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People Share Their 'I Guess I'm The Villian In Someone Else's Story' Experiences

People Share Their 'I Guess I'm The Villian In Someone Else's Story' Experiences
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We can't all be everybody's heroes. Sometimes we are just going to rub people the wrongest of wrong ways.

Life is just like that. No matter how well-intentioned you are, you are not for all markets. Sometimes, it even goes further into the wrongest of wrong places, and you become the villain of that person's life.

Chances are it's happened to you once before.

u/Misha_Poravov asked:

What was your "I guess I am the villain in someone else's story."?

Here were some of those answers.

How To Be Suspicious Of Others

Okay this my accidental bullying story. I had been bullied in middle school and was determined to never let it happen in high school. I thought I could identify a bully from their look and general behavior. One girl in my class was a potential bully for me and I kept my guard up to her. One day I was talking to a group of friends of mine and she came to us and asked 'what are you doing here?'

I chimed in before anyone else could speak and said. 'We're just talking.' and she said ' can I join?' I literally thought she was gonna make fun of us about the things we were talking about and said 'We're talking as friends.' and she asked 'Am I not your friend?'

And I looked into her eyes in a stern face said with my coldest voice 'No, you are not our friend.' and she just left. It dawned on me later that she was just trying to become friends with us and I was straight-up mean girled her.


Not.  Even.  Once.

I was hired directly into a shift manager position in a hardware store once. I felt I never stood a chance. The last manager was apparently the worlds biggest ahole, and that aholery just got assigned to me by default...

And when people treat you like sh*t every single day, from day one, it gets hard to keep up 'pro-social behaviour' after a while.

I couldn't do anything right, and the worst part was setting up the shifts. Anyone who has worked retail with long opening hours probably knows what I am talking about.

It is impossible to make everyone happy, but I tried my very best and spent much more time setting up next month's shifts than reasonable. Going back and forth correcting and changing hours...

The challenge with this team was that even though most of them got all their requests, they would team up with whoever got the 'sh*ttiest' list and berate me with it constantly. Didn't matter that I was trying to even this over time. I was an absolute ahole to the person who was least satisfied with his shifts.

Over time I became more and more hostile towards them, to the point that I just couldn't do it anymore. I just called in one day saying I just won't show up any more.

Some managers might be born like aholes that, but sure as hell is possible to create one too...

Shift manager is retail is probably one of the worst job out there. You get flack from both over and under you relentlessly, and when you do everything right nobody notices. It is so draining.

Retail manager. Not even once.



My turn: in 5th grade I flirted with a girl that I liked. In 5th grade boy language that meant teasing. Nothing gross or mean but just jokes and stuff. I think she knew I liked her because she would joke back and sometimes it would just be us talking in the playground.

One day the teasing wasn't appreciated and I could tell she was in a bad mood. Kinda grouchy and no fun.

I guess I said something and then she grabbed my hair and said I was a jerk. So I pulled her hair. And her whole wig came off in front of everyone.

She had cancer. She felt bad that day. I teased too far. And finally, I exposed her cancer and loss of hair to the whole school.

I really liked her. She stopped coming to school the next week and died the next year.

To this day, 45 years later I still feel the guilt and shame of having made someone else feel that terrible.


It can be so accidental that we don't even really realize we are doing it in the moment.

You're THAT Guy

Went back to visit my high school the year after graduating. While I was there, I bumped into a guy who had been in my year, but didn't graduate with me.

Without thinking about it, I blurted out, "Oh, you're still here!"

Felt like a real d!ck about it.


Do The Scrambled Eggs

At the end of freshman year in college I was going to room with a new friend for the upcoming year. Except in the coming months it turns out she was very toxic and a compulsive liar and I knew my mental health would suffer if I lived with her.

So at the last minute I decided to stay with my original roommate.

So I ditched the "friend" and she was left scrambling to find a new roommate. I know it wasn't a great thing for me to do, but it was self preservation. She never forgave me and we didn't speak again after that.


You Got Scurry Gurl

I had a crush on this guy in high school. I'm not trying to make excuses for myself, but due to some pretty awful experiences I had a rather shaky understanding of consent - basically assumed that all men wanted to have sex with me and it was my job to seduce them properly. I was also just creepy, socially inept, and not very self-aware. That set the stage for the following:

  • I sent him a love letter. When that didn't work, I sent him about 50 pages of handwritten love poems. That also didn't work
  • I thought the reason he didn't want to was because he didn't think I was dedicated enough to him so I continued to emphasize to him every day that I liked him. That also didn't work
  • I happened to be assigned to his group on a group project and found out that his house was in walking distance from the school. I happily informed him that I had memorized the route to his house and he was extremely upset about that.
  • I finally got frustrated and started stealing his stuff and making him chase me to get it back

He graduated a year ahead of me and blocked me on everything and it still took me 3-4 years to realize how much of an insanely creepy stalker I used to be. I wanted to apologize but he never answered my contact attempts and I found out recently that he died in a car accident last year.


Boss Boss Boss

Dude at work. I find him incompetent. I'm not his boss, but in the org structure I am technically above him.

His product is failing and he might end up indirectly working for me. I know he hates me.

I try to be nice but I have such a hard time sugarcoating incompetence. To be honest he barely registers. I'm trying to fix it, but not trying that hard.

I feel like in work terms I'm his villain.


Also, people do make unconscious comparisons in their mind that cast us as the villains.


Met a girl in high school and we hit it off super well. It was like we'd always known each other. Became best friends pretty quickly and during one of our gab sessions she asked if I'd ever had a boyfriend.

So I said no, but told her about the time a guy I considered a good friend had become romantically interested in me and bombarded me with all kinds of gifts on Valentine's Day the previous year. I said it was completely unexpected and I'd had to turn him down because I didn't at all think of him in that way.

During the course of my tale she'd become very quiet and I asked what was wrong.

It turned out that the guy was her brother and he had been devastated when I turned him down. He was so broken up about it she swore to destroy me if she ever met me.


Do I Know You?

Back in high school I went to summer camp.

That was pretty cool, I liked it, new friends and stuff.

At the last day we threw a party, and a dude I barely said one or two words during all the time, nothing special, just small talk, approached me and said he was happy to meet me DESPITE I BULLIED HIM all the time.

It was, like, WHAAAAT? Still have no idea what did he mean, but I guess, that story belongs here.


Oh Honey Not The Sheep

Back in college I realized I was gay and started dating a woman we'll call Debby. I went home for thanksgiving and told my parents. They had been my biggest supporters and felt this was a betrayal of everything they had raised me to be, and threw me out.

Ungrateful, immoral daughter, defying her parents with a reprobate lifestyle that probably involves having sex with sheep? Check.

Back on campus there was a guy who'd been interested in me. I chased him down and had sex with him to make myself be straight. It didn't work. I used him and broke his heart. Heartless.

I started drinking. I took it all out on Debby, and broke her heart too.

It's been years. I'm sober now, in therapy, and married to a wonderful woman. I don't blame myself like I used to, but that was a sh*tty year, and I was an epic villain in three separate but related stories.


An Honest Mistake

I lined up to buy food behind a woman who was ordering. As I walked up I saw two other people, one was a woman standing off to the side who received her food as I arrived, the other was a man in a wheelchair who was next to her. Based on where he was located he also looked like he was waiting for food.

The woman finished ordering and went to stand off to the side, I stepped up to order and heard 'hi' from next to me. I looked over and the man in the wheelchair is just staring at me. I gave him a weird look because (I swear to god), he had almost identical features to a friend of mine who I knew for a fact had just moved to a different state the week before. Thrown by this and his single 'hi' I just awkwardly said hi back and then ordered.

Turns out he hadn't ordered yet and I was unintentionally queue jumping. I know that I didn't mean it and honestly thought, based on where he was when I came in, that he'd already ordered, and the face thing was just a bizarre coincidence, but there's no way I'm not the villain in his disabled people get treated like they're invisible/get stared at by people story.


Flirty Flirt Flirt

When I was about 15 there was this girl that came to my church who was 16, I had a massive crush on her and it wasn't any secret. we'd spend pretty much the entire church day hanging out and flirting any chance we got. I'd asked her out several times and each time "I only date guys that are older than me" or "maybe when you're a bit older", ok whatever.

Thing is, she used to invite her current boyfriends to church, and then flirt with me outrageously the entire time. Almost always the relationship would end between them later that day.


It's A Love Story, Baby Just Say No

2 stories here.

  1. Last school year, I was into this girl (hereby referred to as S). Me and S were good friends. We were always together at almost all times. We would always be deep in conversation about some nerdy stuff. Then, one day, I decided to tell S how I felt. She shot me down, but in a polite way, so, not too affected and I kept my head up. Then, come around Christmas, I learn that S thought I was a creepy, obsessive, stalking liar and I was crushed. I had what I had perceived as nothing, and then a train hit me. Fast forward to now, we never talk, I am blocked, and all the good times are gone. I am also friends with somwone she does not like, so that doesn't help my case either. I felt so guilty, I believed her and accepted that I was a bad guy.
  2. Earlier this school year, I was at it again. I was trying my luck with another girl (now known as K from here on out), and struck gold. K and I hit it off and we started going out. K was a sheltered person, and we only ever really saw each other at school. About halfway through our relationship, I learned K waa not fully ok in her head. I thought, ok, but I still love her, so what of it? She would have breakdowns. (Also I learned that 2 months ago, she was in a mental hospital). She was also one of those girls that was like "I want you to f@%k me", and I have no interst in sex. And that made me realize she probably would be happier with someone who would be willing to do that. In the last days of our relationship, she pretty much ghosted me completely. We went out for a month and a half and split on Halloween. We barely ever talk now and I have no idea what she thinks of me, so I must assume the worst. She is in another relationship, and I am happy for her, but she made me realize no matter how much I may want it, I will never be ready for love. I am also a really clingy person, and I held on too close and after the seperation, I became a ghost of my former self. I am still trying to fully open back up.

With both of these stories, I feel like I am a villian, and to be honest, I am probably right. Sorry for the wall of text that puts the walls of Attack on Titan to shame, but this is the first time I have been fully able to vent this, even though none of you actually know me. Thank you for reading, I feel a little better finally saying all of this.


Insecurity Sucks

I bullied a girl in high school. I was a very insecure, confused, dumb high school girl.

This girl dated my ex and while I really didn't care (I had broken up with him months before) I felt like I was supposed to be mean to her. And trust me, it makes me cringe to this day. He didn't go to our school and this girl and I weren't friends, but she would always make a point to talk to me about him. Not in a bad way, just because it was common ground I guess.

But I bullied her and she actually ended up marrying a good friend of mine and ten years later I still see her around and we're both friendly to each other but to this day I can't even hardly look at her in the face because I feel like such a piece of sh*t.


Free Parking

This happened tonight: I was driving home, and there was a car just parked out in the street in front of a seafood place, just standing in the street with its hazards on. I sat there behind it for a few minutes until the car's owner came out of the seafood place with their takeout.

I honked, and she yelled at me "I have my f*cking hazards on!" Clearly, this woman who thinks that her hazard lights are a "park anywhere" button thinks I'm a villain.


A Is Toxique

Two of my friends (let's call them A and B) were "breaking up" and A told me to choose a side. I chose A, even though their fights didn't have anything to do with me and B hadn't done anything wrong to me.

B apologized to me (even though they had no need to) and asked if I wanted to still hang out. I said no and pretty much ghosted them after that. It's been over a decade but I still feel terrible about it. I should have just told A to leave me out of it.


What fun would our lives be without a little villainy? And honestly, if you're living your life in such a way where you never cross someone the wrong way, you're doing it wrong.

Life isn't just divided into heroes and villains.

People Reveal The Weirdest Thing About Themselves

Reddit user Isitjustmedownhere asked: 'Give an example; how weird are you really?'

Let's get one thing straight: no one is normal. We're all weird in our own ways, and that is actually normal.

Of course, that doesn't mean we don't all have that one strange trait or quirk that outweighs all the other weirdness we possess.

For me, it's the fact that I'm almost 30 years old, and I still have an imaginary friend. Her name is Sarah, she has red hair and green eyes, and I strongly believe that, since I lived in India when I created her and there were no actual people with red hair around, she was based on Daphne Blake from Scooby-Doo.

I also didn't know the name Sarah when I created her, so that came later. I know she's not really there, hence the term 'imaginary friend,' but she's kind of always been around. We all have conversations in our heads; mine are with Sarah. She keeps me on task and efficient.

My mom thinks I'm crazy that I still have an imaginary friend, and writing about her like this makes me think I may actually be crazy, but I don't mind. As I said, we're all weird, and we all have that one trait that outweighs all the other weirdness.

Redditors know this all too well and are eager to share their weird traits.

It all started when Redditor Isitjustmedownhere asked:

"Give an example; how weird are you really?"

Monsters Under My Bed

"My bed doesn't touch any wall."

"Edit: I guess i should clarify im not rich."

– Practical_Eye_3600

"Gosh the monsters can get you from any angle then."

– bikergirlr7

"At first I thought this was a flex on how big your bedroom is, but then I realized you're just a psycho 😁"

– zenOFiniquity8

Can You See Why?

"I bought one of those super-powerful fans to dry a basement carpet. Afterwards, I realized that it can point straight up and that it would be amazing to use on myself post-shower. Now I squeegee my body with my hands, step out of the shower and get blasted by a wide jet of room-temp air. I barely use my towel at all. Wife thinks I'm weird."

– KingBooRadley


"In 1990 when I was 8 years old and bored on a field trip, I saw a black Oldsmobile Cutlass driving down the street on a hot day to where you could see that mirage like distortion from the heat on the road. I took a “snapshot” by blinking my eyes and told myself “I wonder how long I can remember this image” ….well."

– AquamarineCheetah

"Even before smartphones, I always take "snapshots" by blinking my eyes hoping I'll remember every detail so I can draw it when I get home. Unfortunately, I may have taken so much snapshots that I can no longer remember every detail I want to draw."

"Makes me think my "memory is full.""

– Reasonable-Pirate902

Same, Same

"I have eaten the same lunch every day for the past 4 years and I'm not bored yet."

– OhhGoood

"How f**king big was this lunch when you started?"

– notmyrealnam3

Not Sure Who Was Weirder

"Had a line cook that worked for us for 6 months never said much. My sous chef once told him with no context, "Baw wit da baw daw bang daw bang diggy diggy." The guy smiled, left, and never came back."

– Frostygrunt


"I pace around my house for hours listening to music imagining that I have done all the things I simply lack the brain capacity to do, or in some really bizarre scenarios, I can really get immersed in these imaginations sometimes I don't know if this is some form of schizophrenia or what."

– RandomSharinganUser

"I do the same exact thing, sometimes for hours. When I was young it would be a ridiculous amount of time and many years later it’s sort of trickled off into almost nothing (almost). It’s weird but I just thought it’s how my brain processes sh*t."

– Kolkeia

If Only

"Even as an adult I still think that if you are in a car that goes over a cliff; and right as you are about to hit the ground if you jump up you can avoid the damage and will land safely. I know I'm wrong. You shut up. I'm not crying."

– ShotCompetition2593

Pet Food

"As a kid I would snack on my dog's Milkbones."

– drummerskillit

"Haha, I have a clear memory of myself doing this as well. I was around 3 y/o. Needless to say no one was supervising me."

– Isitjustmedownhere

"When I was younger, one of my responsibilities was to feed the pet fish every day. Instead, I would hide under the futon in the spare bedroom and eat the fish food."

– -GateKeep-

My Favorite Subject

"I'm autistic and have always had a thing for insects. My neurotypical best friend and I used to hang out at this local bar to talk to girls, back in the late 90s. One time he claimed that my tendency to circle conversations back to insects was hurting my game. The next time we went to that bar (with a few other friends), he turned and said sternly "No talking about bugs. Or space, or statistics or other bullsh*t but mainly no bugs." I felt like he was losing his mind over nothing."

"It was summer, the bar had its windows open. Our group hit it off with a group of young ladies, We were all chatting and having a good time. I was talking to one of these girls, my buddy was behind her facing away from me talking to a few other people."

"A cloudless sulphur flies in and lands on little thing that holds coasters."

"Cue Jordan Peele sweating gif."

"The girl notices my tension, and asks if I am looking at the leaf. "Actually, that's a lepidoptera called..." I looked at the back of my friend's head, he wasn't looking, "I mean a butterfly..." I poked it and it spread its wings the girl says "oh that's a BUG?!" and I still remember my friend turning around slowly to look at me with chastisement. The ONE thing he told me not to do."

"I was 21, and was completely not aware that I already had a rep for being an oddball. It got worse from there."

– Phormicidae

*Teeth Chatter*

"I bite ice cream sometimes."


"That's how I am with popsicles. My wife shudders every single time."


Never Speak Of This

"I put ice in my milk."


"You should keep that kind of thing to yourself. Even when asked."

– We-R-Doomed

"There's some disturbing sh*t in this thread, but this one takes the cake."

– RatonaMuffin

More Than Super Hearing

"I can hear the television while it's on mute."

– Tira13e

"What does it say to you, child?"

– Mama_Skip


"I put mustard on my omelettes."

– Deleted User


– NotCrustOr-filling

Evened Up

"Whenever I say a word and feel like I used a half of my mouth more than the other half, I have to even it out by saying the word again using the other half of my mouth more. If I don't do it correctly, that can go on forever until I feel it's ok."

"I do it silently so I don't creep people out."

– LesPaltaX

"That sounds like a symptom of OCD (I have it myself). Some people with OCD feel like certain actions have to be balanced (like counting or making sure physical movements are even). You should find a therapist who specializes in OCD, because they can help you."

– MoonlightKayla

I totally have the same need for things to be balanced! Guess I'm weird and a little OCD!

Close up face of a woman in bed, staring into the camera
Photo by Jen Theodore

Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.

Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?

But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.

It would be so great to be sure there is something else.

But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.

Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:

"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"


Happy Good Vibes GIF by Major League SoccerGiphy

"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."



"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."

"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."

"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."


Take Me Back

"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."

"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."



The Light Minnie GIF by (G)I-DLEGiphy

"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."


This is why I hate surgery.

You just never know.



"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."



"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."

"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”



"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"


"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"


The Fog

"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."

"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."


Through the Walls

"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."

"She's quite alive and well today."


Well let's all be happy to be alive.

It seems to be all we have.

Man's waist line
Santhosh Vaithiyanathan/Unsplash

Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.

The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.

Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.

Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:

"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"

Redditors didn't see these coming.

Shiver Me Timbers

"I’m always cold now!"

– Telrom_1

"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."

– r7ndom

"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."

– mr_remy

Drawing Concern

"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."

– dee-fondy

"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"

"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."

– LizardofDeath

Unleashing Insults

"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”

"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."

– alanamablamaspama

Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight

"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."

– KeltarCentauri

"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."

– KatMagic1977

"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."

– Jaew96

These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.


"I can buy clothes in any store I want."

– WaySavvyD

"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."

– ganache98012

No More Symptoms

"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."

– colleennicole93

Expanding Capabilities

"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."

– Ramblonius

People Change Their Tune

"How much nicer people are to you."

"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"

– LiZZygsu

"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"

"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"

– awholedamngarden

It's gonna take some getting used to.

Bones Everywhere

"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."

– Princess-Pancake-97

"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."

– bekastrange

Knee Pillow

"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."

– snic2030

"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."

– Strongbad23

More Mobility

"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."

"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."

– dma1965

People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.

But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.

That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.