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People Divulge The Last Straw That Broke Apart A Friendship

People Divulge The Last Straw That Broke Apart A Friendship
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It can be hard to let a friendship go.


You might be thinking in your mind perhaps a broken bond can be salvaged, saved from the ruination of forgotten meet-ups and borrowed money that's yet to be returned. However, the best thing for both you and the other person can be a swift exit. Give yourself a good enough reason to never speak to the person again and stick to it.

No one needs that kind of toxicity in their lives.

Reddit user, u/HungryForSh-t, wanted to know when you had it for good when they asked:

What was the last straw before ending your best friendship?

Perhaps the former friend makes bad choices in regards to how they see you. This can fall into a few categories, but seemingly all of them lead to you finally having enough of their nonsense.

If I Recruit Ten People, And YOU Recruit Ten More People...

"He joined a pyramid scheme and would try to get me and others to join non stop. Eventually he moved to a different city to "further his career" ditching family and friends."

Beer_Doctor

Underappreciating Your Kind Gestures

"My best friend of 2 1/2 years was going out of state for a 4 day weekend trip so I house/ babysat for her kids, There were 2 others in charge staying too, I was 2nd in command. I cooked, cleaned, took the kids out and bathed and exercised her 2 dogs, I wasn't expected to do all that but I did to keep busy and make it easier for Everybody."

"I had to leave before she came home as I had to return to work on Monday, on Tuesday afternoon she called me and wanted to discuss the weekend, surely she appreciated all I did over the weekend right? WRONG, she got mad and accused me of talking crap about her behind her back and complained I used cooking equipment without permission. When she only said we couldn't touch her washer and dryer and that's it, she never said thank you for all I did. At that point I just yelled ENOUGH and hung up the phone, that was the last time I spoke to her and that was almost 3 years ago."

"I put up with a lot of her crap but that was the straw that broke the camel's back. Good riddance"

Maddogthecna

Taking The Bully's Side

"My middle school "best friend" knew that I was being bullied by another girl and had been bullied by this same girl, but because the bully was popular, she wanted to be this girl's friend. She managed to become this bully's groupie, not really her friend, by stroking her ego all the time and taking the bully's side even when she picked on me. The last straw was when I told my "friend" about my, at the time, most recent incident with the bully where I'd politely asked the bully to please move out of the way, as I was trying to go to the bathroom and she was standing in the middle of the entrance talking to one of her friends."

"She responded with some completely irrelevant mean comment about my appearance. My friend responded "well, she has good comebacks, you gotta give her that..." I probably should have cut her off sooner, but that was the pin that finally broke the camel's back and I never spoke to her again."

TheNewGirl76

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Abusing The "Borrowing" Policy

"Best friend of 5 years. Ended up owing me £300 ish and a PS4 which was only loaned to him for a few months which turned into 2.5 years. He also told me that if I got into a relationship with my now girlfriend at the start he wouldn't talk to me going forward."

"This was simply because half a year before I started seeing her, he tried to and she ended up turning him down. He was pretty much the ladies man out of the two of us, so I have the feeling that because I ended up with the girl, he couldn't stand it and just decided not having me in his life was easier."

"The last straw for me though was the fact for 3 months I had been chasing him asking for my money and PS4 back, all of which he would ignore or leave on Read. Then after 3 months I see he posts on Facebook about buying a car for himself. Removed from him all social media's after that and just haven't bothered since."

Gazza120

Not Taking Your Job Seriously

"She wouldn't take the pandemic seriously. I work in a hospital and she was going out with friends like nothing was wrong, and she lied to me about it. It's been a year now since we last spoke. Hopefully she never caught covid, but I'll never know."

ZoeySpark

Turns out, there's an awful lot of cheaters out there. Cheating, perhaps the worst thing you can do in a committed relationship, definitely seems like a decent reason to put the friendship on hold.

A Big, Ol' Cheating Circle

"She started cheating on her husband. Her husband had cheated on her and it turned into this ugly revenge thing. She wanted me to help cover for her, keep it secret from my husband, and start cheating on my husband too. She wouldn't drop it after I said no."

Honest-Frosting-3854

"wait she wanted you to cheat on your husband as a revenge bc her husband cheated on her?"

buttlessbutter

"Yeah she would say it like we would have fun together. I figured it was to make me share the same secret and more likely to keep hers."

Honest-Frosting-3854

Like Winning The Lottery?

"She slept with my husband.

They are now married with 2 kids.

I pick the best of them."

itsfroggyout

Cheating Under Cover Of Travel

"My former best friend came to visit me (we lived in different countries) and used said visit as cover to cheat on her husband - literally disappearing on me overnight to go and sex some loser she'd been talking to online, leaving me to field an awkward call from her husband who wanted to know why his wife wasn't answering her phone."

mrwednesday33

Then there's these friends who, let's be honest, probably shouldn't have been friends to begin with.

Emotionally Manipulating Your Significant Others

"A person that was supposed to be my friend "best friend" would hit on my girlfriends, did it all the time. Wasn't a big deal because i wasn't too serious about them. It was the last straw when he aggressively pursued the woman I told him I thought was "the one". He even went so far as to tell her I sent him to "test" her while I was at work..."

"If she wasn't the loyal, wonderful and intelligent person I knew her to be, my so-called "friend" would have destroyed the relationship... That was the last straw! I told him to disappear from my life and that if I see him again, he would never enjoy solid food again..."

DabblingFool

When The Whole Friend Group Comes For You

"He became manipulative, passive aggressive and just someone we didn't want to be friends with anymore."

"We told him how he was acting, hoping we could fix things but instead of taking responsibility and apologising, he blamed us for not talking to him sooner. He explained how 'hurt' he was that we felt that way. He expected us to excuse everything because of his mental health. I understand that it may have been the cause, but he still hurt many of us. He still treated us like verbal punching bags and that wasn't okay. I could have forgiven all of it if he had just said he was sorry, but we never received an apology, and we were all fed up by the end. That was two years ago."

"I had tried messaging him a couple of times this year, but he told me he wasn't interested in fixing things, which I suppose is his loss. It was a shame because he was my best friend and had been since school, but things change and people change, and sometimes not for the better."

Alienesque_

Wait For The Twist Ending...

"I met one of my best friends while studying in uni. Both engineers. He is one of the smartest people I know and we could talk for hours about science, anime, movies, books, etc. He then got involved with a woman after I started working. He then contacted me, a few years later to ask for my assistance in finding a job. I knew he would slay at my current job so I made sure his CV was on top of every selection process knowing that if they called him and interviewed him, he was a shoe in. We worked together for a bit and then he got promoted twice. I was happy for him but talked to him less as I began to see some odd patterns in his conversation topics. Lots of conspiranoia: 9/11 truther, fringe science, Big Academia restricting science and the list went on."

"Years passed and I was eventually laid off from my job. I took the chance to finish my degree and found a different job. Not a call, nor a chat...not even on Facebook. Two years into a new job, he then contacted me again with some superficial pleasantries...and then came the ask. He wanted to borrow my family's beach house...to film a gonzo porn movie. I then understood that our friendship wasn't what I wanted or needed so I requested him to never call me again. This bothers me to this day. He keeps telling mutual friends that I'm a whiny baby. F-ck him and his narcissism."

[usernameredacted]

Inexplicable Hatred

"Best mate invited me to his place for drinks and a bbq. We had a pretty good time but the other people there wanted to hit the town. I didn't have enough money to go out that night."

"Everyone was getting ready to go out and I was going to walk home when the taxi arrived to pick them up. I had no problem with any of this, I'd had a few drinks, ate some good food and was just chilling like I said, till the taxi arrived."

"I guess he thought I left earlier once they decided to go out because he realized I was still there, looked me dead in the eyes and said "Why are you still here?" It broke my heart, my best friend, we've literally known each other our entire lives, seemed angry I was still there."

"We haven't spoken since. That was 3 years ago."

AmLikelyDrunk

Finding someone to consider a "friend" can feel daunting, especially later on in life when opportunities to meet new people start to dwindle. This can make you feel like you need to hang on to your friends that you have, even if the friendships isn't a positive influence on your life. Don't be afraid to cut the cord if it means a happier existence for the both of you.

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People Reveal The Weirdest Thing About Themselves

Reddit user Isitjustmedownhere asked: 'Give an example; how weird are you really?'

Let's get one thing straight: no one is normal. We're all weird in our own ways, and that is actually normal.

Of course, that doesn't mean we don't all have that one strange trait or quirk that outweighs all the other weirdness we possess.

For me, it's the fact that I'm almost 30 years old, and I still have an imaginary friend. Her name is Sarah, she has red hair and green eyes, and I strongly believe that, since I lived in India when I created her and there were no actual people with red hair around, she was based on Daphne Blake from Scooby-Doo.

I also didn't know the name Sarah when I created her, so that came later. I know she's not really there, hence the term 'imaginary friend,' but she's kind of always been around. We all have conversations in our heads; mine are with Sarah. She keeps me on task and efficient.

My mom thinks I'm crazy that I still have an imaginary friend, and writing about her like this makes me think I may actually be crazy, but I don't mind. As I said, we're all weird, and we all have that one trait that outweighs all the other weirdness.

Redditors know this all too well and are eager to share their weird traits.

It all started when Redditor Isitjustmedownhere asked:

"Give an example; how weird are you really?"

Monsters Under My Bed

"My bed doesn't touch any wall."

"Edit: I guess i should clarify im not rich."

– Practical_Eye_3600

"Gosh the monsters can get you from any angle then."

– bikergirlr7

"At first I thought this was a flex on how big your bedroom is, but then I realized you're just a psycho 😁"

– zenOFiniquity8

Can You See Why?

"I bought one of those super-powerful fans to dry a basement carpet. Afterwards, I realized that it can point straight up and that it would be amazing to use on myself post-shower. Now I squeegee my body with my hands, step out of the shower and get blasted by a wide jet of room-temp air. I barely use my towel at all. Wife thinks I'm weird."

– KingBooRadley

Remember

"In 1990 when I was 8 years old and bored on a field trip, I saw a black Oldsmobile Cutlass driving down the street on a hot day to where you could see that mirage like distortion from the heat on the road. I took a “snapshot” by blinking my eyes and told myself “I wonder how long I can remember this image” ….well."

– AquamarineCheetah

"Even before smartphones, I always take "snapshots" by blinking my eyes hoping I'll remember every detail so I can draw it when I get home. Unfortunately, I may have taken so much snapshots that I can no longer remember every detail I want to draw."

"Makes me think my "memory is full.""

– Reasonable-Pirate902

Same, Same

"I have eaten the same lunch every day for the past 4 years and I'm not bored yet."

– OhhGoood

"How f**king big was this lunch when you started?"

– notmyrealnam3

Not Sure Who Was Weirder

"Had a line cook that worked for us for 6 months never said much. My sous chef once told him with no context, "Baw wit da baw daw bang daw bang diggy diggy." The guy smiled, left, and never came back."

– Frostygrunt

Imagination

"I pace around my house for hours listening to music imagining that I have done all the things I simply lack the brain capacity to do, or in some really bizarre scenarios, I can really get immersed in these imaginations sometimes I don't know if this is some form of schizophrenia or what."

– RandomSharinganUser

"I do the same exact thing, sometimes for hours. When I was young it would be a ridiculous amount of time and many years later it’s sort of trickled off into almost nothing (almost). It’s weird but I just thought it’s how my brain processes sh*t."

– Kolkeia

If Only

"Even as an adult I still think that if you are in a car that goes over a cliff; and right as you are about to hit the ground if you jump up you can avoid the damage and will land safely. I know I'm wrong. You shut up. I'm not crying."

– ShotCompetition2593

Pet Food

"As a kid I would snack on my dog's Milkbones."

– drummerskillit

"Haha, I have a clear memory of myself doing this as well. I was around 3 y/o. Needless to say no one was supervising me."

– Isitjustmedownhere

"When I was younger, one of my responsibilities was to feed the pet fish every day. Instead, I would hide under the futon in the spare bedroom and eat the fish food."

– -GateKeep-

My Favorite Subject

"I'm autistic and have always had a thing for insects. My neurotypical best friend and I used to hang out at this local bar to talk to girls, back in the late 90s. One time he claimed that my tendency to circle conversations back to insects was hurting my game. The next time we went to that bar (with a few other friends), he turned and said sternly "No talking about bugs. Or space, or statistics or other bullsh*t but mainly no bugs." I felt like he was losing his mind over nothing."

"It was summer, the bar had its windows open. Our group hit it off with a group of young ladies, We were all chatting and having a good time. I was talking to one of these girls, my buddy was behind her facing away from me talking to a few other people."

"A cloudless sulphur flies in and lands on little thing that holds coasters."

"Cue Jordan Peele sweating gif."

"The girl notices my tension, and asks if I am looking at the leaf. "Actually, that's a lepidoptera called..." I looked at the back of my friend's head, he wasn't looking, "I mean a butterfly..." I poked it and it spread its wings the girl says "oh that's a BUG?!" and I still remember my friend turning around slowly to look at me with chastisement. The ONE thing he told me not to do."

"I was 21, and was completely not aware that I already had a rep for being an oddball. It got worse from there."

– Phormicidae

*Teeth Chatter*

"I bite ice cream sometimes."

RedditbOiiiiiiiiii

"That's how I am with popsicles. My wife shudders every single time."

monobarreller

Never Speak Of This

"I put ice in my milk."

– GTFOakaFOD

"You should keep that kind of thing to yourself. Even when asked."

– We-R-Doomed

"There's some disturbing sh*t in this thread, but this one takes the cake."

– RatonaMuffin

More Than Super Hearing

"I can hear the television while it's on mute."

– Tira13e

"What does it say to you, child?"

– Mama_Skip

Yikes!

"I put mustard on my omelettes."

– Deleted User

"Oh."

– NotCrustOr-filling

Evened Up

"Whenever I say a word and feel like I used a half of my mouth more than the other half, I have to even it out by saying the word again using the other half of my mouth more. If I don't do it correctly, that can go on forever until I feel it's ok."

"I do it silently so I don't creep people out."

– LesPaltaX

"That sounds like a symptom of OCD (I have it myself). Some people with OCD feel like certain actions have to be balanced (like counting or making sure physical movements are even). You should find a therapist who specializes in OCD, because they can help you."

– MoonlightKayla

I totally have the same need for things to be balanced! Guess I'm weird and a little OCD!

Close up face of a woman in bed, staring into the camera
Photo by Jen Theodore

Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.

Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?

But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.

It would be so great to be sure there is something else.

But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.

Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:

"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"

Sensations

Happy Good Vibes GIF by Major League SoccerGiphy

"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."

PeachesnPain

Recovery

"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."

"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."

"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."

good_golly99

Take Me Back

"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."

"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."

rayrayrayray

Free

The Light Minnie GIF by (G)I-DLEGiphy

"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."

TooReDTooHigh

This is why I hate surgery.

You just never know.

Shocked

Giphy

"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."

Admirable_Buyer6528

The SOB

"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."

"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”

1-cupcake-at-a-time

Colors

"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"

Hannah_LL7

"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"

huntokarrr

The Fog

"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."

"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."

Fluffy-Hotel-5184

Through the Walls

"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."

"She's quite alive and well today."

Hot-Refrigerator6583

Well let's all be happy to be alive.

It seems to be all we have.

Man's waist line
Santhosh Vaithiyanathan/Unsplash

Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.

The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.

Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.

Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:

"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"

Redditors didn't see these coming.

Shiver Me Timbers

"I’m always cold now!"

– Telrom_1

"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."

– r7ndom

"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."

– mr_remy

Drawing Concern

"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."

– dee-fondy

"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"

"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."

– LizardofDeath

Unleashing Insults

"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”

"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."

– alanamablamaspama

Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight

"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."

– KeltarCentauri

"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."

– KatMagic1977

"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."

– Jaew96

These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.

Shopping

"I can buy clothes in any store I want."

– WaySavvyD

"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."

– ganache98012

No More Symptoms

"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."

– colleennicole93

Expanding Capabilities

"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."

– Ramblonius

People Change Their Tune

"How much nicer people are to you."

"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"

– LiZZygsu

"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"

"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"

– awholedamngarden

It's gonna take some getting used to.

Bones Everywhere

"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."

– Princess-Pancake-97

"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."

– bekastrange

Knee Pillow

"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."

– snic2030

"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."

– Strongbad23

More Mobility

"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."

"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."

– dma1965

People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.

But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.

That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.