Weddings are an emotional day for everyone involved. With so many different emotions in the air, ranging from happiness to queasiness to, you can bet something is sure to go wrong. By "wrong," of course, we talk about the moment when a priest or pastor asks if anyone has any objections to the union of the two people and someone feels inclined to say, "I object!"
Reddit user, u/Ffynnn, wanted people to share the juicy deets when they asked:
People who have been to a wedding where someone objected to the marriage, what was their reason?
Awkward...
GiphyAt my (half) sisters wedding when they got to the objection part her mother (same dad different mum) lent across to another family member and whispered 'yeah, he isnt good enough for her'
The officiant stopped the wedding and asked her to speak up, saying it's a legal part to to the wedding and if she has an objection then please state it loud enough to hear.
Sisters mum laughed it off and sat down red faced....while I glared evils into the back of this woman's head.
My sister is awesome and the guy she's with makes her super happy.
BONUS AWKWARD POINTS... in his speech he thanked sisters mother for accepting him onto the family and how happy he was to have another mum (both his parents have died) ...
Oof from me
Priorities, Bro
Went to a wedding, guy objected and said "if y'all marry I'll loose my drinkin buddy"
Debts To Settle
The Grooms father objected and said that he couldn't just stand by and watch because he had proof that she was just using him so she could pay off her debts.
From what I heard, a person in her group chat got into a big fight with her on the day of the wedding and ended up sending the grooms father a bunch of screenshots of the bride admitting that she was planning on divorcing him after he paid off all her student debts and bought a house so that she could get it in a divorce.
The bride tried to deny it but I guess the groom had suspicions that she was just using him and after he saw the proof he called the wedding off. My friend, who invited me as her plus one, was super embarrassed but I was thoroughly entertained.
You Say A Lot By Saying Nothing At All
At my cousin (bride)'s wedding, one of the groomsmen spent the entire ceremony facing the audience, with his back to the bride. He felt that my cousin was an overly judgmental succubus who would nag and belittle him. He was absolutely right.
Oh, Mom...
I was at a friends wedding when his mother got up during the vows and said "Objection!". Everyone stared at her in confusion while she stood there staring at his soon to be Wife.
His mother then proceeded to say "I don't want my baby being with that rat bast*rd for the rest of his life!". Everyone just kind of sat there looking confused and shocked. Her son/my friend looked at her with a beet red face and ran out of the church we were in. I guess he felt the same way but didn't want to agree. Long story short the bride ended up calling the wedding off and they broke up. Didn't get a slice of cake :(.
Good times.
A Whole Other Life
I was at one of my good friends wedding (She was marrying a man she thought was a truck driver) and when the priest says does anyone object this woman stands up and says i do.
Turns out the guy wasn't a truck driver but was a married man from Florida who had two kids and the woman was his wife.
TRAPPED
Probably does not count but still worth mentioning.
Wedding, Jewish, final moments and once the marriage was final the bride straight up runs to the crowd and says I'm divorcing my husband for sleeping with my sister!
Bride found out about the cheating but was smart and got back at her sister worst than ever.
Forgive my lack of Jewish knowledge but we found out that, something in the Jewish faith; once your married the bride or groom cannot marry or remarry someone related to the previous wife or something like that. So this bride not only publicly humiliated him but sister by outing them but sealed the fact that they can never ever be together
When Everyone's In On The Joke
I went to a wedding where the entire crowd laughed wildly when the question was asked. But they didn't actually object. The bride and groom had both led, ahem, colorful lives.
A Double Objection!
My Aunts wedding.
Grooms mother shouted that she objects and I immediately stood up and objected her objection in dramatic fashion
Ps: She objected because now the flow of money his isn't to her anymore
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Not the wedding but the rehearsal, BIL's crazya-- ex somehow finds the location but mistook the date. Started her insaneness by stating she forgave him for breaking up with her and he seriously needed to stop trying to act like he moved on (him and my sister had been together for a couple of years and had been living together for at least two, like b-tch I'm pretty sure he aint faking it).
Than [sic] decided to claim she was pregnant with his child. BIL preceded to tell her that she was his greatest mistake and that if she was pregnant it was probably her stepfather's just like the last one she claimed was his and aborted without telling him.
Me and the Best Man kindly kept her away from the couple while the friend who owned the house the wedding was taking place at called the police because she was refusing to leave her property.
Pick Your Time To Shine, Baby
My husband & I got married when my oldest was 3mo. When the officiant asked if there were any objections, our daughter whined loudly & started crying right after. Timing couldn't have been any more perfect!
Officiant replied "too late", every one was cracking up.
Honestly the best part of our wedding video! Lol.
When No One Listens To You
I've posted this before. I objected to my friend getting married during the ceremony. We were at the white chapel in Vegas with friends and I had been drinking so she just laughed it off. Well, she told me later she should have listened because he ended up back in prison.
She's now with a good guy, but was having to do the whole back and forth to jail and then putting money on his books.
The Party Stops When The Wife Arrives
The real wife busted the doors open and screams at the top of her lungs
"IM THE REAL LEGAL WIFE, STOP THE WEDDING!!!"
Still the reception was continued.
Edit: That story got picked on by local news. The husband ended up supporting the kids.
The Heart Knows What It Doesn't Want
Not an objection but at my dads cousins wedding the best man screamed and fell to the floor unconscious right as they were about to exchange rings and was rushed to the hospital, turns out he had a heart attack. He's fine now and recovered quickly
As Long As DVD Purchases Were Made, Everyone Can Go Home Happy
Not exactly an objection but I worked as a photographer at a wedding chapel on the Vegas strip. We had a young Chinese couple come in with their friends and get married, the minister did his normal speech but when it came down to the vows I could tell something was wrong. The groom kept putting the ring on the brides finger and taking it off hesitantly. This went in for a few uncomfortable minutes.
At one point the groom asked the bride if there was someone else and she nodded her head. After a couple more awkward moments the minister explained that if he did not pronounce them man and wife it wouldn't be legal. They decided not to get married.
Their friends still bought the DVD though. That was one of my favorite moments working there.
Maybe Then's Not The Right Time...Or Ever...
Went to a wedding, everything seems to be going well.
Groom felt up the 18 year old niece, MoB finds out while bride and groom are at alter and things went to sh-t pretty soon after.
"May Lightning Strike Me Down..."
GiphyMy good friends wedding video is awesome! A big thunderstorm blew up during the ceremony; and just as the minister asked "Does anybody have any objections?" Lightning strikes the church with a tremendous ka-boom and all the lights go out.
There's some nervous laughter, and the minister says "That doesn't count!", and the ceremony continued.
Oh Myyy...
I wasn't there, but an old friend told me about a wedding he attended years ago. When it came time for the objection part a voice in the back yells "SHE BLEW ME LIKE 30 MINUTES AGO".
Bride bursts into tears. Groom just walks away.
Redditor _ReDd1T_UsEr wanted to discuss the reasons why many of us decided to cut some people out of our lives, so they asked:
"What was the reason why your friendship ended with someone?"
Sometimes a person just has to go.
Planning Stages
Weekend Sunday GIF by DisneyGiphy"I stopped being the first to always initiate plans, and that was that."
Witty-Surround-6541
"I once asked a friend to plan our next breakfast + walk outing, since I always did that. He wrote me a letter ending the friendship. Stunning!"
fermat9996
Pants on Fire
"Habitual lying became too annoying and disruptive to tolerate."
Hosscatticus_Dad523
"When you constantly are thinking... this math ain't matching lol. People that lie all the time make me sick. I've told multiple friends that you don't have to lie to me."
"I feel so much better when someone can trust me and feel comfortable telling me a hard truth than an easy lie."
"Even if the truth made me feel some type of way, I'm still glad it was honest. I've even said thank you to people in the past that have been honest with me, good or bad! Some people just can not help lying about things. I wouldn't be able to ever keep a story straight if I did that."
__eden_
Bad Behavior
"He kept having kids with different girls and bailing on them. Coming from a 'went out for a pack of smokes' Dad myself, I just couldn't watch it anymore. Bailed after the third one. Think he's up to 6 now."
KingGuy420
"Reminds me of one of my ex-friends. She kept having kids with MULTIPLE guys (all of them were one-night stands), I don't think she even knows who the baby daddies are."
"She also kept begging me and people for money for pot, and she also bragged about having OnlyFans. She'd also make up stories about being in an abusive relationship with her boyfriend (she'd also cheat on him/tell people her and him they broke up, which they weren't)."
wisconsinking
Reasons
"I was a bad person and they ended it for perfectly sensible reasons. I would have done the same. I've changed, but I don't blame them for not reconsidering contact."
tabletopsidekick
"I’ve been there. I was a bad person and lost friendships and family relationships. I tried to apologize to everyone I hurt."
PDXGalMeow
"I also accepted that they don’t want me in their lives anymore. I learned that I made my mistakes, I learned from them, and I accept their choices. I don’t self-hate anymore and I try to be a better person in general. I hope you are doing well and practicing self-love and forgiveness."
PDXGalMeow
Money Issues
Donald Duck Money GIFGiphy"I lent them $20 and then they avoided me so they didn’t have to pay me back. Worth the $20."
BuickAssault
"I don't ever expect prompt returns of small amounts of money between my friends... we all buy each other rounds or buy the food for the BBQ or whatever. It ends up evening out over time I think we'd notice though if someone was always taking and never giving and then they'd probably get cut off too."
Badloss
In the immortal words of Cyndi Lauper... "Money Changes Everything."
Lack of Support
Happy Planning GIFGiphy"She joined a pyramid scheme selling butt-ugly leggings and it took over her whole life. When I finally told her it was negatively affecting our friendship, she accused me of not supporting her 'business.'"
LeftandLeaving9006
Oh Driver
"I was basically a taxi for my friends so I dumped them all."
Bullfrog_Little
"This one I can understand but depends on the situation. Not all of my friends had cars in high school, so our group needed to have me and my sh*tty '94 Plymouth Sundance come, or they couldn't do anything. I didn't mind at all then, but I definitely would these days."
Hoopajoops
"I remember I used to drive around with my buddies all the time before they had licenses. When one of my friends got his and a car I said sweet now you can drive me around for a bit, he replied that he wasn't gonna waste his money on gas like that. See ya, haven't really spoken to him since."
DontcallmeShirley_82
2063
"How's this for oddly specific: Friend since 1980, was hanging out at a bar in 1992 and there was a dispute of over a $15.00 bar tab. I was in the right, but whatever - he held a grudge for years."
"Ran into him in 2017 and we were both too old to care. Started to see each other now and then. 2023 and we're at this local bar for a show and got into a fight about $15.00 a ticket."
"Maybe he'll call me in 2063."
The68Guns
Exhausting
"She was a taker, constantly. When I needed something she made it about her yet again. Exhausting to be around."
LordyIHopeThereIsPie
"I'm going through this right now. Can't tell you how many texts I have from her in the past few days telling me that I need to get over myself, need to stop making myself the victim, have been a terrible friend, have never been there for her."
"She's the most narcissistic person I know and everyone does everything for her. She has one of the easiest lives ever and anytime anything bad happens to her she believes that everyone is against her and she's the victim here. It's pure insanity. There is no talking sense to people like this."
cheeseburgerwaffles
Life Changes
point pointing GIF by Shalita GrantGiphy"I've lost like all but two of my 'friends' because I stopped drinking and doing hard drugs."
ConcertTerrible8877
"Same here dude. My circle is small but hey at least it's a circle I know I can go to."
Miss_mayonnaise
Oh, how things change when the booze dries up.
How much fun were you really having?
Do you have any stories about cutting off a friend? Let us know in the comments below.
Curious to hear from ex-lovers who've been there, Redditor Lishasquarepant asked:
"What caused your last break-up?"
These Redditors found they and their significant other were no longer on the same page.
"Simply, we grew apart."
– catetheway
"Same, I feel like Michael Scott everytime I try to start another relationship. 'No question about it, I am ready to get hurt again.'"
– Gthew
Happier Apart
"Same. We loved each other like siblings, not spouses... Ugh! Lovely man though who now has a fab girlfriend. We are good friends and much happier apart."
– MoxieHasKnottyBits
No Regrets
"Same. And it f'king sucks, but that’s life. It’s been a year and I still hate every second that she’s not in my life, but at the same time I know she’s happier now than she would’ve been if we stayed together."
– throway35885328
Having no communication is the worst part.
Silent Partner
"He slowly got distant. I believe he lost interest and didn't dare be honest with me about that."
– GaiaNatur77
The Late Blame Game
"I had that happen as well, but then he pinned it on me being distant and not affectionate enough."
"My guy, if you pull your hand away every time I try to hold it, I'm gonna stop trying to hold it. And if I ask if something's up and you repeatedly tell me everything is fine, I'm going to believe you. Don't wait till I'm at my worst moment and then reveal you had issues with me for 3 months and break up with me for it being 'my fault.'"
– Billielolly
"Everything Is Fine"
"Oh man, the asking repeatedly and getting a 'nothing' reminds me of a story."
"My friend used to ask her ex this every time he was unusually quiet. He’d always say he was fine, then at one point, told her to stop asking because it was making him feel weird."
"So she did."
"Six months later he initiated a divorce because she didn’t care about his feelings anymore."
"Like…don’t ask for sh*t then get pissy when you get what you want."
– TheRealJackReynolds
And then there are those who were not invested in the relationship for a long time.
The Struggle Is Real
"He seemed to struggle with the concept of not f'king random people."
– spanglesandbambi
Leaving The Problem
"He moved to his country because he missed his family. So he only sent a WhatsApp message saying he was going to stay there. I would have preferred a call at least to break up a marriage."
– kattia12
New Life
"Something similar happened to my cousin. He married her in the US, they had a baby together.. a few years go by, he misses home, goes back to visit.. His family had an arranged marriage ready for him 🤦🏻♀️ He ended up with a new wife and new baby. Hasn’t came back."
– MysticalMom7
A Foreign Custom
"It just seems so surreal that a grown a** adult with a wife and baby would leave his family behind for an arranged marriage. I'll never fathom the mentality."
– ro0ibos2
Ouch
"I wasn't having sex near as often as she was."
– YourWordsMatter
Breaking up is hard to do.
But a good thing to remember is that love can be found again and the new relationship can be even better than the previous one.
And that's something that can't be recognized until you look back in retrospect.
We all have to kiss a few toads.