Whether we like it or not, our parents will always be influential to us. And this could be a good or bad thing. Some of the rules laid down to us by our parents may have made no sense, but as an adult, it might still be hard to let them go.

nojanuari asked: What childhood rules do you still follow, for no real reason?

A guilty conscience.

"I have horrible anxiety about doing anything the afternoon/evening after calling in sick. When I was a kid if you were too sick to go to school your too sick to play.

So if I ever call into work sick but feel better later, or while I should have been working, I force myself to stay home and not do things I want to do. I won't go out at all."


No Trix here.


"Only open one box of cereal at a time and never eat the last of something you didn't buy.

My mom instituted the latter because I would always eat all of her Swiss rolls. Now I do it partially out of respect and partially out of the fear of my mom."


Some people forget they're adults.

"Giving my mum regular updates when I travel.

My parents were divorced and my mum was struggling financially, so I would travel without her from a fairly young age, whether it be with my dad's side of the family or for the summer/winter camps. She came up with a rule that i can have all the independence I want as long as I make sure to regularly check in with her and let her know about every major location change.

I still let her know in advance about every out of town journey I take and always let her know once I reach my destination and then get back home. When I travel by planes, I always let her know when I get to the airport, get through security, board, take off, land and the get to the place I'm supposed to be staying at. I didn't realise its a bit silly until my partner pointed it out to me that I am, in fact, a grown up, living in another country and I don't have to tell my mum what time I'm going to be home every night.

I also feel very uncomfortable going out on a Saturday night if the flat hasn't been deep cleaned."


That's not the worst idea.

"The first thing you do when you get home is change out of your day clothes into your "play clothes". Lounging around the house in nice clothes is a stain or tear just waiting to happen."


Still superstitious.


"Eat the whole fortune cookie before you read the message, otherwise it won't come true.

Doesn't work with a lot of them, since nowadays they're mostly just bits of wisdom rather than predictions, but I always stuck with it."


Actually a good idea.

"Bedtime. I pushed it back about an hour, but I'm going to sleep by 10 at the latest nights despite being a college student.

I'd rather wake up early than stay up late."


Very polite.

"Taking my hat off when I eat. I always wore a baseball hat when I was young and my father always made me remove my hat when we ate because he believed it was proper etiquette.

Even now as an adult I always remove my hat when I eat, whether it be at a bar with friends or simply dinner alone at home. Idk just became a habit."


It's addictive.


"That you can't drink soda in the morning. As a kid, I loved Coca-Cola (still do, unfortunately). But I was told as a kid that it's against the rules to drink any soda before noon. It recently triggered in my brain that, as an adult, I can buy Coca-Cola and drink it at any time I want.

Sometimes, at work, I'll be in the mood for a Coke but always check the clock to make sure it's at least 12 first."


Wouldn't it be loverly?

"I used to love My Fair Lady as a kid.

My mom always shut the film off immediately after Eliza leaves, Henry Higgins freaks out, and his mom says "Bravo Eliza." Partially because the next scene has cursing, partially because she didn't like how the final scene undoes everything good about the musical.

So now as an adult, I generally stop the film at "Bravo Eliza." It's where the musical ends for me, and it's a MUCH better ending than what you get if you watch all the way through."


The floor is lava!

"There's this movie theatre in a mall near my parents house where I grew up. The floor in the mall leading up to the theatre was mostly white tiles with red tiles that made a pattern.

When my parents would take my brothers and me to that theater we wouldn't step on the red tiles because, obviously, those are lava. Now, when I'm home visiting my parents, if we go to that theatre I still won't step on the red tiles.

I'm 30."


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