Warning Signs That Someone Doesn't Have Their Sh*t Together
A lot of people honestly go through life barely holding everything together, but some people just totally don't have it together in the first place.
Some folks are really good at hiding that fact, but there are usually some pretty clear signs.
Redditor erestupapi asked:
"What is a sign someone doesn't have their sh*t together?"
Airing Their Dirty Laundry
"They post all of their drama online and then complain that people are in their business"
"Love especially the detailed posts about how 'some people' need to mind their own business, and how such and such isn’t even true because blah blah blah. 😂 the best"
"I figured out long ago that if someone in a LTR starts plastering social media with 'We're so happy! We are SO IN LOVE! We are going to be together FOREVER!', things are on the verge of reverting to 'It's complicated.'"
Whose Fault Is It Anyway?
"When you blame everyone else for your self-inflicted problems."
"And vice-versa, by blaming yourself for everything regardless of whose fault it is."
"This is how I turned my life around at 22. I had a series of problems in my life and I took no ownership in causing them. I had a sudden realization that I was the main cause of each of my problems, and started shaping up from that day on. Unfortunately, once I had that realization, it made me see those issues in friends and family, and those relationships suffered because those people refused to see the same thing in themselves."
It's Only Borrowing If You Pay It Back
"Always asking to borrow money"
"My boyfriend gets called by his “best friend” weekly and asks him if he can lend him tons of money. Meanwhile he buys the most expensive jewelry for his girlfriend. Yeah he’s not well"
"This. Ironically, my high-earning friends are the one that always gets involved with debt. It's funny how they earn 2-4x my salary but they still got the nerve to borrow money from me."
You Can Just Block People, You Know
"New phone number/social media accounts every few months."
"I lost contact with a lot of people because of that. I constantly got chained texts of "this is my new number!" Or a Facebook post saying to send them your number because they got a new number. I just stopped responding. And when the new social media accounts were created and I got a new friend request I would end up just not accepting after the second one."
"And it wasn't like once in a while either. Every few months. It happened every few months with the same people."
"When I was younger I knew someone like this. He’d get blocked by women on Facebook or his number would be blocked so every year or two he’d get a new number or make a new Facebook so he’s suddenly unblocked."
Trying Too Hard
"Constantly posting motivational videos and quotes. I mean like all the time."
"Or the ones constantly posting over top love declarations about their spouse/SO. Things are likely not well in that relationship."
"Hahahaha this is a massive red flag for a breakdown. Also posting loyalty memes 'never take my kindness for weakness' with a picture of a tired lion."
"and the memes with some dude smoking that is about how they are the 'black sheep' of the family but everyone comes to them when sh*t 'gets real'"
"You can always tell your friend is going through some sh*t in their life when their social media posts all of a sudden have an uptick in positive and motivational quotes. It's like a call for help or something"
A Perfect Act
"Plot twist, no one has their sh*t together. Some are just really good at faking it."
"I like 'Everybody is on their first try at getting through life'"
"Worked with 'highly intelligent; execs. They sure as f**k were acting."
"I’m making my way up the career ladder atm and I’m faking it half the time. I realised a little while back that the guys above are as well. Life is messy, barely anyone has their sh*t together all the time. Just some are better at riding the the chaos than others and are better at dealing with the unexpected."
"What I find is that some compassion and a little self awareness goes a long way. That’s the difference between a crap senior exec and one that you want to work for."
Just The Runs
"If they have loose stool and do not eat enough fiber"
"Technically correct. The best kind of correct."
The Glory Days
"Most of their small talk/idle chat consists of their high school days even though they graduated years ago."
"Oh yes. My husband had a friend like this when we were dating. They knew each other in high school and that’s all the friend would talk about. I saw this slow but steady pulling away that my husband did because there was no 'now', there was no 'future' with this friend. If he couldn’t talk about that crazy time they painted all the footballs with tar, he’d have nothing to say."
That Was A Lie
"Becoming easily agitated and constantly saying 'I don't care'"
"My mother every day of my childhood."
"Honestly, someone who would identify as a workaholic and over-schedules themselves. Always seems to me to be a person who doesn't like sitting alone with their thoughts too long. Not enough balance. *not referring to those of us who have to work like that due to economic status."
"These people are great at parties (if they even bother to show). You get to hear all the humble bragging and how they 'are so tired and busy all the time' /s"
"They always slide in the fact that they are successful and highly sought after for work. Lord help the people who don't think they're in control of their own schedule and don't know what 'no' is."
Even the person who seems like they've got it all figured out might not really be as in control of their life as they seem.
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Perhaps one reason horror films are so popular is that people know they are watching a work of fiction.
As soon as they leave the theatre or turn off the TV, they are out of the terrifying world they've been a part of for two hours but got the rush of adrenaline they need, similar to riding a roller coaster or thrill ride.
For this reason, no movie, TV show, or book, no matter how scary they are, can never equal being scared in real life.
As finding yourself, or worse your family, in a dangerous and/or life-threatening situation is an experience so terrifying, it genuinely defies description.
"What was the scariest moment in your life, and why?"
Witnessing A Near-Death Experience
"I walked in on my dad, looking like he was dead (eyes open, but lifeless)."
"He was suffering a full cardiac arrest."
"I called 911 and gave him chest compressions for 10 minutes until EMTs arrived."
"When they got there they told me his heart and lungs had stopped (full cardiac arrest) and they were struggling getting a pulse."
"I thought no way this is it and he did end up getting a pulse, being transported to the hospital and having his heart operated on."
"He survived!"- Caseylightning
A Life Nearly Over Before It Even Began
"When I went into preterm labor at 25 weeks."
"Same night she was born but wasn't making any sound."
"She was floppy and not breathing."
"So grateful to our team who breathed for her."
"She's delayed some but she's now 20 months and thriving."- prettysouthernchick
Taken By Surprise In Your Sleep
"When a poster hanging above my bed fell on me in the middle of the night."
"Thought I was being attacked."- Midnite_St0rm
"Hit black ice on an exit."
"My Sis in the car with me, I was driving."
"IDK how many 360's we did."
"Ended up not hitting anything and stopped inches from a light pole."
"How we both didn't piss our pants is beyond me."
"We were in our teens."
"It was the worst carnival ride ever."- pgabrielfreak
"I used to live near a large open stormwater drain with no fencing around it."
"Three drunk guys drove their car straight into it."
"I went out and found the driver trying to get his friends foot out of the windshield."
"On the field on other side of the drain I saw the third passenger who was covered in blood."
"I asked if they were ok and my neighbor called the ambulance/police."
"The blood covered friend passed out and was twitching so I ran to the car, grabbed a towel from the back seat and ran to help him."
"I found a large, deep cut on the back of his neck/head."
"I rolled him to his back and used the weight of his head to put pressure on the wound."
"I was talking to him, trying to keep him awake and he went into shock, twitching and unresponsive."
"This was the moment I thought a man died in my hands."
"I was able to wake him and the ambulance took over from there."
"That was the most harrowing moment of my life."- TinaDunk559
Escaping For A Better Life
"It was the night that I (17 F[emale]) was escaping to Europe from Turkey (at the time I was 15)."
"I wouldn't call it a moment because it was a whole night."
"A few things happened so I'm gonna write them down here."
"The first one was actually in daylight."
"The driver was taking the group that I am escaping with to the border."
"And out of 5 people, at least 3 of them were wanted by the police ."
"We weren't criminals, don't worry."
"Government is led by a dictator so anything you do that they don't like is a crime."
" So as you can guess, we weren't supposed to get pulled aside by the police to check IDs."
"But there was a control thing on the highway and they were almost gonna stop us."
"We got lucky and the police pulled the truck in front of us and we were let through."
"I was so scared that I hold my mom's hand and didn't let go until we passed them."
"After I let go, her hand was white as paper."
"The second one is when we were out of the car and running to the border with two smugglers leading us."
"They were stopping us to lie on the ground every 30 seconds just in case there are soldiers."
"But one time they stopped us and we lay on the ground for almost 30 minutes."
"The smugglers were gone and all we can see was the starry sky."
"We didn't move, breathe when necessary, and didn't say a thing for 30 minutes."
"It was quite scary."
"And this one happened in Greece."
"We were in Greece for about 10 minutes before the soldiers found us."
"The smugglers told us to leave our bags on the ground and put our hands up if we ever see a Greek soldier."
"I am not an idiot but after some emotional breakdown on the way there and seeing the soldiers with guns, I started crying and made up all those weird scenarios where they execute us by a firing squad lmao."
"I know where it doesn't sound like a really scary thing but it is quite hard to explain the atmosphere. "
'You have to live it to understand it."- semrAwashere
Fear Of Flying
"I'm absolutely terrified of flying, so being stuck on a long haul flight with what I considered to be terrible turbulence wasn't exactly fun."
"I was in an absolute state of panic and was certain we'd crash and die."
"I've avoided flying ever since and when I have to in the future, I'll make sure to get whatever prescription that knocks me out completely."
"If I still know who, where and why I am when I'm boarding, I'm not getting on that plane."- sadsledgemain
Nearly Dying... TWICE
"Had a couple of them that I couldn't decide between."
"First one: Driving fast on a rural road, two lanes & hilly."
"I pop over a hill and there's a car stopped in the lane just ahead, and another car coming from the other direction."
"No way to stop in time and no open lane.'
"Everything went slow motion in my head, and I whipped my car onto the tiny gravel shoulder with inches to spare and got around without losing control."
"My friends in the car were all screaming."
"Second one: Just got out of surgery for my neck and was pretty much immobilized."
"They told me if I felt any pain to click the button for the morphine drip taped to my hand, and that it self limits to every 15 minutes."
"I'm in pain and click it."
"This goes on for a while and the pain gets worse and worse."
"The young attendant finally starts paying attention and says 'Oh, We left the clip on the drip line' and pulls it off.'
"I knew I'd clicked that button a few times so there was probably a lot in the line."
"My last memory was the older nurse in the room yelling 'Nooooo!' and lunging towards me."- lapsangsouchogn
Even Stephen King couldn't come up with material this terrifying.
One of the hardest things in the world is being able to afford life's necessities. We all work and make money (or have parents that do), but having money and being able to afford what you need are two different things.
I'm not just talking about the latest gadgets, either.
Not having a fancy knife set or the newest Apple Watch won't destroy your life.
I'm talking about the things so vital to our survival that they should be cheap, but are actually near impossible to afford.
Redditors know this to be true and are ready to share what some of those vital things are.
It all started when Redditor vashisthaa asked:
"What should be cheap and affordable but is not?"
Money Doesn't Account For Taste
"Caviar. It tastes awful, and comes in mass quantities, and costs $50 for a small tin. Idk why."
"I don't understand how something whose patent was given away for dirt can become so expensive."
"45 years ago, my sister went into diabetic coma, nearly died. My parents, of meager means, were able to get her insulin for free. What's going on now is unacceptable."
"Anything mental health related, really."
"My psychiatrist reluctantly prescribed me meds with the intention I seek therapy. I keep telling him I’m too poor and “maybe this summer”. But I’ll never be able to afford 200$ a session to talk to someone."
A Monthly Expense
"Tampons, pads, birth control. Any product that is needed for women that is considered a ‘Luxury’ in todays standards"
"As someone with a uterus I agree."
"They should be free. Bleeding is involuntary. Plenty of Dr's offices and clinics give out free condoms. They should do the same with period products."
What Came First?
"Seriously, what exactly happened in the last two years? Did the hens unionize?"
We Need More Apples A Day
"I would assume, for Americans, health care."
"Health care...f*cking 'Murica"
Secondary Health Care
"Including eyes and teeth, for those out there who (like me) aren't American."
"Yeah, a visit to the ER doesn't cost me a cent and my meds are very affordable, but the optometrist and the dentist still cost me a lot, even if they're partially covered by insurance and the parts that aren't covered can be deducted from my income tax. I shouldn't have to reconfigure my whole budget every time I have a cavity or need a new pair of glasses."
"As a fellow new yorker"
"Montrealer chiming in. Hear-hear! Yeah, our rents are far more affordable, but then our salaries are proportionally lower, so if you're unwilling to have roommates or are unlucky in love, good luck to ya!"
"My older sister is currently renting an apartment in a somewhat cheap neighborhood and she works as a waitress. She says that the rent is very expensive even though they are 3 roommates."
"(I don't pay the rent since I am a school student and I live with my family)"
"Baby formula. It’s required in order to feed an infant if breastfeeding isn’t an option (and yes, there are absolutely many valid reasons why it might not be possible to breastfeed. Lack of milk supply, baby has an intolerance to it, mother is taking certain medications, mother’s mental health prevents it, adoption, and that’s just what comes to mind off the top of my head). You literally cannot feed an infant anything other than milk until at least 6 months, and it’s not always an option to rely entirely on donated breastmilk. I’m sure in many locations, donated milk isn’t even a thing!"
"For children old enough for solid food, it’s possible to choose budget-friendly options just like for adults’ food, but there’s no alternative for little infants. Milk (breast or formula) is the only option, and the companies know that so they know they can charge a premium and still sell their product. This leads to families trying to stretch their supply of formula in unhealthy ways like watering it down (babies can’t regulate their electrolytes well, it can be very harmful) or adding fillers like rice (doesn’t have the required nutrition, again babies that young can’t adapt to macro/micronutrient imbalances the same way older children can)"
Insult To Injury
"I agree! It should be very expensive to get a marriage license and very cheap to get a divorce decree."
Sounds About Right
"Electricity. When you provide something in such quantities as to turn it into an everyday commodity, you don't get to charge double fees to sustain everyday life."
"Like increasing rent because you live on a higher floor."
Free For All
"Fruits. God allows these to grow without human interference mostly. They should be everywhere like hand sanitizer. Take some if you are hungry .. just not the entire Container"
A Girl's Best Friend
"Diamonds. They are one of the most common stones in precious gemstones, and yet -- thanks to De Beers Corporation marketing them for the last century and gaining a monopoly world wide on their mining, they are super high priced. Fake diamonds can be made for 50-100 dollars per carrot that other than a specific frequency of light passing through them slightly differently are unrecognizably different in every way (they literally are diamonds just made faster). Given that and a lot of non-diamond look a-likes you would think it would be less valuable, but nope... they're still crazy expensive for no reason other than monopoly. Ruby's and Emeralds (even more so) are actual rare stones unlike diamonds (common)."
Living. Just Livin
"living (your life)"
"No kidding. Brought here against my will and then have to work my a** off to just keep my head a little above the water."
"I only stick around out of pure f*cking spite."
"If living was cheap, everybody would do it."
The sad thing is, this is all true.
Do you have anything you'd like to add to the list? Let us know in the comments below.
People Divulge The Stupidest Thing They've Ever Done For Someone They Had Feelings For
Oh, the things we do for love...
Are we stupid, crazy, naive, or merely desperate?
Or all of the above?
Love looks like such a good time.
So of course everyone is on the hunt for it.
And sometimes we fall into people who don't love us, but we try to make it work.
This can lead us to do some incredibly questionable things when we look back.
One Redditor wanted to hear about all the things people have done for the ones that didn't love them them back, so they asked:
"What's the stupidest thing you ever did for a guy/girl?"
I can't tell you my secrets.
I am the epitome of foolish.
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"Put them before my mental health, we’re all responsible for taking care of ourselves."
Young & Stupid
"When I was younger I was awarded a settlement from a motorcycle crash; at the time, I was with my ex. I bought and repaired a car for her bday and paid off half her student loans. She was not a nice person, and I ended the relationship. Damn being young and naive."
"Fly to another state to meet up with someone from online. We met on discord and video'ed a lot for 7 months before deciding to meet irl. We texted and talked all the way to boarding. When I landed, I texted her no response. I called, straight to voice mail."
"Went on discord, she deleted her account. Instead of flying back, I spent the weekend exploring a new city. Wasn't going to pass up going to the Smithsonian Museum and seeing the landmarks. To this day, I have no clue as to why she ghosted me."
"Baked cookies and created this '100 things I love about you' jar with small bits of paper to open everyday for a new reason so my ex could see the amazing traits he had and what I admired. This was supposed to be a V-day gift, but he cancelled plans to see friends instead lol."
"Valentines Day, notorious for being a day to skip the partner and hang with the bros."
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"Gave up a position with the Secret Service for a woman I thought I was going to marry. A year later she was living in Nevada with her soon-to-be husband."
Maybe you can go back? We need security.
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"My 17-year-old brother told me he bought a girl a $350 bracelet for Christmas AFTER she already told him she 'didn't like him like that.' We all let him know how dumb that was."
"My high school sweetheart and I ended up going to different colleges. I went to a pretty cheap state school, she went to a very expensive private university in a big city. Sent her a check for something like $10K since my tuition was basically zero and she needed it way more. Same day the check cleared she texted me to say that she'd been seeing someone else and it was over between us."
Bad for Business
"I built a catering business from the ground up because my friend said she wanted to stop stripping since she would cry about the bad treatment all the time. After the business was fully operational and I even got the first couple gigs, all she had to do was pass out business cards and talk to potential clients at an expensive charity dinner and she bailed so she could hang out at home. I already had a well paying job so didn't really need a side business. I bet she is still stripping now coming up on 40."
"Walked 9 miles in tornado weather with freezing cold rain just to see her. Thought she was worth it. We were together for 4 years and then I found out she had been cheating on me with her blood brother for the past 2 years. I found out because I got the clap from her and she let slip that her brother also had the clap."
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"Forgave him for cheating. Caught him cheating again a few months later."
"Same. I stayed with him, he continued to cheat. I finally cut him loose when the other girl became pregnant."
"That's why I have a 0 tolerance for cheating. 1 time is enough to end the relationship or even a marriage. No excuses. No forgiveness. No ok let's try it for the kids."
Oh my word. Humans make some questionable choices when our brains are flooded with love hormones.
Do you have any crazy love confessions for us? Let us know in the comments below.
Kids don't say the darndest things.
They say the craziest things.
I feel like some kids are dark psychics here to throw us off our game.
But I dislike children so I could be exaggerating.
Some of the phrases and prophecies I've heard children espousing have left my head spinning.
Where do they learn this stuff?
Redditor Eli_JMI wanted to hear about the things children have said aloud that left people SHOOKETH, so they asked:
"Parents of reddit, what is the creepiest thing your child has said to you?"
I once had a kid, stop me in the mall and just point at my head and go... "BOOM! HEAD!"
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"My then 2 year old accidentally locked himself in a room and was crying hysterically while I tried in vain to coach him through unlocking the door. My then 5-year-old pulled me aside and said, in perfect seriousness, 'Forget about him, Mom. He's dead to us.' I'm a little worried about that kid."
In the Fire
"Not my child but my grandchild. She was about 3 years old when her parents were expecting another baby. She kept talking about how she was so happy she'll have her sister back once the baby was born. The sister that 'died in a fire before.' At the time she only had an older brother and had never had a sister, let alone one that passed away in a fire."
"My youngest daughter has always had a fear of the water that’s gotten better as she’s gotten older. But when she was a toddler, it would have been easier to baptize a rabid cat than try to get give her a bath. One night at around age 3, I was doing my routine of trying to get her in the tub to wash off when she said to me 'I scared of the water. It’s how I died before.' Yeah, the bath definitely didn’t happen that night."
"My grandma used to tell this story all of the time! Apparently when I was a young kid, I saw a big blue lifted truck and began talking about how I used to drive one like that, and I had gotten into a car crash and died at a young age and talked about missing my life. Kids either have wild imaginations, or they remember some stuff from an alternate timeline."
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"As I was leaving for work, my daughter said 'bye daddy, have a good day. I hope you don't get shot' and then went back to playing with her toys."
Kids know jobs are dangerous.
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"Woke one morning before my alarm went off to my three year old son standing next to my bed. He then says, 'Go back to sleep and think about your life.'"
"My son used to say when he was younger that he used to fly around at night. Jumping from lamppost to lamppost in the neighborhood. That it was hard to get there because of the connection to his body through the belly button."
"I would have considered imagination if it weren’t that my dad told me he had the same type of dream when he was little as did I."
"Not my kids but I used to work with toddlers."
"We had one girl who got so upset at changing time. She would cry and say 'No, the man is watching!' When she was on the changing table. She would point to the ceiling tiles (sometimes the wind from the garden door knocked one out of place) and say he was watching."
"Freaked all of us staff out, we all looked but there was definitely no one there. We had to change her on a mat on the floor inside of a stall because she was so upset. We did that for the rest of the year."
"The next years class starts... A little boy (these kids did not know each other at all!) starts crying on the changing table. 'No! The man is watching!' Pointing at the ceiling tiles again. Same situation for the rest of the year. Had to change him in a stall on the floor."
"There was never anyone in the ceiling but it freaked us all out constantly!"
"We were living overseas and the area we lived in had been an old Chinese fishing village. Locals were superstitious about the area because the village had been removed to replace with modern housing and it was supposed to have made the spirits angry. My 5 year old son had an imaginary friend named Timmy but he didn't actually like Timmy. He complained about him so much it got creepy."
"For instance, Timmy didn't like certain people... Timmy told him to misbehave... anything that was misplaced was lost because Timmy took it, etc. I joked that at least we knew Timmy wasn't a ghost because a Chinese kid would not be named Timmy. One day my son drew a picture of Timmy to show me. He labeled it 'Tai Mei.'"
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"Went to check on my five year old daughter who was asleep. She rolled on her back, still asleep, and said, 'I must not eat humans, humans aren't food.' Before rolling back over."
Kids are crazy. Thank the Lord I don't have any of my own to terrorize me like this.
Do you have any crazy kid-related stories? Let us know in the comments below.