We all talk about the creepy things that men do in romantic or sexual settings. But to be fair, there are women (and non-binary people) who can be just as cringeworthy. Where is the line drawn between obsessive and sweet? Here are some answers from the men of Reddit.
u/Master_Lego_Yoda asked: Guys of reddit, what makes a girl creepy?
17 times?!
I once told a girl I was going to take a nap and then call her after. In that hour I had 17 missed calls from her.
We never spoke again.
TIL that 17 is the optimum number to break a relationship.
Yikes.
Not taking no for an answer, when a girl feels entitled to your attraction, it's not only a turnoff but is SUPER creepy.
It's harassment. Especially when you reject her and then she starts telling people you're a creep you tried to get nudes and wanted to do sh*t to her.
Nope, this is assault.
They keep trying to kiss you even if you say no. Had a girl keep doing this, apparently I'm in the wrong for lightly pushing her away.
Reverse the genders and it's assault.
Not even reverse the genders. That's straight up just assault.
Woah.
When she changes her last name to yours on Facebook after a week of texting.
People do that?
I heard girls would try on the last names of their crush or new boyfriend, but in like a diary or notebook or something private. But this made me fear for my safety.
Don't do this.
GiphyMaking up stories for attention. Once went out with a girl, who lived MILES away and she texts me one night saying 2 guys broke in to her apartment, where she lived alone, were robbing her and she was locked in the bathroom. So naturally I call the cops in her area, who go around to check on her. She then texts me going completely nuts cos I sent the cops to check on her, since you know SHE WAS BEING ROBBED IN HER OWN HOME.
Turns out it was all just attention seeking bullsh*t. Needless to say she was ghosted after that. Ladies don't do shit like this...no one benefits.
So many red flags.
When they send far too many messages, call far too many times, and in general give off the vibe that they are obsessed with you. Crying if you you can't be with them at that moment.
Or when they get incredibly possessive to the point of threats if you ever want to leave - threats of saying that you raped them in particular make you question everything. Going through your phone and deleting other women from your contacts. Making you delete certain social media/etc.
And finally, stalking behavior, running into them all the time in public places or at your home or parents house.
Pretty much red flags galore.
Good intentions, but creepy.
GiphyHad a note left on my truck when I was in the service (early 2000s). Said I was handsome and to call. I spent 22 months out of 36 at sea and we were all over the Middle East, and my time on land was short, so I took the bait. Call and it was a civilian nurse. She was really embarrassed that her "friend" put the note on my truck. Who knows if her friend was real. I don't even know how the hell they even saw me, my truck was parked at the barracks. Anyways we talk on and off for a bit, but never meeting. Next time I talk to her she says she got the beer I like.
Me - "Wait, they don't sell that in this state, or the states around here. How did you get it?"
Nurse - "I drove 3 states away to get it!"
Me - "You drove over 150 miles away to get beer for me?"
Nurse - "Yeah!"
While some might think this was amazing, having never met the woman, I thought it was a little creepy and borderline stalker... maybe if we had been dating for several months it would be cool. But not the second phone call.
So, creepy.
Good point.
Probably not exactly what you were looking for.
As a gay man, the creepiest girls are the ones that won't stop pushing for me to be their gay best friend.
Just because I'm gay doesn't mean I want to gossip and go shopping and be a stereotype.
Definitely creepy.
- When they follow/friend every girl you're friends with on social media.
- When they get angry/annoyed at female customer service employees or angry/annoyed at you for interacting with female customer service employees.
- When they feel the need to constantly post pictures online to prove how happy your relationship is.
- When they talk to their friends about your sex life in graphic details.
Yikes.
Girl I met on this dating app for teenagers kept DM'ing me about how she didn't want me to hang out with other girls and she was just insane. Like I didn't even know her so I just blocked her.
A messed-up Elle Woods.
GiphyMy husbands ex-wife got dumped by a guy who said his feeling just weren't developing as they naturally should. She concocted an entire narrative in her head that he was just so in love with her that he was actually just really scared by his true feelings.
Then shortly after proceeded to change her entire degree plan from Political Science to Psychology so that she could move from AZ to GA "for school" which just happened to be right down the street from where he lived.
Um, what?
Measuring the weight of a carton of yoghurt in the morning before I wake up. Then when she came home later in the day she measured it again, and it weighed the same. She flipped out and threw yoghurt at me for not taking care of myself.
I literally have a hundred different examples like that. Toxic. The breakup was hard but necessary.
That's problematic.
Having a girl your aren't in a relationship with, telling people that you are her future husband.
It was a few years ago, and I had recently broken up with my ex-girlfriend. Hanging out with friends, one of my sister's friend was around. She was interested in me and apparently thought it was ok to tell lots of people that I was her future husband. I wasn't interested in her and never showed any interest in her. My sister even told her to knock it off, but the girl persisted.
What's even worse, she was in a relationship with another guy. Too bad he wasn't there. I'm sure he would really appreciate that kind of behavior.
After that my sister kind of distanced herself from that friend, until a year or so after when I started dating my now fiance. The crazy girl apparently asked sister who my fiance was, and said she wanted to beat up my fiance.
I got a great sister who has tried to distance herself from creepy girl, and creepy girl still tries to hang with my sister in hope that I'm single again someday.
Don't do this.
GiphyPersistence after being turned down/blatantly not interested in. Despite being fairly tall and bulky (6'2 210lbs) Im actually a pretty nice person (or so I'm told) but if I'm not interested in someone, I'm not going to dance around the fact, if they ask me out and I'm not interested I will say no. If they were my friend beforehand that doesn't change anything, unless they make it so.
One time last year when I was a junior, there was this one (I think sophomore or freshy) girl that was absolutely obsessed. Asked me out about 2 months into the year, turned her down because I was already in a dedicated relationship at the time. She was already part of a small friend group I had at the time so I didn't think anything of it. But over the course of the next week she asked me out three more times, threatened my girlfriend, followed me home once and called me 56 times, none of which I answered. She just couldn't accept that no means no and I'm fairly certain the next Monday was the first and only time I raised my voice at a girl ( yes I'm aware of this makes me sounds like a white knight but you have to keep in mind I'm this 6 ft guy and most girls at my school barely broke the 5'5 mark)
I didn't get any more grief after that.
Sounds like an HR issue.
Bro. This girl at my work keeps coming near me. And touching me. Talk about personal space. I will go work on something and she comes following me. She makes deathly stare eye contact and it gives me the creeps.
Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.
Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?
But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.
It would be so great to be sure there is something else.
But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.
Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:
"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"
Sensations
Happy Good Vibes GIF by Major League SoccerGiphy"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."
PeachesnPain
Recovery
"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."
"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."
"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."
good_golly99
Take Me Back
"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."
"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."
rayrayrayray
Free
The Light Minnie GIF by (G)I-DLEGiphy"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."
TooReDTooHigh
This is why I hate surgery.
You just never know.
Shocked
Giphy"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."
Admirable_Buyer6528
The SOB
"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."
"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”
1-cupcake-at-a-time
Colors
"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"
Hannah_LL7
"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"
huntokarrr
The Fog
"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."
"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."
Fluffy-Hotel-5184
Through the Walls
"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."
"She's quite alive and well today."
Hot-Refrigerator6583
Well let's all be happy to be alive.
It seems to be all we have.
Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.
The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.
Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.
Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:
"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"
Redditors didn't see these coming.
Shiver Me Timbers
"I’m always cold now!"
– Telrom_1
"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."
– r7ndom
"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."
– mr_remy
Drawing Concern
"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."
– dee-fondy
"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"
"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."
– LizardofDeath
Unleashing Insults
"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”
"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."
– alanamablamaspama
Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight
"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."
– KeltarCentauri
"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."
– KatMagic1977
"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."
– Jaew96
These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.
Shopping
"I can buy clothes in any store I want."
– WaySavvyD
"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."
– ganache98012
No More Symptoms
"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."
– colleennicole93
Expanding Capabilities
"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."
– Ramblonius
People Change Their Tune
"How much nicer people are to you."
"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"
– LiZZygsu
"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"
"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"
– awholedamngarden
It's gonna take some getting used to.
Bones Everywhere
"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."
– Princess-Pancake-97
"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."
– bekastrange
Knee Pillow
"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."
– snic2030
"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."
– Strongbad23
More Mobility
"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."
"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."
– dma1965
People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.
But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.
That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.