They are someone who never forget, for good or for bad or for mediocre. The person we share that special moment on life with. For some reason (hopefully a good one) we gave this person one of our most sacred moments. Sex is a huge step in the life and the person we first lay with is the blueprint for all that follow....
Redditor u/wayback82 was wondering if anyone was willing to discuss one of life's most intimate moments by asking..... What happened to that person that took your virginity? Where are they in life?
She's now my step-sister....
She's now my step-sister....
Edit: she's not a anime banjo playing teacher, wtf you all talking about?
However for some context: we were together for about 2years. First proper relationship for both of us. Broke up 6months after I went to uni. Within the year our parents were dating and are now married. Thankfully I've never had to live under the same roof as her, although our parents bought a house where we both have a bedroom so stay if we want.. I've stayed there once in about 4 years. It's all very civil as it seems a while ago now, we pretty much only see each other at Christmas dinner. ThisIsBuzzard
Oh Girl...
She married the next guy she dated. Had 2 kids and moved to Boston. He cheated on her with another dude and left her recently. Boston_balloon_boy
HATE CANCER!
Dead. HATE cancer. We did have an almost 25 year run though. EDIT: thank you for the warm wishes. I lost her 2.5 years ago (come Tuesday) and our children and I are doing much better. Interestingly I just noticed the date and realized that first time was 25 years ago last week. damageddude
I Think About Her....
We are still decent friends for the last 19 years, she recently got married to a very nice guy and they have good careers in tech. I am very happy for them. BaronSolace
It's always wholesome when you can still hold someone in a kind regard after a breakup.
My answer: not long after we started dating, she took on two jobs while also caring for her grandma. She didn't have time for me anymore so we broke up even though we didn't want to. Last I spoke to her, she rented a house to live with her grandma in and was having ovary problems so she was going to get surgery to get them removed, ruining her goal of having kids. I asked her to let me know when the surgery was so I could check up on her, but I never heard from her again. It's been a year and I still think about her every day. redgroupclan
I'm #1!!!
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He is now an OB/GYN.... sometimes it makes me laugh that he sees dozens of vaginas a day, but mine was the first. jul1992
Hey South Carolina....
We took each other's virginity about 20 years ago. She's a psychologist now, has her own practice, lives in SC. Still looks amazing, still does gymnastics. Married, Has two kids. We still talk once a year or so and are still friends after all these years. B_Addie
Settled....
He's married but he's only been faithful to her for two years of their six year marriage. So. She's only ever been with him and he resents the heck out of her for "having" to settle. lynrenle
Ever After...
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He's downstairs playing video games and watching over our newborn twins while I take a bath. Mama2Moon
Congrats on the new babies. Twins are a wild ride :). kittycoppermine
There is Hope.
I have no clue, but I hope he was able to move on as I have. We both spent years mourning the loss of the relationship. I'm good now and I hope he is too. It was a nice relationship, and it ended amicably. tanya6k
Rough Tines....
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I saw her at a parade a while back. She had a couple of kids and looked rougher than I remembered. Meth'll do that. TheDudeMaintains
Hey Counselor.....
She's an attorney. She gave me some advice when I wanted to adopt a few years ago. Sweet girl, and still gorgeous 20-something years later. dookie1481
This is unexpectedly pure I like this answer a lot. Reddit
Farewell.
He died in a car accident about 15 years ago. I found out when I was cyber stalking people from my past and found his obituary. It was quite sad finding that out. Just wasn't the expected outcome of that particular internet search. FloridaParalegal
Big Top Life...
She joined the circus.
In an administrative capacity, but it's less fun to say that way. rokr1292
Mine actually literally became a trapeze artist, so.... lolbrbnvm
Best Wishes Lover....
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Man, haven't seen her since she moved out and divorced me 5 years ago. I honestly have no idea what she's up to, but I actually hope she's found help for her mental illnesses and is generally happy.
But she can stay wherever she is, I don't need to see her again. xv9d
Ashes....
She married some military dude, and had a hard life. Last I found her on Facebook she was promoting a GoFundMe so she could get new teeth. Had recently lost everything in a house fire. Has a couple of kids.
ETA: I'm not entirely sure of her husband's military involvement, the pictures I saw could have been taken at a Halloween party for all I know. It makes sense though that a military spouse should not have to crowdfund a set of chompers.
Also, she didn't lose her teeth in a fire. I'm pretty sure the tooth loss was a much more gradual process. sardineclub
Unfriended....
I ran into her on the street not too long ago. She's engaged and seems to be doing well otherwise too. Still drop dead gorgeous as well.
Edit: I just looked her up on Facebook because of this thread. It seems she's unfriended me. Now I'm kinda sad.
Edit 2: For people trying to console me, we broke up like 14 years ago. This isn't a recent breakup and she's not still in love with me or anything. But I know we were friends until pretty recently, because sometimes I saw her posts. Pandaburn
Manga...
Sitting next to me eating spaghetti O's out of a pyrex bowl. Not because of a lack of better food or bowls, but because he likes it and the pyrex is the biggest glass bowl. joyously-lost
I can respect that. xomacattack
Cursed?
She became an herbalist out West and died a few years ago. My third GF died also and my first wife. I have a kind-of large pile of corpses of people I've loved for somebody who's 63 years old and doesn't murder people.
(figuratively, I don't actually have a pile of corpses). Oknight
Unfair Life.
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He passed away at 19 after suffering a seizure in his sleep. We'd broken up about 6 months before.
Its been 10 years, but every once in a while I still wonder who he'd be today. k_isom
I'm so sorry. My partner's death was determined to be SUDEP as well. Hate seizures.
Edit: because I understand how upsetting this can be for folks with epilepsy, most people who have seizures don't have what B had. B had IIH which just presented as seizures. Reddit
Wanna jump off the bandwagon? Then keep reading!
U/lit3rallyuseless asked: What doesn't deserve the hate it gets?
Film and media are probably the biggest contender for being hated on randomly. It may seem harmless, but not always deserved.
Actors are people too!
Actors who played characters that people didn't like.
Really if you hated the character then the actor did a good job (assuming that was the role).
The best cartoons.
nice day summer GIF by PBS KIDSGiphyChild cartoons. Some are actually really good, even as an adult.
I feel like watching cartoons aimed at generally a younger audience allows for you to be reminded of some life lessons, I know I forget some things, or didn't realise others, or it at least partially renews my awareness of something I should still like or appreciate
This doesn't deserve awards, it's just my opinion that is apparently shared by many.
This man did nothing wrong.
Guy Fieri, he literally is the nicest person in the world but since he looks like he was electrocuted by mountain dew people want to saw his head off.
Even before that, I was witness to his other charitable work. A few years back, Santa Rosa was hit by some terrible fires and he showed up at a few shelters and personally cooked up and served some killer buffet food. No cameras, no massive team of PR, just a dude with an assistant to keep him on schedule to hit up other shelters in the area. Guy Fieri legit earned a lot of respect in my book for that.
You know who DEFINITELY doesn’t deserve hate? Animals. They’re just living their best lives, and need to be left alone.
The best cats.
Black cats.
We got a black cat for the first time last year. I've since formulated the theory that black cats might get some of their reputation from the fact that people can't see them well in the dark and so they seemingly appear out of nowhere and they might be instinctually cautious because they know people have a tendency to kick them while walking in the dark. Our black cat is the sweetest cat I've ever known.
They get a bad rep.
Discovery Sharks GIF by Shark WeekGiphySharks. They are beautiful, complex creatures, deserving of respect and, like any wild animal should be left alone in their natural habitat, but they get this reputation as vicious bloodthirsty monsters. This is only because every shark attack is news, and only then because they are so rare. More people are killed EVERY DAY by mosquitoes than sharks kill in a year.
Any apex predator that has remained evolutionarily unchanged for hundreds of millions of years, whose existance predates TREES, is deserving or our respect and admiration. Shine on, you crazy cartlaginous fish, shine on.
So cute too!
Opossums. They're neat little critters. They eat tons of ticks that carry Lyme disease, (mostly) don't carry rabies because their body temp is too low, and they're the only marsupial native to North America! They get a bad rap because their first defense is to hiss and bare teeth, but failing that, they just play dead.
If you don't have the predisposition to hate them, you'll find they're pretty cute too.
E: this is about /opossums/, the north American species.
Kiwis, I feel for you, but this comment isn't about your possums.
Hating on other people for just living their lives also seems to be a big contender for things that don’t deserve to be hated on.
This is so true.
Unemployed people. A lot of people genuinely are looking for work and did not want to lose their last job/it was beyond their control (like a layoff) but they get so much hate and called lazy by most people. I know too many unemployed people that are actually really trying hard. They definitely aren't lazy. (Not saying lazy unemployed people don't exist, but to be fair, so do lazy employed people too lol)
Leave the weather man alone!
Fox Raining GIF by Family GuyGiphyMeteorologists. They try their best to predict the weather based on patterns, models, and data. They're not perfect because predicting the weather is insanely difficult. When they get it wrong, I think we should go easy on them. It was probably an outlier result almost no one could have foreseen.
I've seen people get angry over the meteorologists for getting it right. Like they control the weather - it is their fault we are having rain, that kind of BS. Never made sense to me, but hey, I have plenty of relatives I clashed with growing up.
Please stop being d*cks to these people.
Customer service associates.
I hate when customers think that I, the minimum wage person forced to sit there and listen to them yell, am personally responsible for every policy they disagree with. Like, ma'am, if I had that much power and influence, I wouldn't be sitting here on a Saturday evening serving you.
Wholesome and necessary.
People don't deserve hate they give themselves when they are not doing too good at the moment.
I'm in a weird place and I didn't know I needed to read this. Thanks buddy.
If you haven't heard it from anyone else today, I'm proud of you.
It seems like people hate on things simply because they think they're meant to hate them. But you can always be the change and make an effort to stop being an a**hole about certain things.
No matter what though, sometimes haters gonna hate