Dating is like wading through a pool of stressful personalities in order to find one person who might not stress you out.

Often, that doesn't happen. Instead, what you're subjected to is an onslaught of awful people. Well--awful to YOU. What turns you off might be attractive to other people.

But it definitely turned you off. Ewwww.


u/emil199 asked:

What's your biggest turn-off, personality wise?

Here were some of those answers.

Nope, I'm Right

People who are dismissive of your profession.

I'm a translator. Met a guy at a volunteer refugee event a while back who told me, with a smile, 'English will be the only language left in 30 years. The rest will all die off.'

Thanks for coming for my career as well as countless language history and preservation projects and the majority of linguistic theory, mate.

thehumangoomba

Republican? Gross

I was dating a guy for a little when I told him I wanted to join the peace corps over dinner. He berated me for 10 minutes and asked why I would ever do that. When I looked confused he ended it with "I don't know... I'm just Republican" as if that justified his statement. I think I was more confused than him at that point. He was rude and now single.

MrsMcGibblets1

You Know That You're Toxic

People that are friendly when everyone is around and then bad mouths someone when they leave. I grew up with relatives that were super guilty of this and i just decided to cut them out of my life.

dyl881

"Someone Else Will Deal With This" Syndrome

People that see problems and refuse to acknowledge them, like I'll ignore it and it will just go away.

That's not going to work in any type of friendship or relationship with me.

MadLintElf

Not Great During A Pandemic

Personal hygiene. I have a coworker that does does not wash his hands after going to the bathroom. People think I'm an ahole for not shaking his hand. Please feel free to do so on my behalf!

Tiurpslen

The Puppet Strings

Manipulation. Amazes me when people can't see it, always seems so obvious to me and drives me mad. Just be upfront

KiyoshiDex

Manipulation is one of those things that is super obvious when it's not happening to you. I mean, if people knew when they were being manipulated, it would defeat the propose.

pm_me_n0Od

Talk To Me

Not communicating. Im not even talking about the typical "how didn't you see I was sad" but actually not showing they are feeling bad. I don't want someone to seem happy, I want them to be happy.

I personally don't have this problem myself but when I get comfortable I overshare so it's a 50/50

_Andro_

Smothering

Overbearing people. I'm quite the loner and value my independence and intimacy so people that are constantly asking how I'm doing, asking me personal question (even if I told them I don't want to talk about it) and generally worrying too much about me bother me a lot. It's not that I don't want people to care or that I don't appreciate it, but if it's too much I feel like I'm being drowned

Unreasonableberry

Tunnel Vision

The people that are sure that they are always right and don't let other opinions or points of view enter

Or that type of person that is super cocky and egocentric for things like being 2 years older or being slightly better than someone at something....

Superivan30

All Trust Broken

I think that people who are willing to use things you've told them in confidence against you is the worst thing. It makes me lose respect for them instantly because it reveals so much more about them and none of it is good.

farrquee

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