I know some of you haven't been to a party since 2020 ... and if you're like me you didn't really do them before that, either.
As the world starts to open back up, it's very possible that you're going to be invited to a party.
DO NOT PANIC.
I know socialization can be awkward, but it's going to be okay.
One way to ensure social success is to be the person who brings the cool thing to the party. What "the cool thing" is really depends. It could be anything, but I'm not about to leave you stranded without ideas.
Again, DO NOT PANIC.
We've got Reddit.
Reddit user GoldGorilla asked:
"What's an underrated thing to bring to a party?"
Take a look at what these people had to say.
The Best Sandwiches
"At my daughter's 15th bday party, some kid showed up with a heavy looking backpack."
"I immediately assumed it was full of beer and was watching him carefully. Nope, freeze packs and ice cream sandwiches for an outdoor party in July."
"That kid is going places."
"I got married at an outdoor campout wedding at the end of July. We had ice cream sandwiches instead of wedding cake. It went over really well."
"Did a summer party with a Costco box of frozen treats (ice cream sandwiches, fudge pops, those drumstick cones) and have never seen such glee from grown ass adults."
Everything Is Warm
"I’ve never met anybody under 40 other than myself who brings ice to anything. People seriously undervalue it when you show up with it, too, then everyone realizes how useful it is over the night."
"It helps so much. I don't walk into a party without a iced down cooler of my own and a extra bag or two of ice for the party."
"After my last bad breakup I started throwing massive drunken dance parties a few times a year. At least two people a night would bring ice without being asked."
"We had two slushie machines and the floor would be a STICKY MESS the next morning, but someone would always mop it without being asked because there are still rad people in the world - and rad people bring ice and help clean up."
"I like to bring a huge sack of ice."
"I’m amazed at the lack of ice at many parties. Just a tiny bag in the cooler, not even enough to cover drinks - and none to actually put in drinks."
"Giant 6-ft submarine sandwich."
"I once brought one to a party and arrived right as the attendees finished a round of bong hits. They treated me like I was Jesus Christ himself."
"Which, honestly, I was okay with because carrying that thing wasn't fun."
"Me and my ex bought it in a shop in Carroll Gardens, BK because they are famous for amazing sandwiches (think Satriale's in the Sopranos). We then grabbed another friend who helped us to gently carry it into the subway to go 3 stops."
"Getting it into the small elevator where the party was held was probably the most precarious since we had to gingerly hold it vertically while we were going up."
"In the end, it was a worthwhile venture. I didn't really know anyone at the party and made a few friends who still refer to me as 'salami hero.' "
"I knew a guy who always brought a good card game. Always had something new, but easy for a big group to learn quickly and everyone always had a good time."
"He always brought different ones, I don’t remember them all and I haven’t seen him in years (I moved) but I remember one called something like “We Didn’t Even Playtest This” or something."
"Fun game to play towards the end of the night. It’s just totally random and the point of the game is to break the game."
"My favorite is Snake Oil."
"It’s a little like Cards Against Humanity - everyone takes turns to choose a type of customer (for example, caveman) and then the other players have to pitch a product (for example, a beard comb)."
"Customer chooser picks funniest one they like the best."
"Snake oil gets better the more you commit to it."
"My wife and I have a reasonable costume closet. It happens after a short career as a cosplayer , den fair attendant, Halloween enthusiast."
"We opened the costume closet and kept playing allowing people to use costumes from the closet. It got so funny after that."
"If you take it too seriously it’s not fun but otherwise it’s great."
"I love this!! What a clever way to bring everyone together"
Stuff From Work?
"My roommates and I had a party in college. Some random friend of a friend quit his job at KFC that night and came over late."
"He brought like 6 buckets of chicken, huge trays full of sides and biscuits, and even a bunch of their chocolate cakes for dessert."
"That dude was a legend and the hero of the party."
"I worked at Panera in high school, and would often take home bags of pastries and bread because they got tossed in the trash at the end of the night."
"I showed up at friends’ houses and parties with them, they loved it. My best friend’s mom still reminisces about it whenever I see her over a decade later."
"I lived in a party house, and two of my roommates worked at Little Caesars. They'd come home from work with pizzas with a "hidden fish" where one slice would have a pile of anchovies under the toppings."
"We'd be standing around eating and one person would start gagging."
"Bringing things are cool and fun, but usually almost everyone brings something. The real move, and way to get on the hosts good side and most likely invited back is help with clean up."
"Most people party and make a mess and dip when time to clean comes. Don't be that party person."
"Be the partier who wakes up the next morning, and starts cleaning. Nothing crazy, just get a trash bag and clean up trash, place dishes in sink/dishwasher, clean up spills."
"DO NOT clean personal items/rooms unless asked to do so."
"Basic cleaning is barely ever done by the people who enjoy the party all night without having to take any responsibility. You will be loved/noticed/and in the future, invited back."
"Remember in the eyes of the Host, the one who helps clean is the Goat."
"Waffle iron and uncooked cinnamon rolls."
"I did this once and the whole place loved me. Especially the drunkzillas. Good times."
"Just seen a guy do this on Guys Grocery Games and it blew all the judges minds"
"My partner uses a Foreman Grill. I was amazed at how well they came out. I am no longer an oven-exclusive cinnamon roll snotbag."
"Yes, this is so good. Every part of the roll is both crispy on the outside and gooey in the middle."
"Lol my wife did this once but spent the whole party stuck making waffles. I think she regretted it."
"Before the pandemic hit, there was some guy who would always bring one to every party."
"He had some drinking game associated with it and would double as a way to know who needs a couch, an Uber, a buddy for the sidewalk, a buddy for the bus or just fine by themselves to walk home."
"My husband told me his party group used to do that too!"
"The 'winner' would get their cab paid for by everyone else lol"
"I'm the breathalyzer guy in my group!!!"
"Same - had a bright pink one"
"One of my friends always used to bring different giant stuffed animals for people to take pictures with."
"By the end of the night he’d have a collage made that he’d give to the host. He got pretty creative with the animals and even started making backdrops too."
"Our themed parties were a ton of fun and everybody loved the pictures."
"When I was a kid, me and my sister had this giant Pikachu pillow we used to pretend was boys we liked and tried to make each other kiss. (It was a girl thing)"
"Fast forward we're all adults now. One of our friends got married so we brought the Pikachu pillow for the photo booth."
"Pikachu was the hit of the party! We have pictures of the bride's 90 yo grandma dancing with Pikachu!"
"Ok I can not stress this enough: Fat and protein makes you be able to drink more alcohol without puking or getting drunk."
"Just buy 30 bucks worth of protein powder and mix it with yogurt or something like milk. Is a true live saver, especially if you are young and not as experienced."
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Layers Of Yes
"Real talk, a lasagna."
"My girlfriend's parents bought a couple massive lasagnas for her family birthday party a few years back when we were seniors in college. After that party we went back to my apartment for a surprise party with a few dozen people."
"Her dad came by an hour later and dropped off the leftovers. It was all gone by 3am."
- InvalidKoalasLasagna Big Food Bucket List GIF by Food Network CanadaGiphy
Sweet and Succulent
"Fruit. Succulent fruit."
"Whether you’re drunk, stoned, tripping or all of the above, fruit is delicious and refreshing."
"I'm talking fruit that bursts in your mouth Think pineapple, cantaloupe, honeydew, watermelon, maybe some grapes."
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Snakes At A Party
"Snakes, and I base this off of a true story from when I was, like, twenty-one(?)"
"Anyway, my friend hosted a backyard pool party and despite the large number of attendees, it was pretty tame (or about as tame as a backyard full of early twenty-somethings can be). For the first little while, I remember feeling a sense of complacency."
"I wanted some weird sh*t to go down or something. Nothing bad but like... something."
"There's always that one (or more) memorable aspect of a party and I found myself looking for it. A certain je ne sais quoi."
"As if answered by God himself, in comes this motherf*cker with three snakes."
"According to him they had just finished feeding and were prime for non-hostile greeting and interaction with humans. They were also pretty friendly in general so it wouldn't have been much of a big deal even if they were a little hungry."
"In terms of length, I'd give them a few feet each, and they were sharp and sleek-looking with names like bullet and red-stripe. Y'know. Snake sh*t."
"Anyway, I knew the guy in question to be a snake breeder but I didn't think he'd bring actual f*cking snakes to a party. He did, though, and he commanded the night."
- PeanutButterCrispsteve irwin snakes GIF by BustleGiphy
"Glow in the dark hula hoops."
"People never stop trying to master mine no matter how uncoordinated they are."
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"I’ve met people who go crazy over fireball and the one time, this one girl got really excited that I had pink fireball with me and we had a blast."
"And pink Whitney vodka, pink moscato wine, so on and so forth."
"Rule of thumb is if you bring a pink colored drink to a party and there are at least a few girls there, it will be gone in the first half hour. So plan accordingly."
- juicycannoliAmanda Freitag Pink GIF by Rachael Ray ShowGiphy
A Huge Hit
"A giant Rice Krispie treat!"
"Line your biggest stockpot with plastic wrap. Mix up several batches of RKTs, and pack them into the pot until it's full."
"Lift it out of the pot, set it on the table, stick a knife into it, and let others cut off as much or as little as they want."
"Always a huge hit."
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"I actually pack spare condoms, some menstrual products, some aspirin and a water bottle, just to have it if anyone needs it."
"This is just for anywhere, but I always carry band-aids and ointment in my purse. It came in handy for other people and myself."
"Also a fresh pair of underwear because you never know."
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What Super Bowl?
"I once showed up to a Super Bowl party with an Ikea tote bag full of board/card games (in addition to a crockpot full of sweet and sour meatballs that were, admittedly, the star of the food table)."
"For some reason it didn't click in my mind until I got there that people might want to actually watch the Super Bowl at a Super Bowl party instead of play games, and I felt kind of silly for bringing them at first."
"Evidently, they didn't. By halftime, everyone was playing board games and ignoring the football game and it was the best Super Bowl party ever."
- somewanderer_13Super Bowl Snl GIF by Saturday Night LiveGiphy
What NOT To Bring
"Just don't be the acoustic guitar guy"
"I don't mean to sound rude, I love the sound of guitars but the "guitar guy" that just out of the blue starts singing and playing in a group makes me uncomfortable"
"My old roommate was the guy with the guitar until we had to have an intervention. Showing him all the memes made him realize it wasn't as endearing as he thought."
"I know a guy who brought an acoustic guitar to a party. A party with a live band. He was not in the band."
"Someone whipping out their guitar and singing will suddenly dominate the party and attract all attention. You can't play beer pong like you were just doing or carry on a conversation so it just kills that whole vibe."
"Leave it for campfires."
Let's do a quick overview:
- Bring dope snacks.
- AND ICE.
- Be ready to help clean up.
- Do not bring a guitar.
Go have some fun, champ!
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The key to any successful relationship is communication.
The ability to be open and receptive to what a significant other has to say, as well as the ability to be able to convey something weighing on one's mind, can be healing.
But depending on the circumstance, some things are better left unsaid.
Curious to hear examples of what those might be, Redditor FamiliarFarmer8356 asked:
"What's something you wish you could tell your partner without upsetting them?"
If there is conflict, there is a way to discuss and address the issue in a civil and respectful manner.
Things Just Happen
"Every bad thing that happens doesn't require someone to be blamed for it. And that someone doesn't always have to be me."
A Cornerstone Of A Successful Union
"One of the cornerstones of a good marriage, is knowing how to argue. I’d actually say that before a couple get married, they should check how their potential partner behaves in an argument. What are they like when they get angry. It’s important because no two individuals are going to agree all the time. And on those occasions, it’s important to remember not to belittle the other. Deal with the issue at hand. And especially, don’t argue in front of the kids. You have no idea how much lasting damage this causes."
"All married couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of making love. Good battle is objective and honest - never vicious or cruel. Good battle is healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principles of equal partnership."
It's Not That Deep
"please stop complaining about everything."
"If you keep seeking out reasons to be miserable, you will find them."
"I'm tired of being dragged down with you."
There's no need to get defensive when there's something to discuss.
It's Not About You
"That some days I’m just tired from class and work and just want some me time, it’s not that I hate you my social battery is just running out."
"Her first reaction to something adverse doesn't have to be anger."
In The Words Of A Pirate
"In the wise words of captain Jack Sparrow sometimes:"
'the problem is not the problem, the problem is your attitude toward the problem.'
It Takes Two To Tango
"That I wish she’d be more independent so she didn’t need my help for everything outside the house."
"That it’s a little disturbing how aggressively he drives when he’s grumpy… heavy on both gas and brakes, zooming in and out of traffic, swearing at people who make mistakes… very unlike him."
Sometimes the truth hurts when talking about members of the family.
A Real Assessment
"That her mother is not a good person."
"I told my husband that it's not that his family is nosy and overbearing, it's that I hate watching him cave and negotiate as if they have a right to behave like this, and I really hate when I'm the bad guy for wanting reasonable limits."
"It got worse, then it got better, FYI."
"His parents are greedy, selfish people and treat him like an atm."
There's definitely a fine line between withholding your thoughts to protect the person you love and being brutally honest.
If coming clean isn't going to resolve an issue, then it might be better to suck it up and deal with whatever frustrations you have about the other person.
It's up to you, but make sure the delivery doesn't come from a place of rage if you do decided to be totally transparent about your negative thoughts.
Every family has a black sheep or every family in its entirety are black sheep.
What is a "black sheep" anyway?
It used to mean a person who brought shame or embarrassment to a family, but it's more often used now to mean the member who is just very different from everyone else—sometimes in a good way.
Redditor Frozen_yoghurt123 asked:
"Who is the 'black sheep' of your family?"
I'm the black sheep or at least I'd like to think so.
"Probably my dad's cousin, who went to prison for murdering his lover's husband."
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"My Dad. He is the only one of 6 siblings who wasn't a huge f**k up. And yet, before my Grandma died she stated that he was her 'biggest disappointment.' He is estranged from his surviving siblings... not by his choice. It honestly blows my mind."
"Toxicity is often a group mindset thing; people don't want you to leave because they are dysfunctionally co-dependent on each other and need each other to justify their own shortcomings in life. A lot of the 'family loyalty' stuff is typically shouted loudest by those who are the least good idea to stay loyal towards."
"My great uncle who stole my great grandfathers identity, stole a couple million dollars, and ran off. No one even knew he was alive until my great grandfathers funeral in 2009. No one has seen him since. My grandma started to cry because she honestly thought he was dead."
"Everyone else just kind of nodded on his direction and went on with the rest of the funeral. I just remember being very confused because I was 9 and I had never met this guy who my dad pulled me aside and told me he was my great uncle. It was a few years later that I got the full story."
"According to my mean aunt, the 'matriarch' in her own mind, it's my twin brother because "he doesn't care about family now that he's a doctor." (He's a resident. Chief resident. He works ridiculous hours and spends the rest of the time recovering from work.)"
"According to my ex-MIL (who still counts because she's Son's grandma), it's me, for divorcing her son."
"According to everyone else, it's Mean Aunt. The rest of us are warm and caring and compassionate. We have our moments; all of us have been accidentally thoughtless or done something selfish once in a while, but we're not deliberately mean and snarky all the time."
"My immediate family are the black sheep of the entire family."
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Sounds like everyone has a little black sheep in them.
"By now, my brother for cutting off everyone because he prefers his rude, selfish, paranoid, narcissist wife over all of us."
"My wife is the black sheep of her family in the sense that she's the only one who isn't a rude, selfish, paranoid narcissist."
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"Me. My granddaddy told me 'I’ve only had the sheriff knock on my door two times in my 80 years, and both times he was looking for you! 'I did some dumb sh*t, caused a little trouble, burned a few bridges but always managed to stay out of jail. Partly because my sister has kept an attorney on retainer for me since I was 16."
"My younger brother (2nd of 4) is a compulsive liar and it got him in a lot of little trouble as a teen, then he told his wife he graduated a big college when we're not even sure if he got his GED because he failed to graduate HS, went to some GED school and eventually just stopped going."
"IF he graduated college, he never mentioned he was going in the 4+ years it takes nor mention graduation or have a diploma. He's not a bad dude, but now family time is super awkward when he and his wife are talking about 'their' college team."
The NOT good girl...
"My aunt's daughter. She’s been in jail for drugs, stolen money from my aunt and other family members to use on drugs and physically abused my aunt. My aunt has tried getting her help, but nothing has worked. She’s just not a good person, and everyone in my family, except my aunt, doesn’t want anything to do with her. I haven’t seen her in 8 years now, and I’m happy about that."
"A former nun - my great aunt - left the religious life and got married. She called herself 'the black sheep of the family' because her habit was black."
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Well the black sheep sound like the most interesting family members.
Sex is great, but there are more ways than one to accomplish that euphoric feeling without sex.
There are so many small, ordinary aspects of life that can just send a person and we come across them daily.
A good steak.
A home repair.
The things that make you say...
"I tingle all over."
Redditor OldAboba asked:
"What is the best non-sexual physical feeling you’ve ever felt?"
Adele. Adele live. She sends me.
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"I got a professional full body (everything but my man parts) massage a few years back for the first and so far only time at a spa after the recommendation from a coworker. I felt like I was floating on a cloud for the next few days."
Through your nose...
"Sneezing when you're sick. Then you get that about 20 second feeling of breathing through your nose again and you like ahh that's what I aspire to at the moment."
"Or the very last sneeze of your illness. During a fire drill in high school, I was ambling out after fighting a head old for a few days. The alarm was killing my head which was already throbbing from the sinus pressure."
"I was nearing the field, well away from my classmates, when I cough/sneezed out a huge, green loogie - cleared it about three feet, no icky trail - and by the time I was walking back to the building I was feeling pretty much back to normal. No more head cold after that. Never had something like that ever happen again where there was such an abrupt end to the head cold."
"Right after a migraine goes away. It's almost a spiritual experience."
"This was going to be my answer. I was in the ER one time for a really bad migraine. They gave me what they called a 'migraine cocktail.' When they pushed it through the IV I could feel the cold liquid make its way through my body, up to my head. Once it hit my brain, the migraine was gone. It was pure ecstasy. Even better was that cocktail had Benadryl in it so I fell asleep not long after and slept so good."
"That stretch til you shake when you wake up."
"I once stretched too hard in the morning and got the worst calf cramp ever... it looked like a prune and I thought I would die from the pain. Couldn't stretch in bed for months afterwards out of fear it would happen again."
"When you move over 50, it turns into that stretch til you put your back into a muscle spasm that lasts days."
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"I had a cast and splint on both my legs for 2 months. When they cut it off, they scratched my legs for me and the itch was just top notch! Yeah."
Itching an itch can change a life.
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"When you're starving all day and devour a bomb a** meal."
Sleep for Life
"When you’ve been up for 20 hours+ and finally get into bed and you just know it’ll be the best sleep of your life."
"But man, after 36+ hours, the body sort of aches and it's hard to fall asleep despite being completely exhausted. Then the restless legs kick in... ugh. I do agree that a 20hr-ish stint is amazing to cuddle into, especially if you don't have to get up at any specific time the next day."
"Makes it better when you’ve been sleep deprived for weeks and know you have NO PLANS tomorrow and can sleep as much as you need."
"When you're absolutely busting for a pee and you can finally go!"
"Apparently there’s a thing called a 'pee-gasm' that people (usually women) have that causes an orgasmic feeling when you pee after holding it for a while! I’ve definitely experienced this and I’ve intentionally waited a while so I could have that good feeling... lol."
I Can Hear!!
"The feeling of water leaving your ear after being there all day."
"I had some impacted earwax for a week in one ear, and when it finally got removed it was the best feeling in the world. Initially it was like having a tv or radio in my ear that only had static, but then I could hear. Good god, I could hear. It was amazing."
"Oh man, and it’s WARM from being in your head, and the warmth makes the sensation of leaving even better."
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"Sleeping in a warm blanket in winters."
"Or sleeping in a cold blanket in summer."
I am enthralled by all of those things.
People need to stop throwing out unwanted advice.
And when it is requested, think before you speak.
People with mental disorders don't need everyone telling them they have a fix like "exercise" or "herbal supplements."
Redditor Gold-Ad-2827 asked:
"People with mental disorders: What do you hate being told the most?"
I hated being told to just smile. You smile and go away.
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"It's all in your head. Where else would it?! My colon?"
"Everybody goes through that."
"This saying makes my blood boil. Or the 'I was that age once too ya know' yeah no sh*t you were that age once. And just because you were that age once doesn’t mean we have the same experience."
"They try to minimize it."
"You're worried? Just stop."
"You're sad? Just don't be."
"You're compulsively binge eating? Eat less."
"Thanks for that stellar advice."
"Or even better, 'Just do it!' As if ADHD paralysis can be stopped with a can-do attitude."
"I get so frustrated when people treat the idea of 'holistic medicine' as some kind of woo. How does it escape so many people that the body works holistically? Even a lot of doctors seem to ignore this. It's very frustrating when you have 2 or 3 or 4 illnesses that are all affecting each other, and your 'physical health' is held distinct from your mental health, and nothing anyone is doing to treat you works because no one's looking at the whole system."
"I just got a lecture from a psychiatrist I am seeing about nutrition, and he apologized to me for doing so but I told him, 'No, I appreciate it. Do it for all your patients.' because it told me he's trying to look at the whole picture and actually fix what's wrong. It gave me faith in him."
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"You need to calm down."
"Never is the history of calm down has calm down ever caused anyone to calm down."
Calm down. I hate that one. You calm down.
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"When they try to give me tips on what to do, like bruh as if I didn't already try that."
"You don't look sad. No crap... that's so I can avoid having this conversation. Also depression isn't 'being sad' like people think."
"God, I hate this. It's because saying 'I'm depressed' has been standard for people expressing that they're slightly unhappy about something dumb like not getting enough croutons on their salad or some crap. Now that's just what everyone assumes you mean when you say you have depression."
"'Stop being lazy.'"
“'Lazy' is when you don’t want to do anything at all. 'Executive disfunction' is when you can do everything at all, but that one easy quick thing that you do want to do just makes you and your brain freeze completely days ahead. I’m tired of people not understand that even when I explain and look at me like I’m bullshitting instead."
Ways to Cope
"Maybe you should try praying harder. I did, He prescribed medication."
"Praying is a way to cope for a lot of people, I think. That's totally fine, but insisting on praying in lieu of getting real help or actually addressing the issue is when it is not only unhelpful, but dangerously detrimental."
"Religious people will bypass everyone’s cultures, identity, views, and feelings just to be right and make a point. it’s disgusting. I read somewhere that real so called Christianity is all wrong. The real faith is from the Aramaic history and all the meanings were misinterpreted and the stories and all were made up by Catholics wanting to control their people. Yuck."
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"As someone with OCD with a lot of attention to 'contamination', having someone try to explain contradictions in why I'm doing something that is technically unclean when I wouldn't do something that is technically clean due to OCD. There are a few doorknobs that I will not touch no matter how much you clean them in front of me and I know it makes no sense, if it made sense I wouldn't have OCD i'd just be cleanly."
Stop trying to be an armchair therapist. Be empathetic to people first.