In this world of social media and selfies, it's never been easier to live as a full-blown narcissist. And Lord help us all when the attention of an attention seeker wanes.
It has really gotten out of control, hasn't it? I have never seen so many tantrums, rages, and scenes of self-indulgence in my time here on Earth. As a human, I'm embarrassed.
What is the most entertaining though is that the people who thrive on this behavior seem to have no idea how transparent they are. They really think we can't see their sad desperation.
It's about me! A new life motto for too many.
Redditoru/_somename_wanted to hear about the people who need to hog the spotlight by asking:
What screams "I need attention"?
I have held onto too many friends that are like this. I learned too late about the toxicity of these people. They will never learn because they never listen. So pay attention to these signs.
Ciao!
hip hop television GIF by WE tvGiphy"I'm leaving!" then not leaving until someone acknowledges you."
- zxoabZZ
The Worst
"Vaguebooking on Facebook. Posting something like "Worst day of my life" with no explanation."
"I seriously don't get why people do that, if they want to talk to that person they can message them themselves, the only reason I can imagine is some weird BPD way of wanting everyone to know who you're closer to than others."
"Lmao or they go "don't worry" or "it's not my place to say it" and it's like ???? Well why post it and get others so concerned then ????"
Poser
"Probably people who write fake stories on r/Entitledparents just so they get onto yt for a few minutes."
"I had to unsubscribe from that sub because of how utterly fake all of the posts were."
"And commenters would eat it up! "Today I was at Taco Bell and a Karen spit in my face and called me a racial slur after I wouldn't buy a kid's meal for her precious baby. Luckily, there was a cop there and she got tazed."
"Wow, OP, that's crazy! Glad everything worked out for you!"
Be an Adult
"Grown people doing the baby voice to get what they want. Ugh."
"Growing up my mom did not tolerate baby talk of any kind so I get uncomfortable whenever I hear it, even around young kids. If you want to teach them to speak properly then speak properly to them! An adult talking baby talk to another adult is just repulsive to me."
- Inkpots
Bored Cat GIFCats are always going to be cats, nothing you can do. But the rest? Just walk away. Don't feed the beast. They feed off of our giving our time to their mess. Starve them.
Anyways...
awkward what if GIF by NETFLIXGiphy"I had a friend who at my graduation party when my dad was giving a toast said "yeah well I'll never get a degree because I have two kids and my life is over" followed by awkward silence and my dad continuing "so as I was saying.." it was BAD."
People Who Made A Lot Of Money From Something Totally Random | George Takei’s Oh Myyy
yada yada yada...
"Someone who isn't part of your conversation that changes the subject of a conversation just to talk about themselves. I had a coworker this morning doing this exact same thing while we were on our break."
"Me: Yawns"
"Coworker A: "Tired?"
"Me: "Yeah, didn't slept enough last night."
"Coworker B: "Awww that sucks. Well, my doctor says I shouldn't worry about this pain in my wrist, but I think he's wrong because I have trouble doing this, this, this, yada yada yada..."
"Coworker A and I just stared at each other in silence, wondering what the hell she was blabbing about."
I Concur
ugly donald glover GIFGiphy"People saying "I know I'm ugly 🥺" then get big mad when you agree."
Calm Down
"People who post themselves crying."
- ny4sha
"Unless it's sincere* A friend of mine put a photo of herself crying and wrote what she was distressed about. She deleted it a minute after but I had seen it. I'm glad she posted it and I saw it because I was able to talk her down and make her feel better about it."
"I think crying in front of a camera is a uniquely American phenomenon."
Shut Up!
truck submarine GIFGiphy"Obnoxiously loud exhaust on piece of crap cars and lifted trucks."
Dirty
"A baby with a dirty diaper."
"With my oldest I actually set alarms after accidentally going 9 hours without changing him (he hadn't pooped he was just wet). So every 3 hours my alarm went off and everyone who I was with would start yelling at me to change the baby. The weirdest part was he was really easy to potty train. I guess that while sitting in his wet diaper for hours without complaint was acceptable, wet underwear was considerably less so."
LOUD
"Being extremely vocal about disliking something that a lot of others like; movies mainly. I myself have been guilty of this. I think we all have."
"I see the same thing with people who want to bash people for what they are drinking."
"Oh, you are drinking a fruity tropical drink?" "Yes, and? Please screw off with your drink."
"I hate Beer/Vodka/Some Beverage" Yes, Ok, good for you, but millions, perhaps billions, like it, so it's not going away any time soon."
Explain Please
Sassy Red Wine GIF by Married At First SightGiphy"When people post super vague statuses like "Prayers needed please!"
Keep an eye out. Something big is happening!" ...never posts a follow up. Like what was it? Was it a poop. It was a big giant poop, wasn't it, Lindsay?"
- cawteja
Phoney
"Faking disorders."
- _devin7
"People who fake disorders probably have something wrong with them. Not the thing that they are faking, but they're definitely a little off. Healthy people don't feel the need to fake disorders."
"This just makes everyone's lives worse especially those with actual disorders."
Who Cares?
"Gender reveal parties."
- wryipl
"Maybe when the reveals started and they were small affairs with confetti and with people who'd genuinely be happy for you and your offspring, it was probably not that big a deal. But these new versions that have to be recorded and posted online and use horrible pyrotechnics that cause major forest fires... yeah, that's textbook narcissism right there."
in the public eye...
"Posting their lives on social media. I mean, maybe posting that time that you visited another country is ok, but you still do it for attention, I think. But, I a talking about those people who post literally everything that happens in their day. Unless they are a celebrity or someone famous, because they are probably just doing publicity."
- STJ41
Quiet Please
"A ridiculously loud car stereo system."
"I had woofers in my car until I was over 30. I'm older than that now and have actually considered getting them again. I guess I'll scratch that off the list. At least as I got older I kept it louder on highways only… hahahaha."
"Maybe their AC and window openers broke and they're trying to shatter their windows to get some fresh air, there people could die and here you are complaining."
My Ears!
miley cyrus singing GIF by Saturday Night LiveGiphy"My mom was visiting her friend's craft sales once and a lady at another booth started singing super loudly."
Bless You
"The way my step nan sneezes, she screams so loud that u can hear her from outside the house, her sneezes genuinely sound like a dying animal."
"I'm trying to train someone I know to stop that. I have 3 different sneezes that I can pick from depending on the context, and none of them involve screaming, so maybe one will stick with them."
Poor Alice
hoot GIFGiphy
"When someone does a picture post for a friend's birthday that features more of themselves than the friend. Like the post says "Happy Birthday Alice!" And all the pictures in the post of Alice are at OP's wedding or OP's baby shower."
Be better people. Get a therapist. Seek the root of your need. Yes, attention can be nice but don't beg for it. That's just sad. And I for one am not going to waste anymore time on the drama.
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Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.
Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?
But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.
It would be so great to be sure there is something else.
But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.
Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:
"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"
Sensations
Happy Good Vibes GIF by Major League SoccerGiphy"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."
PeachesnPain
Recovery
"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."
"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."
"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."
good_golly99
Take Me Back
"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."
"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."
rayrayrayray
Free
The Light Minnie GIF by (G)I-DLEGiphy"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."
TooReDTooHigh
This is why I hate surgery.
You just never know.
Shocked
Giphy"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."
Admirable_Buyer6528
The SOB
"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."
"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”
1-cupcake-at-a-time
Colors
"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"
Hannah_LL7
"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"
huntokarrr
The Fog
"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."
"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."
Fluffy-Hotel-5184
Through the Walls
"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."
"She's quite alive and well today."
Hot-Refrigerator6583
Well let's all be happy to be alive.
It seems to be all we have.
Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.
The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.
Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.
Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:
"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"
Redditors didn't see these coming.
Shiver Me Timbers
"I’m always cold now!"
– Telrom_1
"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."
– r7ndom
"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."
– mr_remy
Drawing Concern
"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."
– dee-fondy
"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"
"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."
– LizardofDeath
Unleashing Insults
"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”
"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."
– alanamablamaspama
Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight
"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."
– KeltarCentauri
"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."
– KatMagic1977
"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."
– Jaew96
These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.
Shopping
"I can buy clothes in any store I want."
– WaySavvyD
"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."
– ganache98012
No More Symptoms
"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."
– colleennicole93
Expanding Capabilities
"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."
– Ramblonius
People Change Their Tune
"How much nicer people are to you."
"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"
– LiZZygsu
"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"
"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"
– awholedamngarden
It's gonna take some getting used to.
Bones Everywhere
"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."
– Princess-Pancake-97
"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."
– bekastrange
Knee Pillow
"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."
– snic2030
"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."
– Strongbad23
More Mobility
"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."
"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."
– dma1965
People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.
But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.
That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.
