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Teens live lives with more complex interactions than many adults experience in a year. Between a growing social media presence and rising hormonal outbursts, drama is waiting around every corner, and man, is it juicy. Reddit user, u/PMMeYourPrettyEyes, wanted to know about the juiceiest when they asked: Teenagers of Reddit, what is the Drama in your life right now?
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Best friend gets a girlfriend, then all of a sudden decides he never felt like we were real friends.
He said this.
Also he lied about having a gf for about 3 months. idc about it, but he lied a lot
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My mom wants to get back into my life now after not seeing me and my sister for 5 years.
Tbh we're both happier and better off without her. But the guilt-tripping from people who don't even remotely understand our situation is making me crazy.
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Last night after watching the Incredibles 2, I told this girl I've been hanging out with for a couple of months that I liked her.
The feelings weren't reciprocated and I now I have a new hobby of going through coloring books.
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My dad in US inviting me to live with him, i want to go but my mom wont let me. I'm finishing high school and i just made 16.
Im not fluent, my english is pretty bad, and i want to study english in my dad's country
Obs: im from Brazil
Who's Going To Tell Mom?[rebelmouse-image 18360977 is_animated_gif=
I'm kind of f_*_ed for College
When All You Have Is Time[rebelmouse-image 18359455 is_animated_gif=
I like this girl, pretty sure she likes me, but I'm currently abroad for an exchange program. I'm afraid she might be over me when I come back
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A friend who has told me to my face that she was interested in a relationship with me has been leading me on for weeks. Today told me that she isn't and never was interested in me. I guess I don't blame her, but I feel pretty crushed at the moment. It's kinda put me into a depressive spiral and I've stopped taking my antidepressants because I was mostly trying to be happy for her sake.
I'm just a f_*_ing mess at the moment.
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Someone did something morally questionable and I'm getting a little flak for not treating him like my bitter enemy, because I think he can change.
Problem Solving Like A Mother[rebelmouse-image 18360980 is_animated_gif=
I'm supposed to go to summer school tomorrow in order to fulfill a PE credit. Thing is that I live like 5 miles from the school, and they apparently don't provide busing. Both my parents work, and the only time when they can pick me up is 3 hours after the class ends, during their lunch-break. They provided busing before... why couldn't you do it this year.
EDIT: Im taking an Uber now, thanks for the advice!
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Some group of a**holes at my school created a racist social media account. They got busted for it eventually, and a couple people got maced for it. The ringleader either left the school or was expelled, but needless to say he didn't come back to school. Tarnished the reputation of our entire class.
There's also some sh-t going down with social media in the freshman class. This time it was an account posting memes about teachers at the school, and a lot of people were in on it. It was discovered eventually, and mostly turned out fine, except that our Humanities teacher was absolutely pissed about it. He's not writing college recommendations for any freshmen once they become seniors, and pretty much hates the entire class now. I've had him, and he's one of the harder teachers, so my heart goes out to their GPAs.
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Gonna meet my dad for the first time in 10 years + loads of fam drama
Good Luck To You, Too[rebelmouse-image 18345825 is_animated_gif=
My girlfriend's mom doesn't want her to see any guys. She literally won't even meet me because that involves a guy in her house. She's divorced her husband and kicked my girlfriend's brother out of the house. My mom didn't know that when me and my girlfriend were hanging out with each other, it was without my girlfriend's mom knowing.
I always am honest with my parents and so I told my mom that my girlfriend's mom didn't know. Now my mom won't let me hang out with my girlfriend because her mom doesn't want us hanging out. I'm really happy with her and this is really stressful and saddening. I've always been a really good kid with great grades and sports and never breaking any rules but in about 40 minutes I'm sneaking out to see her.
Wish me luck I guess.
Freud Knew What He Was Talking About[rebelmouse-image 18349471 is_animated_gif=
Haha I just lost all of my friends because of a Freudian slip in an argument.
Got into an argument. Was having a depression induced mental breakdown. Part of a pretty broken friend group. I.E. they aren't really be able to function outside of the friend group. Said everybody in the group were sh-tty people including me and the person I was arguing with. Actually meant broken.
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Going from high school to college.
This is my last summer with my best friends because we're all going to different schools in the fall. We'll still be friends but it won't be the same. Also I had a realization that I won't see most of my school friends ever again and it's really bumming me out.
Again, Good Luck[rebelmouse-image 18360984 is_animated_gif=
Gonna have an intervention w my friend who's letting drugs ruin her life... wish me luck.
When What You Want Is Gone[rebelmouse-image 18360985 is_animated_gif=
already on summah break but the guy i've been crushing on on-and-off for like the past two yrs told me a week before the end of the school year that he was transferring to a boarding school out of state. he's someone i have a ton of history with and i guess him leaving isn't really drama ?? per se but i don't really know what i'm gonna do without him bc besides the fact that he's probably the person i've had the strongest feelings for, he's also one of my closest friends and i'm still kinda hung over the fact that he's not gonna be here. :/
we both just finished our freshmen year of high-school and i knew him since the start of middle school but we didn't really start talking until last year because we were both in mostly the same classes.
It Does, Thank You[rebelmouse-image 18346487 is_animated_gif=
My friends and I are in a multi-day debate about what to name our group chat, hope this lightens up the thread a little bit
When The People Who Are Supposed To Help Cause The Probelm[rebelmouse-image 18360986 is_animated_gif=
Teacher who's being a jerk. This is the full story if you want to read, I posted this on r/askreddit two days ago.
I was part of a two year program in grade 9 in which I took a few classes together in sequence and did a project at the end of each year. It was near the end of the year and the project was underway. We were made up of groups from years one and two of the program, so freshmen and sophomores working together. I was sick for a week and went to the teacher (lets call her Ms. Module) of the year 2 students for information about what I missed because she was in charge of the project. She told me it was on her teacher page and I thanked her and left. The next day I get a bunch of texts from sophomores and juniors that Ms. Module had complained about me by name saying I "wasn't afraid of her" and was a "disrespectful student" for not checking the website first and asking her before school. She really hurt my feelings and hurt the way my peers view me as a person. She then did it again the next year, this time telling a class of sophomores about how I was "terrible" at presenting and "got a poor grade", something which was false (I got a 92). I then noticed she set the Google Classroom we used for handing things in to automatically share every document we produced in class along with our scores on those works with a woman in Arkansas (I'm in NY) named Jodi. I asked her about it and she told me to tell nobody. I asked my friend if he saw it and she overheard me. She threatened to send me to a week of detention if I told anyone else (because she was obviously violating FERPA, NYS Ed policy, and our district's policy). The next week I took my midterm and failed (63%, lowest out of 60 students in her class). I've never gotten less than a 94 on midterms/finals/any English test. I asked to see it (she just gave me an old regents test which any English teacher could grade) because I wanted a second opinion. Apparently she throws them out after grading. Sorry that was long, I just wanted to say something.
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I'm seventeen, graduating high school in two weeks, and I hate my best friend.
She's the single most annoying person I know. She acts stupid on purpose so no one takes her seriously, but then blames people for not taking her seriously. She never gives proper advice when I have to talk to her about her problems, but she is constantly talking about her problems, which consist solely of "two boys like me, who do I choose."
She's extremely hypocritical, yet she doesn't realize it. There's this guy in our group of friends who likes her, and she knows that. She always invites him out to hang out with us, she shows him her Spotify playlists, and the stuff she posts on her "private" Tumblr about her emotions. Then she gets upset and thinks he's creepy for always hanging out with us, and listening to her Spotify playlists, and browsing through her Tumblr blog.
She complains about some girls in our grade jumping from guy to guy, whereas she's been in a situation where she was in a serious relationship, decided to take a break, and dated another guy for a week. Only for a week though, because she went back to her old boyfriend after that. But Guy 2 didn't like the original boyfriend, so a couple months later she wen't back to the other guy. Then she gets upset that her ex-boyfriend is unhappy with her because she thinks he left her for another girl, and that she did nothing wrong.
She's constantly trying to simultaneously become, and one-up me. If I buy an item of clothing, she'll go out and buy the same thing. If I mention I like a certain thing, she'll go out and buy it, or say that she suddenly likes that thing, even though I might've been talking about it for months. When I bring it up, she always says that she had always liked the thing, and that I was thinking too deep, even though she would never mention the thing until after I had.
She's a snitch too. Whenever I confide anything in her, it should be known that it's between us. So imagine my surprise when her boyfriend confronts me about things I told her in confidence, like who my crushes were, and what my opinions on certain people were. Sure, I might tell other people stuff she tells me, but at least I have the good sense to make sure they don't bring that up to her.
The real kicker though, is that we aren't real best friends. I never tell her anything important about my life, because I've learned my lesson. She never has any real input to conversations, because she'd rather discuss my life with the boyfriends she keeps jumping between. I've known her for ten years now, and we've never hugged, because she "doesn't like affection," even though she has no problem showing affection to the other people in our group of friends. She doesn't refer to me as her best friend, only as her "person," because she has this strange superstition that any person she refers to as her "best friend" leaves her. But that's just because the only three people she's ever referred to as her best friend were the two guys she dated, and this one girl who's a severe narcissist...
...She's likeable, but not a good best friend by any means. I can't just stop being her friend though, because her other three best friends did, and that was horrible for her self-esteem, and she already suffers from anxiety, and I refuse to "seem" like the asshole in this situation, even though I know I'm not. This September I'll be moving three hours away for University, and I won't be the one to keep this friendship going if she isn't willing to make the effort to. If we fall out, that's on her. I've dealt with this long enough.
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Sister is an anti-vaxxer and is begging my dad for money while simultaneously trashing us on FB.
2 of my 4 friends are dating and they're in a rlly toxic relationship where one threatens to break up with the other basically every day, guilt trips, stuff like that.
Like friend one asks the rest of the group "hey should I break up w friend 2" on a weekly basis. Makes it rlly awkward. They've broken up about 2-3 times already.
We're all going on a trip in two weeks so basically we have to hope and pray that their relationship is strong enough to last until then bc if they break up the whole trip is essentially ruined.
Some years ago, I had to advise a college friend to stop chasing the girl he was interested in at the time. She'd already turned him down. Explicitly. At least two or three times.
He wouldn't take no for an answer and didn't see anything wrong with his behavior.
Perhaps he'd seen too many movies where the guy eventually breaks through the girl's defenses and essentially coerces her into going out with him?
Sadly, this is behavior that is tolerated and yes, normalized in our society.
People were keen to share other observations after Redditor EnoughSandwich_7057 asked the online community,
"What's toxic behavior that's considered socially acceptable?"
"Trying to make people..."
"Trying to make people drink/smoke or drink/smoke more when they have firmly declined the offer."
This is a big one that can have disastrous consequences. I am thankful I got a bunch of terrible nights out drinking out of my system by my early twenties.
Being drunk to the point that you're incoherent is horrible.
"I hate the whole prank thing..."
"I hate the whole prank thing, especially when it's done for likes. Scaring or humiliating people for attention just means you are a bad person."
I don't watch any of those videos and I don't understand what people see in them.
"Overworking yourself and then collectively judging others who don't do the same."
I had a coworker like that once, and she was a (minor) reason why I ended up leaving one job, but still a reason nonetheless.
"Taking your work with you..."
"Taking your work with you on vacation. I mean if you enjoy working then that's your thing, but I get sick of people like going through paperwork and having meetings while on vacation. Like dude, stop."
"Looking down on someone..."
"Looking down on someone because of their job."
When people say things like, "If fast food workers deserve $15 an hour..." that says a lot.
"Deliberately misunderstanding what someone is saying so as to make it easier to argue with them."
"People tend to give drunk people..."
"People tend to give drunk people misbehaving a pass if they regularly do it, 'Oh don't mind Tom, he's just drunk.' That just reinforces that toxic behavior."
You can say that again. How many times have you run into bad behavior like this while out and about, perhaps in a bar? It's not fun.
"The fact that we reward..."
"The fact that we reward customers for being wrong. The number of times my old manager would be so exhausted from arguing over the cost of a carton of milk with a customer that she would just give it to them is appalling."
"It reinforces this mentality because even if the customer KNOWS they're wrong they don't care because they will still win."
Annnnd this is why I don't miss retail. I'm fine where I am.
"Verbally abusing minimum wage employees who don't make the rules. If I could change the laws tomorrow I'd encourage businesses to ban pieces of garbage like these who can't operate in public."
"I'm here to do a job..."
"Toxic workplace behavior needs to be top of the list. I'm here to do a job and go home, not be harassed because you don't like some aspect of my personality. Managers who let this slide should be held personally liable."
When you stop and think about it, you realize we live in an imperfect society. It's astounding that some people just tolerate bad behavior and, in many cases, don't even see anything wrong with it.
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Parents make mistakes. We want to believe that parents are doing there very best to raise their kids, but sometimes they do more harm than good.
Research into childhood trauma didn't actually begin until the 1970s, so we don't have as much knowledge about our mental health as adults as we might like.
However, a study that followed 1,420 from 1992 to 2015 found conclusive results about childhood trauma:
"'It is a myth to believe that childhood trauma is a rare experience that only affects few,' the researchers say."
"Rather, their population sample suggests, 'it is a normative experience—it affects the majority of children at some point.'"
"A surprising 60 percent of those in the study were exposed to at least one trauma by age 16. Over 30 percent were exposed to multiple traumatic events."
Not all of the things our parents do that were not so helpful technically classify as trauma, but it definitely has an effect on us as we get older.
Redditor Gooncookies asked:
"What could your parents have done better when raising you?"
Here's some of the ways that these Redditor's parents could have done better.
Rules to maintain purity.
"Would've been nice if my dad hadn't convinced me I had to behave in certain ways to maintain my innocence and purity."
"Catholic? I can relate."
"Nope. He's an atheist. He's actually extremely upset that I practice my (non Christian) religion. He just has some really weird ideas about having female children. Like, if I wore spaghetti straps when I was a child he'd say it was like he was living in a brothel."
Becoming afraid of failure.
"Encourage me to do more. I was never pushed to do anything. I mean, I get why some athletes are like 'my parents pushed me too hard where I hated it.' But I was never encouraged to go out for it try anything new. I played little league baseball and decided I thought it was a good idea to try and be a pitcher. I told my mom, but got the response along the lines of 'That's a hard position, and the whole game kind of rides on you, and if you mess up, everyone is going to blame you.' As a 37 year old I now see how that kind of stuff screwed my self esteem up and why I'm so afraid of failure as an adult."
"Same here. Also when I wanted to try anything new my mom was like 'But that's too hard for you, are you really sure you wanna do this? I don't think that you want nor can.' What's even worse than just forbidding, in this way the kid won't 'protest doing it' and get too low self esteem to do it."
"I'm really happy now that I overcame this after I moved out. I started doing all those things I wanted to do as a kid and I freaking love it (but kinda hate the fact that I haven't started earlier)."
"But even if I have a good relationship to my mom I hide a lot of things I do from her, since she still does the same and tries to convince me that I actually don't wanna do what ever I planned."
"But dear mom, sometimes you just need to try new things. if it wont work out who cares!? Even got a tattoo with 'What if I fall? Honey what if you fly?' to remind me if I should ever forget. (And no, my mum doesn't know about it)."
We're allowed to feel our emotions.
"Allow me to express my emotions, treat me like an actually person, actually interact with me instead of just ignoring me and them just telling me to kill myself."
"Wow. I'm so sorry. I think a lot of parents forget that their children are actually human beings."
"Its okay. I'm trying to work through some of that trauma, its easier said than done."
Interest is nice.
"They could have shown more of an interest in my mental health and education."
"I didn't get help for my anxiety until after college and it's so frustrating to hear my parents acknowledge I was an anxious child yet nothing was done. I can look back and see how many things could have gone better for me."
"I had diagnosed ADHD and my mom thought that the meds made my brother and I zombies and decided she wanted us to just be kids. My parents never looked into any kind of non-medication help for my ADHD."
"I'll always wonder what school would've been like if I had the tools to properly manage it."
"I got an MFA, but I feel my entire life has been a whole lot of masking."
I also have comorbid sleep/circadian rhythm disorder which they also never did anything about. Going to the doctor for anything, physical or mental, was not prioritized. But, my parents definitely weren't well off financially, so I imagine that that was the biggest contributor."
Kids deserve autonomy.
"Taught me to question adults and trust myself."
"They thought they were doing the best thing by teaching my sister and I 'All adults are always right and you obey them no matter what,' but it made me a dysfunctional employee and vulnerable to abusive relationships."
"The good news is it can be unlearned. But I hope this new generation will teach our kids to assert themselves respectfully instead of blind obedience."
Why keep up the charade?
"My parents are great people who did a good job raising me, but there was one weird thing they did that still kind of annoys to this day (and I'm 44.)"
"Once I got old enough to figure out that things like Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny weren't real they still wouldn't admit it for some reason; I think it was more my mom and my dad just went along with her. But even when I became a teenager and all my siblings were teenagers it's like they still thought it was funny and cute to keep pretending that Santa Claus was real. I don't know why."
"They missed the point of that sort of thing. It's a rite of passage for children to eventually get old enough to figure out that this sort of thing isn't real and for the parents to let them in on it. I was denied that and it still bugs me for some reason."
"I could imagine that being infuriating at 14-15 years old. At that age you're wanting to be seen as more of an adult and I can imagine them not acknowledging Santa as a way of not welcoming me into adulthood/making me feel like a little kid."
Yea that's weird. When I got older and looked back I realized that my folks never flat out said Santa was real. My mom would say something like, 'He's only real if you believe in him,' so she never technically lied to me. Maybe it stems from that, they don't want to admit they lied to you?"
"That could be, but I think it was more a matter of my parents (again, my mom especially) thinking that doing the whole Santa Claus thing on Christmas morning, and Easter Bunny thing on Easter was fun and something that she just didn't want to let go of when my sisters and I got older."
Healthy criticism is necessary sometimes.
"They lacked discipline and parental authority which led us to treat them like our friends, disrespect them. We also couldn't be academically successful because they didn't help us develop a healthy studying habit."
"Kids like it when a parent tells them what to do (I mean, parenting is about teaching a kid what to do, if you just leave it like that, it won't learn anything), help them when they can't get through it, never give negative criticism, but constructive criticism when they fail and appreciate them when they succeed."
"Negative criticism: this type only tells them what is wrong. e.g. 'you can't do this,' 'you are doing this badly.'"
"Constructive criticism: this type gives them an insight into what should they do, you can add what is lacking if necessary. e.g. '[...] is not good behaviour, please do [...] next time, then you would succeed,' 'it looks ok (if it is badly done, then don't say this), but if you do [...] it'd be better / [...] is the correct way.'"
Whatever the situation was with your parents or caretakers, there are ways to heal from this trauma.
Psychology Today says we need to process our emotions, especially if we were taught not to when we were children.
It's important that we break these generational curses.
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Breaking up is something that never gets easier.
That kind of thinking, however, does little to keep us from feeling dejected for days on end.
Curious to hear from heartbroken strangers on the internet, Redditor whitecheeks-24 asked:
What's your sad love story?
Death never comes at the right time.
A Difficult Decision
"The love of my life and soulmate who I was married to for 20 years and together for 24 passed away about 8 months ago. I feel alone and empty inside. I have nobody to love or to love me. My life is an empty waste of space now."
"I took her off of life support because I know that's what she wanted and I had to respect her wishes but I sometimes wish I was a little more greedy. I just want my doll face back."
"I am so sorry. I had to do the same thing with my love, married 40 years. It's been 28 months and I'm sinking deeper into despair. We had so many plans, did everything together, and I am honestly lost without him. I send you warmest regards."
The Shy Admirer
"I was a shy teenager, in love with a cute neighbor. His sister and my mom were friends. He died in a car accident. Nobody knew how I felt about him. I overheard his sister tell my mom that he was in love with me. We never got to share our feelings with each other."
"I think a guy I found on match.com died but I have no way of knowing. We had only been dating for 2 or 3 months and we were taking things slow. Then he got sick..tumors in his back and he needed surgery. We still hung out but he was in a lot of pain."
"At the time I was frustrated because I felt he was pushing me away. I just adored him and he was sending mixed messages. Now looking back.. I'm thinking he was just trying to survive. He went in for surgery and I never heard from him again. I didn't know his family and he didn't have social media."
"My mom would check the obituaries in the paper for me and I just always wondered. I hope he didn't know how to end things and just felt this was easier. It's been 5 years and I have a family of my own now but Michael..I hope you're okay."
It's hard for these Redditors to accept the fact their love was never meant to be.
Long Distance Fizzle
"I had to leave my first boyfriend behind because I moved out of state and didn't even get to say goodbye because I didn't know we were moving when I left. We left to see my aunt who had been traveling and was diagnosis with brain cancer in another state, she was too sick to travel home so they rented a house and stayed there essentially until she passed away."
"My mom liked the area better than my hometown tho so we ended up staying, our stuff was shipped to us so I never got to say goodbye to my boyfriend in person."
"We kept in contact for a couple years but being 16 and 18, it wasn't easy for me to just pack up and head back to move in somewhere with him. We both knew we weren't ready for that so we tried our best to keep the long distance romance going."
"Eventually he messaged me one day and told me that he can't do it anymore and he didn't want to hear from me again because he couldn't handle it."
"When I was in my early 20s, I've had a love at first sight experience. It completely broke me. He actually was into me too, but not in love like I was."
"I had never had a boyfriend before and I got so excited, I came in like a wrecking ball to cite a great poet. Long story short, I scared him off, he broke up, I couldn't get him out of my head and couldn't imagine a world without him, so I tried to kill myself."
"Though let me reassure you all, it's been years and I'm over him (as long as I don't see him IRL, I just know that I'd fall back in the spiral), I even had a long-term relationship after him."
Tough Reality Check
"I got left out of a 5 year relationship. I got injured, lost my job, and had to go take care of my dying mom. I was not in a good way. I come back from the ER and she calls our entire relationship off because I was not 'passionate' any longer. Right."
"My entire life fell apart. Lost the house we had gone in on. Lost the dog we had gotten together. And I lost my girl. She was my bestfriend, my first love."
"Huge reality check but at least I'm only 22. I'm glad I saw her true colors when things went bad. Easy to stand by someone when times are good. Saddest part is I would take her back in an instant. I lost a piece of my soul with her."
Some of the biggest heartbreaks come when someone shows their true colors.
"FOUND OUT MY BOYFRIEND WAS MARRIED WITH KIDS ON THE INTERNET. I was happy and in love for two years. One day while doing my research for a client work, I come across a research paper. The research paper matched what I was looking for, scrolling through it, I realized the owner had some names as my boyfriend."
"But this time he acknowledges his wife and two children for being patient with him as he was busy doing the thesis. I got curious, I took a screenshot and sent him a picture and asked if it's his paper."
"Also, I asked if it's true that he has two kids and a wife and he why didn't tell me. He answered 'DOES IT MATTER '. That was the end of my relationship. Never talked about it, never told any soul what happened."
"I finally got with my best friend and soul mate. He knows more about me then anyone and knows what I've been put thru my whole life. When we first got together he promised he would never do anything to me that others have."
"One year later he cheated, lied and and broke my spirit. Something i never thought was possible with me, yet he accomplished it. It's been a year since i left him and he still tries to get back into my life. The sad part is I know he doesn't love me and I can't stop loving him."
"After four years of supporting my lover through his depression and alcoholism, he announced tonight that he is leaving me. I'm pretty depressed."
A Devious Scheme
"Wife moves our small family across the country for a promotion at her company. When we arrive and settle into our house, she leaves me for her boss."
"The move was a scheme for her boss to leave his wife and kids, and for her to leave me, while being able to be close to all their children. So I unknowingly left my career, family and friends behind to move to a state where I don't know anyone so she could be with her new guy."
Unexpected tragedy will always be, to me, the saddest break up story.
A co-worker of mine used to date a young man who was a patron at the store where we both worked.
Their budding romance was new and exciting and absolutely adorable to watch.
He told me he planned to propose to her before he went away on a family vacation, but sadly, my friend never got the proposal. The guy drowned in a horrible boating accident during his trip.
Although my friend is now happily married with two kids, I wonder if she still thinks about him.
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On the outside, so many professions and careers look glamorous, financially enticing, and fun.
Often we sit back in our own lives and wallow in our dead-end jobs with that "wish I could do that for a living mentality!"
But if you look a little closer or, much like Dorothy Gale in OZ, just wait for a Toto to push the curtain back, you'll see that a lot more is going on behind the scenes.
And the shenanigans we don't see, make all that fun... evaporate.
So many careers and high power industries are built on a foundation of lies, backstabbing, and stress. And not in that fun "Dynasty" way.
That quiet, dead-end gig may not be so bad after all.
Redditor MethodicallyDeep wanted hear all the tea about certain careers, by asking:
What is a secret in your industry that should be talked about?
I swear if every single person was forced to work in the hospitality industry for at least one month in their life, y'all would be beside yourselves. The amount of craziness and laziness could keep you eating at home for every meal until death.
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"Casino dealers really do want the players to win. We don't work for the house. We get paid crap hourly rates and rely on tips. Unless the player is super nice they only to tip if they win so we really do want you to win." ~ thedevilsgame
Not the Good Stuff...
"That you can take a gallon of paint and give it a different label, price point, and warranty depending on the store it is sold in." ~ big_d_usernametaken
"My professor told me the same thing. He was a job coach and erased the due dates on food products with I believe acetone or some product in nail polish remover."
"Would slap a new date on it, and the food would get shipped to poorer neighborhoods. That crap blew my mind." ~ Additional_Bar_2013
"Oh crap, I may actually go to jail."
"That if everyone being charged with a crime insisted on it going to trial, no plea bargaining, the system would crash." ~ mikenyle
"When I was a juror, the judge also commented before everything started that trial by jury is the only thing causing people to plea bargain and "getting the system moving."
"Many trials sit in limbo for years, and it's only the threat of "Oh crap, I may actually go to jail."
"That really negotiations start. That's exactly what happened in my case - jurors got selected, and that afternoon (after being 2 years in the system), the defendant pleads out." ~ zealeus
"Safety. It's not really about your health and well being. It's about saving the company money from medical expenses, lost time, lawyer costs, etc. Very rarely does your company actually give 2 craps about you, no matter how much they preach safety, they just don't want to pay if you get hurt/killed." ~ WhenThePiecesFit
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"TV/screenwriter here. If you're established and well connected, it's very easy to coast and be a TV writer for YEARS and do very little actual writing. Most of TV writing is just talking in a room with other writers spitballing."
"This is why there's so many old, unfunny dudes still "writing" on TV shows. They're hired by their friends and in TV, a lot writers don't actually do much "pen to paper" writing. Plus everything gets rewritten to death." ~ GardenChic
So much mess. Someone hire me to write for TV. Why are you just giving away jobs to unqualified people? Life is so unfair. This list makes me mad. Let's continue...
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"I work in the print industry, we print cheques for companies and there is so little security involved in hiring, or keeping the materials secure, or running the actual work, or shipping the work to customers. I'm shocked we haven't had a problem with stolen cheques." ~ Jeff_Cunningham
"Advertising. I keep reading that advertising is leading people to be more woke, or multicultural. Companies don't lead, they follow. They do lots of research and know where the future markets are."
"I worked for a very conservative global brand. 5 years before gay marriage became legal, they told us it would happen and we needed to start targeting the LBGTQ community." ~ leftside72
"Visa agent and I've seen people be refused because the manager didn't like their face." ~ Ok_Albatross9395
"Omg this happened to my sister. She couldn't start her semester in time because she kept being refused a visa even though she fulfilled all conditions."
"Finally my parents found a "connection" in embassy to see what's going on; turns out someone just didn't like her when she came to give her papers the first time. I never knew if I can fully believe that story." ~ animal7239
So much typing...
"I'm a writer, among other things. I used to ghostwrite. You'd be amazed how many popular books are partly or fully ghostwritten. I specialised in taking people's crappy first drafts and rewriting them so they were actually good. Not "good" according to people's taste, which is subjective."
"But objectively better in the sense of being properly spelled, not having gaping plot holes, making sure characters were consistent. By the time I was done there was often very little left of the draft the "writer" had created, but there was a marketable product."
"Pisses me off no end when I see all the bull the publishing industry comes out with about how writers submitting a manuscript must make sure it's perfect because only excellence will get you anywhere."
"I don't know how they can say that and still sleep at night, knowing full well that they're hiring people like me to do large-scale rewrites (or to take a half-baked plot and create a draft from scratch)." ~ iwillckingbiteyou
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"I work in payroll. The number of payroll reports I see where people are conned out of their overtime is saddening."
"Also, taxes paid by a business shouldn't actively dissuade them from paying employees less. The system shouldn't be based on paying a percentage of employee salary in taxes (FICA, Workers Comp), in other words." ~ ThongofSekhmet
I think some investigations need to be launched. I always knew payroll departments were running a scam. Too many people are being ripped off. Time to expose some people.
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