You see 16 Candles and think "that can't really happen!"
Except...it totally can. And worse. If people don't show up to your birthday, that's one thing, but if you receive terrible or devastating news, or worse, something happens to you personally.....you'd be wishing for a birthday like the one in 16 Candles.
Here were some of those answers.
Not sure if it's my worst but it's definitely top 3. I was turning 9. I had saved my dollars up, wanting to buy myself a nice birthday present. Birthday was on a Saturday, my mother told me to give her my money so she could keep it safe. She went and gambled it on the ponies on Friday, whilst I was at school. So I wake up on Saturday to no birthday presents and my money was gone too.
The Pandemic Takes You Down
My most recent one.
I'm at college and because of Covid I couldn't drive down to my family. Also because of Covid most of my friends in town went home (I have a full time job so I couldn't).
My mom, as a birthday present, said she'd take me shopping when I got home, as I needed some new clothes for when I graduate. She died before I was able to get home.
Listen To Your Kids
We were playing laser tag. One cousin pushed me into a corner and blasted me for an entire round and the next round my other cousin bashed my face with a laser gun. They played the remaining rounds without me since I was preoccupied to having my bleeding face tended to. I told my parents beforehand I didn't want to invite them since they were jerks but they insisted I was overreacting and didn't want to insult the parents by not inviting them.
I have a cousin who was born the day after me. Last year my aunt wanted to host the party for his 21st the day before his actual birthday. So I was forced to spend my 21st birthday celebrating a cousin I've never said anything more than "hello" to. And none of my other relatives who were there acknowledged that that day was my actual birthday.
Happy cake day!
Very Bad Planning
Me and my ex husband had the same birthday. One year I had asked him repeatedly to take the day off so we could go on vacation. He waited til the day of and sent out a email to his boss saying he was sick. I didnt know any of this. I thought he took the day off. We drove about 8 hours to get to a beach resort and when we checked in to the hotel they asked him for a doctors note. He finally told me but to not worry, he would just go to a CVS and see a doctor.. i told him they would still know he lied bc the doctors note will still have an address of a beach resort town on it. So we spent the rest of our birthday driving back home.
Dad Made This Difficult
My dad told me he couldn't be there for my 16th birthday as his 'friend' (mistress) had booked a holiday for them. He told me this in front of my mother who was still in denial about the fact he was having an affair. When I got upset he would miss my birthday, they both told me I was a 'selfish little b*tch' and the world didn't revolve around me. On my birthday my dad didn't even call.
Trying Not To Ruin The Trip For My Child
When I was 11 my family had planned a camping trip which would take place during my 12th birthday, so we had the birthday party the week before.
On the day of my actual birthday, while I was away on the trip, my house was broken into and my new PlayStation was stolen, along with all my games.
My father found out the day of but didn't want to spoil the rest of the trip, so he waited until we got home to tell me about it- which means he spent half the week hearing me talk about how juiced I was to break in the new games with him knowing they had been stolen and I was probably gonna be crestfallen over it.
Tough day for me, but I can only imagine how upsetting that experience must have been for my father lmao
And 15 Is Already Tough
My 15th. I just wanted to talk to my bestie, but she was too busy. My mom had just gotten out of the hospital after back surgery and none of my loved ones remembered. I spent the day texting a guy I knew instead. LT, thanks. It was a really bad day and you made it brighter.
Living Our Dreams (Not Yours)
My 18th. My parents took me to a Penn State Football game (even though they know very well I don't like Penn State or football). So we sat in the freezing rain for hours watching a game I didn't care about. I actually tried to see if I could get my hand so cold that Id lose all feeling because that was more entertaining.
What A Blindside
My 18th. I was at college and my family came out to visit me for the weekend. My actual birthday was Sunday, the day they had to leave, but we did some fun stuff the Friday and Saturday.
On Sunday morning, my parents sat me down and told me my dog had died 4 days earlier, and they didn't tell me because they didn't want to ruin the weekend.
Then they left.
So I spent my actual birthday crying by myself in my room.
Kidnappers, neighborhood murders, robbers in the dark...
Yes, growing up in NYC was a load of fun.
But I'm not an anomaly.
All of these things are happening around us at any given moment.
It's why we turn back quickly when the wind picks up the leaves.
Is there something in the shadows?
Things are going to spook us and make a dark impact on our lives.
It's just a fact.
Redditor LBE wanted to hear about the times in life we've all been left with unease and shivers down the spine.
"What is the Creepiest or most Unexplained thing that’s happened to you that you still think about to this day?"
Noises. My creepiest enemy is simple noises. I've wasted hours hunting small noises that could be someone hiding. I'm always on guard.
"To this day, there was a kid in my class that no one else remembers. I distinctly remember playing with this kid in kindergarten, and we were pretty much inseparable. About a month past Christmas break he disappeared. No one remembered him."
"Not the teachers, or the others in my class. No one. I even asked the school counselor if he was okay, and she humored me by going through records to see if he’d transferred. She couldn’t find a thing. I think about it at least once a month."
"Was delivering newspapers on my paper route when a longtime customer pulled his car next to me and asked me to just give him his daily newspaper now because he was going on a long trip. I handed him his newspaper then skipped his house as I continued my route."
"The next day I was collecting the weekly fees (you used to have to go collect the money back then, no internet payment yet) and I went to his house to collect my fee. His wife answers and promptly complains that I missed her house on my deliveries the day before."
"I explained to her that her husband pulled up next to me, I told her what he said and that I gave him the paper. She started crying, told me that he had died a couple weeks ago and it was obviously not possible that I spoke with her husband the day before."
"I know what I saw and nearly 30 years later I still think about that situation. I have no way to logically explain what happened and it still give me the creeps."
"I have a weird memory that's not mine; I'm a small boy with a suit and tie, I'm at a party in a huge ceremonial church or something and there's lots of men and women wearing fancy black clothes, they all get in a circle its the middle of the day light was brightly coming in through the windows and there are old-ish couple dancing in the middle of the circle with some very classy/fancy music."
"And I was trying to look at them through people's legs, suddenly the man falls, no gunshots no one did anything to him and then the second he falls everyone starts screaming, people were running away but the men were running towards him, I think I was trampled because I was lying on the floor and then everything goes black."
"That's all I can remember. This is a clear memory that has stuck with me since I can remember, I'm really creeped out because I know that memory isn't mine, I've never gone to a fancy party in a church when I was little and I don't know what happened to that man because I fell over."
"Driving home from work late one night I was followed and it was weird. I left the hospital and turned off the main road to a bunch of side streets I would take. At one point I noticed a car behind me that made the same left turn as me. They sped up to get behind me. I thought nothing of it. Then I briefly thought about running to 7-11 to grab some food and turned on my right signal."
"But I realized I had food at home, so I turned my signal off. The car behind me turned on their right signal and turned it off as well exactly as I had. At that point I got a bit spooked. So I turned my right signal on and they did as well. Instead at the next intersection I turned left even though my right signal was on. They did as well. They proceeded to follow me through a series of odd turns."
"Eventually I turned onto a cul-de-sac I knew about and figured I could turn around there and look at the driver to see who was following me. As I approached the end of the road they figured out what I was doing. They stopped and did a fast k-turn and sped off. It was weird. Still don’t know who it was."
"This didn't exactly happen to me, but I got some backlash and bad vibes from it. My best friend and his mom were moving out of their house (they were the only ones living in the house) and he went to take one last selfie in his room. When he showed the picture to his mom, she goes 'Who is that?"
"Upon further inspection he notices there was a straight up white face almost like a mask looking over his shoulder from the attic hatch above his room. He always heard things from the attic but never saw anything. A few weeks later we went on a wrestling trip and stayed in a hotel. He showed the pic around to everyone in our room, and then some spooky things started happening."
"In our room we began hearing knocks on our door when nobody was there. We also saw flashes or glimpses of a figure in the mirror in our room. Everyone was a little freaked out about it and thought it could be the demon from the picture, and my friend who took it became so paranoid he played bible verses to ward any demons off all night. He said ever since he took that picture he has had weird things happen to him."
Always listen to your bad vibes. They know all...
"I would cut weight/train for wrestling in high school, which meant a lot of dark-night runs at the middle school track. It was an old gravel one close to the woods with no lights. I didn't like running at the high school track for some reason so I'd just go there. I'd hold my phone to time my laps and one night while I was looking down at it, someone tackled me out of nowhere."
"We rolled around on the ground and he never said a word. Just grunted. Luckily, I got up and ran towards the middle school. I ran into some people and they called the cops. I left all of my stuff behind and he didn't take any of it. It was pretty strange."
"Driving from Northern California to Southern California through the middle of the night about a decade ago. I was tired, and the scenery along the freeway through the central valley isn't very interesting. I remember passing an old silo, looking at my car clock and it was 3:17 in the morning."
"Drove some more, passed a powerline, and it was 3:21."
"I blinked, shuffled in my seat, and passed that same old silo, and it was back to 3:17. I was in disbelief. I just stared at my clock for a few moments."
"Drove a little bit more, passed the same powerline, 3:21. Don't know why or how, but I went backwards about 4 minutes. Never experienced anything similar or since."
"A random cat on the street once protected me from a man who I didn't realize was following me."
"I was (stupidly) talking on my phone while walking home at night. I saw a man who was talking to himself near a park and I deliberately chose to walk down another street to avoid him. In the middle of my phone conversation, this orange cat comes up beside me and starts walking next to me."
"We walk in tandem for about three blocks, me telling the person I was talking to how funny this was."
"Suddenly, the cat starts to turn around and head back the other way. I look and see that same man I'd seen earlier, who had changed his original direction and had been following me for a few blocks. The cat got in between us and howled at him until he turned around and went the other way."
"Then the cat and I walked another block together, at which point he peeled off into a yard. I double-checked and the man was had disappeared. I can't be sure that the man wished me harm, but I know I wouldn't have noticed him if it weren't for that cat. I never believed in guardian angels or anything of that sort until I had that experience."
"You know on cold days inside your car you can breath on the window and draw on the glass? I got in my car, and as I look at the windshield I see a few small baby hands. I thought it was strange someone would let a baby play on my cars windshield. I had an urge to touch the baby prints and as I touched it, I wiped away the hand prints. The hand prints were made from inside of my locked car. This is probably the strangest creepiest unexplained phenomena that’s ever happened to me."
"I had a recurring nightmare of a pitch black parasite sucking the life it of me. Sometimes it waited for me in dark corners to go to bed. My cats always slept on my bed during that time. For me it was a very stressful time, a got an itch at the place of my chest where I dreamed the parasite was sucking my life out of me."
"I got sick and felt a pea sized lump. I went to my doc and they ordered a biopsy of that lump. As it turned out I had male breast cancer at the age of 28. After I got well again the dream never came back and my cats slept in their places again and not on my bed."
"The dream was creepy enough what it made for me were my cats protecting me."
How do any of us sleep at might?
Do you have similar experiences to share? Let us know in the comments below.
Weddings are all about the bride and groom; as they should be.
And that can lead to some messes.
Disaster weddings really should be a reality show.
I've heard stories about some weddings you'd never believe weren't fiction.
Newlyweds! Please test out your ideas on some people first.
Think it through.
Get a wedding planner who is also a therapist.
Redditor ajlposh wanted to hear about all the things we've seen newlyweds have done that maybe made things awkward...
"What’s the cringiest thing you’ve seen a bride and groom do for their wedding?"
I once saw a bride and groom preform a striptease. Like guys... save it for the honeymoon.
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"In-laws wedding and groom and all groomsmen were wearing a tux and a ball cap. The groom had a dip of tobacco in during the wedding and I sh*t you not. His grooms cake was designed like a Copenhagen can."
"Long ago I worked at a banquet hall and witnessed a fully NASCAR themed wedding. During the reception they played the audio of the proposal going out over the PA at the track. It was fully unintelligible. BZZT GABBAGBGA MRRRY MEZZZZZ RROOOOOWWWVROOOM."
"Other highlights were the owner locking himself in his office to avoid the bride’s father because he was threatening him to haggle on the costs. In the end we had to call the police because the bride in gown climbed over the bar to steal more sweet sweet MGD after we had closed the taps and the event was over."
Pick it Up
"At my cousin's wedding, they did the thing where the groom removes the bride's garter and tosses it to all the single guys. I guess none of the guys wanted to be next to be married, because once the groom tossed the garter, no one grabbed it. It just landed on the ground a few feet in front of a crowd of motionless guys. The groom tossed the garter 3 times before one guy halfheartedly picked it off the ground. The bride wouldn't look at any of those guys for the rest of the night."
Where to Begin?
"Oh let's see. Groom changed who his 'Best Man' was and didn't tell the original BM until the start of the ceremony. Bride & Groom asked a guest to bartend the reception AT the reception Groom 'dirty danced' with his step-mom (full hands on a**). Bride & Groom hauled their wedding party up to do a choreographed dance to Meatloaf's 'Paradise by the Dashboard Lights' but didn't give them any pre-warning or teach them the dance. That song is 8.5 minutes long."
"Wedding was at a scenic boarding school campus during the summer. Guests were told dormitories were complimentary to stay in. Guests were not told there would be no bedding provided or A/C in the building. Groom later emailed everyone who stayed in a dorm asking for money."
"Same Bride & Groom chose another friend's wedding reception as the right setting to yell at a 3rd pair of mutual friends for not including them in their wedding party."
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"My uncle not only brought up his daughters ex boyfriend in his speech but talked about their toxic relationship for a solid 5 minutes. I highly recommend preparing a speech before talking in front of a room full of people."
It's like people have never been out in public before.
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"Requiring every attendee to bring a date because she didn't want 'sad, lonely people on her day.'"
"Not my friends luckily, but pretended to be a friend's date because she really wanted to see her cousin get married."
"At the reception, the groom and his groomsmen sung a God-awful acapella version of 'Stand By Me.'"
"The worst part was he wasn't even singing it to his wife. He was singing it to his mum."
"'Oh darling, darling, stand... by... me...'"
"Chinese weddings, man..."
"I don't know, but one of my favorite memories from years of cater waitering was this long Indian wedding where they had a LOT of random relatives get up to give a toast, everyone's giving these long speeches and then one uncle gets up, goes 'I made him waffles once' and sits back down. I swear to god. bless that man, wherever he is."
"Toasts in general are usually terrible and full of cringe. Just keep it short, sweet, and genuine. No one wants 15 minutes of inside jokes that are embarrassing and don't make sense."
"Dated a girl in my 20s and went to her friend’s wedding in upstate New York. In the middle of the service the minister’s cell phone rang, he answered, it was God, God wanted to talk to the groom, conversation lasted a couple minutes, then the ceremony continued."
"I think they should have given the congregants a turn on the phone too. I mean, this isn’t an opportunity that comes along every day."
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"Potluck wedding with no alcohol or music. Groom kept showing people his flask and bragging about it. Macaroni was only redeemable thing, when i went to scoop there was hair in it. Very sad."
This is why you elope.
Do you have similar experiences to add? Let us know in the comments below.
Everyone obsessed with true crime doesn't really grasp the idea of... True Crime.
It's not a movie.
This could be us.
Horror is happening all around us.
Maybe that's why slasher movies do so well.
Redditor Noahs_25 wanted to hear about some non-fictional tales of horror.
"What is the scariest story you know that is 100% true?"
I haven't seen much except your occasional brawl. So tell me more...
"The 1904 Cincinnati Privy Disaster. In 1904, nine schoolgirls drowned in an outhouse after the floor collapsed. They literally drowned in human waste."
In the Attic
"I would call it creepy more than scary, but my mom's friend had a small house and lived alone. She noticed weird things: a batch of soup depleting faster than usual, missing eggs, damp towels in the hamper when she hadn't used any, extra dishes in the dishwasher, etc... This went on for months, she thought she was just being forgetful."
"One day she heard some thumping around in her attic and went to investigate. She found some make shift living quarters. Small radio, hot plate, sleeping bag, pillow, food wrappers, etc... She called the cops who came to keep an eye on the place. They ended up catching a homeless man climbing a tree, trying to sneak into her attic window."
"He had been doing this almost daily. He would wait for her to go to work, then go down stairs and help himself to food and amenities. The funny part about this story is they got to know each other throughout the ordeal, and the guy was actually very respectful, just down on his luck."
"She didn't press charges, instead, let him move in, helped him get a job, and he lived in the attic until he got back on his feet. Creepy crap with a happy ending."
In the Road
"My mom was driving, and a guy ran out in the road, so she stopped so she couldn’t hit him. It was night time, so it was pretty dark out, and 3 other men emerged from the forest around, all trying to use the door handles of her car to get in. She locked them luckily, and gassed it to the nearest town. Remember to always lock your car after you start it, because if it wasn’t unlocked who knows what would’ve happened to her."
And it really explodes...
"Neishabur train dissaster is something that reminds me how death can come at any moment. A train with 51 wagons of sulphur, fertilizer, petrol and cotton wool somehow broke loose and rolled down the track about twenty kilometers until it derailed in the town of Khayyam, Iran. There were no humans on board."
"Chemical leaks ensued and authorities tried to extinguish whatever fires broke out."
"At one point, the whole thing explodes. And it really explodes. The whole town of Khayyam is literally demolished, 3 nearby towns are badly damaged and it was heard 70 km away. The wreckage continued to explode for several days after. Around 300 people died and more than that injured. An earthquake of 3.6 on Riechter scale was produced."
"My friend's boss bought an Audi A4 convertible, back when they were new and interesting. One of the talking points was the pop-up roll hoops that were hidden unless you rolled it. A few months after buying it he got to test those roll hoops out, as he lost control and skidded down a steep bank about 10m (~35ft) deep."
"The roll hoops did their job, and he survived with just cuts and scratches from the bushes he'd plowed through. The car ended up the right way up and he got out, walked back up the bank to the side of the road, then got on the phone to the police to report the accident."
"While he was standing there a driver from a car that had seen the accident came over to speak to him. Approaching from behind the other driver asked if he was okay. My friend's boss turned around to reply and dropped dead. His neck had been fractured, but was in one piece right up until he turned his head, when it severed his spinal cord."
Well this is all giving me heart palpitations.
"Artimus Pyle the drummer from Lynard Skynard survived a plane crash and walked to a nearby house only to be shot by the homeowner. The homeowner saw a bloody long-haired man and winged him. Pyle survived that as well and made a full recovery. He told the story first hand in an interview with Howard Stern. That’s how I initially heard of this. I don’t have that audio, but I did find this https://lynyrdskynyrd.fandom.com/wiki/1977_Plane_Crash"
"The driver one of the Semis we took in on trade died in the truck. The sleeping area is a 'bunk' with a mattress that can be flipped up and under it is a seat and a table. So during the day it's a Dinet set up. And at night, you pull a lever and pull the bunk down to sleep. Well something happened and the bunk flipped up while the driver was sleeping and it pinned him against the wall. He couldn't get it to drop back down and suffocated."
"He was stuck there for somewhere around 12 hours. Someone had noticed that he was parked for an unusually long amount of time for the kind of deliveries he did. The company that built the sleeper did something to the bunk so that couldn't happen again and supposedly recalled all of that sleeper style."
"When my aunt was about 16 she was working at a grocery store and had a boss in his mid twenties. One day he called the house and was begging her to sneak out and hang out with him. She was considering it because it was her boss and she didn’t want to say no."
"My mom, who is two years younger than her, always gets these incredibly spot on 'gut feelings.' She had one that night and begged my aunt not to go out with him. Thankfully she listened to my mom and told him no which made him really angry. He ended up going out that night and meeting another girl."
"He took her out to some cliffs and pushed her off. Somehow she lived through this and was able to get him sent to prison. I feel so sorry for that girl and so thankful for my mom and her gut feelings. Always trust your gut."
"I spent my first 10 years in New Delhi. Back then, we would find dead women (burnt with acid or set on fire) and it used to be so 'normal.' Like oh look, another one of those dowry cases where her family didn't pay the husband enough money so they killed her. Many years later i revisited those memories and realised how insane that actually was! I'd totally forgotten about all that."
A Close Call
"My friend tripped and fell onto the tracks, landing his face onto the 3rd rail. We kinda stood there in absolute shock because we thought he was dead, but then he said, 'can I move? Will I be electrocuted?' We told him to move instantly and he did, we got him off the tracks, and no less than 2 minutes later a train went zipping by. I think the 3rd rail turned on seconds after his face came off of it. I know that's not scary to a lot of people, but to me it was because I would have lost a close friend back when I was about 12."
As if Dateline NBC isn't enough to watch. Goodness...
No matter what people say, everyone goes through a struggle of one sort or another in their daily lives.
Some of these are relatively minor in the grand scheme of things, however, and are the sort of things one simply vents about with their friends or family.
Others are a bit more serious, and much more personal.
So personal, in fact, that people feel as if they have no one they can talk to, as there is simply no one who could even hope to understand what they're going through.
"What silent battle are you fighting at the moment?"
Unhappiness Or Uncertainty?
"The urge to quit my job without anything lined up."- ShadowoftheDrake
Coming To Terms With One's Past
"All the traumas I'm having to heal from so i can properly function in life."
"I'm tired of feeling so held back because of the sh*t I had to go through growing up."
"I'm very thankful I've got therapist that I have, but it's just very exhausting working through your past so you can move forward."- urbanlulu
"Surrounded by family and friends but lonely as hell inside."- KenzoAtreides
"Binge eating addiction."- flowery9777
Battle Of The Office Temperatures...
"A war of epic proportions over the ideal temperature for the office."
"Any time my colleague leaves the room I adjust the AC to a non-cataclysmic heat death of the universe level, and when I leave the room she turns it back."
"It's been years."
"A word has never been said."- P1cn1cProblems
"Alcoholism but I’m approaching my first 24 hours sober in 15 years."
"As a career bartender I’m in the process of changing careers as well and I have a wonderful support system with my close friends and family!"
"I’m in the process as well of looking into non-religious community support groups in my area and should be attending my first meeting in a few days!"
"You’re all beautiful."- Liah_Natas_420
On/Off Relationship With Work
"Going to work, I usually get bursts of energy for a couple months, and other times I can’t stand the thought of going."- skittleyskittlex
What To Do With My Life
"What I want to do as a career, I feel stuck."- Goosetefer
Deep, Deep Rooted Issues
"I’m coming to the realization that I am an idiot."
"All my life I have been taken care of."
"My Grandmother and then the mother of my children. "
"I have zero mathematical abilities, numbers just don’t make sense to me."
"I can’t remember the order of the months or tell time."
"I have never been able to play board games or understand the process of doing a sport."
"Just situations that everyone seems to be able to do break down when I try to do them."
"If I ever messed up and said something completely wrong or incorrect I was always able to raise my eyebrow and convince the other person I was just joking."
"Now that my wife has moved on to her new family she still helps me daily."
"I guess I should say ex wife."
" Since I was very young I have been able to nod and parrot what a person in charge is telling me to make them believe that I understood the assignment."
"I found a job in a factory right out of high school that put me in a floor supervisor position and it allowed me to take what my boss said to me and I just relayed that to my crew."
"I did that job for 16 years and when we went to online work during Covid I was found out."
"As soon as it came to light that I had no Idea how to do the things that I was asking other people to do I just quit my job."
"The last couple of years I’ve lost everything and am grasping at straws to try to live some kind of life."
"It’s been a little over 7 months now and I don’t leave the house anymore."
"My Grandma has passed and my lovely ex-wife has helped me set up a small apartment that I can exist in."
"It's a silent battle to just keep going every day now that the person I was pretending to be my whole life has died in his own bed of ignorance."- jiffypopper44
Sometimes when we find ourselves lost in a funk of sadness or depression, it's easy to think that no one will understand, and no one can help.
But even if they won't necessarily understand, there is always someone willing to listen, who will also do their best to help.