People Confess The Major Downsides Of Being Attractive
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We're not all going to think the same thing. "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder," and all that. However, we can recognize when someone has clearly taken the time to focus on their looks, through working out, how they dress, or how they style their hair. This is no judgement, and it's perfectly fine if you want to feel fabulous some days, but there is an unfair stigma that comes with that.

The world thinks a lot of things about you if they find you "conventionally" attractive.


Reddit user, Zestyclose-Detail791, wanted to know what it's like to walk around pretty when they asked:

"What are the dangers of being very attractive/beautiful?"

There's a lot that immediately comes to mind if you're considered traditionally attractive, problems that you'll encounter any time you meet someone new.

What Are My Traits?

"Not knowing if you're actually funny. Or well spoken. Or talented. Or charismatic."

stink3rbelle

"On the opposite end, some attractive people (mostly women) who are really smart aren't taken seriously because people only focus on their looks."

powerlesshero111

No One Knows You're Real Self

"If you’re really attractive and also quiet, people think you’re snobby. Also, you get unwanted comments from creeps a lot."

Appropriate_Day_8721

"I constantly was accused of being stuck up and a prude when I was a teenager while I was most definitely neither. I was always nice to people, but I was super shy because I had painfully low self esteem as a teenager and thought I was hideous and boring."

"My high school self and my grownup ego thank you for this lightbulb moment."

partway-chrysalis

Making All The Heads Turn

"you get a lot more attention than you probably want, lots of staring and sometimes people following you. Tension within your own gender as you’re seen as competition."

CandidGuidance

Social interactions or cues will be the most difficult wall to overcome. People you know and people you don't will assume lots about you, making a simple conversation that much more challenging.

Misinterpreting Signals

"People will often mistake friendliness for flirting"

Immediate-Cow6875

"I work at a hotel front desk, and the other night a man came down to ask for something and said, “every time I passed through here, someone else was hitting on you. Do you deal with that all the time?” Yes, and it’s obnoxious."

faerie03

Never Knowing Where To Draw The Line

"Friendships falling apart when their partner is attracted to you."

Illustrious-Fly9586

"Friendships falling apart when you're genuinely trying to be friends with someone of the opposite sex & they end up falling in love with you:("

Zaiya53

"How much I feel this one. I lost all my male childhood friends because at some point all of them ended up falling for me and made everything uncomfortable or left after being rejected. Specially because well, everyone knew I had a boyfriend anyway (now fiancé, so yeah, a very solid, healthy relationship. Noone else had a chance)."

"Now I began to befriend a really cool guy and just the other day he tolds me "he needs a girlfriend like me" in a pretty evident flirty tone. I joked about "my fiancé finding the limited edition" to make sure he knows I have a partner. He tried to hide his dissapointment but I still saw a bit of it on his face after that."

"I find it so frustrating... I just want a bunch of friends to celebrate the Holidays with and prepare them special meals and surprise birthday parties and plan trips and recomend them songs or movies and send them memes. Not having to deal with unwanted attraction towards me."

Chikizey

You're One Or The Other

"People think you are flirting if you are being anything other than nasty to them. Then if you’re are nasty, you are a b-tch/a--hole. No in-between."

SpikedBubbles

Whatever the case may be, you'll find a lot of people think the worse of you.

Or on a level below that, you'll see that people act the worst when you're around.

Unable To Handle The Switch

"If you become “unattractive” for any reason you may find it difficult to reconcile that you are no longer attractive."

"Examples: car wreck, injury, aging, disease, becoming obese. I’m sure there are more."

"If you’re used to being attractive and you identify as such (consciously or subconsciously) it can be really hard to come to terms with a change in that."

goldensnooch

Too Bad. Not Anymore.

"You cant pick your nose in public anymore with all the people staring at your attractive/beautiful face"

noob_akk

Pain Is Going To Be Involved

"regardless of gender, i think some people would get obsessed with you to the point they'll harm other people to just get your attention"

Independent_Mall_78

"Or themselves."

anniewolfe

Conventional beauty standards are bogus. Be happy with who you are in whatever way you want, so long as you're not hurting anyone.

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