One of the most freeing realizations I've had was when I understood that not everyone was going to like me.

That's just the way it is for all of us, and I learned that it would be unfair for me to dedicate so much time worrying about what others might think.

It changed my life––improved it, I'd say. That, combined with my willingness to take responsibility for my own actions, was crucial to my self-development.

But some people, believe it or not, learn this too late.

People shared their observations after Redditor Vicsilvia asked the online community,

"What are the lessons people most often learn too late in life?"

"The ones who stay with you..."

"Friends will disappoint and drift apart over time - even ones you thought would always 'be there.'"

"The ones who stay with you and grow together over a lifetime are rare."

Back2Bach

This is a big one. Some people you think will be around forever will absolutely not be.

Things happen, and you will more than likely weather at least some heartbreak.

"When my elderly uncle..."

"Don't buy too much crap. When my elderly uncle wanted to downsize, it took him almost a year to empty his big house. Most of his stuff was still brand new."

sonia73quebec

Every time I've moved I've been shocked by just how much stuff I've managed to accumulate.

I've since grown much more conscious of this and try to purge things on a regular basis.

If I'm not actively using it, then what is the point?

"A lot of people act like exercise..."

"Taking care of your body is best treated as a proactive effort and not exclusively a reactive one."

"A lot of people act like exercise is something you only do to lose weight, or sunscreen is something you only wear at the beach in the summer, or that mental health services are only for folks with mental illness, when in fact these are things everyone should be incorporating into their routines throughout their life."

techtchotchke

One of the hardest parts of the pandemic? The lack of gym time. (I genuinely enjoy it.)

But I made do because at least some exercise is better than none. You'd be surprised how quickly bad habits catch up with you.

"Not everyone has to like you..."

"Not everyone has to like you and it's okay if they don't. Don't get hung up on it too much."

TheEvilGoats

Think of how much easier life could be if many of us learned this early!

"It's okay to be the one..."

"Don't tally up your friendships. If you're thinking about someone, reach out. It's okay to be the one who reaches out more often. Especially if you're more extroverted than your friends!"

stink3rbelle

Please reach out! I try to do this, but can acknowledge that life has totally gotten away from me in the past.

Definitely a good idea to get into the habit now.

"I went through this realization..."

"Often people consider themselves logical because they don't feel emotions driving their decisions."

"Turns out, this is usually because they're not good at feeling (detecting) their emotions, and not because the emotions aren't there!"

"I went through this realization for myself at one point."

"Good rationality isn't the absence of emotion. It's understanding the emotions you have on an issue, and accounting for them in your analysis of the situation."

TheBertinator3000

I have never heard this explained in such a manner, but it's succinct and truthful.

Definitely food for thought.

"One of the most common regrets..."

"Your job is not your life. One of the most common regrets dying people have is that they worked too much and didn't spend enough time with loved ones."

DepressedElephant

Yeah, don't slave away for your job. You will pay for it with your mental and physical health.

Most of us learn this eventually, I think.

"Stop worrying..."

"Stop worrying about what other people think. In reality, they're paying far less attention than you think they are."

CatoctinDave

But what if they aren't?!

Just kidding. This is true. Most people are too busy to worry about what a stranger is thinking.

"That making everything about politics..."

"That making everything about politics at every opportunity and never being able to turn that off is a great way to make yourself and the people around you miserable."

MyHeartFeelsLikeWood

I understand this to a degree.

Personal politics can say a lot about someone's values, which is why many Americans over the last few years have found themselves at odds with their family members.

"No matter how much..."

"No matter how much it is portrayed in the media or how much you wish it were so, life is not fair."

"Sometimes there are good breaks, sometimes bad. Good people will die young, bad people will get ahead."

sw33tzmbiejesus

This is unfortunately true, and many of us will feel cheated by it. There is no grand design. Sometimes things go wrong, whether we like it or not.

You'd be surrpised by how much learning you'll do over the course of your life. No one has it entirely figured out.

The sooner you realize that, the more peace you'll find.

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I may not be popular for saying this, but I think comedy is the best form of entertainment.

However, it’s not always easy to find great comedy.

There are lots of comedians who make me smile or even make me laugh at a joke or two. Yet, it’s really hard to find a comedian who can keep me laughing through their whole set.

If you’re having trouble finding those kinds of comedians, or are just ready to find a new comedian to enjoy, Redditors are here to help.

Probably hoping to find a great comedian themself, Redditor Plastic_Ad_6179 asked:

"Who's the best comedian of all time in your opinion?"

Sean Lock

"Sean Lock"

"For many reasons, but mainly for being the undisputed champion of the world in...Carrot In A Box:"

– Rymundo88

"What a HUGE talent. Luckily he left a lot of great footage. Terrible loss."

– Pan-tang

"The comedians comedian"

– FrederickBishop

George Carlin

"George Carlin."

"Honorable mention to Bill Burr."

– gobigred3562

"When I turned 21, my mom took me to Vegas. We saw Carlin perform and we laughed solidly for 90 minutes. I don’t remember any of the jokes, but I have never laughed like that since. He was a true master of the art."

– drCrankoPhone

"Carlin is the only correct answer. Nobody will ever touch that level of wit, wordplay, satire, and social commentary."

"Nobody."

– reflUX_cAtalyst

Mike Birbiglia

"I went to a Mike Birbiglia show at Zanies in Nashville back in 2008. Guy killed…got up on stage, told 1 story. Took him 90 minutes to get through that story. The whole time, he’s veering off on tangents that seemed completely natural, conversational even. Each tangent was a tiny hilarious story itself. The show seemed so smooth and flowed so naturally, that I could hardly believe it was written. It was masterful. Sure, he doesn’t tell jokes that leave you breathless with laughter, but he does tell jokes that get 90% of the way there with such consistency that I’m actually more impressed with that than the former."

– mavol

Norm MacDonald

"In terms of:"

  • "Being at the top of his game for a long period of time"
  • "Being perfect at timing and execution"
  • "Understanding comedy to a degree that other comedians notice and respect"
  • "Being clever and witty on the spot"
  • "Having memorable jokes and killer standup routines"

"Norm MacDonald"

– warpus

"My favorite story about Norm MacDonald I've heard is that when he was coming up if he bombed he'd wait in the back of the club after the show to shake everyone's hand in their way out. If he killed he wouldn't. What a legend."

– SixPieceTaye

"If you asked a group of comedians who their favorite comedian is I'd bet Norm would be near the top of the list. So much of his material was a deconstruction of comedy itself. If Norm MacDonald tells you a bad joke, and you laugh, is it still a bad joke? Why is it funny? Are you laughing at him or is he laughing at you?"

– foldingcouch

Mitch Hedberg

"Mitch Hedberg. RIP."

– onepotatotwopotato3

"I used to love that guy. I still do but I used to too."

– ChefHannibal

""I got in an argument with a girlfriend inside of a tent. That’s a bad place for an argument, because I tried to walk out, and had to slam the flap.""

""F**k you, zzzzzzzzzzip""

– StarktheGuat

Monty Python

"Monty Python, as a group."

"I don't think there's been a single more influential comedy act than Flying Circus."

– EarlyBirdsofBabylon

"I agree with it just because it’s one of the few non-American mentions here. People seriously think that humor ends on American Stand Up and television…"

"Also Monty Python is ALWAYS funny"

– RockThePlazmah

Robin Williams

"Robin Williams."

– Flicksterea

"Live on Broadway stands as one of the most memorable things I have ever watched."

– Grimlock64

"Idk why he isn’t higher on this list or mentioned more often. Robin Williams had absolutely insane improv skills. Watch the episode of Who’s Line with him as the guest star, the rest of the cast can’t keep it together."

– _xXmyusernameXx_

Lucille Ball

"Lucille Ball"

– LusciousofBorg

"Scrolled this far to find a female comedian! Love Lucille Ball"

– boonybun

"I saw I Love Lucy was streaming a couple months ago. Having watched it as a kid, I figured I’d put it on for a nostalgic chuckle. I was not ready for that show to be so, so funny—I nearly passed out I was laughing so hard."

– mypantsareawesome

"She was a comedic genius."

– DrWorm_DD

Rowan Atkinson

"Rowan Atkinson (John Cleese closely second)"

– DarkFluids777

"Atkinson is such an amazing physical comedian that it’s basically overlooked that he’s a first-rate stand-up, as well."

– HilariousSpill

Eddie Murphy

"Eddie Murphy"

– onterrible1

"He saved SNL. They wouldn't be on air today were it not for Murphy"

– Blackgurlmajik

"Goat of comedy"

– IndependenceScary644

Comedy may not be everyone’s favorite form of entertainment, but it is a can’t miss, so long as the comedian in question is a good one.

Luckily, we’ve got some great suggestions above.