And you thought your mom was a handful!! Redditor ThrowAWAY_Please12 needed some serious life advice by letting us know... My mother [50sF] sold my car then disowned me [20sF] Yes you read that correctly. I'll start right from the beginning. So what had happen for this poor girl was...
My father died when I was around 16. He had an abusive relationship with my mother, but he was still my dad. When he passed, we got a pay out. With this money, my mum bought me my first car - My last present from my dad. With an agreement (loosely) to pay back what I could.
Recently, I sold the car as I wanted something bigger and got another car. I sold the car for £3K, paying my mother half of that, (paid her regularly before this) and spent the rest on the car. I really don't think I owed her too much as this stage, especially with paying her 1.5K on top of what I already had. I loved the car, it had personality and was just me all over, I was very pleased. I thought dad would definitely approve of it and it made me happy. It was an old rare car and I knew there weren't a huge amount of them left which was nice too.
In a weird set of circumstances, I ended up facing prison time and huge fines for something that my mother was solely responsible for. I took the blame and got slapped with a £1000+ fine. I was out of a job at the time and looked for my mum for guidance (seeing as though I took the blame) but unfortunately received none. In the end, I had to go to court again if I didn't pay - I had no way of paying at the time so I ended up going again to potentially once again face prison time. My mother didn't step in to own up, and I felt it wasn't right to "dob her in" as it were. I managed to get extra time to pay it, which I am still to this day. A friend paid a couple months, if he hadn't - I would most probably be in prison. My mother knew this but still refused to pay.
Shortly after this, mum said she was moving abroad. It was completely random but she informed me that I must start saving for a house as she would be gone in a few months and the house was put on the market - When it sold I was to be kicked out. I shoved away as much as I could muster each month, informing mum I would pay 50% of all utilities, buy my own food and a little bit of rent. She seemed content.
Recently (a couple months after the house fiasco), after coming home, I noticed my car was missing. I was panicking pretty bad, worried it had been stolen. I called my mum and she told me she had sold it. Sold it, I asked? I was really confused, thinking it may have been some weird joke but she was very blunt and matter of fact and told me "Yeah, I paid for it." Which wasn't entirely true - Dad had paid for it, as a last gift. We agreed paying her back was going to be slow as she wanted me to save to move out, we had agreed this... Also on top of this, I was in the process of paying her back. I paid for it through my account, had insured it with my money - By law the car was mine. I was really upset, asking her why she would do that and if she needed the money faster she should have said - I would have gladly paid! I just wasn't aware... I was mad at this time. I was shouting - As was she and we left on a bad note.
I know to most this is only a car, but to me it was the last bit of my dad I had.
I had to go to work the next day, so I left it there and stayed at a friends house. The next morning I came home to find the doors were all locked with keys in them to prevent me getting in. I managed to get in through the back of the house, where my mum asked what the hell I was doing there. Turns out she had kicked me out and disowned me. At this point, I was pretty much homeless - I'm quite young with not enough savings to financially support myself. She seemed uncaring and made me pack my bags. At this point I'm very upset, crying and confused - My mum just watched me pack. Later on, whilst still packing a relation [Mid20sF] came around, screaming at me for treating my mother so poorly. It got so bad she was throwing my belongings out the window! She stopped me from calling anyone to come pick me up by snatching my phone out my hand and scratching me quite badly across my hands.
I'm at a friends now, I've tried calling home 4 times, messaging countless times with absolutely no response. Through a turn of events, I found out my mum had sold/gave my car to my abusive ex boyfriend. He was awful, and even she hated him at the time for the things he put me through. It took a lot to leave that relationship. I am feeling betrayed, upset, lost and extremely angry.
I've called the police and know where I stand on the law - I can report my car as stolen and get it back, but do I? Is there any coming back from this, and even if there were I'm not sure I can forgive them for all they have put me through... It's been a few days and I don't feel like I'm capable of forgiving them a second time, I want my car that my dad got me. It makes me sick thinking that my abusive ex has it. I really do feel like my mother has done this just to hurt me - The way she worded that she "sold" it makes me think it could have been given away to him.
Would love some advice.
Where do we begin?!
Are you alone?
There seems to be a lack of information around some parts of your story. What was this situation that was your mums fault and how did you end up taking the wrap for it if you were not responsible at all?
What's the reasoning behind your cousin attacking you? Is there any merit to what she said? You kind of glossed over that whole situation. You describe your mother as someone who cares about you, wants the best for you and then suddenly changes into kicking you out and wanting nothing to do with you. What's the context for this?
How is the rest of your family / extended family dealing with this situation? Do they sympathize with you?
Be done with her!Giphy
If I've read this correctly, you've already taken a fall for your mom on a legal issue. You are now put out due to her not following the law. Due to the auto removal on this sub, I cannot say the words your mom is.
But yes. You are done with her. You call the cops. If the car is in your name, you report it as stolen. No one should have taken it without title anyway.
Report the car as stolen and report the illegal eviction. Go to r/legaladvice and get advice on the legal process to follow where you are.
From a relationships perspective you need to stop letting her walk all over you. This is insane. Stop giving her money. Call the police when she breaks the law. She will not stop until there are actual consequences for her actions.
Who's name was on the title to the car? If it was yours, absolutely call the police. Also, she can't just kick you out. At least in the US, she'd have to properly evict you. I'd also report the woman who scratched your hands. Even if she doesn't get arrested for assault, you'll have a report filed in case she ever tries to harm you again. And go no contact. Best thing I ever did. My mom pushed me down stairs when I was pregnant. She died in October. All I feel is relief.
Call the cops, report the theft and the assault. Further, if you have access to a lawyer, see if there's any way to actually turn your mother in for the crime you took the fall on. Say you're willing to testify against her.
After that, start printing out your bank statements. Go through with a highlighter and see how much you paid in terms of car, utilities, etc. She evicted and disowned you suddenly. She's decided to up and leave the country. You've been set up as a patsy for her crimes once before. Get your ducks in a row because I wouldn't put it past her to pull that trick again.
Embrace the truth...
I'm sorry to tell you, your post belongs in r/raisedbynarcissists
Repeat: Not my circus, not my monkeys.
Your mom needs to live with the consequences of her behavior. Please report her, get your car back and tell the truth about what she did.
Ignore the guilt...
I'm going to repeat what everyone else has told you, report it stolen. Do it right now.
I guess I feel a little guilty.
I know how that feels. It sucks so much to feel guilt over something you know is right. I used to have that sort of relationship with my mom. Having to stand up to her and stand my ground always made me sick with guilt, but I did it. Here's the thing: there's going to have to come a point where you realize that blood is just blood. Blood does not make you family. All it means is you share DNA and with this particular person, she happened to be an incubator for you.
Read this carefully: she will not change. In fact; with people like her, the harder you try and the more you beg and the more you give, you're fueling her. You're giving her power. Power over you, power to feel righteous. Take a look back over your post, reread it. Commit it to memory, because I promise you as long as you chase after her skirts looking for love and approval, that's what the rest of your life is going to look like. All that drama, all that wasted money, having your possessions stolen and sold, having your home ripped away from you. It'll happen again and again.
So report your car stolen and focus on your next steps. Focus on you and what you want out of life and how to get it. Get a job at McDonald's, put yourself through school. Prove to her, but more importantly to yourself, that you are better and you don't need her. Read up on narcissists and how to handle them because that's what she is. Once you understand the beast and how to respond (or not), life becomes simpler.
Always beware... DNA can be an issue...Giphy
NEVER EVER EVER take someone else's charge for them. It will have permanent consequences on your life, and no one will ever believe that you actually didn't do it. Be careful who you're hanging out with, because they can pull you into getting more charges. The more crap on your record, the harder it gets to walk away from trouble (more likely to get tickets, fines, etc, it just gets harder!)
If the car title was in your name, call the police and see if you can file charges, or reports and get it back. Or at least t Get the money?? Idk, do it soon.
Your mom let you go to jail and have a criminal record for her and has done nothing but abuse you since. It is time to walk away and never have her in your life again once you get your car back with the help of the police.
Your mother needs some time at the leisure of Her Majesty's Criminal Justice system. I am guessing it was benefit fraud.
Calling The Garbage ManGiphy
When I was 18 my uncle gave me his old car. My dad sold it for parts one day without asking. He got $200 for selling it. It was worth ~$5000. He laughed in my face when I asked him why he did it. So I did what any psychologically abused son would do, beat him up so bad he ended up in the hospital. He threatened me the next time I saw him and I beat him again and told him if he ever messed with me again I'd make sure he could never would never walk again. He never messed with me in any way.
Moral of the story is don't take that path. I'm still seeing a therapist about how abusive he was. Doing that to him out of spite screwed me up more. In hindsight I would have walked away and cut ties forever. Maybe sent him a "sorry for your loss" card some decades later when he repented being a crap parent. Or maybe not, maybe never talking to him again would have been revenge enough. Don't seek revenge, be the bigger person. Use this as motivation to give yourself a better life. Your mom sounds like a real piece of garbage though. I'm sorry you had to go through that.
There are things we accept as inherently bad – like predatory animals or unhealthy foods – because we are socialized to believe they are.
"Dangerous" Animals<p>Most species in the animal kingdom will leave you alone if unprovoked. <br></p>
Silent Predator<p>"sharks."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpadmsi?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">RudegarWithFunnyHat<br></a></p><p>"No kidding. The oceans would be a mess without them. They kill less people per year than mosquitoes, deer and PEOPLE. They're intelligent but so different from us that the bad rep was practically unavoidable sadly"</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpax28m?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Megalon84</a><br><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpadmsi?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"></a></p>
Nothing To Hiss At<p>"Black cats."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpb0ggl?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">tehfraginator</a></p><p>"THIS ONE. I was absolutely floored this past October when I read somewhere that some animal shelters will not allow anyone to adopt black cats for fear that people will abuse them and/or sacrifice them ritualistically because we All Know that black cats bring BAD LUCK. LOOK. We own a black cat and he's Just A Cat. About the worst thing he does is drag his ass across the carpet because he has a sticky piece of sh*t sticking to his fur!!! 🙄"</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpblwcf?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">RolandParr57</a><br></p>
Creatures Of The Night<p>"Bats. Some of the best insect control/pollination help out there (depending on species). Plus they can give you good fertilizer. 'But they carry rabies.....' you know what else can carry rabies? Raccoons, rabbits, foxes, dogs, opossums....pretty much mammals. 'But they can carry cross species diseases....' So do pigs, chicken, primates, and now with [the virus] dogs & cats. I mean don't go hug them- but they are very useful & unfortunately on the way out."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpbyuvt?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">lyme_aide</a><br></p>
They Make For Good Pets<p>"Snakes. Majority of them are harmless. I understand if you live in an area with deadly snakes. But snakes are always represented as pure evil and villainous when most are just typical reptiles going about their little snake lives. They don't want to bother you, they just want to survive the next day and reproduce."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpbga1l?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">LeafeonMaster721</a><br></p>
People<p>People can easily be persuaded by the opinions of others, especially on the internet.</p>
Misunderstood?<p>"Guy Fieri. What the heck did he ever do to anyone?"</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpboj8u?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">nokittythatsmypie</a></p><p>"Dude is a bro! He's raised millions of dollars for grants to restaurant workers who have been hammered by [the virus] closures. He does tons of charity work for food security, and even performed marriage ceremonies for 101 gay couples in honor of his sister when that was still super controversial. His signature style may be Backstreet Boy-reject, but it also makes him instantly recognizable and helps in bringing attention to good causes."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpc900a?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Speakeasy9</a><br></p>
Requires Discipline And Hard Work<p>"Fast food workers. I don't get the 'anyone can do it' argument. Through my time as a manager I've turned down applicants for not being up to our standard and watched all age groups quit because the job isn't as easy as they expected. It's a fast paced work environment with lots of memorization due to food safety standards. I've worked production, construction, warehouse, and others but working in fast food isn't easier than the others, just different."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpbwxg4?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">mynameisshelly</a><br></p>
The Rocker<p>"Joan Jett."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpaygyw?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Three_Day_Rider</a></p><p>"Yeah, but she don't give a damn about her bad reputation."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpbcbd5?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Casual-Notice</a><br></p>
Health<p>Some of the things we put in our bodies are stigmatized for various reasons. </p><p>But these people believe the following should not be blackballed. </p>
Let It Flow<p>"Tap water. People have been manipulated by bottled water companies to believe that drinking tap water is somehow bad for you. Water quality standards for tap water in most 1st world countries is extremely high."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpb5uzj?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">DougCrackheadFord</a><br></p>
Culture Cuisine<p>"Taco Bell does not give everyone diarrhea."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpad830?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">albinorhino63</a></p><p>"Honestly, my theory is that is not Taco Bell specifically, but that some people have the notion that Mexican Food gives you diarrhea. If you think about the people who say Taco Bell gives you diarrhea, it's largely the same people who think any ethnic food gives you diarrhea, black pepper is spicy, and that Taco Bell is Mexican food. They say the same thing about Indian food, for instance. South Park even had an episode where a running joke was that blood in your underwear was a natural result of eating Chipotle. So I think it's less about Taco Bell specifically than it is about people who think Taco Bell is Mexican food, and that any kind of "ethnic" food gives you the sh*ts."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpbgc4k?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">livious1</a><br></p>
Chemical Reaction<p>"Chemicals. 'Chemical-free' is marketing crap. Everything is a chemical."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpbod2s?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Kittehbombastic</a></p><p>"Bacteria automatically gets a bad rap. But most are harmless and some are even beneficial to us. There's both good bacteria and bad bacteria."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpalxvc?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">sea8cloud8</a><br></p>
Fast fingers come in handy if you're an avid texter. Just make sure you proofread for typos before hitting "send."
Downer<p>Some people would rather be bombarded with notifications than reading these unsettling texts. </p>
Grim Announcement<p>"'Are you a friend of...?' 'Yeah why?' 'He passed away.' This message came from the account of that friend, so I thought I was getting pranked. It still feels so unreal, losing a friend you met online. I only met him in person once, but I drove 10 hours out to the service anyways, I'd known him online for 5 years. He was only a few years over 20. I'll miss that man."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltmerx/whats_the_most_disturbing_text_message_you_got/gp288lm?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">its_ya_boi_big_ghoul</a><br></p>
Worst False Alarm Ever<p>"Emergency Alert."</p><p>"BALLISTIC MISSILE THREAT INBOUND TO HAWAII. SEEK IMMEDIATE SHELTER. THIS IS NOT A DRILL."</p><p>"Would have got to be the worst one, surely?" </p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltmerx/whats_the_most_disturbing_text_message_you_got/gozs00g?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">heisdeadjim_au</a><br></p>
Possibly Dreadful News<p>"My mom: 'please call me'"</p><p>"Me every time: <em>oh god, dad is dead.:<br></em></p><p><em>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltmerx/whats_the_most_disturbing_text_message_you_got/gp177bz?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">ihatereddit1221</a></em><br><em></em></p>
One Of Two Things<p>"Yes! My dad does this."</p><p>"Please call me ASAP."</p><p>"That means either someone died, or he needs help with his router."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltmerx/whats_the_most_disturbing_text_message_you_got/gp3zia1?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">SeizureAugustus</a><br></p>
Typos<p>This is a reminder that even spellcheck can gets things wrong. </p><p>Only you, the sender, knows the context of the message you write. </p>
Bad Typo<p>"Friend texted a colleague 'I locked the keys in the office.' Only, predictive text changed 'keys' to 'Jews'."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltmerx/whats_the_most_disturbing_text_message_you_got/gp2e697?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Own-Bridge4210</a><br></p>
Oops<p>"I mass texted a bunch of friends and family about hurricane evacuation and autocorrect changed it to ejaculation. That was a fun day."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltmerx/whats_the_most_disturbing_text_message_you_got/gp460kw?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">wired89</a><br></p>
One Disturbing And One Devastating<p>"'I did suck him, so I may have gotten herpes' Sent to me by my dad followed by 'that wasn't meant for you'</p><p>"A second not disturbing but devastating was 'Grandma just went into Hospice. If you want to say goodbye you need to fly out tomorrow.' Got that text on a Tuesday, flew out Wednesday, Grandma died on Friday morning."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltmerx/whats_the_most_disturbing_text_message_you_got/gp20q8d?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Capt_RRye</a><br></p>
Bizarre Threats<p>Whether it's a prank call or egregious sarcasm, nobody likes receiving these. </p>
Creepy<p>"One night just as I was drifting off to sleep, my phone buzzed with the message, 'We're watching,' from an unknown number."</p><p>"I just replied, 'Prepare for boredom.'"</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltmerx/whats_the_most_disturbing_text_message_you_got/gp17exo?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">selftypohater</a><br></p>
The Sarcastic Threat<p>"If you're not home in 20 minutes I'll gut your cats and hang them from the ceiling."</p><p>From my husband. While I was in the hospital."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltmerx/whats_the_most_disturbing_text_message_you_got/gp21ogk?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">AliceMorgon</a><br></p>
Wrong Number<p>"I got a message in the middle of the night from an unknown number telling me to stop sleeping with their husband, albeit in somewhat stronger language. I'm pretty certain it wasn't meant for me as I wasn't sleeping with anyone's husband. I replied saying I didn't think the message was meant for me and never heard anything more."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltmerx/whats_the_most_disturbing_text_message_you_got/gozccx3?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">nxtec</a><br></p>
Outdoor festivals feel like something from some sort of an alternate reality at this point, don't they?
The Weirdest Items<p>Sometimes you'll stumble across the weirdest items at a post-festival cleanup. Without any inhibitions, people won't think twice about leaving something behind, even if that something is maybe worth something or important to their survival.</p>
What Even Is Money?<p>I helped out some hippie friends of mine running this little hippie festival called Chronophonium, about 500 people camping for 3 days. Lots of themes around sustainability, recycling and what not.</p><p>Almost everyone left brand new tents in disheveled states all over the place.</p>
At Least They Weren't Frogs?<p>I'm an usher at my neighbourhood movie theatre so idk if this counts but I found a plastic bag under a seat with 6 guppies swimming around inside so I kept the guppies for myself lol. I had to Google how to take care of fish but it was fun and I still have them today</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ls0vln/people_who_clean_up_after_festivals_and_similar/gop7nbt?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3">bethanytaylor</a></p>
Why Cover It Up? Out Of Shame?<p>My dad used to be the guy in charge of renting out the Knights of Columbus hall. Per policy, he had to be on-site during the event, but would clean up after. The cleanup would usually be the next day, and I'd come along to help.</p><p>The best thing we found was a $500 tip left behind by the father of the bride after a wedding reception with a little thank-you note.</p><p>The worst was finding the punch bowl the next day after someone had puked in it and put a lid over it. I'm pretty sure it had been spiked with something pretty strong before that, too.</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ls0vln/people_who_clean_up_after_festivals_and_similar/gop80ly?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3">Lentra888</a></p>
Lucked Out<p>Sometimes, working these events leads to some good fortunate. People don't tend to watch their wallets or bags when having too much fun, leading to a great payoff for those forced to sweep up after.</p>
Australia Sounds Great<p>I cleaned up for an event once and it was an event where you weren't allowed to bring your own alcohol in (so they can get you to buy it from the event itself and whatnot) so cops were taking people's alcohol. cool, that's fine.</p><p>I was cleaning up and two cops walked over and asked if I was 18. I showed them my license to prove I was, and they gave me almost $1000 of untouched alcohol that they'd confiscated from people trying to sneak it in. bottles of vodka and tequila, a lot of beer and rum and a bunch of ciders all given to me cause I was a volunteer and not getting paid otherwise. was f-cking great</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ls0vln/people_who_clean_up_after_festivals_and_similar/gop83do?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3">dorkynoodleman</a></p>
That's How A Home Begins<p>I've cleaned up and found entire cooking sets and chairs.</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ls0vln/people_who_clean_up_after_festivals_and_similar/goounwe?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3">rickrolo24</a></p><p>Free kitchen</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ls0vln/people_who_clean_up_after_festivals_and_similar/gooy3uu?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3">Mx-Quack</a></p>
Getting The Short End Of The Money Stick<p>Did it once, as a fundraiser for a youth organisation, and collectively we found £3000 and ten mobile phones, and this was during the days when it was a somewhat luxury to have a phone.</p><p>(clarification edit: I didn't personally find and keep all of the above, this is what was found by the group of us, which was around forty teenagers. I found £35 and no phones)</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ls0vln/people_who_clean_up_after_festivals_and_similar/gooqnxs?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3">SlackHandful</a></p>
...Gross<p>And here's the stories we were all probably expecting.</p>
Sh*t Tents? This Has To Be The Worst One...<p>Bottle of rum, lots and lots of drugs, watches, phones, perfectly good clothes, welly boots, wallets/cash etc.</p><p>Worst is sh-t tents. As in, abandoning your tent but doing a massive sh-t in it before you go so it can't be reused.</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ls0vln/people_who_clean_up_after_festivals_and_similar/gop1x9g?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3">meehaja</a></p>
...Annnnd There It Is.<p>I did a clean at a 3 day music festival once. </p><p>Literally the first night I had to clean one of the portable shower cubicles, because someone had sh-t in the corner and stuck a cocktail umbrella in it.</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ls0vln/people_who_clean_up_after_festivals_and_similar/gooyw6d?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3">Wheresma10mmsocket</a></p>
No, This Is The On-DID YOU SAY A WHAT BODY?<p>Poop tent.</p><p>It's a 5 gallon bucket filled with laundry detergent with a toilet seat on top placed in a cheap tent. Imagine open that sucker up after 4 days of 100 degree weather.</p><p>Dead body. It was an apparent OD.</p><p>Booze and drugs. Also a nitrous tank. (That night after work was fun)</p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ls0vln/people_who_clean_up_after_festivals_and_similar/gop6ldu?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Simplekin77</a>
Over-sharing is a thing. Sometimes, people really just cross the line in the information they've decided to volunteer to us.
It's hard to control who does this to us since it tends to take us by surprise, but hearing some of the things that people have suffered having to hear can easily act as cautionary tales to us.