People Reveal How They Really Feel About Flirting In The Workplace

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Flirting is always a delicate balance.

While an obvious way to get someone's attention, and let them know they find them attractive and (hopefully), are interested in dating them, it's not always appreciated.

As some people find flirting to be little more than thinly veiled sexual harassment, particularly when intentions are less than honorable.

Flirting is an even more dangerous game when in the office.

While some people flirt with colleagues for little more than harmless fun, others take flirting in the workspace much more seriously.

Whether they're the ones doing the flirting, or the ones being flirted to.


Redditor sunnyhappysky was eager to hear people's honest feelings about flirting in the workspace, leading them to ask:
"What's your opinion on flirting with / hitting on co-workers at work?"

Avoid In Office... Free Reign Outside

"I dated a coworker."

"We were not flirty or anything at work (it was a very professional/corporate place) but we went out to lunch together most days."

"We actually started off working in separate offices across the country but went to business events almost monthly and hung out."

"We only worked together a few years but have been married going on 28 years."- ncconch

Just Remember, No Means No...

If you socialize with them outside of work, that's the right time to flirt. And if they tell you no, then make sure you forget all about them before you come in to work the next day.- Metal-Dog

Just Don't

"That can go south quickly and cause a lot of issues."- Material_Joke1324

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As long As It's Done With Care And Good Intentions

"20% of married couples meet at work."

"Can’t really get away from that."

"That’s why most companies train to distinguish between sexual harassment and flirting, which is totally allowed if it is done in a non-harassing way."

"I dated a coworker."

'I’m female and he’s male."

"Same department, same titles."

"I started flirting on messenger first."

"We dated for 3 years and were always professional at work."

"We 'came out' after one year, shocking everyone."

"Coworkers were very supportive."

"After 3 years we broke up amicably and worked together with no drama or issues."

'I understand that this is probably an outlier but it does happen."- typical_friday

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Just Be Open To All Possibilities

"I admitted to a co-worker I had a huge crush on that I liked her on a staff night out."

"She didn’t reciprocate those feelings."

"She dealt with it really well at work but it absolutely ripped my heart out and made seeing her every day very difficult."

"It’s a real gamble, could work out for you as it has a few people in this thread but I’d never do it again."- knopparp

"Anything that could lead to you f*cking your coworkers is a risky move."

"Source: spent several years as a 'f*cks her coworkers' girlie."- glittertits09

What You Do On Your Own Time...

"F*ck it! "

"Do it on the boss's desk."

"Leave a souvenir."- justimus_maximus

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Too Big A Risk To Be Worth It...

"You're playing with firecrackers, while checking the gas line."

"Because, you're not sure your oven is working."- K_Odena

As The Saying Goes...

"Don’t dip your pen in the company ink."- Agreeable_Stick_6484

"Never dip your pen in the company ink, as they say."

"If things go south, it can cause a lot of problems in the workplace."

"You don't want to be working with a vindictive ex, or have any kinds of personal issues with someone you have to work with regularly that might affect your work output."

"Plus, you run a very serious risk of losing your job due to sexual harassment, or fraternization rules."- SweetCosmicPope

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What Will Other's Say?

"It’s fun, but I’ve been getting weird looks at the family business."- GroundbreakingFox833

Stay Away From Prying Eyes...

"If it's reciprocal, go for it."

"Just probably don't do it with other people around."

"Some people here are overreacting."- AReformedHuman

Just Be Careful, And Know Your Place

"Everyone here is overreacting."

"Don’t be a creep or a weirdo and also don’t presume to know somebody just because you work at the same place."

"The same rules that apply everywhere."

"But also don’t try and get with inferiors or superiors."

"Other than that go for it."- Pepsplayed

When at work, it's a generally acknowledged rule of thumb to always be on your best behavior.

So if you think flirting might get you into trouble, probably best to avoid it.

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