It doesn't take much to get to know someone. Odds are the way you dress, the way you speak, or even the way you greet someone gives away a lot more than you think. These signs are easy to pick up on if someone pays even a little bit of attention. Though, there are some things that stand out as easily unlikable when you meet someone, like the following entries below.
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What things instantly make a person unlikable?
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An Explanation, Not An Excuse
People that refuse to own up to their sh-tty behavior and instead blame it on some sort of mental/physical disorder. Bonus points if it isn't formally diagnosed and they're just making sh-t up.
As somebody who has been diagnosed with ASD, those kinds of people make my blood boil. Having a disorder is an explanation, not an excuse for bad behaviour.
People who make mean "jokes" constantly.
Sure if we have an existing rapport, that can be apart of it. But if youre coming out of the gate constantly sh-tting on other people and saying "its just a joke", Im going to assume youre just an a--hole.
undisclosedinsanityCome On, Nerds, We Can Be Better Than This.
Gatekeeping. Or when I try to connect with someone over a shared hobby/interest and they're immediately abrasive over it, or shoot me down because I'm not as into it as they are.
"Cool Darth Vader shirt! I love Star Wars! What did you think of Rise of Skywalker?"
"Well for starter's is The Rise of Skywalker, and second of all, the fact you even ask that shows you aren't a real fan, otherwise you'd know it was objectively terrible. Let's try this one hot shot, what's droid D3-A1's programmer's home world's regional governor's teacher's pet's name? You don't know? Didn't think so."
Look At Me, Everybody! Look At Me!
That constant need of attention that makes them compete with other people by raising their volume, one-upping their stories, or being "relatable" and "quirky".
I had a former friend who would constantly be trying to one-up one of my other friends. If my friend got a date, then this guy is sleeping with 3 different women at once. The funny thing is that we had another friend confirm that the stories were fake, or twisted to make himself look like the world' biggest pussy slayer, when the stories all ended up with him being rejected in reality.
We're All Trying To Be Better People.
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If they mock others for their attempts to be a better person and try to drag them back down.
Like when someone orders a salad or grilled chicken instead of a fat greasy cheeseburger, and the other people in the group tease them about it. Like...why? Maybe their metabolism isn't as amazing as yours. Just let them make healthier choices if they want to.
Very Easy To Mistake The Two
Arrogance, i hate arrogance with a passion.
Yup, there's a line between confidence and arrogance, and I don't think a lot of people know where it is.
E.g. if you're confident, you're self-assured enough to be able to admit when you're wrong. If you're arrogant, you'll insist you're right no matter what because being wrong hurts your ego.
Killing You With Kindness Bullets
People who are polite character assassins. You know - the kind of person who manipulate others for their own benefit, putting others down with a smile on their face and gaining rapport with the ones who benefit them.
Most people don't even know what those are
'putting others down with a smile on their face' - I know multiple people like this and I've done my best to stop talking to them entirely.
C'Mon, Man, We're All Just People Here.
Being rude to people.
Especially waiting staff and customer service and support persons. I instantly cant stand you if you are rude to people who serve others.
Did I Tell You...?
When someone can't stop bragging
Did I tell you my little Timmy placed second in the state in chess? Did I tell you my spouse sends me a text every morning without fail? Did I tell you that I've met 8 celebrities and they were all so down to earth except this one...
Did I tell you....
We're All Flawed. Just Open Up To It.
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People who refuse to see their mistakes and expect everyone else to forgive them time and time again even though they refuse to change and better themselves.
"A sorry without change is just manipulation"
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But we should also be prepared and ready to ask the right questions to have a leg up on the competition.
"What is THE best question to ask on a job interview?"
A company's history or information about a past employee were suggested subjects appropriate for questioning.
Prior Knowledge
"When you were interviewing here, what would you have liked to know before you joined?"
"This worked for me. I asked my interviewer a question about how she had personally dealt with a company policy she had just explained. She bragged about her stellar adherence to the policy. I nodded my approval. I got the job."
A Previous Employee
"One that has always gone over well for me:"
"What were some qualities that the previous employee in this role brought to the job that you would like to see carried forward?"
"Another good thing to do is research the company you are interviewing with and you can ask things about what they may be involved in or you could drop that while reading about the company, you wondered this."
Hypothetical questions were suggested as helpful examples of inquiry.
Indicators Of How Companies Treat Employees
"A question that landed me a job once was: 'If I asked your direct reports about your management style, what do you think they'd tell me?' Stumped a hiring manager and he emailed me personally to tell me about it, no one ever asked him that question but got the job.
"In my current interviews I'm asking 'what did your company do for its employees during [the virus] to improve their day to day, work life balance, etc.' and I ask 'Is there anything your company adopted during [the virus] that they plan to keep post [the virus]?"
"These questions give a lot of insight into whether a company treated their employees well."
Past Performance & Adjustments
"If we were currently sitting in my 1 year review, what would I have done in this year for you to say I excelled in my role?"
"If I could snap my finger right now and change anything about your job or the company, what would it be and why?"
The following questions about a prospective company may not be answered from initial digging on their website.
Measure Of Success & Career Trajectories
"How is success measured in this role?"
"What are some possible career trajectories within the company that could stem from this position?"
Being A Solution
"Ask them what is the biggest problem you can solve for them in your first six months with the company. Similar to 'don't think of a purple hippo,' this forces them to imagine you succeeding in the position."
Simply The Best
"Who is your best employee and why is he/she the best?"
"You will then face 2 situations mostly:"
"panicking CEO who can't answer you 'Bob who works 17 hours a day for a slice of bread' so the fear in their faces must be a big nono for you"
"entusiast CEO who actually follow their business and can tell you who is an added value for the company and why."
– ThePiz91
My experiences with job interviews are different than others seeking work in office environments.
Having had a years-long career as a dancer, my "interview" was the dance audition, where hopefuls dance in small groups of people at a time after learning a routine and then awaiting their fate after the panel evaluates their performances.
The question I may or may not have asked in such a scenario earlier in my career was: "Did I make the cut?"
I did not make the cut. And I learned never to ask that again.
I remember the worst date I ever had. My biggest regret is that I stayed for the entire thing. I should've left as soon as I realized this was not going well, which was basically at hello. But he was paying so I drank, a lot. I'll keep names and dates to myself to protect the innocent.
0/10
Big Brother Reaction GIF by Big Brother After DarkGiphy"Went to brewery, date said I had hairy arms and that meant I was horny, said "you look really awful in this light" and then tried to dig out of that hole by saying in his native language that was a term of endearment long term couples said to each other. 0/10 did not date again."
Lucky 13?
"My wife wanted to plan our 13th wedding anniversary. I was excited because usually, I plan it. She bought us some new disc golf discs and after a quick supper, we went to play. We hadn't played in forever. We were laughing and I had a great time. She served me with divorce papers and told me that the date was a test to see if she still had feelings for me. I also learned that she was having an affair that started well before our anniversary."
- rmorlock
Two Hours from Home
"Not necessarily a date but a person I was dating invited me to his parent's house for the afternoon. He wanted to introduce me to them and show me the house he grew up in. I thought it was super sweet and had no problems going. He was also in the middle of moving and needed to pick up a few things, so it really didn't seem that unusual."
"Yeah, we got there and it was awful. His entire family was there. They traveled from hours away too. This was not just meeting the parents, it was meeting the ENTIRE family. Even worse? At some point, this idiot told his parents that he had proposed. We had been dating TWO months. I spent the entire afternoon dumbfounded and just playing along."
"We were two hours from home and I had no cell service, no way to leave at all. We ended up spending the afternoon brainstorming wedding ideas and planning an Alaskan honeymoon that his parents planned to gift us. His brother even called to say congratulations! We drove back to his apartment in silence. When we got there, I got in my car and left, didn't even bother grabbing my stuff. Weirdest experience ever. I have no idea how he broke it to his parents that we weren't getting married."
You're Cut Off!
"Got set up on a blind date once between mutual friends. She shows up to the restaurant already a little tipsy, orders multiple appetizers and only takes like one or two bites from each one. Then she proceeds to order 3 or 4 more drinks and is visibly drunk at this point. She gets up and says she's going to the bathroom and staggers off. About 15-20 minutes go by so I try to call her several times but no answer."
"Finally I decide to pay the check and just leave. About 2 hours later I'm sitting at home and I get a call from an unknown number. It's the police department. She was picked up on a DUI on her way home after she ditched me and gave the cops my number to see if I could go bail her out!"
- mox44ah
Sorry?
Bbc Three Idk GIF by BBCGiphy"Well, I gave this answer on a different topic, but it ties in with this. We were out on a date, we had been seeing each other for a while, close to a year maybe. She gets a phone call. Suddenly she looks destroyed. Her fiancé had just died in a motorcycle accident."
What in the world? I mean how can we ever expect to pair off with the dating pool being inundated with liars and nut jobs? I'm going to delete my apps.
Girl, Bye.
Sassy Beyonce GIFGiphy"Had a girl openly flirt with the bartender in front of me. She says she wasn't. But handing him her own phone and asking for his contact info in front of her date seems like it to me."
Crazy!
"Came out from a movie, late at night, and date's Camaro was stolen. Apparently, he called his WIFE (that I did not know he had) and let her know where he was and what happened. She showed up and realized he was on a date! She started chasing ME around the parking lot telling me she was going to kill me. Saved by the cops who showed up just in time to take the auto theft report."
Hey Mom
"Met a girl at a country bar one night in my 20s. We were both pretty drunk but hit it off pretty good. Ended up getting her number and we agreed we'd go on a real date. Fast forward to the date, she gets in my vehicle and... she looks almost identical to my mom. I was mortified. I was polite and we went for lunch where I found out she also had a boyfriend she "wasn't sure if she was into". Never talked to her again."
- SgtGo
Liars...
"When I was in college many years ago, before the advancement of cell phones and social media, I was chatting with a girl I met on a BBS who lived on Long Island, NY. I was 18 at the time, but lied and said I was 22 because she said she was 25. We spent a few weeks emailing each other, as well as calling each other."
"We even exchanged pics. When we finally met up, things blew up. Turns out we both lied about our ages: She was really 33, and lied because she thought she looked younger. She admitted she sent a college photo to me. We still had dinner together, but it was awkward as hell. We never spoke again."
Doubles
Kill Me Now Season 1 GIF by FriendsGiphy"It was a double date. She was more interested talking to the other girl throughout the whole thing. Found out later from the other guy that his girl cheated on him with my date."
Ummm... I think I'm just going to stay single. That is a handful of crazy. Why can't people just be honest? I swear the search for love warps people's brains. Be careful out there people.
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