Sometimes you get some fantastic advice or hear a rather profound quote, but for whatever reason it doesn't click with you right away.
That's totally normal: life and experiences have a way of shaping us and then, when we least expect it, waking us up to the full weight of the words we've simply heard but never really internalized, let alone processed.
After Redditor call_me_keef asked the online community, "What's a profound quote you heard but didn't really understand til years later?" people were eager to share their stories. Take note: You might learn something new today.
"[I] Didn't really understand..."
"Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something."
Didn't really understand completely til Twitter came out.
"Looking back..."
When my first child was born, my Grandmother said to me "The days will be long, but the years will be short." Looking back, she was absolutely right.
"Now that I think of it..."
"You'll never know what worse luck your bad luck has saved you from."
It's a Cormac McCarthy line in No Country for Old Men, I just thought it was a nice way of saying s*** happens, get over it. Then you go through some break ups, lose some jobs, and I can see where my life might have gone had those "bad" things not happened and it all made sense. Don't judge a bad break until you have time to see the full scope of it, sometimes it's a good thing.
Now that I think about it I had a friend in high school who was playing flag football one day. He went for a pass and ran into a tree or something, had a nasty goose egg so he went to the hospital to make sure nothing was broken, get a concussion eval. They did a CT scan and everything was normal except for the large tumor near his brain stem. That accident probably saved his life.
"I'm surprised..."
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I'm surprised how many times I go back to Alice in Wonderland and find something profound.
"Which way do I go?"
"Well that depends on WHERE you want to get to?"
"Oh, it really doesn't matter..."
"Then, it really doesn't matter on which way you go!"
"I thought it was kinda cool..."
"You are where you're meant to be."
My yoga instructor said that to the class one day during a typical routine, when a noticeable amount of people were missing. I thought it was kinda cool acknowledging that they were supposed to be in class, but were needed somewhere else (probably trying to meet a deadline for a project or something, but still).
"I never really thought..."
"From all the words of tongue or pen; the saddest are these: What Might Have Been."
I never really thought too much about it until I came to a realization that every day was just the same as the last. I missed opportunities, and time with friends. I noticed that the time I had with these people would run out. I don't like looking back now but instead I take this knowledge and I don't waste a single moment of the time that I have.
"It means..."
"The shackles that bind you will set you free"
English translation from Zen Buddhism.
It means that the difficulties you experience will become the path to you becoming a better version of you. IF you use them as such.
Which does not mean that the shackles will become undone. Stevie Wonder was born blind. Nothing can be done about it. Yet he's won 25 Grammy awards and enchanted millions of people with his music.
Everyone faces difficulty. Everyone grows old, falls apart, get sick and dies. Those shackles will not come undone. Freedom arises from how you respond to difficulty.
"Not really a profound quote..."
Not really a profound quote but the phrase "Not if I see you first" - I thought it was just a corny way to reply to "see you later" "see you soon" etc., but it's actually sort of an insult. It implies that if the person sees you first then they will avoid you. Meaning, if I see you first, I'll run away or hide so that I don't have to deal with you.
"Basically..."
A song lyric actually:
"And then one day you find that ten more years have got behind you. No one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun."
Basically you wake up one day in your mid-40's and you can't understand why the last 25 years have gone by so fast. Not because I feel like I've been missing out, but I've become so consumed by what I have to do every day (job, family, health, finances) that it occurs to me that the life I have led since I became an adult is one huge blur. If the next 25 years go by just as fast, I'll be at the end of my life. It seems so short.
"While fiction is easy to understand..."
"The only difference between fiction and reality is that fiction has to make sense." - Mark Twain
It implies that our world and reality is horrible and confusing. While fiction is easy to understand and that fiction should fell problem less. a perfect example of this is Star Wars. Each movie starts out saying a long time ago to imply that the troubles that our main characters have faced are gone and done with. Star Wars also states in the beginning of each movie in a galaxy far, far away to imply that whatever really happens won't affect you.
But we should also be prepared and ready to ask the right questions to have a leg up on the competition.
"What is THE best question to ask on a job interview?"
A company's history or information about a past employee were suggested subjects appropriate for questioning.
Prior Knowledge
"When you were interviewing here, what would you have liked to know before you joined?"
"This worked for me. I asked my interviewer a question about how she had personally dealt with a company policy she had just explained. She bragged about her stellar adherence to the policy. I nodded my approval. I got the job."
A Previous Employee
"One that has always gone over well for me:"
"What were some qualities that the previous employee in this role brought to the job that you would like to see carried forward?"
"Another good thing to do is research the company you are interviewing with and you can ask things about what they may be involved in or you could drop that while reading about the company, you wondered this."
Hypothetical questions were suggested as helpful examples of inquiry.
Indicators Of How Companies Treat Employees
"A question that landed me a job once was: 'If I asked your direct reports about your management style, what do you think they'd tell me?' Stumped a hiring manager and he emailed me personally to tell me about it, no one ever asked him that question but got the job.
"In my current interviews I'm asking 'what did your company do for its employees during [the virus] to improve their day to day, work life balance, etc.' and I ask 'Is there anything your company adopted during [the virus] that they plan to keep post [the virus]?"
"These questions give a lot of insight into whether a company treated their employees well."
Past Performance & Adjustments
"If we were currently sitting in my 1 year review, what would I have done in this year for you to say I excelled in my role?"
"If I could snap my finger right now and change anything about your job or the company, what would it be and why?"
The following questions about a prospective company may not be answered from initial digging on their website.
Measure Of Success & Career Trajectories
"How is success measured in this role?"
"What are some possible career trajectories within the company that could stem from this position?"
Being A Solution
"Ask them what is the biggest problem you can solve for them in your first six months with the company. Similar to 'don't think of a purple hippo,' this forces them to imagine you succeeding in the position."
Simply The Best
"Who is your best employee and why is he/she the best?"
"You will then face 2 situations mostly:"
"panicking CEO who can't answer you 'Bob who works 17 hours a day for a slice of bread' so the fear in their faces must be a big nono for you"
"entusiast CEO who actually follow their business and can tell you who is an added value for the company and why."
– ThePiz91
My experiences with job interviews are different than others seeking work in office environments.
Having had a years-long career as a dancer, my "interview" was the dance audition, where hopefuls dance in small groups of people at a time after learning a routine and then awaiting their fate after the panel evaluates their performances.
The question I may or may not have asked in such a scenario earlier in my career was: "Did I make the cut?"
I did not make the cut. And I learned never to ask that again.
I remember the worst date I ever had. My biggest regret is that I stayed for the entire thing. I should've left as soon as I realized this was not going well, which was basically at hello. But he was paying so I drank, a lot. I'll keep names and dates to myself to protect the innocent.
0/10
Big Brother Reaction GIF by Big Brother After DarkGiphy"Went to brewery, date said I had hairy arms and that meant I was horny, said "you look really awful in this light" and then tried to dig out of that hole by saying in his native language that was a term of endearment long term couples said to each other. 0/10 did not date again."
Lucky 13?
"My wife wanted to plan our 13th wedding anniversary. I was excited because usually, I plan it. She bought us some new disc golf discs and after a quick supper, we went to play. We hadn't played in forever. We were laughing and I had a great time. She served me with divorce papers and told me that the date was a test to see if she still had feelings for me. I also learned that she was having an affair that started well before our anniversary."
- rmorlock
Two Hours from Home
"Not necessarily a date but a person I was dating invited me to his parent's house for the afternoon. He wanted to introduce me to them and show me the house he grew up in. I thought it was super sweet and had no problems going. He was also in the middle of moving and needed to pick up a few things, so it really didn't seem that unusual."
"Yeah, we got there and it was awful. His entire family was there. They traveled from hours away too. This was not just meeting the parents, it was meeting the ENTIRE family. Even worse? At some point, this idiot told his parents that he had proposed. We had been dating TWO months. I spent the entire afternoon dumbfounded and just playing along."
"We were two hours from home and I had no cell service, no way to leave at all. We ended up spending the afternoon brainstorming wedding ideas and planning an Alaskan honeymoon that his parents planned to gift us. His brother even called to say congratulations! We drove back to his apartment in silence. When we got there, I got in my car and left, didn't even bother grabbing my stuff. Weirdest experience ever. I have no idea how he broke it to his parents that we weren't getting married."
You're Cut Off!
"Got set up on a blind date once between mutual friends. She shows up to the restaurant already a little tipsy, orders multiple appetizers and only takes like one or two bites from each one. Then she proceeds to order 3 or 4 more drinks and is visibly drunk at this point. She gets up and says she's going to the bathroom and staggers off. About 15-20 minutes go by so I try to call her several times but no answer."
"Finally I decide to pay the check and just leave. About 2 hours later I'm sitting at home and I get a call from an unknown number. It's the police department. She was picked up on a DUI on her way home after she ditched me and gave the cops my number to see if I could go bail her out!"
- mox44ah
Sorry?
Bbc Three Idk GIF by BBCGiphy"Well, I gave this answer on a different topic, but it ties in with this. We were out on a date, we had been seeing each other for a while, close to a year maybe. She gets a phone call. Suddenly she looks destroyed. Her fiancé had just died in a motorcycle accident."
What in the world? I mean how can we ever expect to pair off with the dating pool being inundated with liars and nut jobs? I'm going to delete my apps.
Girl, Bye.
Sassy Beyonce GIFGiphy"Had a girl openly flirt with the bartender in front of me. She says she wasn't. But handing him her own phone and asking for his contact info in front of her date seems like it to me."
Crazy!
"Came out from a movie, late at night, and date's Camaro was stolen. Apparently, he called his WIFE (that I did not know he had) and let her know where he was and what happened. She showed up and realized he was on a date! She started chasing ME around the parking lot telling me she was going to kill me. Saved by the cops who showed up just in time to take the auto theft report."
Hey Mom
"Met a girl at a country bar one night in my 20s. We were both pretty drunk but hit it off pretty good. Ended up getting her number and we agreed we'd go on a real date. Fast forward to the date, she gets in my vehicle and... she looks almost identical to my mom. I was mortified. I was polite and we went for lunch where I found out she also had a boyfriend she "wasn't sure if she was into". Never talked to her again."
- SgtGo
Liars...
"When I was in college many years ago, before the advancement of cell phones and social media, I was chatting with a girl I met on a BBS who lived on Long Island, NY. I was 18 at the time, but lied and said I was 22 because she said she was 25. We spent a few weeks emailing each other, as well as calling each other."
"We even exchanged pics. When we finally met up, things blew up. Turns out we both lied about our ages: She was really 33, and lied because she thought she looked younger. She admitted she sent a college photo to me. We still had dinner together, but it was awkward as hell. We never spoke again."
Doubles
Kill Me Now Season 1 GIF by FriendsGiphy"It was a double date. She was more interested talking to the other girl throughout the whole thing. Found out later from the other guy that his girl cheated on him with my date."
Ummm... I think I'm just going to stay single. That is a handful of crazy. Why can't people just be honest? I swear the search for love warps people's brains. Be careful out there people.
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