It isn't all about physical beauty folks. As much emphasis is put on mainstream beauty standards, what matters the most is what is on the inside. In this case, the cliche is true.
You could have model good looks, the best home and cars money has to offer but if you treat people horribly and have no regard for others you will be the ugliest person in a room every single time. Oh, the other side someone could not be “conventionally attractive" but be the belle of the ball if they have an honest and caring heart.
Redditor PARADISE wanted to know what traits it takes for someone to go from hot to not in an instant for everyone else.
“What is one trait that could turns someone from a 10 to a 5?"
Just let people enjoy themselves...
“Gatekeeping/Smugness. I hate hearing that I'm too old to enjoy something that I honestly enjoy, it hurts no one. You don't have to enjoy it, but respect the fact that I do."
“Stop bringing up the fact that you only watch academy award winning films, you're brand name only, you're into the classic arts. I respect if you actually only like listening to classical music or you really are into these obscure award-winning films. That doesn't mean you're better than me or my interests."TheDemonLady
“it just ruins getting to know the person."
“Lack of sympathy. When I see someone brush off another person's pain, or just being plain hostile towards someone who obviously needs help (especially when they make some stupid remark) it is an instant ‘I hate you’ realization I have. It's sad, sometimes it just ruins getting to know the person.” sunflower_letters
“Having the ‘you're worthless and can be easily replaced’ attitude. If a person is going to treat you like crap what is the point of dating them when there are other people in the dating scene.” UnknownL_13
“Being involved in pyramid schemes." ClassyJacket
“A friend invited me to lunch once and I noticed she was asking me a bunch of personal questions about my life - am I happy in my job & relationships, is there anything I want to change, do I create goals etc."
“Then out of nowhere she pulled out a brochure and offered me 24 half hour life coaching sessions for $4,000. For the past 6 months she'd been involved in life coach training (clearly a pyramid scheme) where she attended lectures all across the US from this expert life coach of how to set yourself up with a coaching business."
“This girl was the total opposite of someone who had their sh*t together and I could tell she was sucked in by false promises of fortune & wealth. I wasn't attracted to her in the first place but after that lunch I started to feel repulsion." schaumannTalking Season 3 GIF by The SimpsonsGiphy
A little gratitude goes a long way...
“No appreciation for effort put in.” Bullisacooldude69
“For sure. As a bonus, those kinds of people will suck the life out of you if you keep trying to please them.” reppya
“Not respecting boundaries/aggressively trying to change your mind when you say no or say that something makes you uncomfortable.” tealdeer995
“The worst date I've ever been on ended with the guy trying to insist on driving me home, and ignoring me saying no. Like... why would I get in a car with a near-stranger who cannot take no for an answer? Yikes.” Phenomenomena
No one likes a litter bug...
“I flipped one day cause of this. A few years ago when on my final school day I saw this girl just chuck sweet wrappers accross the form room. Having a job as a hotel housekeeper I know what it's like to be the person who has to deal with these peoples sh*t.”
“On my way out the room I grabbed the litter off the floor shoved it into her handbag and continued past keeping hard eye contact, Ik it was very petty but it made me feel good knowing she had her own spilt lucazade and sweets to clean out her bag.” Miner142
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Its just rude...
“Acting like their time is more valuable" outtsideyerhouse
“I hate when people are late. It ruins the mood for the whole date." BeleriandCrisesWhere Are You Ice GIF by OriginalsGiphy
Thats not exactly a personal quality...
“Adopting one aspect of their life as their entire identity. Example: I had a friend that made sure everyone knew they hated Apple as a company. If you had a convo lasting more than 5 minutes with this person, it would come up.” BoldAsCalls
Seriously, treat your service staff kindly.
“Being rude to customer service workers for no reason.” MissPaigeAlexandra
“That's 10 to 1, they said 10 to 5.” theLuminescentlion
“I blocked him."
“Being passive aggressive when I give an answer that they didn't want. Example: I was unwell, and at home. A guy I was dating unofficially wanted me to go over his place coz his parents were out. I said no, I'm sick. And then he proceeded to chuck a sad when he wasn't getting his way. I blocked him.” kellyphant
Please vote, in local elections too!
“Not voting. I don't care who my prospective partner votes for, as long as they actually care enough about their community and country to actually vote. I'd rather be with someone who's political views are the exact opposite of mine then someone who's too short-sighted to even care at all.” Breadflat17
“I can't take someone who isn't humble serious.”
“When there self centered and think their above everyone else because of their looks. It's shallow and I can't take someone who isn't humble serious. I've had lots of female friends I would have been interested in pursing a relationship with but they would show me how they treated other guys that were interested in them and expected me to make fun of the guy with her because he wasn't attractive enough to be looking at her, all it did immediately turn off because of how they treated others.” JTat79
“so I beat the sh*t out of him with my Doc Martens…”
“This is a 10 to 0 for me, but bigotry. I remember I used to think that this guy at my school was cute all through middle school, but then early on in my 8th-grade year, I heard him use the N-word and he acted so incredibly hateful, I just thought that he was the sh*ttiest person ever after that.”
“That, and one time he decided that it would be fun to call me trans-related slurs (since dressing punk apparently makes me trans???), so I beat the sh*t out of him with my Doc Martens. No hesitation, no regrets.” PunkRockFan05
“Person being hooked on social media and trends 24/7 person that can't live without phone in their hand constantly can't talk, can't laugh and can't form their own ideas, jokes and topics without internet giving it to them. becoming standart these days...classical startet ‘have you seen this?’ pointing their screen at you.” xdococ
This person needs a fellow music lover.
“It has to be that they don't like music. I am nearly constantly listen to music. I like almost every genre and like listen to anything once. I've met a couple of these people and it really disincentives from trying to get to know them. I can not wrap my head around it.” Grimm131
“Met a bombshell on the train once. We struck up a conversation. She was complaining that her family was mad at her for quitting her job so she could have more time to go shopping… she was also complaining about not being able to shop without money… she was not a bombshell anymore.” AllegedlyElJeffe
Just be good to each other and don’t dip…
“Racism/sexism/homophobia etc. Being mean just for the sake of being mean. Smoking/dipping (sorry I just think they're gross).”Specialist_Budget
"Lack of sympathy…”
"Lack of sympathy. When I see someone brush off another person's pain, or just being plain hostile towards someone who obviously needs help (especially when they make some stupid remark) it is an instant ‘I hate you’ realization I have. It's sad, sometimes it just ruins getting to know the person." Gianfranconi
These are certainly giant turn-offs and red flags. Best to move right along if you encounter someone with any of these toxic traits.
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