As teenagers, most ambitious pre-adolescents looked forward to life beyond high school where the freedom for them to live their lives without the supervision of parents or guardians awaited them.
But when they barreled through phases of teen angst, obtaining driver's licenses, and finally being able to see an R-rated movie without sneaking into one, nothing could really prepare them for adulting.
Being told how to be an adult is one thing. Navigating through adulthood on your own, however, can be a very sobering experience.
Curious to hear of the trials and tribulations from strangers online, Redditor bathtub_seizure asked:
"What is an adult problem you were not prepared for?"
First, there are the responsibilities.
"The utter soul crushing search for a job."
Series Of Unfortunate Events
"Same. I was out of work for years due to severe illness, then spent 8 months looking for any job possible but getting rejected everytime. I finally got 2 interviews lined up in April then coronavirus hit and they got cancelled! I cannot catch a break..."
Better Than The Alternative
"Not being able to leave a job you hate because you might just become homeless without it."
Then comes the pain and suffering.
People Come And Go
"Losing people. Loved ones passing away is the hardest. Then there’s the nasty breakdown of personal relationships, family relationships and friendships. Then there’s the sad drifting apart that happens when life takes you on a different path to a person you were once really close to."
You're On Your Own, Kid
"Realizing that not even your parents have all the answers. And finally understanding that they were just figuring it out as they went just like we are."
"Not having an all knowing figure to give you the answers to all your problems is the pits and I hate it."
"Edit: just wanted to add that I agree figuring stuff out for yourself is rewarding and fun, but some things you really dont want to figure out for yourself, or cant figure out. And for those things it's nice to have someone to point you in the right direction."
The Physical Limitations Set In
"Arthritis is f'king horrible and early onset autoimmune arthritis is worse than just having an ache in one or two joints. I hurt all the time, everywhere, and everyone just assumes you're faking it or you're a pill popper. I am not going to live another 20 years with this pain like my dad did."
Pain Doesn't Discriminate
"I don't have arthritis but I do have other issues that I end up having to use a cane for sometimes at 28 years old and I get the "you're too young for that" a lot, it drives me up a wall. Like, thanks, you've cured me, I hadn't considered I may be too young for this! If only I'd known it was that easy!"
"Not being able to sleep due to stress. Yet here I lay, exhausted but wide awake."
"When I was younger I could sleep anytime, anywhere."
There are a slew of responsibilities these Redditors never saw coming.
"Being able to not cook the same meal everyday while balancing hundreds of other tasks. I will always admire my mom for how she was able to cook, have a clean house, work 43 hours and help her children do homework all while taking time to work out at the end of everyday."
"I could mention other common problems like money management and common tasks that I haven't mastered, but what really hit me like a train was the actual transition of adulthood. Im talking about having to make my own appointments and having to keep tabs on myself instead of handing every single document to my mom. I realized how unorganized I was when I found my birth certificate in the same drawer where i have junk receipts."
"Dealing with your parents acting like children."
Being The Host
"Having a presentable place, and debating myself on why it matters. It always frustrated me when my parents had a guest over and we had to deep clean the whole house. Like if it’s my close friend of 8 years visiting, why do I care what they care about my cleanliness? And yet, every time people are over I find myself cleaning the apartment up for some reason."
Didn't we all feel invincible as youngsters?
I was rambunctious, physically active, and I hardly ever felt like I was going to run out of steam.
Yet, here we are. I can barely get up out of bed without hearing a snap, crackle, and pop from all of my joints.
I was cognizant of the eventual physical breakdown of my body taunting me from the distant horizon. But nothing could prepare me for the velocity at which this phase of my life would arrive and slap me hard in the face.
Life can be so cruel.
School can be a hotbed of craziness.
We all of course assume students will cause drama, but what about the adults?
It's all a powderkeg of scandalous possibility.
Olivia Pope herself couldn't spin some of the stories that come out of high school.
And a lot of towns are rocked by school scandals.
Redditor Lost-Warning-2588 wanted to hear about everyone's craziest school stories.
So they asked:
"What’s the worst scandal to happen at your school?"
My school was pretty tame. At least in the public news.
I have no idea what was behind closed doors.
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"Girl A decided to fight girl B in class. Girl A ripped girl B’s real hair out, broke her nose, and crippled her. Girl B was sent to the emergency room. Girl A was suspended for 2 weeks. They were both in 7th grade."
"The math teacher left his wife of 18 years for one of the graduating seniors."
"Had a history teacher do the same thing. Left his wife for a student he had in freshman and sophomore year and they married the year after she graduated."
"Happened with an English teacher in my school. He didn't leave school until a couple years after she graduated, but he left his wife and kids for her, and she dropped out of an Ivy League school for him."
"One year in exams days they were trying to add a new method to prevent cheating where a man from the administration comes to every class before every exam and collects students phones while sticking a sticker with a number on each phone and giving the same sticker to the student."
"So he can get his phone after school without anyone taking someone else's phone that looks alike or something. This was working at first and a bit 'preventing cheating' until one day some guy sneaked into our high school and came as the man who collects the phones while he wasn't, he stole the whole high school phones and went. lol."
"A student that was in the grade above me (I was a senior, he had graduated) killed his girlfriend and buried her by the train tracks right behind the school. Yeah it was crazy. He seemed like a cool guy I guess, I’d run into him at a few parties and had a couple classes with him. The girl went to school in a neighboring town so I didn’t know her."
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"My middle school banned hugging and hand holding during course changes because it blocked the hall. In protest all the Eighth Graders stood up and hugged each other during their lunch period. A bunch of students got detention. Made the cover of the Charlotte Observer."
Hugs make the world better. Hug it out.
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"The caretaker killed two local girls and hid them in the school, he tried using the clay kiln to burn them. He later dumped them a few miles away."
"We had a computer teacher/football assistant coach who was just blasted all day, had so many DUIs he had to get rides to work, but was the cousin of the Superintendent so he kept his job. Let’s just say that when he crashed a student’s car in the parking lot because he convinced them to let him borrow it that that was the beginning of the end of it."
"It was a small town. The scandal is that the Super tried to cover it up by trying to convince the kid to take the heat for it. To no one’s surprise, the kid was not convinced. They let him stay on as Super for another two years."
"A kid in my senior year short story class (who sat directly behind me) was charged with the stabbing, beheading and burning of one of his friends/drug dealer."
"I remember the day like it was yesterday, sitting in my short story class when my teacher came in, in tears because she just heard the news."
"Students didn't find out about it until later. I actually have a friend who testified in his trial because he purchased the murdering materials at the hardware store she worked at."
"One weekend a couple of kids from the hockey team had a sleep over."
"One of the older boys from high school targeted them. He tied them up, slit their throats and set the house on fire."
"One of the boys survived and is an incredible person. He’s the chief of a fire department and has done motivational speaking."
"The murderer is now out on full parole."
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"Kid made a chlorine bomb and threw it in the trash can at lunch. Lockdown, bomb squad, every single kid and faculty member out on the field in 95° weather for 2+ hours until parents could show up to pick up their kids."
Kids are crazy. I'm glad I chose to only have pets.
Life is fulled of things we can't explain.
Time. People. Dreams. The dark. The Unknown.
When life feels a little off... like a tape being paused because we're all part of a 'Truman Show' experiment, it's because it probably is.
Then the reset.
But resets don't go unnoticed.
Redditor kaden86 wanted to discuss the times they've tried to decipher the unexplainable.
So they asked:
"What's your creepiest 'glitch in the matrix' or unexplainable thing that's ever happened to you?"
I feel like I live in the Matrix. More than I like to admit.
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"Removed a painting from the wall during a late evening cleaning, put it away and returned to the wall to see a never before seen painting on the same spot, put a chill down my spine."
Fast forward 10 years...
"I remember being pretty young like 9 or 10 and I was the car park of a pub in England (Southend). I remember seeing someone in their teens in the window of a house looking over the car park."
"They waved at me and I felt like I knew them somehow. My parents asked who I was waving at and I said just some lady in the window over there. Didn’t think much of it. Fast forward 10 years."
"I was at my nan's new house. I remember walking into her room (which I never was allowed to do) going to the window. I then realised I was in the house looking over that same parking lot and remembering that interaction years before."
"Then a girl around 9 or 10 who was in said car park waved at me and I waved back. I felt like I knew her. Could not explain it and have never told anyone about it. It freaked me out."
No idea how...
"Weird but happy. About 5 years ago in November we lost our family dog to cancer. She was the dog my children grew up with, loved by all. At the next Christmas, at the end of the day of gifts, food and family, as I was picking up, I found a tiny pewter dog figurine sitting on the mantel."
"I asked everyone who had been at the house that day if they left it. No one had. Okay, weird, but took it as a good omen. When my eldest went back to college at the end of that Christmas break, he asked if he could take the little figurine, to remember his dog. Of course, I said yes. A week or two later, picking up around the house, there was the figurine again!"
"I called my son, and said, 'You forgot the dog figurine!' He said, 'No I didn’t, it’s right in front of me on my desk!' I had now found a second figurine!! Again, no one claimed any knowledge of it. No idea how... but I still have the two of them tucked away on a shelf to this day."
"About a year ago me and my cousin visited Los Angeles. We were driving around using google maps and after missing our 3rd or 4th exit we swear we both heard it sigh loudly before it rerouted us."
"We freaked out and made sure our driving was on point the rest of the ride. The rest of the trip there if we missed any of our exits or turns we always apologized to google so hopefully she would know we were just morons and not a**holes."
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"I was on vacation on Florida visiting a friend, we were walking on the beach on a perfectly sunny day when everything went black for a second. I think it was weird but explained it away thinking that my eyes were playing tricks on me until he looked at me and said 'did everything go black for a second?'"
Oh Florida... where the glitch is HOT!!
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"I have a jade Buddhist necklace I bought in China about 10 years ago. It disappears for months at a time only to reappear somewhere obvious like my desk, my dresser, in a drawer I use every day. I just say it goes on a trip and will come back eventually."
"Not my story, but my Grandpa's. So he served in the Navy and hadn't come home for five years. He finally got to go home, and on his way, he saw his old friend, let's call him Wally. Wally was getting on his normal bus, and my Grandpa shouted 'Hi!' To him. But Wally didn't respond."
"But he didn't think much of it, seeing how Wally didn't have the best hearing. Wally got on his bus, and looked my Grandpa in the eye as the bus drove away."
"Later, after he got home and was talking to his dad, he asked him how Wally was doing and told his dad about how he saw him earlier.
"His dad was silent for a minute, and asked him if he was sure he saw Wally. My grandpa said yes, and his dad replied..."
"Wally died six months ago."
In my Dreams
"One day when I was about 8 I didn't go to school because I was sick. My friend was supposed to bring me homework etc. but he never came. My granddad came home from work and he told me that that friend was dead, I was devastated. That night I had a dream."
"I was with my friend at a playground next to our school and we were talking, then he told me that he is safe and it didn't hurt when that car hit him. The next day my mother wanted to talk to me about that situation and she asked me if I wanted to know what happened. I told her that I know everything because my friend told me."
"She thought that my granddad told me but he did not. He said that he did not wanted to tell me without her knowing it. That night I had a dream again and I was talking to him again. We were playing and having fun and he told me that he really had to go and we wont see each other ever again. The next day was his funeral and I really haven't had a dream about him ever since."
"Might get buried but oh well. When I played baseball as a kid, they were handing out the trophies at the end of the season. They called out the names of the kids while we received our trophies. There happened to be a kid with the same name as me. We met after the ceremony because it was weird since our last name isn't a very common one."
"We had the same birthday and everything. We looked alike, both our Dad's were named Derek and both of our sisters were named Lilly. As a kid, I found it cool. As an adult, I find it cool and also disturbing."
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"I was driving about 50 mph, and a car ran a stop sign on an on ramp and pulled out right in front of me. I remember bracing for impact and then I was about 300 yards down the highway and I saw the car at the ramp in my rearview, just about to pull out."
There are always going to be weird "coincidences," they make life fun. Right?
We all need to love ourselves.
And is very important to put ourselves and our happiness first.
Self-love is a vital part of the human existence.
But some people really need to examine the behavior that they deem as "self-care."
Self-care doesn't belittle others.
And it acknowledges the line between confidence and arrogance.
Redditor redhead_in_red wanted to hear about the ways in which choosing "Me First" can actually be a detriment.
So they asked:
"What's some popular self-care/self-love advice that is actually really toxic?"
The telling it like it is crew always gets me.
There is truth and the way you say it.
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"If they can't handle my worst, they don't deserve my best,' funny how those people are always at their 'worst.'"
"I consider anyone who ever says this to be radioactive, so I stay miles away. I remember being on dating sites and some women using that in their info. Automatic nope... lol."
"Advice to Surround yourself only with positive people, if you're willing to cut people from the your life when they are a bit down, that's a recipe for people hiding the negatives in their life from friends, only discussing the positive and having mostly superficial friendships, for fear of you being cut out of their lives."
"Not saying you need to keep people in your life who are treating you badly, but we all go through times when we are up and times when we are down, friends give you thier time through both."
“'Always trust your feelings.'”
"This advice is everywhere. No, oftentimes our feelings require introspection to work through them and make positive change."
"I always took this as 'trust your gut,' meaning 'trust your instinct.' We describe it as a feeling but it's actually thought, memory, and sensation/feeling - not an emotion. And this definitely gets lost in our collective game of telephone."
"It's meant for things pertaining to general survival decisions, mostly. Like, a gut 'feeling' to not cross the street yet. It's a bunch of things we pick up on but can't quite put our finger on, and it is better to act without thinking on each thing and memory specifically."
"That you should expect unconditional support love and acceptance from friends or romantic partners. Popular idea, but if people really care they will tell you when you are harming yourself or others rather than just keep the vibe chill."
"Unconditional support does NOT mean they go along with whatever you want. It means they care about you and support you, even when you make bad decisions. And sometimes, supporting you means telling you how it is."
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"The sort of 'positivity' that relies on dragging other people down."
"I see it the most around body image issues in particular (but can apply to other things too), and I just think it's really sad."
"It doesn't solve any of the underlying issues, just makes more people feel rubbish about themselves!"
Keeping everyone afloat is part of the positive.
"It's not really advice, but it's popular for people to label themselves as 'brutally honest.'"
"Honesty is good, but beware of people who are more interested in the brutality than the honesty."
"'Live your truth.' There is a fine line between between authenticity and being an a**hole."
"I've yet to meet a person who uses 'I'm speaking my truth' who didn't clearly mean "I don't care how incorrect or hurtful what I'm about to say is; if you don't accept it you're disrespecting me."
"To clarify since some replies are bringing up specific people. I don't know much about celebrities. I was mostly thinking of a former coworker who would use the phrase constantly when being blatantly wrong but still expecting to be accommodated for her preferred reality."
Say NO... to YOU!
“'Ignore the haters.'”
"Sometimes the 'haters' are people who love you and want to warn you of potential pitfalls (such as MLMs, cults, abusive relationships, etc.)"
"Update: A few people are saying that the definition of haters is, essentially, only people who are hating for the wrong reasons. I agree that’s what this advice intends to communicate. Basically, don’t pay any attention to people who project consistent irrational negativity your way."
"My concern is that this phrase is so easily misapplied as a 'self love' mantra which ultimately serves to keep some vulnerable people from listening to the valid and well-intentioned concerns of loved ones. It can be used by a manipulative person to keep victims/vulnerable followers in line."
"I like 'haters gonna hate' better because it implies there is a pattern. Like, 'oh that person is always hating so of course they’re hating now.' But if your sister is usually supportive, and definitely not a hater by nature, and is suddenly very concerned that your relationship is abusive... listen up!"
"I think it comes down to the idea that you have (arguably) more to lose by disregarding a well-intentioned friend than by paying attention to an ill-intentioned one. I appreciated the feedback and did not find any of you to be haters. :) "
"I have a friend who is very sucked into the 'girl boss' subculture that has her working all hours on a business that makes no money, then doing 'self care' in the form of spending the little money she makes on manicures or expensive beauty products that other people have told her are self care."
"Self care and self love is sometimes admitting that you need to stop perusing something that isn’t working and is making you miserable, even if it’s what you thought you wanted and even if everyone is telling you to keep going and not to give up."
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“'Cut off anyone that doesn’t bring you peace.'"
"Obviously this applies to people who are constantly, deliberately making you miserable. But a stressful situation or argument with a friend that you care about doesn’t count if you haven’t attempted to work it out with them."
Well I hope some truths sink in.
Do you have anything to add? Let us know in the comments.
Who doesn't love a good villain?
If we really stop and think, we might realize that it's the villains, not so much the heroes, who have all the best lines.
Not to mention, often the most striking wardrobes as well.
Which doesn't mean that we don't cheer and feel vindicated to see them pay for all their awful deeds.
Most of the time.
In some rare cases, we might find ourselves siding with the supposed antagonist.
Leaving the theater wondering what exactly is so bad about them, and scratching our heads as to whether or not they got what they deserved.
"In what movie did you like the bad guy more than the good guy?"
"Emperor's New groove. Yzma and Kronk, they're entertaining to watch until today."- EarlyNeedleworker
"Kronk was pretty loveable in 'The Emperor's New Groove'."- jonny_orange
That Explains The Sequels...
"There’s just something about Predator that keeps me interested."- bignuncedboyAlien Vs Predator GIF by foxhorrorGiphy
Their History Is Complicated...
"Nicolas Cage, Sean Connery and Ed Harris."
"Harris assumes control of Alcatraz prison, a now tourist destination, and uses it as a missile launch site to threaten the US government for ransom."
"On the surface he looks like a bad guy, so Cage and Connery have to go stop him."
"Later in the movie it's revealed that he only wants the reparations his dead men and their families are entitled to."
"He doesn't hurt any prisoners and though he's given the opportunity, when the government declines, he admits he was never going to actually use the weapon."
"The movie is well written and the characters have depth enough to garner empathy for even the villain."- TwilightsHammer
No Explanation Needed...
"'Muppet Treasure Island'."
"Tim Curry."- ZecoraNightshade
The Dangers Of Revenge...
"I rooted for Gerard Butlers character Clyde Sheldon in 'Law Abiding Citizen'."- traco93sexy gerard butler GIFGiphy
If You Can't Take The Heat
"De Niro > Pacino ."
"'Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner'."- beachhike
Survival Of The Fittest...
"Dude was starving in the desert and just wanted to eat."- enrtcode
Those Wings Are Hard To Resist...
"The Monarch in venture brothers."- DrunkmastGIF by The Venture BrothersGiphy
Has Has Power Over Someone...
"I mean, it's David Bowie dancing around with a bulge."
"TIL the bulge was the hero of the story."- PonchiBear
All villains have a seductive charm about them which makes them hard to resist, which helps them get away with their dastardly plans...
Though in some cases, maybe they simply are that charming, and their plans aren't that dastardly.
After all, thanks to Miranda Priestly, Andy Sachs will NEVER not notice when a belt is cerulean ever again.