteling/Unsplash

There's something comforting about living in a small town.

It's characterized by close communities where neighbors know each other by name and there is an abundance of kindness extended to others.

Gift-giving is a commonality, as is the sharing of recipes, and people going out of their way to help each other in a time of need.

The pace of living in small towns is also a striking contradiction to city life, where crowds of people go about their busy lives without much interaction.

Curious to hear more examples of what small town living is like, Redditor official_biz asked:

"What's the most 'small town' thing you've witnessed?"

These are positive examples of a tight-knit community.

Live Updates

"We have a village Facebook page. Every time the ice cream man drives into the village, the entire page goes ballistic. People send live updates of where the van is and which direction he's heading. The ice cream man has started accepting DMs so he knows which streets to go down."

– PyrrhuraMolinae

Brush With The Law

"I’m from a town of less than 2,000 people. When I worked at the grocery store there people would often drop off stuff for my family members because they didn’t want to drive all the way down to our house. I no longer live there but recently got a call from my daughter. She had been stopped for speeding and handed over her license and insurance which happens to be in my mother’s name. The officer goes 'Hey, you’re Donnie’s granddaughter! I ain’t gonna write you a ticket but I’m telling Donnie when I see him tomorrow cause we’re going fishing.' She replied 'I think I’d rather have the ticket.'”

- Reddit

Roadside Catchup

"The traffic on the 'main street' of my town is so sparse, two drivers going opposite directions can stop and talk to each other for a few minutes without causing any problem."

– anon

When things go wrong, people take notice without incident.

Bank Robbery

"A guy robbed a bank and everyone knew immediately who he was and the teller got mad at him."

– AlexRyang

"A local bank was robbed and one of the tellers told the police to bring her a yearbook from about ten years earlier and she would be able to point the robber out. He had been in the grade before hers in school."

– Strict_Condition_632

Wise Woman

"When I worked at the bank in town there was an older lady that had worked there through 5 mergers."

"She knew everyone, there was a young guy yelling at me one day. She walked out of the back and he immediately quieted. She went off about telling his grandmother that he was treating young women like sh*t. She also said that if he didn’t straighten up not one girl in town would ever marry him she would make sure of it."

– ilurvekittens

Intoxicated Local

"Town drunk was paralyzed and used a motorized wheelchair to get around. I was driving home one Saturday night and said town drunk was passed out in his wheelchair doing circles almost directly in the town square. Had to call his brother who came and picked him up on a rollback truck. Strapped him down and drove off into the cold dark night."

– DoodooExplosion

Grazing Over To The Bar

"In my former small town, there was an older guy who'd lost his license after getting a few DUIs. Every day, he would ride his John Deere lawnmower to the corner bar around 3PM and sit around watching TV and sipping his beer well into the night. Then he'd head the couple miles back home on his mower. He even had a little canvass shell he put on when it rained or got too cold."

– brown_pleated_slacks

It's not surprising how small town people behave differently than those who are from metropolitan areas.

Welcoming Committee

"I lived in a small town. When I moved there, people would ask, 'Whose house did you buy?'"

–MoonieNine

"Move to a small town. 30 years later, you are still the new guy."

– impiousdrifter

"I lived in a small town for most of my childhood but I wasn't "from there" because my grandparents weren't from there."

– raisinghellwithtrees

"Worked with an older guy, relative of the owner of the business, he was 73. I asked him if he was a local, he said 'no his parents moved here when he was two.'"

– realneil

A Busy Day

"Lived in a town of about 5,000: A woman walked into the DMV on a Friday, saw that there were 3 people ahead of her and left to come back another time when they weren't so busy."

– KenmoreToast

Who Let The Dogs Out?

"My dogs got out while i was working. the police called my niece's elementary school (she was a 5th grader) to get her to round them up and take them back home."

– mediocrelpn

"There was a small kennel behind the police station for runaways. They called us saying they had our dog, and moments later our dog showed up home. He broke out of jail."

– Worried_Place_917

While life in a small town sounds appealing, I don't know if I can ever live in one.

I'm so used to life in big cities, I think it would be quite unnerving to adjust in a neighborhood where everyone literally knows your business.

I would be paranoid.

And I'm sure the same could be said of life in the big city.

Would you consider making the switch to life in a different setting?