People Who Know Someone Who Was Murdered Explain What Happened

For most people, until it happens to someone they know or have some connection with, murder seems far away, relegated to local news broadcasts and true crime pop culture.

But it does occur, and it spans the spectrum from sensational and movie-like to unnervingly mundane.


Crowd-sourced forums on the internet remind how unique the capabilities of the internet are. A simple question on Reddit gives readers a vast trove of real-life examples of the most difficult topics to discuss.


For one Redditor, that topic was murder. They wanted to know, when it happens, what the motive was, how it happened, and the ramifications.

According to these responses, murder is often a fit of realistic emotional rage, and almost never does the person get away with it. It's the ultimate mortal act and it can never be taken back.

The details of these accounts illustrate that dynamic at play.

Mystik-Palace asked, "Redditors who know somebody who got murdered, what happened?"

Career Change

"Two children I babysat twice along with a friend (their usual babysitter) were abducted and murdered by their father. I stuck with dog walking after that." -- runwhiterabbit

Neighbor Danger

"My cousin was murdered by a teen male. They lived in the same condo complex and he broke into her place and stabbed her repeatedly."

"His motive was not entirely clear, he liked my cousin and she was apparently polite but not interested in him. He was sentenced to 25 years and comes up for parole every few years."

"Every parole hearing causes my aunt and uncle a lot of stress, but he gets denied every time."

-- koshimonkey

Euthanasia, or Foul Play?

"I was doing private care giving for a gentleman who had ALS. Went to his house for work one day and found he had passed away."

"Initially I thought the disease had gotten the best of him because of its rapid progression, but turns out he was killed via asphyxiation by his wife and her lover."

-- ArmaBlanka

The Forgotten Kind

"Her name was mouse, she was a homeless girl living in Santa Cruz who I would talk to at the local cafe. Our town is known for its spontaneous murder sprees, many murders occur along highway where the homeless live.

"Two summers ago, 9 homeless people were killed along highway 9 and it never aired on the news, typical. She was one of them."

-- mmancub

Waves Were Made

"When my cousin was six years old, her father shot her mother to death in the garage of their house. We lived in a tiny, tiny town of under a thousand people, so it was a huge deal." -- THATSWHATSHESAID1313

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Liquid Courage Confession

"Had a good friend of mine back in high school pass due to a 'drug overdose.' "

"Turns out the friends he was hanging out with gave him a more than lethal dose of heroin after they beat him unconscious for apparently talking to one of their girlfriends."

"Was only found out years later when that person got drunk and decided to let that little known fact slip. Currently serving a life sentence."

-- Cuppycakesterr

Crimes of Passion, a Common Theme

"A friend of ours was shot to death by the ex-boyfriend of his new girlfriend. He was still holding the flowers he had bought her."

"It was just so needless and stupid. And he terrorized him for a bit before killing him. I mean really dude you think you kill the good guy so she'll come running back to the psychopath?"

-- VintageLilly317

Mortally Possessive

"I didn't hear about it until after the fact, but apparently he'd been complaining to people that his mom was acting weird that week and had dropped his cat (?) off at the animal shelter without warning and stuff like that."

"She drove him up to the local mountain a few days later and shot him in the back while he was taking in the view, then shot herself. All just so her husband couldn't get full custody of their son."

-- frenchmeister

"Domestic Dispute," the Real Life Loose Cannon

"I knew a woman my entire life who went to her sister's home to calm a domestic dispute and was shot by the brother in law. Extremely tragic." -- cathtray

"I've heard that domestic violence calls are the police's least favorite kind of call, because of how volatile the people involved are." -- OMEGA_AS_F*CK

Disproportionate Punishment

"My wife's cousin was killed by a dude who had stopped to ask him and his friend for directions. They got lippy and pissed off the dude. He drives away but comes back and shoots them both."

"He turns himself in and at first tells the cops it was self defense. But they were shot in the back, so it was clear that they had been trying to get away. He ended up pleading guilty."

-- RussBof6


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