Amateur sleuths love an unsolved mystery.
Crimes that have eluded detectives and forensic experts for decades – some even for centuries – remain an obsession for people who want answers and a sense of closure that justice can still be served.
Closed cases may not be as fascinating, but they should still provide a sense of relief.
"What are some SOLVED mysteries?"
There was closure for these cases involving missing persons and murder.
The McStay Family
"The McStay family disappearance and murders. In February of 2010, the McStay's, a family of 4 (Mom Summer, Dad Joseph, and sons Gianni and Joseph jr) seemingly vanished from their home- abruptly. A carton of eggs was left open on the counter and the family dogs were still outside in the backyard. The scene was eerie, and complicated because the home the McStays lived in was in the process of being renovated- so a 'neat and orderly' home wasn't the norm at this stage. It appeared there was missing furniture and the usual mess that comes with construction (some freshly painted or redone surfaces mixed with older versions). From the outside- it appeared the family just took off. Neighbor had surveillance that captured what appeared to be the bottom of the family SUV leaving the driveway."
"Since they were living in California, the border to Mexico wasn't far and authorities found footage of what appeared to be the McStay's walking into Mexico with their two little boys in tow. The family SUV was found abandoned in a mall parking lot near the Mexico border. 3 years passed before the bodies of the McStay's were found buried in shallow graves in the California desert. The bodies appeared to be in advanced decomposition and there were signs of blunt force trauma. A sledgehammer was also found buried with one of the bodies. Chase Merritt, a business partner to Joseph McStay, was arrested and charged with their murders on 11/5/2014. His trial was delayed for years until 2019. He was sentenced to death. Motive: Chase had a gambling addiction and had been and continued embezzling money from the business. His DNA was found in the McStay's abandoned vehicle. He bludgeoned this beautiful family to death for money."
"ETA link with more info - https://people.com/crime/mcstay-family-murders-killer-sentenced-death/"
Screenwriter's Alleged Suicide
"The Case of Adrienne Shelly - screenwriter for Waitress. Husband came home to find her hanging in the shower - ruled suicide."
"He insists she was happy and would never kill herself promoting another view of crime scene where they found a shoe print that matched a construction worker in the building."
"Sure enough the construction worker went to rob her and thought he killed her so staged a suicide when the hanging ended up being the actual thing that killed her."
Abducted Japanese Girls
"In the 1970s, a number of Japanese citizens disappeared from coastal areas in Japan. After many years it was found out that North Korea had abducted them."
"Most of the missing were in their 20s; the youngest, Megumi Yokota, was 13 when she disappeared in November 1977, from the Japanese west coast city of Niigata."
A Baby's Death
"The death of Azaria Chamberlain - https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Death_of_Azaria_Chamberlain"
"She was a two-month old girl who disappeared while camping with her parents near Uluru. Prosecutors successfully tried her mother for murder and father as an accessory. During the entire ordeal it was insisted by her mother that Azaria was taken by dingoes, native wild dogs in Australia. This was disregarded, as before this there were no records of dingoes showing any hostility towards humans or causing any attacks or fatalities nearby."
"Several years later, an unrelated search not far from the campground found a child's coat, of the exact brand and description Azaria's mother gave to the police, in an area littered with Dingo dens. The parents conviction was overturned and the case was established that in reality, she had been taken from her parents tent during the night, killed and eaten by dingos."
The Attack On Dan Rather
"Dan Rather was attacked and beaten on a New York street by two men who kept demanding, 'What's the frequency, Kenneth?' He was rescued by a doorman, and the two guys got away. For years, no one knew who they were."
"Then a man invaded NBC Studios and killed a stage hand. When captured, he explained that the networks were beaming radio messages into his head. He wanted to know the frequency they were using so he could jam the signals. Dan Rather was shown a mugshot and positively identified his attacker."
"Here's a New York Times article on it."
The water kept these mysteries unsolved for years.
"The disappearance of Antoine de Saint-Exupery, author of The Little Prince, who was also a French reconnaissance pilot during World War II."
"In 1944, he took off on a reconnaissance mission from Corsica and never made it back, and there was never any evidence of what might have happened to him and his plane."
"Finally, in 1998, a French fisherman pulled up his net and found wrapped in it a silver bracelet engraved with Saint-Exupery's name, and in 2004, a diver searched in the area and found the remains of his plane, which had apparently been shot down by a German fighter after all."
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More Than A Century Later
"The Erebus and the Terror were found a few years ago. The two ships were part of an artic expedition and dissapeared 150 years ago."
"1947 an British South American Airways aircraft named Star Dust disappeared, it's last message was simply 'STENDEC.' After an exhausting search, no trace of the aircraft was found. For years conspiracy theories and talk of Alien abduction circulated."
"Till 1998, when mountain climbers on a remote mountain found an engine, pieces of metal, and clothing at the bottom of a glacier on the side of Mount Tupungato. Turns out the aircraft got caught flying the wrong way in the jet stream while it was flying at night and using a system of timing when to start their decent. Being in the jet stream reduced their airspeed in relation to the earth and they smacked themselves straight into the side of a mountain, after which an avalanche covered the wreckage. The wreckage took decades to flow down the side of the mount with the glaciers. The glacier preserved the wreck so well that 50 years later the recovery team found identifiable remains, personal items, and could read serial numbers on the engines. Amazing one of the landing gear tires was still inflated, and that teams continued to visit the site for periodically as more of the aircraft, cargo, and remains of passengers are still emerging from the ice."
The Windsor Hum
"Residents of Windsor (Canada) have been saying they could hear a hum coming from across the river in Detroit for the better part of a few decades. Well turns out that when a steel producer turned their furnaces off recently (when they were closing up shop) the Hum stopped. People had no idea what the noise could be until the factory closed."
"Edit: also a little fun fact; Zug Island (where the factory was located) was mentioned in Robocop and was also the destination of the SS Edmond Fitzgerald before it sank."
Where The River Runs
"Devil's Kettle Falls: A stream separates into two sections, one continues normally the other spirals deep into a hole. All sorts of things were thrown down the hole in an effort to discover where the water went. Ping pong balls, various dyes, it was even rumored that someone stuck an old car down there. Eventually someone came up with a clever idea, they measured the total water flow above and below the falls and discovered they were similar enough to deduce the two streams join back up relatively quickly."
We'll Never Let Go, Jack
"Where is the Titanic? (Most people don't realize that half of the people in the world grew up when the ship's location was still a complete mystery. Now, it's old news."
There were logical explanations for these seemingly otherworldly phenomena.
What The "Bloop?"
"In 1997 a really weird and loud noise was detected underwater and everyone was all 'WTF was that?.' In 2012 it was determined it was an iceberg breaking and/or rubbing against the seabed."
"El Dorado or the lost city of gold turned out to be a mistranslation. It was just the name of some guy that got mistranslated to the name of a city."
"Weeping Jesus statue in India mystery. Apparently a Jesus statue started crying and all Christians along with Hindus started to drink it. It turned out to be sewage. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Weeping_crucifix_in_Mumbai"
The Prophet Hen Of Leeds
"A hen was laying eggs with messages like "Christ is Coming" and people thought the world was ending. Turned out the farmer was actually writing on the eggs herself, and then reinserted it back into the chicken. edited for gender of the farmer."
For Christ's Sake
"The tomb of Jesus' previously unknown brother turned out to be a hoax to try to sell the tomb of a nobody for a lot of money."
The North Atlantic Vortex
"Bermuda Triangle / devils sea... a triangle shaped section of ocean where airplanes and boats were known to disappear."
"Apparently most stories were embellished, and there is so much traffic that goes through the area it's actually a very small amount of vessels that go missing (percentage wise)."
The "Terrible Hand"
"What Deinocheirus looked like."
"When I was a kid in the 80s, all that was known were the bones of the arms with enormous claws. Hence its name, 'terrible hand.' They were mostly shown grasping a small car because they were so freaking huge. The rest of the animal was a complete mystery. Was it like a giant Allosaurus, one that'd make the T-Rex look like a puppy in comparison? A few years later it seemed more likely to be ostrich-like and an omnivore. Either way, given how rare it is for fossils to form at all, I was convinced I'd die never knowing what this dinosaur actually looked like."
"Then surprisingly in 2014, they found more bones and it was just the weirdest thing."
The Pioneer Gravity Anomaly
"Space probe wasn't accelerating away from Earth the way we'd predicted, but it didn't get noticed until the probe got way the f'k out there."
"Next space probe gets launched, gets way out there, same thing happens. WTF? How does acceleration not work right? Does gravity just change really far away?"
"Turns out the heat from the radioactive death generator was all coming off the same side of the space probe, and the extra particle radiation gave a 'thermal recoil force' resulting in an extra acceleration of -- no kidding -- about 0.000000000874 m/s2."
"Over enough distance, it all counts."
Closed cases and logical explanations are all well and good, but there is one phenomenon that continues to plague me.
Where do missing socks go? Seriously. It's a common occurrence where I'm left with a lone sock and the other is never caught in the lint trap or lost in the pile. They just vanish without a trace, I know I'm not alone in this.
Solving that mystery is not about having closure or putting my mind at ease so I can sleep at night.
I'm just tired of repeatedly buying new pairs of socks just because one sock goes rogue. Is it a New York laundry thing? Who knows?
But please enlighten me before I give up on socks and go with Crocs all the way.
If there's one thing we can rely on history for it's that it never changes.
What historical inaccuracies are still taught?
Let's get the basics out of the way, the things we were most likely taught in school by teachers who perhaps didn't have access to a real history book.
Not Short At All
"That Napoleon was very short."
"He was slightly taller than an average Frenchman of his time. Around 168-170 cm."
"It was English propaganda. He was also often surrounded by his Imperial Guard who used to be a lot taller.
"Still, alot shorter than average Europeans these days."
"My mother and all her siblings were taught at a Catholic school that [men] have one less rib than [women] and that's to origin of the Adam and Eve story. Completely untrue. Men and women have the same number of ribs."
Did He Even Sail The Ocean Blue?! These Are The Questions.
"I don't know if it's still taught, but I know that a commonly held belief is that the whole world thought that the Earth was flat except for Columbus. In actuality it was well known that the Earth was round as early as the 6th century BC."
"It turned out that he was absolutely wrong about that, but luckily for him he ran into a whole unexpected continent that was sitting right in the middle of his route, because otherwise his miscalculation would have meant he was super screwed."
Sometimes, history changes because we don't want to know the truth. The story behind the fact is a lot more fascinating to hear and easier to swallow.
They All Knew
"There's definitely this thought process that normal Germans (and Poles, Austrians, Hungarians, etc) didn't know about the camps at all during the holocaust that gets pushed as fact in schools, which is bullsh*t. The concept of the goings-on at a KZ was absolutely something people knew. When my grandfather was growing up it was normal to 'hire' people from Dachau satellite camps to build fences or work in fields or whatever. T
he industrialization process and scale of it was news to them, for sure, but if something happened to you and you were sent to a KZ, everyone knew it was a death sentence, and you were going to be forced into labor until you died. By the time 1944 rolled around they were pretty aware of the gas chambers too, though most people didn't believe it."
Losing The Most
"In New Zealand, they sometimes seem to be taught that they had the highest casualty rate in both World Wars. I worked with a New Zealander who got genuinely angry when I said that it wasn't even close to being true. I put it down to him being misinformed, but then I saw another NZer making the same claim on the Guardian website."
"Post-war calculations indicated that New Zealand's ratio of killed per million of population (at 6684) was the highest in the Commonwealth (with Britain at 5123 and Australia, 3232).
He Was A Regular Einstein
"Albert Einstein didnt fail his classes.. He succeeded very well."
"Sometimes it's repeated by adults trying to uplift younger kids who struggle in school. 3rd grader having trouble with long division and is crying because he thinks he's stupid? "Aw, don't worry, even Einstein failed math. Math is hard. You're smart you just need to keep at it." The "keep at it" part being the point (because in this legend, Einstein eventually stopped being bad at math)."
"But yes, that is something that older kids take and run with to argue that their crap grades are in fact evidence that they are brilliant geniuses, and it's the school's fault for not challenging their genius."
If there's one thing Americans know, it's their own history.
Exploiting A Workforce? America? Really?!
"No so much inaccurate but heavily downplayed. The American labor movement from 1880 - 1920's was so bloody that my Anthropology professor referred to it as the second civil war."
"The Battle of Blair Mountain, over 1,000,000 rounds were fired in a battle with workers who'd been fed up with 14 hour days in coal mines and living in tents and being brutalized by "private investigators," thugs hired the Capitalists."
"lots of good music came from it too. The IWW, communist Party, socialist party, and so on feature heavily here."
"The National Guard was called in by the Capitalists, who shot or imprisoned anyone who didn't immediately get back in the mines."
America Failed Longer Than We Thought
"The Vietnam War started in the mid-sixties when it started in the fifties."
"Some misinformed people still teach that the USA did not lose the war (by using the red herring of a slow withdrawal) when in reality North Vietnam succeeded in their goal of kicking out the occupying foreigners and reunifying Vietnam."
Maybe The People Shooting Off Fireworks Early Have A Point
"The Declaration of Independence was signed on July 4, 1776. No, it was signed on July 2, it wasn't announced until July 4 but regardless even Thomas Jefferson and John Adams, and others, wrote that they expected July 2 would be the date that would be celebrated with great festivities."
"That got lost to history."
The Wild West Is A Lie
"I don't think it's taught but the general American seem to believe that cowboys were mostly White people. When in actuality it was Mexicans and even Black people after they were freed. It was considered a lowly position in the Wild West. If a cowboy was White, he was a very poor White."
"White people were on the frontier farming and such. Asians (the Chinese) did laundry and were cooks. That's where a lot of Chinese-American foods originated from."
"People also seem to forget that this time period, which was maybe only 30-50 years, had three pinnacle events unfold in US history—the Transcontinental Railroad was completed, The Chinese Exclusion Act went into law, and slavery was abolished. I may be wrong but I believe in that order too."
Double check your sources. Use more than one resource. Try to look for the bias in writing. There's lots of ways to learn about history. Don't always accept the first story being told because it's easier to accept.
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I consider myself quite the film buff and I have a thing for disturbing films. Perhaps it's the way they've challenged me intellectually and emotionally. Some of the darkest subject matter is the most engaging, revealing truths about the world and the society we live in.
A lot of disturbing films take inspiration from reality. There have been some truly excellent ones, as we were so kindly reminded after Redditor JarJarBinks asked the online community,
"What disturbing films are based on true stories?"
Wolf Creek (2005)
It's based on the Backpacker Murders in the 90s. What happened was that a guy called Ivan Milat (basis for Mick Taylor) would pick up backpackers hitchhiking on the Hume Highway between Melbourne and Sydney. Instead of taking them to where they wanted to go, he'd tie them up, take them out to the Belanglo State Forest and torture them before killing them. He succeeded in killing at least 7 people (that we know of), but failed to abduct another chap, who ended up being the person who identified him."
A truly unnerving film. The "head on a stick" scene––you know the one––is probably the most unnerving.
"Conspiracy. A group of intelligent, high-ranking, sophisticated individuals meet for a conference to catch up, share a laugh, and calmly debate the merits of industrial scale genocide."
The true story of the newspaper that managed to uncover how far the pedophilia went in the Catholic Church."
An unsettling, if quiet film. It grabs you and doesn't let go. The journalists who handled this are heroes.
Come and See (1985)
"While not based on any one individual's experiences, Elem Klimov and Ales Adamovich based the movie on the real experiences of the civilians who lived on the Eastern Front during WW2. Klimov drew on his experiences as a refugee surviving the Battle of Stalingrad while Adamovich drew on his experiences as a Belorussian partisan. It gives an unflinching look at the reality of the Holocaust by bullets and partisan warfare."
Probably one of the most disturbing films that I've ever seen. Not for the faint of heart. The barn scene alone is the stuff of nightmares.
The Sacrament (2013)
"The Sacrament. It's this found footage film based on the story of Jonestown. It's about this camera crew that travels to Guyana to find one crew member's sister. They act out the lectures Jim would give, the suicide, the shooting, etc. It's one thing to read about the massacre or watch documentaries but to actually watch the massacre acted out is another kind of disturbing."
Jonestown was the largest loss of American life until September 11. The gravity of the event cannot be underestimated.
The Snowtown Murders (2011)
"Snowtown Murders. I couldn't finish it. That bathtub scene.....f***.
I did listen to an interview today with the guy who played the main psycho. He seemed really pleasant and said that, yeah, that scene was brutal to shoot."
The director, Justin Kurzel, is known for making subversive and engaging films. His latest, Nitram, is based on the Port Arthur shooting. Sure to be unsettlling.
"Changeling is about the mother of one of the victims of the Wineville Chicken Coop Murders. She really was committed to a psych ward because she insisted the 'Changeling' (the boy who claimed to be her son) was not her son, the LAPD was trying to use an uplifting story to distract from the fact they were garbage."
This film gutted me. Christine Collins never got a break.
"Downfall / Das Untergang
What really was disturbing was the fact that, after all was said and done, Trudle Jung never really seemed ashamed or even sorry for what happened during the war."
"Bully. Directed by Larry Clarke. A group of teenagers plots how they're going to murder a friend. So real and so raw. The whole time watching it I thought, "This is exactly how it'd play out in real life." Got to the credits and they start showing photos of the actual people."
Few films feel as much a slice of life as this one. It's graphic, it's cutting, it's disgusting––and it's also unforgettable. The performances are great.
"Room was a movie made in 2015 and took inspiration, if that's the right word, from several real-life cases where young girls were kidnapped and kept prisoner for years or decades and had children with their abductor."
If you have a strong stomach, it's worth checking out these films, because they're all exceptional. If nothing else, they're worth a conversation. And who knows, you might introduce others to films they might appreciate (if not necessarily enjoy).
Have some recommendations of your own? Feel free to tell us in the comments below!
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Anyone who doubted the value a little piece of cardboard could carry should look around the neck of Logan Paul. Pokemon cards are still worth so much!
Not every guilty pleasure will manifest in the coming years as a financially viable interest. They do emerge in a number of ways, through the shows we watch or the music we listen to. There can be a bit of self-imposed resentment over the activities we enjoy. While today's modern internet sensibilities would say "life is short" or "like what you love," when it comes to the matter of money invested, that can bring about a whole other discussion.
Reddit user, u/SAWildDog, wanted to hear what you feel like you should dial back your spending on when they aske:
What is your guilty pleasure that you know you shouldn't spend money on but you do anyways?
Some guilty pleasures shouldn't be frowned upon, as at the end of the expenditure you get to at least walk away with something.
Game After Game After Game...
"Same. I have stacks I have barely played. Some I have never played but I still buy more knowing I probably won't play them either. But Hundle Bundle subscription is so cheap compared to the price you'd pay for that many games. I'm sure I'll find time to play them all. Ohh, look, 12 more games."
"...Keeps play same 3 sandbox games.."
Sending Shiver Down Your Spines
"Halloween decorations. F-ck, any and all horror / spooky stuff I got coffee cups, art, shirts, air fresheners, candles, blankets, that are all horror-related or spooky vibes. I'm just a spooky b-tch and I love it (:"
Just One More Notebook...
"Stationary and art supplies when I already have perfectly usable stuff. Daiso is my favorite store :)"
"When I lived in Japan, I hit Daiso at least once a week. Amazing place."
Some guilty pleasures can feel a little out of left field. An activity not everyone knows about, but one you enjoy regardless.
"plants 🌱 getting better at shopping clearance plants and bringing them back to life rather than buying new tho"
"Same, I like to rescue the cactuses on "death row" that are half dead and marked down for under a dollar. So far, all my rescues have thrived, been repotted a bunch, and some even had little cactus babies!!"
Gambling On A Way Out
"I play lotteries. Not because I think it's fun, but it's the only way I can think of to try and save myself from enduring office work for the rest of my adult life."
Making Your Own Life Sweeter
"Haagen Daaz and or Ben and Jerry's Ice Cream, vanilla. Also Key Lime Pie. Good Lord do I love me some Key Lime Pie."
And then there's these pleasures, which could be considered shameful by some, but remember, it's the age of the internet. Like what you love.
"I have a vast collection of the original 1998 special edition Furbys. I usually spend between $50-$200 on any of the ones I've gotten so far. All I need is 1 more and the collection is finished. wish me luck"
Different Ways To Play The Game
"Dice. I literally just blew $14 on a set of shiny click clack rocks because they had tiny penguins inside the clear plastic."
"Also yes I am in debt. But goddamn will I be the envy of the table when I bust out the penguin dice during D&D this Saturday."
One. More. Set...
"I can concur I definitely don't have the room for my sets yet, but I still keep buying them."
"I was gifted a set that is 3,500+ pieces. It's 8 boxes and I've spent about 6 hours on it so far, I am just getting started on the second box. It's very therapeutic for me actually. I catch up on podcasts, ignore my phone, I really enjoy it."
Remember, enjoy what you like. Just be sure you can afford your bills for the month and take care of those in your life who need it!
Otherwise, go nuts! Buy your Furbies and dice!
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Pretty people have problems, too.
But when you get to look like you've stepped off the cover of Vogue and you've never once bought your own drinks, feeling sympathy is hard to summon.
But being attractive is not everything. Physical attributes still don't make life perfect. Which is why I'm skipping the gym today.
It is good to know though, that even people gifted with physical perfection can still be as unsure about life, just like the rest of us average looking gnomes.
Redditor u/pauseitron_ wanted to know how life can be not so perfect for those picture perfect types, by asking:
People who're considered physically attractive, what are some of the things that you feel insecure about?
Insecurity is a horrible affliction. It holds us all back from fulfilling our greatest potentials and nobody is immune. We often feel like we're the only ones walking about with these issues but we're not.
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"I'm short. As a 5'5 male compliments are nearly always followed up with something along the lines of "if only you were taller."
"My job and income. (I'm a receptionist)."
"You're not alone. I wouldn't consider myself really attractive, pretty average. However, I have trouble feeling confident with people I believe are in the same attractiveness range as me because so many of my peers have achieved "status" and I'm still not there."
It all Matters
"Whether I mean as much to the people who mean so much to me. I took a friend out for dinner for his birthday recently and he said something that made me realize he was having as good a time as I was. It made me tear up for a second, remembering that the people I love also love me."
"They want to be included by me as much as I do by them. Sometimes this thought process has led me to treat people I love as an afterthought because I didn't think it would matter to them. But it did. I do."
"I'm considered "physically attractive" from the neck down, which is fair, I agree. So, my face is what I'm insecure about."
"Bruh some guy once came up to me and said "me and 'guy group' rated all girls in our year from 0-10 (yes they actually gave someone a zero), wanna know your score?" after unpolitely declining he went ahead anyway and said "your body is an 8 but your face is pulling you down"... Well... Tf am I supposed to say to that?"
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"I worry about how I look without clothes, my personality flaws, and my income (guy btw)."
How can the flawless feel so many flaws? I wonder how many are in therapy. I worry about all of those things every day.
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"When I was thin and hot, my boyfriend told me he was scared I'd cheat on him because I could "get someone better." He ended up cheating on me, saying he couldn't take the pressure. I worry about that still. Even though I'm single I have a hard time trusting someone's loyalty."
is it me?
"I was considered quite attractive in my 20s and never had much trouble meeting guys. But I had real trouble keeping boyfriends. I was told more than once that I was boring. I'm quiet and a huge introvert and am perfectly happy spending a day reading or watching movies. But I guess that wasn't fun for the men I liked. So as a result I was, and still am quite insecure about my personality."
"Never feel good enough."
"This. No matter how attractive you are there is always someone that looks better. The grass is always greener. I get told I'm attractive and I'll agree to an extent that I'm not ugly but I will never be perfect. I will constantly pick at my flaws no matter how small they are."
"My hips are too square, my teeth are yellow and crooked, my boobs aren't perky enough, my butt isn't fat enough, my lips aren't big enough, my eyes aren't perfectly equal... that's just scraping the surface. People I love and want to have loved me will tell me they think I'm beautiful and I won't believe them. Like it's a lie. I'll get mad sometimes when my boyfriend tells me I'm the most beautiful woman in the world."
"He might believe it but it's not true, and it's too much pressure to keep that up. I have wide hips a small waist and big boobs. I'm symmetrical and proportionate but there is no way I can ever compete with the thousands and thousands of Instagram models or pornstars or even beautiful strangers that my partner will be exposed to every day. Why even bother with me?"
"My partner not really loving me."
"Oh that hit home. I have this but I am female, guys will date me for months saying all the things I want to hear and sleep with me, only to then tell me they've found someone else and they're together. I have been told numerous times I was used as an ego boost by guys I generally liked, I'm actually still friends with one. Now I have been single for 7 years (I've had some dates) with huge trust issues, knowing the older I get as a woman the less attractive I become and it's a never-ending cycle."
"How cool I actually am. I'm a good looking guy but I've had a boring life in some capacities."
"When the world shut down last year I found out other people had to give up a lot more fun and exciting plans than I did. That really hit home and I'm working to change it."
No matter who you are, or what you're feeling, you're not alone. There is a life lesson we seem to cross paths with everyday. And now we know those we envy are in the same boat, they're just in a prettier one.