There are limits to even the most giving and kind of human emotions.
Using up sympathy takes a lot of effort. But once you've tread past the point of "no sympathy," you can never go back. People can only feel for others to a certain extent, and if that person makes no effort to help themselves or others, that feeling quickly fades.
u/moedersx asked:
For which people you have absolutely zero sympathy?
Here were some of the answers.
She's Kind Of A Fixer-Upper
Giphy
I had a friend who would complain I think just for the sake of complaining. She would complain about how bad her situation was but wouldn't do anything to try to change it. I think she complained hoping that other people would come to the rescue and fix her problems.
I guess she soon found out that the real world doesn't work that way but then she started complaining saying that no one ever helped her. It's not anyone's responsibility. Either she takes the initiative to change her situation or she's lost the right to complain about it. That's just my opinion.
Grown Into A Monster
People who fail to teach their children to consider other people in society and then wonder why their child is unpopular.
A woman I know lets her child do anything she wants...never tells her off. This child is 10 and will get out of the car by FLINGING her door into the car next to it...and then the Mother shrugs.
As she grows, other parents don't want the child to come over to play anymore...because she's hard work, selfish and sly.
She wasn't born that way.
*Stares In Bullied Kid*
The bully who realises they're getting caught and plays the victim card.
Kid tackled me onto the pavement in 4th grade because he got mad I beat him in some dumb game at recess. We both went to the principal's and I was covered in blood and had to get bandages all over my arms. He started bawling his eyes out and I ended up having to apologize. I didn't know how well the victim card worked until that day.
Basic Abuse
People who treat customer-facing staff like they're nothing more than dirt on the bottom of their shoe. I don't care how bad your day/week/year has been, the moment you think you can use another human being as an emotional punching bag, I have zero sympathy for you.
Crazy Selfish Love
Those brides who make crazy demands on their wedding guests or on the wedding party then end up with only a few people coming to the wedding, or the wedding party bailing on them. Specifying what color you need to wear as guest, or the dollar amount of the gift to be given is one way to narrow down your guest list. Then you have the brides asking the bridesmaids to cut or dye their hair, or get extensions, or induce labor 8 weeks early so they are not pregnant during the wedding.
Inertia Is A Property Of Matter
Drunk drivers.
Also add people who don't wear seat belts because they think they're too cool for them
The thing a lot of people don't realize is that wearing your seat belt helps you maintain control over your own car while breaking hard. It's much easier to steer clear of a possible accident when inertia is throwing your chest into a locked seat belt rather than the steering wheel. Seat belt laws aren't only about protecting yourself.
Plagiarismo
People who take credit for other people's work and call it their own.
I manage a small auto repair shop. I quickly learned that the best way to keep customers happy and still have the techs in my corner was to acknowledge any fault or mistake my techs made with "I" and any success with "We".
The customers appreciate the personal acknowledgement of responsibility. It also keeps them from seeking out the mechanic that often times is still working in the back shop because they may lack the confidence, ability or desire to work face to face with customers.
The mechanics appreciate not having to deal with irate customers (although it's rare) and work even harder to do the job perfectly because they know what I go through in the front office for them.
Lining Up Relationships Like Jobs
People who cheat on others.
If someone can tell me the logic of cheating on the first person without just breaking up with them, I will pay you.
They want the fun of sleeping with someone else without losing their partner.
Don't worry about paying me though.
Pups Need Discipline, Too
"Doggy parents" who have dog behavior problems on their hands because they have no authority/structure.
Been dealing with one whose dog bit someone in public. They're acting like the dog's actions weren't "normal" to them and like the dog is an independent entity they have no responsibility for.
Sorry, you deserve the lawsuit. Train your dog and stop "pampering" them with no consistency or structure. End of rant.
AKA, Our World Right Now
Giphy
Leaders of companies that actively fight against technological progress at the expense of the environment and future generations. Also, tobacco companies. Basically, all people whose greed is motivation enough for them to be jerks.
The Unforgivable Curses
Rapists.
Nearly every crime has at least one situation where it's not completely immoral.
Stealing? You could be feeding your family. Murder? That person could have been abusive and it was the only way out.
But rape? There's literally no way to defend a rapist, and I think that once you've raped someone you're shit for life. Not a super controversial opinion but it needs to be said.
No Bullies Allowed
People who hold some kind of power over someone and use that to bully them. Whether it's through physical strength or access to information that could make the victim look bad, if you choose to go after someone for no reason other than it makes you feel big, you are a jerk and deserve the slap Karma's bringing down on you.
Not My Pig Not My Farm
Giphy
The person who decides to, against all logic, argue with the cashier about a problem that is clearly not within their paygrade. I genuinely hated people who seemed to blame me when their meal came out a little overpriced. Like, lady, I'm just reading what the computer is telling me.
The Thing We Should ALL Agree Upon
Anti-Vaxxers, they're some of the most self righteous scumbags I have ever met. They're like this all because some guy made a report that was so stupid it got his medical license revoked for 36 months?!? Like are you kidding me?!?! I thought they were ignorant at most, but them killing their own children because of a bull report is just psychotic.
My Own Soap Opera
If you create drama for yourself, you know what, I'm understanding. At first. Psychology is a thing. I get that.
But if you keep that up even after you've been made aware of it, if you continue to perpetuate messing up your own life because living a good life is something that will take away your all-important sense of martyrdom, if you start drama with other people and then blame them as the bad guys for calling you out on it (that includes pleading "But you know I have issues, so you should tolerate all the stuff I throw at you!"), if you ruin your own opportunities, jobs, friendships, etc. and then act like it's everybody's fault but yours, and just keep doing it, then I'm done. I'll help you stand up if you throw your self down - I will. But not if you do it again after that.
Can You Not Just Overcome It Sweetie? Haha:)
People who belittle depression. The "just look on the bright side of life," or "all I did was smile more" types.
There's plenty of worse people out there I have no sympathy for, but holy flip if those types aren't the most blissfully unaware people out there.
When we're intoxicated, or even the slightest bit tipsy from having a little too much to drink, our immediate perspective on things is hazy.
But there's nothing like a bit of alarming news or a jarring incident to snap us out of the fog and focus on the moment.
Sometimes alcohol isn't always to blame for our impairment.
It can be a state of mind, like a perpetual numbness from being complacent in life, and all it takes is one shocking moment to rattle us back to our senses.
Curious to hear from strangers online about this type of scenario, Redditor Known_Challenge_7150 asked:
"What’s one thing that sobered you up real quick?"
These individuals were witness to shocking events that sobered them up right quick.
Bleeding Out
"Got out of a taxi and found a naked man profusely bleeding from his head crawling up the driveway in my condo. Called him an ambulance completely forgot I was absolutely wasted until 45 minutes later when I'd helped him translate and in to an amublance and stepped in my front door."
"Later a few days later learned he'd slipped in the tub and literally crawled out for help. Poor dude. He was fine but I genuinely thought he was going to die there."
– DongLaiCha
Tragic News
"At a bachelor party and we got a phone call that the groom’s father had suddenly passed."
– accountnameredacted
Bottom Of The Barrel
"I went to visit my parents back in July. I was homeless and deep into fentanyl addiction so I lost a lot of weight. My folks could see it. They knew something was up. Anyway, I spent the night and I was getting ready to leave in the morning and I looked at myself in the mirror for a good long time. I finally had enough and told them everything. They took me to detox, from there I went to rehab. Graduated in August and been living with them ever since then. I have 160 days clean and sober."
– Crotch-Monster
A reality check can be enough for some people to snap out of it.
Like Father, Like Son
"Was driving a drunk friend home, he had been on a bender again and was smart enough to call me for a lift rather than try and drive. As I helped in to his house his mother came down the stairs and said 'your as drunk as your father' and went back upstairs. I haven't seen him drunk since then, he still drinks but the thought of turning into his dad scared him out of hard drinking."
– psycospaz
Busted
"Flashing blue lights."
– FiddleOfGold
"This sobered me up just thinking about it."
– redmaple_syrup
Losing Sight
"Woke up to no sight in one eye. I had cataract surgery so just thought one of the lenses had slipped and it was an easy fix. Eye doc says nope, you had a stroke. I loved soy sauce, teriyaki sauce and salty food, which caused high blood pressure, which caused retina damage. Over six months was able to get most of my eyesight back with medication, and all back within a year. Trying to navigate life with one eye was very sobering. Started taking HBP much more seriously."
– MissHibernia
Quitting The Bottle
"Looked up someone I went to highschool with who was an awesome guy. Found out he had been dead for 3 years from alcoholism, at age 33. I made an overnight change. I hadn't started drinking that night yet, 10 months ago. Haven't touched it again since."
– omgtater
These disturbing moments were enough for Redditors to immediately come to their senses.
Unplanned House Guests
"Me and a buddy Woke up in someone’s living room, realized neither one of us knew the people, they were just nice and let 2 drunk guys sleep on their living room floor. We didn’t even say goodbye."
– Oneinsevenbillion75
Serious Health Warning
"Elevated liver enzymes."
"And the knowledge that this sh** was gonna kill me and I just couldn't orphan my family over it."
"So I opted for recovery, instead."
"Clean and sober since June 5, 2009."
– Far_Meal8674
The Joyride
"Grew up in a rural area. The little town hosted dances at the hockey arena, everyone (adults and kids) went and they overserved everyone, regardless of age. I was maybe 16 or 17 and was absolutely sh*tfaced, and jumped in the back of someone's truck with about 8 other people to go back to someone's cottage for after dance drinking. The driver (still don't know who it was) started racing one of his buddies and we whipped around small dirt roads, flying around blind corners on the wrong side of the road, going god knows how fast. It was basically a disaster waiting to happen. It was crazy scary and I was sober and thankful to be alive when we finally arrived."
– foxfood9116
The human psyche is a fascinating thing, isn't it?
How we can automatically focus on something urgent at a crucial time, even after getting buzzed from drinking too much alcohol.
But as we're in the thick of the holidays, it's a good reminder to drink responsibly and stay off the roads if you drive to your celebratory destination.
Cheers. Stay safe. And happy holidays.
We've all complained or vented about something in our lives which, in the grand scheme of things, wasn't exactly a problem, or is very easily solved.
Then there are those who complain about things that others almost hope will happen to them at some point in their lives.
These are known as "first world problems", as they are problems that pretty much only the world's one percent faces.
From having to fly business class instead of first class, or being served Roederer instead of Dom Pérignon, these complaints are often met with amusement, bewilderment, or even anger.
Redditor jennimackenzie was curious to hear the most absurd "first world problems" anyone ever complained about, leading them to ask:
"What’s the most ridiculous 'first world problem' you’ve seen people get worked up over?"
"Tale As Old As Time..."
"I once knew a mom who was legitimately devastated, to the point of tears/grief, because a doctor predicted her 8 year old daughter's final height to be around 5'2","
"Which wasn't tall enough to get cast as Belle at Disney World."
"That was the child's (and her mother's) only dream in life, apparently."
"Didn't appreciate my suggestion that she could be Minnie or Mickey."
"Lol!"
"Only a face character would do!"- TravelLovingMom
"Must Be Funny, In A Rich Man's World..."
"My boss from about a decade ago was this insanely rich dude who always went to the bank to get fresh and crisp currency."
"He'd call the bank in advance to make sure they had some on hand."
"I think he was a germaphobe."
"He had a trash can that he'd throw $1 and $5 bills in that he thought was 'dirty' and regularly just donated it vs spending it."
"I asked him why he did this and he said it was too much trouble and asked if I wanted it."
"I said f*ck yeah dumped it into my bag and when I got home it was close to $400 in singles and fives.
"Another time, he wanted to upgrade all the computers in his studio, so we went to a store and bought 10 PCs."
"They all had $150 mail in rebates and he wasn't bothered to go through the trouble of mailing them in."
"3 weeks later I received $1500 after spending a whole afternoon filling out all those goddamn forms."- azninvasion2000
Money Burn GIF by nog
Giphy
Who Wore It Better?
"When I was about 19 years old, I was at my boyfriends family BBQ."
"I was wearing this pretty floral sundress."
"His cousins girlfriend showed up in the same dress and she was SO mad that she went and changed."
"I will never understand being upset when someone is wearing the same thing as you.'
"Did you really think that your shirt you bought off the rack is going to be unique to you?"
"No."- mertsey627
Seeing Red! Or Blue In This Case...
"The blue of the balloons wasn't quite the same as the bridesmaid's sashes."
"Years ago my wife and I attended a wedding."
"It was very low key."
"The dinner was in the dining hall at the university where the couple met, cinder block walls and all."
"It was a Baptist wedding - no booze and very serious."
"The dark blue balloons attempting to liven up the hall were a slightly darker shade of blue than the sashes on the bridesmaid's dresses."
"The bride lost here sh*t and absolutely raved for nearly an hour."
"I can't remember how they finally managed to talk her down."- mechant_papa
south park wedding GIF
Giphy
See You In Court!
"Rich neighbors who end up in expensive court battles because they disagree about where a tree can be planted or whether the color of a fence fits in with the street’s 'amenity'."
'These disputes get really heated and rack up huge lawyers’ bills."
"The most pathetic part is after the judgement when they are arguing about who should pay the other party’s costs."
"Lots of affidavits filed citing the 'emotional distress' they had to endure, or painting themselves as brave warriors who were forced to take a stand to fight for 'justice'."
"Also lots of pompous litigants insisting that the judge refer to them by their 'Dr' title."
"An absolutely insane dumpster fire of entitled rich people problems."- ElectrocRaisin
It's Always People With Money Who Don't Want To Pay!
"I work in a public library."
"People will get so so mad if they have to be put on a wait list for a book."
"A popular book that just came out."
"Ok our services are not only free but so are the books."
"You’re welcome, a**holes."- Switchbladekitten
A Warm Butt Is A Happy Butt!
"My own."
"We have a bidet toilet seat (Fabulous! Everyone should have one!) and not only does it wash your bum and blow dry it, but the seat's heated!"
"It's shocking how much a heated toilet seat makes the whole process more agreeable."
"Except: We had a power outage and I went to use the toilet and the seat was cold!"
"Unacceptable!"
"This shall not stand!"
"I was really upset because it didn't feel good."
"Then I stopped and thought: This is the most first-world problem anyone's ever had."
"I was really pissed because my heiny was tepid."
"I got over it."- DeathGrover
homer simpson episode 23 GIF
Giphy
Holy Matrimony!
"Weddings are a gold mine for this question."
"People get so hyped up over their 'most important day of their life'."
"They'll destroy friendships, go into debt, and have crazy expectations."
"It's not always the couple who go crazy, either."
"Sometimes, it's the parents or another family member who feels entitled to control the wedding."
"It's just a party."
"Be considerate of guests, have plenty of food and drinks, and enjoy it."- magicrowantree
When Fast Food Isn't Fast Enough...
"Having to pull off to the side to wait for a drive-thru order to be brought out to you because your food isn't ready and there's a line building up behind you."- demanbmore
In Case You Don't Think Customer Service Employees Are Undervalued...
"I was working the return desk at a Target next to a military base so I have so many stories."
"One of my favorites was a lady who had her baby shower before revealing the gender and was livid that she had received floral newborn diapers when she’s having a boy."
"It was a huge box of super expensive, all organic diapers, that we didn’t carry and therefore could not return."
"I cannot accurately express her fury and disgust."
"How dare either suggest her boy could wear feminine diapers."
"I suggested she donate them if she didn’t want to use them and she instead threw away the entire box."
"When she left we pulled it out and threw it in our donate bin."
"There have also been multiple times where mom’s order massive toys and when we bring them out to the car they get furious that they aren’t wrapped."
"We don’t offer wrapping services."
"Here’s the thing, if you don’t want your kids to see the toys you got them for Christmas or their bit to day DON'T BRING THE CHILD WHEN YOU PICK IT UP."
'I’ve had multiple women scream and curse me out that I had ruined their kids Christmas by bringing the toys they ordered out to the car like they requested."- clever-mermaid-mae
Customer Service Waiting GIF by Juno Calypso
Giphy
Happiest Place On Earth!
"I used to work for Disney."
"That in itself should tell you everything."
"However for fun I'll give you two specific stories one form our tech department and one from my wife who worked bookings."
"I specifically worked for their call center to help with technical issues with magic band and the website."
"Suddenly got worse huh?"
"A right of passage call everyone has at least one story of is the 'Dome call'."
"Basically there is a subset of Disney Guest (TM) that believes if it rains at Walt Disney world there is someone that will push a button to encapsulate the whole of Disney property in a dome to keep out the rain."
"I'm not kidding."
"If this button is not pushed they call our tech department to angrily ask why."
"My wife worked booking."
"Pretty much everything including Bibbidi Bobbidi boutique and Pirate's league."
"These two things did roughly the same thing difference being price and theme."
"BBB was expensive did more and was focused on princesses, pirates league did a bit less and focused on mermaids and pirates."
"Lady called up my wife, and got pissed about BBB being booked up (It goes FAAAAST)."
"Karen: 'Im going to give the phone to my daughter and I want you to tell her how you are ruining her vacation by not letting her do BBB'."
"Wife proceeds to explain how pirate's league is so much cooler and how she can be a mermaid or pirate and basically gets the kid to start demanding to their parents about how they want to be a mermaid instead of a princess."- trollsong
Disney World GIF
Giphy
The horror!
Being booked into a junior suite at Disney World instead of an executive suite!
It's almost as bad as having no money for groceries, or no food to feed you children...
Said absolutely no one.