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People Divulge The Moment They Realized Their Best Friend Wasn't Really Their Friend At All

People Divulge The Moment They Realized Their Best Friend Wasn't Really Their Friend At All

Normally we go into these articles with an intro that segues into talking about the relevant article - but this is a no intro needed situation.

We all know what it's like to realize a friend isn't who or what you thought they were.

One Reddit user asked:

When did you realize your best friend, wasn't really your friend?

and honestly the amount of violence, betrayal, and scandal here is enough for even the juiciest novelas.
Read ahead with caution


When I opened a drawer in her house and recognized my jewelry, trinkets. I looked at it all, took back my mother's ring, and left. 3 years this person stole from me. I was her only friend. I'll never understand it.

- katkre8s

I brought an expensive uncommon piece of electronics over to a friend's house. Put it in my bag, got home and it was gone. Called my "friend" literally 30m later and he swore he didn't have it.

Narrator: He did.

I get it back 6 months later broken. His story: his mom came into his room picked it up off the ground and put it in a closet that's in his room but he can't open. This would be one of his many weed related thefts.

- FewMeasurements6870

Maid Of Honor?

jean vigo bride GIF by MauditGiphy

When I asked her to be my Maid of Honor.

As her response, she left the care package I made for her when she was in the hospital back on my doorstep in a box. I put together some books and coloring books for her while she was sick. All of it was there.

She also stopped returning my texts and calls.

She reached out a couple years later, and I asked why she ended the friendship the way she did, and her response was that she was just being a dick.

I guess she resented me and the relationship I had with my now husband; but instead of talking to me about how she felt, she just dumped me.

It really screwed me up and ruined how I interact with my friends now. Everyone is arms length and I don't open up at all to them. I'm constantly worried I'm a bad friend.

We're still not friends.

- SamPamTYM

Oldest, Not Best

Been friends for over 20 years with someone. He always makes it a point to introduce me as his best friend.

I'm like "well... oldest friend" and I do care about him, but I would not call him my best friend. We have so little in common but that's not why we have drifted apart....he just has no understanding of me.

I'm an introvert. He's an extrovert (with low self esteem) and he thinks that people like me are sad, lonely losers who don't know how to have fun.

He bases his worth on if he is in a relationship. When we hang out all He talks about is who he is dating/sleeping with/engaged to at the moment. I'm happily single who can do without all the drama.

He lives off his dad and is stupid with money. I'm extremely independent and self reliant. He has a taste for expensive, name brand items, I like Target 🤪.

One big thing that really irritated me was when I finally bought a place of my own, instead of being happy for me, he criticizes it for being in a "ghetto"....when I bought furniture, instead of buying the expensive stuff from the high end store he worked at, I bought at a ordinary furniture place.

He once made the mistake of making fun of my taste in and I replied (with his dad sitting next to him who Has Long subsidized his life) "at least I paid for it myself"...he turned red and his dad started to giggle.

- Maleicent-Dot-5569

Screenshots Are Forever

When I received screenshots of a post in a social media group bashing me and saying truly horrible things.

The person who sent them was a random stranger who said they looked on my then best friend's social media account and figured the post and comments had to be about me since she called me her best friend on a lot of posts. She said that she thought I should know what she was saying about me because they were so bad and if they weren't actually about me then she was sorry for sending them.

She was posting telling the group that she always thought I was a spoiled brat, that my boyfriend (now fiance) and I were never going anywhere in life, that I was just jealous of her, and she also threw in some insults about my family as well. It was a lot more detailed and rude, but I deleted the screenshots (after I sent them to my "best friend") so I wouldn't go back and obsess over them.

I thanked the person who sent them to me and promised to keep her anonymity so the girl wouldn't get kicked out of the group. Then I sent screenshots to my "friend" and said "this friendship is over."

Her apology was basically an, "I'm sorry I got caught" apology.

She basically said "I'm sorry you saw it, I thought it was on a private group page." Nothing is private on the internet.

Then a few months ago she reached out wanting to reconnect. I considered it for a few minutes and after a small handful of texts I realized she would never understand what she did and that she truly thought I was in the wrong. Her attitude was still basically "I'm sorry I got caught," and she also said she was just stressed, upset, and ranting.

I said that the things she said were not things you should think about a friend if they're really your friend and that I didn't want to reconnect and that was that. I found it odd that she wanted to reconnect when part of the stuff she said included that her family never liked me, she always thought certain negative things about me, etc.

I considered her family like my second family; we were best friends for about 17 years.

I actually am happier without her around, though. I never noticed some of the negative aspects that she brought to the friendship until we weren't friends. So its been really good.

- gundy92

Going To The Races

My birthday was coming up and I had nobody else. It was a really low point in my life, like it was bad. She knew how bad I was doing, I asked her to hang out on my birthday.

She promised that on my birthday she'd be there for me. Gonna come over with some beers and watch movies all day so won't be alone. Good times.

I message her a couple days before, yup we're on!
I message her the day before to ask what time she's coming past and she says whenever I want.

On my birthday I message her and ask if she can come over now.

"No. I'm going to the races today."

Like, Jesus Christ... Not only are you blowing me off so coldly, but you're putting it in a way like "I could invite you to come too, but I won't."

I doubt there even were races, or she ever intended to be there for me. It hurt so bad, like a physical gut punch even though I half expected it. She would constantly do things like this specifically intended to hurt me. It's why I kept asking her leading up to the day if she really was gonna come through.

After the birthday thing though, I was lonely but not lonely enough to continue to be fucked with like that constantly.

In retrospect, I honestly think she maybe actually wanted me to hurt myself; so she could play the victim, or whatever reason she had to hate me so much. Actually I doubt she hated me. I don't think she felt anything at all for me either way, just emotionless, f**king with people for entertainment.

- user1444

Can't Stand Deadbeat Dads

When his wife caught him about to cheat. He said he'd work to fix his marriage, but instead he ended up walking out on his wife, 3yr old, and newborn.

He came to me expecting me to back him up and tell him he was right to be rid of them, but I chewed him out instead. He then came up with some bull about her being too controlling from the start of their relationship. I asked him "then why get married and have kids?"

He left their home and started seeing some other women. He still texts me sometimes about sports or something, but I can't stand deadbeat dads. He's refused to get a divorce saying he doesn't know what to do.

You left the family home 18mths ago, G. You know you're not fixing this, so man the f*ck up and get a divorce so you can all move on.

- CoMeathMcQueef

The Cabin Weekend

My 27th birthday was the one where I truly realized that none of the people that I considered my close friends actually gave a sh*t about me, and the one that I thought I was closest to was narcissistic.

I got drunk and watch sh*tty movies by myself while my Facebook feed blew up with these friends having a fun time at a weekend trip to a cabin in the mountains (that I wasn't allowed to go to because there was 'no room').

The following week, I was hanging out with the narcissistic one and that's where I found out that the organizer of the cabin trip let someone join last minute. Like, he asked if he could come on Thursday afternoon and he was in the cabin Friday evening.

I didn't say a word and I just left in tears. Everyone knew that it was my birthday that weekend and that I was really upset that I wasn't allowed to go, but no one did anything to make it up to me.

- happyhappyfool

Fool Me Once... 

When he blacked out and tried to murder me in my sleep. Then 5 years later when I forgave him, he attacked and robbed me in front of my house after giving me a ride home. Fool me once...

He was the best friend I've ever had in my life. We were extremely close for the vast majority of our lives.

He was very drunk and smoked an absurd amount and blacked out. 40 shots and 40 dab hits that night. This was well beyond the normal scope of smoking.

He has a history of violence. The night of the first incident, he put me in a chokehold while I was asleep. He was a psycho with a violent streak. He had no reason to be mad at me at any point that night or the surrounding period.

He just held it, talking about how easily he could kill me and that he was going to for fun. It wasn't an easy spot to get out of.

There's nothing wrong with trying to be a forgiving person towards someone you love. It took years of him begging for forgiveness for me to give him another chance and things went really well for about a year until there was another incident.

But I'm never speaking to him again now. I still wish for the best for him as he's the best friend I've ever had but I won't ever give him another chance. I got fooled twice.

- EncephalopathyNow

Unholy And Sinful

I shared with him that I was beginning to explore some interest in guys as well as girls, and his response was completely unsupportive. He told me it was unholy and sinful to explore my sexuality, and that I had to pray about it to find guidance out of my evil temptations.

It completely destroyed the trust between us that he would push me away from discovering what I want in life. I was unable to have an open and honest relationship with him from that day onward.

The nail in the coffin came a few months later when my parents were beginning to seriously discuss a potential divorce. I went to him for advice on how to navigate the situation, as he was personally familiar with my position due to his own parents' divorce.

He pushed me away, telling me that he wouldn't help me and that I was on my own. We haven't spoken since then.

- SnowStormZx

Since 2012

I realized with one of my former friends that he was nice to me, but not to other people. He treated me with lots of respect (I think its because he thought I was useful to him), yet I heard stories of him beating up other people for suspected wrongdoings against him.

Unsurprisingly, once I told him that his behaviour was out of line, he told me that our friendship was over because I was not loyal enough to him, and he also threatened me with physical violence.

As he seemed very serious about carrying out this threat, I had to be escorted to and from school by my parents or my other friends for a week or two. My head of year had to get involved and instituted disciplinary action against him.

My former friend eventually got expelled in my third year of secondary school for kicking in a glass door. He went off social media and so I didn't hear about him for years. None of my classmates kept in contact with him - I think some were only 'friends' with him out of fear.

Looking back, he treated all his 'friends' like minions, not equals - my parents told me that he ordered me around like a dog. I did see him in my local pub back in July this year, the first time I had seen him since 2012, and lets just say he had not changed one bit.

Thankfully he did not recognize me, but he nearly got kicked out for trying to hit on one of the bar staff who was clearly not interested. I quickly finished my pint and got the hell out of there.

- thunderfart_99

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People Reveal The Weirdest Thing About Themselves

Reddit user Isitjustmedownhere asked: 'Give an example; how weird are you really?'

Let's get one thing straight: no one is normal. We're all weird in our own ways, and that is actually normal.

Of course, that doesn't mean we don't all have that one strange trait or quirk that outweighs all the other weirdness we possess.

For me, it's the fact that I'm almost 30 years old, and I still have an imaginary friend. Her name is Sarah, she has red hair and green eyes, and I strongly believe that, since I lived in India when I created her and there were no actual people with red hair around, she was based on Daphne Blake from Scooby-Doo.

I also didn't know the name Sarah when I created her, so that came later. I know she's not really there, hence the term 'imaginary friend,' but she's kind of always been around. We all have conversations in our heads; mine are with Sarah. She keeps me on task and efficient.

My mom thinks I'm crazy that I still have an imaginary friend, and writing about her like this makes me think I may actually be crazy, but I don't mind. As I said, we're all weird, and we all have that one trait that outweighs all the other weirdness.

Redditors know this all too well and are eager to share their weird traits.

It all started when Redditor Isitjustmedownhere asked:

"Give an example; how weird are you really?"

Monsters Under My Bed

"My bed doesn't touch any wall."

"Edit: I guess i should clarify im not rich."

– Practical_Eye_3600

"Gosh the monsters can get you from any angle then."

– bikergirlr7

"At first I thought this was a flex on how big your bedroom is, but then I realized you're just a psycho 😁"

– zenOFiniquity8

Can You See Why?

"I bought one of those super-powerful fans to dry a basement carpet. Afterwards, I realized that it can point straight up and that it would be amazing to use on myself post-shower. Now I squeegee my body with my hands, step out of the shower and get blasted by a wide jet of room-temp air. I barely use my towel at all. Wife thinks I'm weird."

– KingBooRadley


"In 1990 when I was 8 years old and bored on a field trip, I saw a black Oldsmobile Cutlass driving down the street on a hot day to where you could see that mirage like distortion from the heat on the road. I took a “snapshot” by blinking my eyes and told myself “I wonder how long I can remember this image” ….well."

– AquamarineCheetah

"Even before smartphones, I always take "snapshots" by blinking my eyes hoping I'll remember every detail so I can draw it when I get home. Unfortunately, I may have taken so much snapshots that I can no longer remember every detail I want to draw."

"Makes me think my "memory is full.""

– Reasonable-Pirate902

Same, Same

"I have eaten the same lunch every day for the past 4 years and I'm not bored yet."

– OhhGoood

"How f**king big was this lunch when you started?"

– notmyrealnam3

Not Sure Who Was Weirder

"Had a line cook that worked for us for 6 months never said much. My sous chef once told him with no context, "Baw wit da baw daw bang daw bang diggy diggy." The guy smiled, left, and never came back."

– Frostygrunt


"I pace around my house for hours listening to music imagining that I have done all the things I simply lack the brain capacity to do, or in some really bizarre scenarios, I can really get immersed in these imaginations sometimes I don't know if this is some form of schizophrenia or what."

– RandomSharinganUser

"I do the same exact thing, sometimes for hours. When I was young it would be a ridiculous amount of time and many years later it’s sort of trickled off into almost nothing (almost). It’s weird but I just thought it’s how my brain processes sh*t."

– Kolkeia

If Only

"Even as an adult I still think that if you are in a car that goes over a cliff; and right as you are about to hit the ground if you jump up you can avoid the damage and will land safely. I know I'm wrong. You shut up. I'm not crying."

– ShotCompetition2593

Pet Food

"As a kid I would snack on my dog's Milkbones."

– drummerskillit

"Haha, I have a clear memory of myself doing this as well. I was around 3 y/o. Needless to say no one was supervising me."

– Isitjustmedownhere

"When I was younger, one of my responsibilities was to feed the pet fish every day. Instead, I would hide under the futon in the spare bedroom and eat the fish food."

– -GateKeep-

My Favorite Subject

"I'm autistic and have always had a thing for insects. My neurotypical best friend and I used to hang out at this local bar to talk to girls, back in the late 90s. One time he claimed that my tendency to circle conversations back to insects was hurting my game. The next time we went to that bar (with a few other friends), he turned and said sternly "No talking about bugs. Or space, or statistics or other bullsh*t but mainly no bugs." I felt like he was losing his mind over nothing."

"It was summer, the bar had its windows open. Our group hit it off with a group of young ladies, We were all chatting and having a good time. I was talking to one of these girls, my buddy was behind her facing away from me talking to a few other people."

"A cloudless sulphur flies in and lands on little thing that holds coasters."

"Cue Jordan Peele sweating gif."

"The girl notices my tension, and asks if I am looking at the leaf. "Actually, that's a lepidoptera called..." I looked at the back of my friend's head, he wasn't looking, "I mean a butterfly..." I poked it and it spread its wings the girl says "oh that's a BUG?!" and I still remember my friend turning around slowly to look at me with chastisement. The ONE thing he told me not to do."

"I was 21, and was completely not aware that I already had a rep for being an oddball. It got worse from there."

– Phormicidae

*Teeth Chatter*

"I bite ice cream sometimes."


"That's how I am with popsicles. My wife shudders every single time."


Never Speak Of This

"I put ice in my milk."


"You should keep that kind of thing to yourself. Even when asked."

– We-R-Doomed

"There's some disturbing sh*t in this thread, but this one takes the cake."

– RatonaMuffin

More Than Super Hearing

"I can hear the television while it's on mute."

– Tira13e

"What does it say to you, child?"

– Mama_Skip


"I put mustard on my omelettes."

– Deleted User


– NotCrustOr-filling

Evened Up

"Whenever I say a word and feel like I used a half of my mouth more than the other half, I have to even it out by saying the word again using the other half of my mouth more. If I don't do it correctly, that can go on forever until I feel it's ok."

"I do it silently so I don't creep people out."

– LesPaltaX

"That sounds like a symptom of OCD (I have it myself). Some people with OCD feel like certain actions have to be balanced (like counting or making sure physical movements are even). You should find a therapist who specializes in OCD, because they can help you."

– MoonlightKayla

I totally have the same need for things to be balanced! Guess I'm weird and a little OCD!

Close up face of a woman in bed, staring into the camera
Photo by Jen Theodore

Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.

Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?

But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.

It would be so great to be sure there is something else.

But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.

Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:

"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"


Happy Good Vibes GIF by Major League SoccerGiphy

"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."



"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."

"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."

"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."


Take Me Back

"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."

"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."



The Light Minnie GIF by (G)I-DLEGiphy

"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."


This is why I hate surgery.

You just never know.



"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."



"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."

"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”



"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"


"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"


The Fog

"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."

"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."


Through the Walls

"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."

"She's quite alive and well today."


Well let's all be happy to be alive.

It seems to be all we have.

Man's waist line
Santhosh Vaithiyanathan/Unsplash

Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.

The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.

Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.

Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:

"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"

Redditors didn't see these coming.

Shiver Me Timbers

"I’m always cold now!"

– Telrom_1

"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."

– r7ndom

"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."

– mr_remy

Drawing Concern

"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."

– dee-fondy

"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"

"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."

– LizardofDeath

Unleashing Insults

"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”

"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."

– alanamablamaspama

Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight

"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."

– KeltarCentauri

"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."

– KatMagic1977

"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."

– Jaew96

These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.


"I can buy clothes in any store I want."

– WaySavvyD

"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."

– ganache98012

No More Symptoms

"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."

– colleennicole93

Expanding Capabilities

"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."

– Ramblonius

People Change Their Tune

"How much nicer people are to you."

"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"

– LiZZygsu

"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"

"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"

– awholedamngarden

It's gonna take some getting used to.

Bones Everywhere

"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."

– Princess-Pancake-97

"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."

– bekastrange

Knee Pillow

"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."

– snic2030

"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."

– Strongbad23

More Mobility

"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."

"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."

– dma1965

People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.

But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.

That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.