OK so ... the educational system could use some work, but surely it's not to the point where teachers are outright lying to, gaslighting, or abusing their students, right?
One Reddit user asked:
What is the biggest lie a teacher has told you?
... and yeah... we should probably sit down and have a few conferences.
Them Snowballs
2nd grade. Writing assignment on how to build a snowman. One of my instructions I wrote said "now put the snowballs on top of one another, building a tower."
Teacher said "no, it's THEM snowballs. Change it now."
After arguing (and getting detention out of it) I changed it to say "now put them snowballs on top of one another blah blah" and we displayed our instructions out in the hall so the next PTA meeting could view them.
My mom later pointed out the grammatical error in my instructions. My teacher said "aren't kids just the darndest? How cute when they make mistakes"
F*ck you. I'm still angry about it 22 years later.
- MG_72
Honesty Always Pays Off
"You can tell me everything if you have any problem, I won't tell anyone".
I was being bullied all the time in my school. When I told him about this problem, he brought it up at the class meeting.
It resulted in severe escalation and my bullies basically forced me to tell him that the problem is solved now. He smiled at me and told me that honesty and being open always pays off.
No, a**hole. It doesn't.
Financial Aid Exists?!
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"If you can't afford to pay cash for college, you can't afford to go."
This was in the early 90's and no one in my family had ever been to college, so I didn't have anyone outside of that environment to talk to. I had a 2 year full ride scholarship, but I didn't think I could afford the rest.
They never once mentioned financial aid or student loans. I was poor military kid going to a wealthy high school, so I didn't know any better.
10 years in the military later, I found out about pell grants, student loans, and other ways to pay for school. My life would have been much different if I went straight to college.
Legally Obligated
After telling my guidance counselor about my abusive home situation, hoping that enough of a fuss could be made for the cops to actually do something, she just contacted my parents rather than the authorities.
She told them what I said, and then acted like we'd never spoken when I disappeared for a week and came back with several "ran into a doorknob" injuries.
That was pretty much my par experience for all the adults who repeatedly said they had open doors, always listened, would help, cared, etc.
Being legally obligated to do something doesn't mean people will do it.
My Naive Response
Can I post something I said to students? Back in January students asked me if the coronavirus would sweep through the U.S and shut us down.
I told them we would be okay because we've had scares like this with the swine flu and others and always came out okay. I am really eating my words now and regretting how naive my response was.
Then Why Do We Have Them?
Remember the book lists you'd get at the start of the school year for each class? Sometimes they'd have things like safety glasses for chemistry, a calculator for maths etc.
My computer class list specifically listed a particular brand and model of headphones, so we all got them. Then the teacher running the class denied ever putting them on there and questioned why we were using them.
"I didn't put those headphones on the stationery list at the start of the year, you can't use them."
Then why do thirty students have exactly the same f*cking set of janky budget headphones Marie? She was a miserable old cow.
- rawker86
Not Comparable
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Japanese internment camps during WW2
My history teacher spent so much time on the Holocaust but never even once mentioned that the US did this to Japanese people. I swear I was nearly 30 before I found out about this, and I'm still mad about it.
In 2025 Capitalism Will Save Us All
In high school I had to take an economics class to graduate. The whole class was just propaganda.
We were told how capitalism is a perfect system that will never fail. We had to write essays on how, by 2025, the "economic dips" would level out and everyone would have a fair chance at wealth and financial stability.
What bull.
- CillRed
P.E. Punishment
Teachers say that they'll listen to you, but that's a lie.
It was P.E. I was unable to participate for a week - I even had the doctors note.
The note stated I was free to continue on Friday. I was sitting in my spot and the teacher said "Allie get up and get on the bench now."
I reminded her my doctors note said I could continue Friday. She refused to listen or go double check it and said:
"Stop lying. You just want to have fun since today is playground day. If you were sick then, you're sick now."
She wouldn't let me participate and I had been excited waiting till I could.
Decadence
10th grade, Advanced English.
"Decadent/decadence," was a word we were learning, along with some others for vocabulary.
We were instructed to use them all in a short story or write-up, essentially to ensure we understood the concepts of the words. I only remember this one word from the vocab, but they were all themed similarly.
I wrote a story about decadence a la the late 1920/30s... lavish parties, flowing champagne, chocolate and pearls, etc... it was dumb but it was all I could come up with in the moment. Think a speakeasy meets The Great Gatsby but in a Hooverville.
She argued incessantly that decadence ONLY meant decay. I understood her logic, but argued back that decadence typically meant the decay of society or social norms (like over the top parties by the social elite during the Great Depression). I even argued that the concept was utilized as a marketing scheme in most commercials... chocolate, alcohol, lingerie, perfume, etc...
She refused my answer. No, it only means decay in regards to death or decline of a space. She then continued to belittle me until I stopped (I rarely spoke out in school, so I was wildly embarrassed) and essentially made an example out of me. The rest of my class was filled with the top level students of my grade. I was the outcast, because I was the smart kid from the poor neighborhood. Most of the class ignored me after that and were uncomfortable with the idea that I had argued with an authority figure.
The teacher was wrong (or well, her definition was correct, as was mine).
Here's the definition of decadence, per Merriam-Webster:
1: the process of becoming decadent : the quality or state of being decadent...
"the decadence of modern society escape the decadence that attends upon old age"— G. L. Dickinson
2: a period of decline
... I still seethe with resentment nearly 20 years later. Not because she told me I was wrong, but because she was so cruel about wanting to be correct. Thankfully, I was confident in my understanding of definitions and words. I knew she was wrong, and let it go, but I feel bad for the struggling kids she taught.
Sun Showers Are A Thing
First grade. She got mad at me for drawing a picture of a rainy Spring day, with the sun behind the clouds. Pretty much told me it was impossible for the sun to be out while it was raining.
Now, almost 16 years later, I still remember that incident whenever it rains at the same time the sun is shining.
- m-xxv
CCTV Stupidity
The big one I remember is the during a full school assembly one Friday the headteacher said that he'd fitted CCTV in an area where the smokers of the school would congregate. If they came to his office after assembly and admitted they'd been smoking there, they wouldn't be punished, but he was going to check the footage next week and anyone who didn't admit it would be suspended.
The following Friday the smug prick got up and laughed at the few people who had been stupid enough to believe him and came to his office, actually straight out calling them stupid.
These are the people who he's supposed to be educating.
Then Why Did He Sign The Declaration
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My 8th grade US HISTORY teacher told our class Benjamin Franklin was the best president ever. she was dead on serious. She argued with the class for a bit and told us
"If he wasn't a President, why did he sign the Declaration of Independence?"
the class simply told her to go look at the poster where the Presidents were listed.....
she apologized.
- kngyng
My Orientation Mug
I had a travel mug that I got from student orientation. I filled it with coffee and went to school.
I later forgot the cup in art while I went to lunch, so I decided to get it after lunch. I went back and couldn't find it.
A day later the teacher is drinking HER OWN coffee in MY cup. I tell her "I think you have my cup, Mrs. teacher"
She got defensive and told me she got the cup from a conference meeting. I watched her drink out of it through the whoooole year.
I know it was my cup because I wrote my initials on it in sharpie and I saw duct tape covering over where the Initials should be.
Tastebud Mapping
That certain parts of the tongue have different taste abilities. That is absolutely a myth.
I even almost failed a class because of it. My palette was very well developed, apparently, and I was certain I could taste everything the same on different parts of my tongue.
My teacher made me out to be a liar, scolded me in front of the whole class (was 12 at the time) and I got punished for arguing.
Look who's a jack@ss now mr Griffin!
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I'm a smart person. I read, I study, I comprehend. But certain types of math can send me to the funny farm. I tried trigonometry in high school. I needed a therapist after a week. My brain hates math. It is what it is. I give up trying.
Louder!
Meme Reaction GIF by reactionseditorGiphy"I can't comprehend why any company would think I'm more likely to buy their product if they make their commercial 20db louder than all other commercials. Instant boycott."
The Scale
"The sheer size and scale of the universe. Like the fact that you can fit all the planets of the Solar System between the Earth and the Moon. Now realise how far apart all the planets are in the Solar System. This is practically next door compared to the distance between our Sun and the nearest star."
"There are billions of stars in our Milky Way (with the majority having planets of their own). The sheer scale of the vast emptiness involved means that even when our galaxy merges with the Andromeda galaxy in 4.5 billion years' time, there will be very, very few actual collisions between stars."
"Then there is the void between galaxies, and that it takes billions of years for light, at its speed (massless, and the fastest speed possible), to travel between galaxies, speaks of the sheer emptiness and distance in that void. I can't quite fathom it."
The Before...
"What was there before the universe, what was there before that, and that and that and (you get the idea)."
"The problem is we are using English words that have implied meanings that are familiar to humans on everyday experience to describe events that are outside everyday experience."
"Before" implies that time exists on both sides of an event, but that is not true when we are talking about the universe. Like how there are no positive numbers less than 0, there are no times before the beginning of the universe."
In the Words...
"Language, the fact that we all collectively decided separately and divertingly that certain sounds have meanings and that other sound mixed with those can change the meaning."
"Thanks for all of the upvotes and the award :3."
"Adding onto what I said, sounds are just vibrations in the air that out brains interpret into the sensation of hearing. Really we're vibrating the air at each-other and those air vibrations to your brain contain meaning. When you think about it like this language is not too dissimilar to the internet in a way. Makes you realize how crazy and unique of a skill language really is, with-ought it we wouldn't have a civilization."
"Another interesting thing related to this is when people call your name. Even if your in a crowded area with hundreds of people talking around you and you think your tuning them out if you hear your name you immediately notice, Some part of your brain must be constantly listening."
"Here are some other things my mind can't quite grasp:
- Computers, the fact that my phone is performing countless mathematical operations constantly.
- the plank length, if I understand it right it's the smallest distance anything can move, like a pixel of space.
- the human body and animals in general, were a collection of (large number but idk how large) cells all working together in various systems some how sustaining a brain that is able to be conscious, it's a miracle animals work at all let alone what they're capable of.
- why my ankles crack when I walk.
- what the future will be like, the world is changing so fast it's likely the future will be nothing like we think and it's coming." - Flaer15
I'm Empty
Fun Floating GIF by Tomas BrunsdonGiphy"My little brain can't comprehend the vast emptiness of space and the fact it supposedly just stretches on forever and never has an end. Kind of wild when you try imagine it."
Like any other muscle or organ in the body, we have to listen when pain is inflicted. We have to recognize discomfort and deal. Why don't we allow the same respect to our brain? It will tell us when enough is enough.
Simplicity...
Work Working GIFGiphy"How a simple calculator works. I can do math. I'm actually very good at it. How does a little plastic box do it though? Always boggled my mind."
Dammit!
"Dates. I am considered a historian by my family due to my knowledge on most world history, but God dang dates... I could be talking about WWII and say it happened the same date as WWI."
Billions of People
"That all the others persons I talk to or see, have their own thoughts, own inner dialogue and own life. For gaming analogy sometimes I just feel like others are NPC and I just can't comprehend that there are more than 7 billions person just like me."
"Sonder...
The profound feeling of realizing that everyone, including strangers passed in the street, has a life as complex as one's own, which they are constantly living despite one's personal lack of awareness of it."
Now That's Too Much!
"Quantum physics."
"I have a PhD in astronomy and MSc in Physics, and had to take ~2 years worth of quantum mechanics courses. It's one of those things where you can take solace that even with all that education on it all I can say is no one else really understands it either."
And the Dark?
"Light isn't affected by time. So... other things could just exist outside of time? Like, if you were a photon that traveled at light speed for a million years and then hit an alien's third butt, you'd experience it as instantly being a million light years away."
- Delica
"A photon moves at the speed of light through space, but is standing still in time."
"A person at rest moves at the speed of light through time, but is standing still in space. When you accelerate through space, you're simultaneously decelerating through time. That's why observers will see your clock slow down when you begin accelerating at relativistic speeds. It's referred to as time and space dilation. Makes more sense once you realize that."
The Process...
"There are people who don't have an internal dialogue with themselves. So, they never question if they are right or wrong. They never wonder if they are treating someone fairly, or if they are nice or mean."
"They can change their minds with no information, but it doesn't involve the process most of us go through when confronted with an opinion, or new data. It's not common, but it's not entirely rare. When I learned about this, I just couldn't understand how it was even possible."
The End
Season 2 Episode 10 GIF by The SimpsonsGiphy"Death, obviously I understand why people die and all that but just thinking what happens afterwards. What's it like for the said person that died, is it just blackness? Is it like they're dreaming??? Reincarnation?? This probably sounds very stupid but I don't care 🤦🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️"
There is so much to learn, and even more that we'll never know. And that's ok. When the brain is full, it's full. Seems like just a part of life. The mysteries will sometimes stay illusive.
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I wanted to give up, I was flustered and spent way too much time trying to get a great grade in a class that just wasn't clicking for me. What did I do? I had to take a step back and reflect on what I would tell a friend in the same shoes. I would tell them they don't need to be perfect, that getting a C+ in one class wasn't going to wreck their whole GPA, and for the love of God drink water too won't just coffee.
Self-care and stealing extra sleep, even just an hour nap, can go a long way to refreshing your drive. The takeaway really was just to show me the same love and support I'd been putting out to those around me. You deserve it, too!
Redditor peachyjams asked:
"What are some tips for a burnt out student?"
The Reddit community gave this user some wonderful tips and tricks to help with student burnout.
Go at your own pace.
“Don't pressure yourself into 4 years. It's OK to take it slower. Balance out your schedule with more enjoyable elective credits if you can, or just take less courses in a semester if possible.”
“Obviously things like financial aid, living costs (if not living at home) and others may play a factor in how many courses you need to take or how quickly you need to complete college, so if you can't take less courses, talk to your advisor or counselor and work with them to carefully plan out each semester so that your coursework is balanced IE: You don't end up accidentally taking Calculus + "Fun," art class that was 1000x more work than you thought it would be in the same semester.”~zachtheperson
“Burnt out doesn't begin to cover it.”
“I feel very qualified to answer this. I have been in college continuously since I was 18, and I'm now 32. I have 2 years to go before finishing my doctorate. I currently have an associate's, bachelor's, and master's. I have also worked the entire time. Burnt out doesn't begin to cover it. Here is how I stay sane:
- Give school as little bandwidth in your life as possible. "Good enough" are the two most beautiful words in the English language. Get Bs on things. Write your assignments and due dates on a master calendar, block off times to get them done, and try to avoid thoughts of school outside of those blocks.
- To increase productivity during your work blocks, use Freedom or something similar. I paid for a lifetime subscription and in one class alone it paid for itself. It just blocks access to your distractions on the phone and computer while you get stuff done.
- Tackle other hobbies in life that you see progress in outside of school. Even if it feels like school will never ever end and you're on a treadmill of misery going nowhere, you can go somewhere in other areas of your life. I'm currently training for a marathon, just started learning cello, I mentor first gen college students, and I'm in a book club. Pick your poison, but try to put away the laptop and push yourself in a non-academic area.
- Your social needs may vary, but try getting together with other people not in your circle of school misery. Join a sports league (yuck for me but maybe not for you). I host regular dinner parties. Volunteer. Now that vaccines are out, make sure you get one then connect with other people.
- DO NOT TAKE A BREAK. When you stop school even for a semester you know what it's like to be happy and not have the weight of misery pulling you down. You won't want to go back. Slog through and just do it.
- Don't reward yourself with damaging things. Don't eat or drink your rewards for school or you will be unhealthy and unhappy when you're done. Reward yourself with something positive instead."
If I had to recommend one book, it would be 'Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle'. Basically, it goes into the science of feeling burned out, why it's bad for you, and how to fix it on a physiological level."
“If you don't want to read the whole thing, if I could distill the most useful information it would be: exercise. The author digs deep into the science (which I love) behind why it works SO DAMN GOOD, but if you hate science and reading, trust me. Go for a run a few times a week, lift weights, dance a lot, just get your heart rate up. Good luck. School sucks."~bicycle_mice
You don’t have to be perfect.
walking dead love GIFGiphy“If you're an A student I would suggest lowering your personal bar. Being constantly burnt out isn't worth the 0.2 difference in your GPA and if you're worried about career prospects there are always comparable fields that aren't quite as competitive.”
“Trying to get an A in every class takes disproportionally more work. If you can get A's and a few more B's while getting to chill every once and a while and not stressing, do that.”~SlightlyOvertuned
Lists are seriously underrated.
If your sensation is of being overwhelmed (i.e. you have an impossible amount of work to do with no end in sight) more than burnt out (you are exhausted and becoming detached from the work), then two tips:
- Realise that it's not infinite. If you stick it out until graduation (and I hope you do!), then many of the problems you're accumulating will be wiped clear. Perhaps your GPA/final grade won't be as good as you want, but remember that whatever you're facing now - this too shall pass. Knowning that there is an inevitable light at the end of the tunnel is useful for me.
- Make a list. If you are the under-organised type, making a list of things to do each morning on a sheet of paper dramatically reduces the stress level that those items cause you. You can implement some fancy to-do software if you prefer but tbh a daily todo is simpler and more effective...”~alexandicity
A book and a blanket? Make it so.
read new york GIFGiphy“When I was a burnt out student I took solace in a comfort zone activity. Something unrelated to my school work that I could dive into for a little while when I needed a break. For me, this was reading the Lord of the Rings.”
“What works for you depends one what's in your comfort zone, but it should be something that you can easily pick up and put down again when it is time to get back to work.”
“To this day, I still read the Lord of the Rings when I get stressed or overworked. In fact, I am reading it now, for the 48th time.”~khendron
Healthy Routines...
“Lots of things you could try! Sleep. 8 hours a day, wake up spontaneously without an alarm and if you feel the need do a 30-90 minute power nap in the afternoon.”
“Meditate daily, 5-30 minutes to start in the morning or whenever you feel comfortable. Limit the consume of caffeine.”
“Plan a healthy diet you can stick to, reducing the amount of junk food first to focus later on the composition of your main meals, snacks and so on. Eat plenty of greens, fruit, nuts and drink mainly water or sugar free drinks.”
“Take cold showers. Those are a huge boost, especially in the morning. Decompress. As someone said, take the days you need to just do nothing during your week. Last but not least, workout! Start small, build the habit and stick to it!“~Tha_Sin
“...it's pretty normal in our over worked society.”
“Burnout is real. It means you have given too much of yourself to something, and you need to recover. While deadlines don't wait, professors often will. “
“You have to communicate with them if you are struggling. If they are worth their pay, they will do their best to accommodate you. It's unhealthy to continue under so much stress. Be kind to yourself.”
“Nearly everyone experiences this at some point in life, and it's pretty normal in our over worked society. Do what you can to clear your mind. Assign yourself a certain number of hours to completely shift gears away from all these responsibilities.”
“Set an alarm if you have to, but give yourself enough time to reach a stage of full body relaxation. You can try walking, meditating, sleeping, whatever your body needs. Just listen to it! There is no shame here. You must care for yourself and keep a balance. Deep breaths, often.”~VaginaWarrior
“Yes to this advice!! Let teachers know ASAP that you are struggling and often they will be able to make accommodations or offer help. Also, looking into counseling services that are offered through the school is definitely worth taking advantage of while that stuff is accessible and free.”~shannonbta
“because a b*tch needs water...”
“My bad day thing is I have to get up, eat (even if it's takeout), put on fresh bedsheets because if I'm having a bad day in bed it might as well be comfortable and smell good, have a shower (even just shoulders down) and go for even a small walk, even if it's to the shop or to get myself that takeout."
“They're not huge things to do but they're very difficult on some days. And I don't always do them all, maybe I just eat and shower, or go for a walk, or just change my bedsheets. But all of them are small tasks that feel like mountains but once I do one or two of them they're so so easy, and I benefit from them all mentally or physically or both."
“And I have a litre bottle of water and cup of tea at my side at all times because a b!tch needs water and there are few things as comforting as a good cup of tea in a warm mug to me."~thisisausername-2021
“I didn't pull a single all-nighter in my 4 years of undergrad.”
- “Don't listen to your fellow classmates who boast about study 60+ hours a week, they're either exaggerating, straight-up lying, or have an incredibly inefficient study method. There will be times where you really need to be studying hard for extended amounts of time (ex. finals week), but for the vast majority of the semester it is completely unnecessary to do that in order to get a good grade.”
- “If you do find that you need excessive study in order to do okay in a course then you need to reach out to your TA(s) and professor. Most universities have free tutoring services, use them.”
- “Seriously just take more breaks and get more sleep. I didn't pull a single all-nighter in my 4 years of undergrad and now that I'm in med school I don't have any need for that either. Without real breaks and sleep your brain's ability to actually store and organize all the information you've studied goes out the window. This is harder to do if you need to work to support yourself but you need to find some semblance of healthy sleeping habits if you want to be able to make it through all 4 years.”
- “Eat real food. Don't just live off of snack foods and coffee, your brain isn't going to work properly if you don't fuel it. It's generally cheaper to buy canned and frozen fruit and veg so if you're on a budget try those aisles. Additionally, most places have some sort of charity or community pantry/soup kitchen, use it if you need to.You don't need to be completely destitute in order to reach out for help from these places, if you are struggling to make ends meet get help from your community. It is not weak, it is not shameful, it's being smart enough to accept that everyone needs help now and then.”
- “I mean it, don't pay attention to classmates and social media influencers who say they spend all their time studying. They almost definitely aren't and if they are they have an unsustainable view towards work/school that will bite them in the butt later on.”~JSD12345
Treat yourself to a mini-vacation.
“If you have any extra money (I know, easier said than done) book the cheapest AirBNB you can find within the area you can get to with the transportation you have available. Go alone or bring a friend, and have a mini-vacation, just for a night or weekend. It's very refreshing to have a change of scenery, even if it's in your same city.”~goshawkgirl
These are some great ideas to help cope with the all to real burnout. Remember to show yourself the grace you give to others because your best is all you can do.
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