Psychologists Describe The Most Difficult Patients To Work With
This is why therapists have therapists...
There are so many people in need of assistance and we often tend to forget that the people helping us figure out our fractured psyches. They carry the burden of the patients pain and rage long after a session.
Redditor u/bondmemebond wanted to give psychologists a chance to shake it off a bit by asking.... Psychologists/psychiatrists of Reddit, what patients are usually the hardest to work with and why? [Serious]
You know, I've come to think of mental illness as being something like a person being encased in blue glass, when the outside world looks at that person they see them through the glass and so see them as being blue, but when that person looks at the outside world, everything but them is blue. In this way, most mental illnesses have an internal way for the sufferer to conceptualize them and an externalized way of conceptualizing them that projects internal qualities onto surroundings.
A paranoid person generally does not experience themselves as a paranoid person, rather they experience society as conspiratorial and dangerous. In much the same way a depressed person may not experience themselves as depressed, but will externalize that in the form of life being worthless, people being cruel, etc. Often we make a mistake in educating people about mental illness by focusing too much on what it looks like, as opposed to what it feels like from within, and perhaps that makes it harder for people to recognize signs of mental illness in themselves.
So, rather than pick a specific pathology or diagnosis and say that that is the "worst" one, I think it would be more accurate to say that people across all diagnoses who don't or can't recognize that they have a problem and can only project their condition onto their surroundings, always have worse outcomes and will benefit less from interventions. Psychiatrically often times the goal is to tip the scale just enough so that you can enable that shift in someone where they do have the increased self-awareness or objectivity to have that insight.
I know psychiatric nurses who always found the ones with personality disorder really tough. They said there was a lot of manipulation there in conversation, which made it incredibly difficult to know how much progress you were making, if any.
Personally I worked in inpatient mental health facilities and I found the patients with personality disorders the hardest to work with because they can be so manipulative- they can make you feel like you're failing them because you don't care and you're a bad person. I had the insight to recognize that I couldn't personally handle personality disorders and so left that line of work.
I never found patients with paranoia, schizophrenia, bipolar etc too hard to work with because their distrust of you is more understandable- its self preservation.
In personality disorders (e.g. EUPD), patients can make you feel like they trust you and are confiding in you only to turn around and verbally cut you down. I couldn't leave that sh!t at the door, I would go home feeling like I failed them and myself. It was tough. It's also really tough because it's hard to tell if you're making progress, and the feeling that these people will never get better stays with you.
I did a full 180° and I'm much happier cutting out organs now!
Depends on the clinician. I think depressed people with low motivation are the hardest to treat. I love working with people with OCD, but I have colleagues who feel the opposite.
I had a doctor that specialized in OCD and anxiety disorders. I saw him for general anxiety disorder and panic disorder.
I was extremely motivated and with his help (and medication), I was able to graduate from therapy in about 4 or 5 months. I owe my quality of life to him and think about him often even though he treated me 3 years ago.
Psych nurse here. Staff splitting, really getting personal in their verbal attacks on you, always looking for an edge. And often they are my favorite patients, too, because they can be great. But it's hard. If a schizophrenic calls me an ugly witch, eh well, no big deal. If someone with a personality disorder calls me an ugly witch, it's usually followed up with minute details, often something I'm self conscious about. We're human too, it's hard to ignore.
Those who benefit from their disease in my experience, for example Munchausen. They tend to get to the point where they don't like where they are in life (for example loneliness), so they get help, then realize that if their life will improve, the help will disappear. They don't want that. So they start playing a game of cat and mouse. Throwing little breadcrumbs saying things are going better, only for it to magically become worse again.
In which this pattern repeats multiple times. You usually notice somewhere halfway treatment cause no progress is made.
As opposed to my colleagues here, I do not find those with Borderline to be that particularly difficult. You just gotta be very upfront with them. One interaction with a client of mine went as followed: "stop lying to me Karen and tell me what really is up" - "yea yea... I know... I know... "
My mom had a hard time with people who had borderline personality disorder. These people are very insecure and can treat you badly in their efforts to seem superior and well-adjusted. Yet when you set limits or call them out, they get defensive and often angry. Some will even act out by harming themselves or others.
Borderline personality disorder is generally regarded among psychiatrists as very difficult to help someone with. Not recommended for inexperienced doctors.
Help Rejecters are the toughest in my opinion. They might even cognitively understand their predicament, they know you are trying to help, and they start out seeking help but then reject it. Then the cycle begins again. It requires a lot of energy and time investment to show them how genuine you are, and even then it doesn't always lead to a positive outcome.
Borderline personality disorder (though I have only worked with them as parents of my actusl patients) If you can even get them to show up to the appointments, they usually have very little capacity to reflect on their own actions and how it affects how other people react to them, usually blame everything on everyone else, take zero responsibilities for their actions and demand an awful lot of you in terms of "fixing" their kids.
A lot of people mentioned people with personality disorders- especially borderline, as patients they find difficult. I have found them much easier after attending an APA conference a couple years ago where a speaker was describing how for people with borderline everything can feel very unsure and chaotic and all their emotions feel very intense.
The speaker really liked the "emotion disregulation disorder" instead of borderline because it was actually explaining something about it. Thinking about it this way really helped me. Especially as someone who at times met enough to be diagnosed with BPD ( I don't now, it was due to a lot of attachment trauma in my childhood that lots of therapy and secure attachments have solved.
I would say I have a hard time working with patients I can't communicate with well. But it's mostly because I feel like I am being a bad doctor by not being able to connect or be able to work well with what I am able to understand of what is going on for them.
Psychopaths. They have no desire or intent to change their behavior, they don't care about you or others, and they are harmful or even dangerous. There's nothing to empathize with because they have no empathy themselves, and there's nothing to work with.
They are the predator, and everyone else, including you, is the prey.
Borderline, Narcissistic, and Antisocial personality disorders.
My reason for this opinion is that these folks have one pathway that every single stimulus follows as it enters their brain... eyes, ears, taste, all the senses. That pathway goes directly to the place where they try to figure out how to use every situation to get what they want. There is no empathy. There is no concern for others. There is no genuine humanity. There is only "I want" repeated over and over.
The impulse is virtually impossible to treat because the treatment effect goes to the same place. Some believe that Dialectic Behavior Therapy can work. I disagree. The pathway remains regardless what anyone does or says. Being held accountable for dysfunctional comments or actions doesn't make a bit of difference. In the end, they go back to their impulse. The only strategy I have seen that works even a smidgen is to teach them how to get what they want without hurting other people. Even then, it is still about getting what they want.
I am quite sure that my colleagues will disagree with this opinion. Remember it is just that... anecdotal and my opinion.
Life and relationships are about give and take, sacrifice and intimacy, love and belonging. To some degree we all want what we want. But we also give of ourselves and cry at the movies and love little children. These integral emotional parts of living aren't possible for some people. It's good to know that before you get involved.
Only my opinion.
-Some girl thought she was a werewolf and would wander up and down the halls all night howling
-Another girl would walk inside of the toilet, like literally in the toilet, then complain about not being allowed to wear wet socks
-A lot of people wanting to start fights with each other
The main thing I remember was this overwhelming sense that things weren't going to get better for a lot of these people, which made me really sad.
I think the realization that a lot of the people aren't going to get better, voluntarily or not, was really bad. I know there was one kid weaning off his insomnia meds and he would just start singing in the middle of the night. Wild stuff.
This was early on in training but a mandated client had dropped acid before the session and it started coming on while we were talking - he didn't want to be there as it was and was much larger than me (5'0"). Once he got to threatening me for being the reason everything was wrong with the world I ended up needing to get up and leave my own office to get a supervisor. I definitely thought he would hit and/or strangle me if I stayed.
Used to be a therapist at a behavioral health hospital. I had some patients who genuinely scared me in theory, but nothing ever happened with them. I was significantly attacked twice at work. Both patients were young women. Neither of them "scared" me beforehand. Both were incredibly quiet, withdrawn, and unassuming. One strangled me with my keys- my lanyard was a breakaway for that very reason, but she had tried to steal them several times that shift in attempt to escape the building and run into traffic, so I stupidly knotted off the breakaway portion. We carried panic buttons on the lanyards and I was able to press it while being strangled with it.
The other attack occurred when I was fairly new and on a low-security unit, in view of other staff. I was walking away from the patient and she grabbed me by my hair, pulled me to the ground, and dragged me for several feet down the hallway where she began kicking me in the chest and stomach. She was sent to a higher security unit as a result. I guess I was afraid of her after that, but she wasn't there long. There was law enforcement intervention after she assaulted a pregnant nurse, pulled her to the ground as well, and stomped on her stomach.
The only one I have felt a little scared of was one who threatened to kill me. I knew she meant it. She had already assaulted a number of other staff. She got sent to a higher security ward and I heard she had broke staff's fingers first day she was there.
She held staff and other patients hostage in one of our rooms threatening them but circling the table as if playing with them first. I see violence and aggression regularly and it doesn't phase me but she did. I would purposely avoid eye contact and look straight ahead avoiding her and pretend I wasn't intimidated, as that's what she wanted.
My SO (mental health nurse) tells me that BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) is very difficult to work with, because while it's a totally legitimate disorder, it often presents as someone being a brat.
I used to work with multi-disabled youth in a school. We had to sign a waiver that we wouldn't press charges or sue or anything the school, the students, or the other staff while working there. I could have sued at least two students (concussion/whiplash/bites/sexual assault...). I left after needing to be taken to the ER a 2nd time.
I am encouraged by some of the new research with psychedelics etc (disclaimer I am not advocating them for anyone, merely saying they look promising in the research) but it is nice to have something new for non-talk/behavior therapy. Metacognitive therapy is also promising as an effective variant of CBT that I have also found compelling. I wish you all the best.
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For closeted individuals, coming out is a rite of passage in life that LGBTQ+ people never signed up for.
Why is it that anyone who inherently identifies a certain way has to explain themselves to those who are confused and unwavering in their socialized ignorance?
Times have changed and while there have been advances made for LGBTQ+ people to find more acceptance and feel less like an "other," there are still many challenges to overcome.
Even with gay role models prevalent in pop culture, it can still be difficult for gay youth today to come out to a parent who chooses to live in the past and align themselves to antiquated ideals in society that prevents them from loving their child as they are.
But sometimes, the response after opening up to a parent in a vulnerable moment can prove that unconditional love is the best thing in the entire world.
Curious to hear about positive responses, Redditor Expert_Recover3061 asked:
"What's the best response to 'Dad, I think I'm gay'?"
Even those who aren't fathers can give the best response.
"In the 90s, when my girlfriend finally told her traditional Italian mom and grandma at 19, they sighed in unison and grandma said, 'oh thank baby Jesus, I was worried that I was going to have to tell you.'"
What Gran Said
“'I thought you were about to give me bad news! Don’t scare me like that!' - My granny when my uncle came out (in the ‘70’s!). She was decades ahead of her time…"
They're still parents.
The Rules Don't Change
"You still have to wear a condom."
Not The Only Outcome
"Pregnancy isn't the only STD."
Bracing For The Worst
"This was my literal response when my brother came out to me. He’d called me and said he had something urgent to tell me and it had to be face to face. I was a bus journey away and started to panic so I made him tell me over the phone."
“'I’m gay.' 'I know that! I thought someone had DIED.'"
"When I came out to my dad when I was 16 I thought he would disown me. He said: 'Son, If anyone ever hurts you for that, I’ll f'king kill them'. In that moment I realized that I had the best dad in the world."
These reactions raised eyebrows.
“'So that’s why you don’t like mushrooms'. At least that’s what my friends dad said to him when he came out. We still don’t know what he meant by that."
"One of my friends from high school was gay, and when he came out to his family his Dad literally didn’t look up from his newspaper & told him his sister didn’t need to tell him she was straight so why would he need to explain that he was gay? He’s known him his whole life and already knew that."
"It was cute because he was so worried."
These Redditors realized they had nothing to fear.
Cheers To That
"Well... My dad said 'I know... And I don't care. As long as you are happy, I'm also happy for you.' And then asked me if I wanted a beer or scotch to celebrate that I finally had the confidence to tell him."
The Best Parents
"Our son came out to us a month ago. We already suspected, so it wasn't a shock."
"When he told me I thanked him for telling me, told him that I loved him, then explained that who he wants to tell next and how he wants to tell them is 100% his choice and we will support him however he wants and needs. He gave us a list of people to tell, and by the end of the week he wanted everyone to know."
"Love and acknowledgement and support."
Most parents these days aren't given enough credit for being understanding–and also having good instincts about their closeted children–as the fear of being disowned weighs heavily on the mind of individuals who are apprehensive about coming out.
A friend of mine told me her 19-year-old son came out to her and her husband. They already suspected and were waiting on him to come out on his terms when he was ready.
Her husband had the best response.
"Son, I just hope I get to have the first dance with you at the wedding."
Everyone loves a good mystery or ghost story, particularly one with a massive twist regarding one of the main characters.
But surely, stories like this never happen in real life?
Such as finding yourself stuck on the side of the road, when a guardian angel of sorts comes and helps you, seemingly out of nowhere, then disappears just as mysteriously.
Or getting a call warning you about something which sounds far-fetched, then happens three weeks later?
Surely, these are the types of situations only found in the work of Shirley Jackson or Edgar Allen Poe.
Or are they?
"What's the most mysterious thing happened in your life that you can't find any explanation for?"
Mom Acting Weird
"My mum is a type 1 diabetic, has been since she was 11 years of age."
"When me and my little brother were very young, I was about 7 and he was 5 , I came into my mum's room to find she was acting extremely strange."
"She looked almost drunk, and wasn’t really responsive."
"I went to pick up her insulin needles to see if she would react to that and she didn’t."
"So I panicked and phoned my Nan who told me to put the phone down and dial 999."
"For some reason I was so frightened and confused I didn’t, and sent my little brother outside to get help while I tried to get my mum to respond to me."
"My brother came back in crying saying he couldn’t find anyone and then about five minuets later this woman just walked into my mum's bedroom, called me by my name, and my brothers, said she knew my mum and help is coming, she was calm, soft-spoken and had a warm feeling about her."
"I didn’t recognize this woman and neither did my brother."
"Shortly after the ambulance arrived and got my mum's sugar levels back up."
"And when I went to find the woman, she was gone."
"Like literally gone."
"When my mum came round I explained to her about this mysterious woman and what she looked like."
"And my mum had absolutely no idea who she was, and we never saw her again."
"If she didn’t help us my mum would have died eventually."
"Still gives me shivers now."- leeshouse90Portrait Of A Lady On Fire Neon Rated GIF by NEONGiphy
Psychic, or lucky?
"When I was around 18 a friend and I were traveling in Europe."
"We were walking along a pleasant, quiet street in Rome one day and saw an elderly homeless man sitting on the street."
"He said to us if he could guess our date of birth could we give him some money?"
"Of course we said ok."
"He did it! "
"He told us both our correct dates of birth!"
"Never met him before and never saw him again."- robertodurian
Some Unfinished Work, Maybe?
"I was at my mother in law's flat in Hungary."
"Fyi I don't speak Hungarian, so I couldn't be aware of any of this."
"I tend to go to bed later that my wife, and for the first couple of nights, I had trouble falling asleep because around midnight I could hear the neighbor upstairs."
"It's an old block of flats made under the communist era, walls are incredibly thin."
"Walk in high heels, which was very annoying."
"I could also hear little objects fall on the floor, and I told my wife it sounded like the plastic buttons you have on some clothes."
"She looked at me funny and told me her niece hated to sleep in that room because she was scared by the noises coming from upstairs."
"I said that was a bit exaggerated, and I thought it was until my wife told me the flat upstairs had been empty for the past at least 4 years."
"Neighbor died years before that, and guess what?"
"She was a tailor, always nicely dressed and wearing high heels."- mimzouHigh Heels Shoes GIF by Real Housewives Of CheshireGiphy
Gone Without A Trace
"When I was a kid, I participated in Big Brothers Big Sisters, which if you don't know what that is it's pretty much just a mentorship program in the US."
"I basically just hung out with this dude Chris for a couple hours a week."
"We'd go to the movies, out to eat, he'd help me with my homework, that kinda thing."
"One day, he tells me that he's going to Baltimore for a couple weeks and when I should expect him back."
"The day rolls around and I give him a call to see if he's back yet."
"A man whose voice I didn't recognize answered and I asked if Chris was there."
"He said no."
"I asked him when Chris would be back just kinda thinking it was someone staying at his house or watching his dogs or something."
"But he said that I had the wrong number, that he and his wife had lived there for years, and there was never a Chris there."
"I double checked in the phonebook to see if it was the right number which it was because I had it circled."
"I was confused so I just said sorry and hung up, and I never heard from Chris ever again."- theautomemoriesdoll
A Clever Distraction?
"When I was 10 or so I was staying at my grandma's over the summer break and we were having breakfast."
"We barely started eating when the phone rang."
"She left the dining room and I followed her thinking that maybe they were my parents calling."
"When we returned most of the food was gone."
"She asked me if I ate while she was on the phone and I said 'no'."
"There was no one else home and there were no pets."
"My grandma just shook it off saying we might have eaten more than she remembered but I am absolutely positive that I had at most two bites of my toast by the time the phone rang."- queenliz2frHungry Good Morning GIF by HBO MaxGiphy
"Every month around the 5th I get a letter with exactly 23 dollars."
"No note, no return address."
"I’ve asked family, relatives, friends, the two past occupants of this apartment."
"Nobody knows anything about it."
"It is not addressed to me, but to my unique postal address."
"The total is now exactly 1886, I have just stashed it all in a box."
"I do not want to spend it in case it is cursed."- Puzzleheaded_Ad928
A Comforting Sign
"My grandmother always loved roses and had them growing in her back yard."
"She died in a December and when we were gathered at her house for the funeral my father happened to look out the back window and saw a bright red rose had blossomed."
"It stood out brightly against the snow."
"He brought it in and put it in a vase on the kitchen table."
"We all left for the funeral and when we came back the rose was on the living room floor."
"No one had been in the house while we were gone."
"My father is the most hard-headed person alive but he was convinced it was his mothers way of telling him she was all right."- regular6drunk7
"We have a built in wardrobe in our bedroom."
"About a month ago our cat had managed to get herself inside and I must have closed the door."
"I heard her meowing and I opened the door and she jumped out and walked off."
"I closed the wardrobe door."
"Less than five minutes later I hear a meow in the wardrobe, I open the door and to my surprise, our cat jumps out again and walks off."
"My partner and I were both stunned as there is no way into the wardrobe with the doors closed."
"Neither of us have any idea how this happened."- TorthOrcCat Jumping GIFGiphy
"I had just picked up a coworker from her house heading to work.'
"We are just talking and chatting, "how'd your weekend go" type of stuff."
"We are maybe 5 miles away from her house, when all of a sudden, we realize we are in town pulling into works parking lot."
"We both kinda look at each other not sure what happened."
"We had gone near 20 miles in a blink of an eye."
"And what cemented this experience as something that I actually happened, and not just simply losing track of time, IS THE TIME!"
"It should have taken us almost half an hour to get to work."
"Instead the time from when I picked her up was 2:30."
"And the time when we got to the building was 2:40."
"There is no way in HELL!"
"We couldn't have gotten there that fast."
"From that point on we both called that experience the time when we Jumped, like from the movie Jumper."
"I have no explanation why."
"I'll also state, I don't believe in the paranormal or supernatural."
"So this experience is one of those things that makes me question my own sanity."- belac4862car dark GIFGiphy
There must be an explanation for these circumstances...
Even if it's not an explanation that will make any sense, otherworldly or not.
We've all made clumsy mistakes that we know could have been avoided had we used a little bit more good judgment and common sense.
Thankfully, these silly mistakes don't usually harm others or ourselves.
This is why it's hard to see people knowingly perform reckless or dangerous activities which they know might have serious consequences.
While we don't usually wish these people ill, we also have a hard time feeling bad for them, as they knew what they were getting themselves in for.
As some people might say, they "f*cked around and found out" or "play stupid games, win stupid prizes."
What is a great example of 'f*ck around and find out'"?
Never Be Afraid To Seek Help
"Hey remember how they said drugs can ruin your f*cking life?"
"Turns out that was true."- WowAPenguin
They Put Up Those Walls For A Reason
"People who die after going over the safety fence at zoo, or basically any safety fence."- Solid_Refrigerator16
They Can't Say They Weren't Warned...
"Those who go deep cave diving and ignore the warning signs."- somekindofmiraclecave GIFGiphy
Never Stand Behind Them...
"Jacka**es who come to the stables I ride at and act weird around horses."
"Those animals play no games."- clem82
Is It Really Worth It?
"Running of the Bulls in Spain."
"The videos each year of the people getting completely annihilated by the bulls is a great example."- getagrooving
Never Get Too Big For Your Britches...
"When I was young I boxed and eventually got into golden gloves."
"I got a few wins under my belt and said I wanted to fight someone legit, someone who would be a real challenge."
"An opportunity came up to fight someone very good, a guy who'd eventually win regional and state and later go pro."
"At this point I'd not lost or even been knocked down, so my confidence was high, that is until he knocked me the hell out very early in the fight and taught me that there are BIG differences in the different talent levels of fighting."-Redditepisode 2 boxing GIF by Archie ComicsGiphy
Sharks might be the least of your problems...
"Go swimming outside the flags in Australia."- d*ckflip1980
"When people were dressing up like clowns to scare people."
"It kinda stopped after one got shot."- BigMaraJeff2
Or With Anything Dangerous...
"Playing with electricity."- tlmega124Jack Nicholson Hair GIF by MOODMANGiphy
They Won't Harm You If You Won't Harm Them...
"People that approach wildlife in state parks."- Rider-of-Rohaan42
Best To Keep Hands And Feet Out Of Moving Vehicles...
"Your boss at the warehouse is constantly telling you to keep your feet within the confines of your vehicle, and not to hang them, and to stay clear when walking, because if you don't, a 6,000 pound+ vehicle impacting a fixed surface will turn your foot into spaghetti sauce."
"Do not f*ck around, ever, with industrial vehicles."
"Follow all guidelines, always."
"A powered ride-on pallet jack weighs as much as 2-3 small cars, when fully loaded."
"It will absolutely ruin you if you don't operate safely."- SpaceCorpse
Still Probably Best Not To Do It At All!
"My uncle was a high-profile defense attorney specializing in folks who were arrested for drug trafficking."
"The greatest advice he ever gave to me was, if you want to smuggle ANYTHING, you can do it one time."
"After that, you will be caught and you will be f*cked."- redoctober2021
Confusing On So Many Levels...
"Trying to armed rob a gun store."- VagabondTexan
You'd Think People Would Have Learned By Now...
"Taking Julius Caesar hostage."- EgoSenatuscaesar GIFGiphy
No One Is Invincible...
"Ye saying he can’t be dropped by Adidas, then immediately getting dropped by Adidas."- Admin_Untold
It's one thing to make a mistake after being a bit too hasty, and not giving something enough thought.
But if you end up in the ER after being urged not to do something, and well aware of what might happen, don't expect too many flowers...
Being horny can lead to some questionable decision-making.
Something happens to the brain when blood is flowing to other regions of the body.
They should discuss this in health class.
It's perfectly normal, but we have to learn how to deal.
Redditor Sir_Baconstrips wanted to see who was willing to discuss actions made while randy, so they asked:
"What's the biggest mistake you've made because you were horny?"
I can't tell you mine, because my mom might read this. But Reddit was more than happy to share.
History HelpHide Reaction GIF by florGiphy
"I browsed porn and then I asked my mom how to delete the history."
What was that?
"Probably my most embarrassing moment. Was on my work computer (family business so nothing locked) and it was a super slow day and I was alone. Anyways was doing a classic 3 min facebook check and scrolled down for a second and saw the news post about Adriana Chechik injuring her back in a foam pool. Figured top comments on that would be golden. Read one funny one that said 'her and her scene with [performer I can’t remember] is still goat.'"
"Never heard of said performer so I got curious and google her. Of course photos never do justice, had to see the performance ya know? So I clicked a random video, quick glance and thought 'meh' and was about to close the tab before I noticed my mouse twitch on the screen… What was that? No.. that wasn’t mouse error, that was someone… then within seconds I realized the accountant who taps in remotely to finish work came in at that exact moment that I had a browser open for less than 60 sec."
"The worst wart was I could have sworn I had all those remote services off, but she tried to tap in for over an hour and must of did something to wake splashtop (probably had it on some type of standby mode). She even called earlier but I saw a random number and was speaking with a client and ignored it."
"Anyways, decision time, do I call her and play it off as nothing or apologize? Naturally as a fearful 28 year old I play off as nothing. I call, no answer… then a few minutes later i get the call back and her words after exchanging 'hellos … are you finished with whatever you were doing…' still burns me."
"Let my (ex) boyfriend dry-hump me for an hour on a bench outside after summer school."
"The bad news: this bench behind our school was also beside a swimming pool. Where parents were taking their children for swim lessons. Eventually a staff member came out and yelled at us for being inappropriate."
"I still have shame flashbacks today, over 10 years later."
"I had a one night stand with a guy who was, in retrospect, seriously self-conscious about his penis size and kept going on about how if it was on the small size it was just because he has to have sex with it a few times and it would gradually get bigger until it was it’s 'true' size. I really didn’t care."
"But then to make himself feel better he turned it around and started talking about how big and wide my vagina was but kept reassuring me that it was ok because he liked the challenge. I wish I had snapped my legs shut and given him the boot right then and there."
In San DiegoNo Money Bangladeshi GIF by GifGariGiphy
"Lost my entire tax refund and got my phone stolen at a strip club in San Diego."
Always check your pockets on the way out.
The RewardHappy We Did It GIF by StoryfulGiphy
"Hooked up with a girl at a party. Just kind of bored, drunk, and horny. Having to go to the doctor for a case of pubic lice was my reward for poor self-control."
"I got my first serious gf in high school. She was two grades below me. So when I finished third year and moved 500 km south we was still a couple. I was so in love (and most of all horny) I commuted every. Single. Weekend. And I was poor. So I took the bus to the nearest station after school. Waited for the long distance bus for 4-5 hours."
"Went to a larger city to hitchhike my way there. I was there Friday night or Saturday morning. Locked ourselves in her bedroom and went at it until Sunday morning. I made my way down to school again and went to class straight from the bus Monday morning. This went on for almost a year…"
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"Was trying to get with a girl in college. We were texting and I asked her what she was up to, she said she was training for a marathon and going to the gym and asked if I wanted to come."
"I ended up running 9 miles before I tagged out. So now I know how far I'd go to have sex it's up to 9 miles."
Lord the things people will do when slightly turned on.