People Reveal The Turnoffs That Make Them Not Want To Have Sex With Their Significant Other

People Reveal The Turnoffs That Make Them Not Want To Have Sex With Their Significant Other
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Sex and relationships can be very dramatic.

It's not always fun and sweat. More often than not, it turns into wine and snores.

The truth is, it's not difficult to turn someone off.

One minute you're a hot dish. The next, you're stale meatloaf.

The question is, who is responsible?

Or is this relationship dead?


Redditor NeedSomeSparkInLife wanted to know who would be willing to share, so they asked:

"What makes you not want to be intimate with your SO?"

I'm an easily turned off person.

So it doesn't take much.

Desire

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"Taking a moment to realize I'm the only one that makes sexual advances in the relationship. Makes me not want it. People think men only want sex for face value but a lot of men actually want the feeling of being desired more so."

Relative-Hour-9359

Anger Issues

"I've always heard of fighting then having sex after. Fighting has always made me not want it. The last thing I want to do when someone pisses me off is have sex with them. What made it worse is she always wanted to when we were arguing which made the argument worse when I refused."

DaMoonRulez_1

"I think you're supposed to resolve your fight, realize that you care for each other a lot, move past it, then have the passion because of that. Not fight right into sex."

Ksp-or-GTFO

Take a Shower

"My ex and I were together for nearly 7 years, but his hygiene never improved, so we stopped being intimate like, 3 years before I finally broke up with him. He showered only once a week, but he worked in kitchens, so he was sweaty and greasy all the time."

"He had an infected tooth, so he constantly had bad breath, but he refused to visit a dentist, even when he had the money to afford dental work. He stopped working out within the first year of us being together, which sucked because he would get jealous if I went to the gym by myself or with my girlfriends, but he refused to come with me."

GreenChorizo

Sober Time

"Personally, the only issue I have is my SO's drinking. He just becomes an unattractive person when he's drunk. It's one thing if we're both out socializing and drinking together occasionally, but he drinks almost every day, sitting on the couch in front of the TV and to the point of sloppy drunkenness way too often. His face changes, his posture changes, his personality changes... I just get so turned off."

WeptSiren3113

Hang Up

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"When they are glued to their phones non stop! Put that s**t down and look at me before we go to bed!"

Palmwine

"I really dislike this too. Makes me feel alone in the relationship."

RealBrownPerson

No phones in bed. Hard rule for many of us to follow.

Step Back

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"When I make a move, and then get the feeling she's not really in the mood/would only do it to please me. I want us both to have a good time, not only me. So when she seems not into it, I take a step back."

Level-Plate8372

Calm Down

"To be brutally honest, her anxiety and insecurity makes sex such a hassle. She doesn’t believe anything I say about wanting her, she can almost never relax during sex, she doesn’t take time to enjoy it, and if God forbid I have any trouble finishing, she takes it more personally than anything, which of course puts more pressure on me to finish, which then makes it almost impossible."

Ben_Franklinstein

When at Wal-Mart

"When they’ve done something really nasty/unkind that day. Cruelty is the most ugly thing a person can show, in my eyes. I had a boyfriend that I went to Wal-Mart with and he ended up flipping off and storming right past the sweet little old man that checks the receipts at the door."

"It was partially about how I used to check receipts and I remembered how I felt when people treated me like that- but I also remember the look on the little old man’s face and just how disgusted I was with my partner being so nasty about it."

"I couldn’t touch him after that and I got grossed out when he touched me. And then I started to notice how he was nasty to other people as well. It eventually led to our break up."

spxdergirl

33 Years In

"My husband used to dislike his job - he’d come home and do nothing but bi**h. After awhile, I just gave up trying to cheer him up with sex - you can only try so long. So, we had a long dry spell - like, whatever you think a dry spell would be, it’s longer. When someone is constantly annoyed, well, it’s hard to feel amorous."

"Anyway, he early retired (54) like a month before Covid kicked in and by autumn that year, well, let’s just say we’re back to what we were like when we first met. He’s not pissed off all the time. (I’m retired as well, and let’s just say, afternoon nookie is such a perk, as is morning nookie and 3am nookie because you can sleep in!) I’m glad we stayed together. Going on 33 years and we’re just so happy."

NicInNS

Rage

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"Feeling angry. I hate feeling angry. I don't like being around other people when angry. So I'll go for a walk, a drive etc, and just clear my head."

jackfaire

It seems like "dead bed," as some folks call it, can stem from many things, from mood, attraction, hygiene, and more.

Do you have anything to add to this list? Let us know in the comments.

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