People Break Down The Qualities That Instantly Make A Man More Attractive
Reddit user Extension_Flan_6615 asked: 'What instantly makes a man attractive?'
From kindness to hilarity, there are some qualities that will instantly make a person more likable or attractive.
But there are some less-expected things that will instantly make a man more attractive.
Redditor Extension_Flan_6615 asked:
"What instantly makes a man attractive?"
An Air of Goodwill
"When he shows a sense of humor, not taking himself too seriously, and kindness."
- TheSaladInYourHair
Genuine Hobby-Sharing
"Attractive for five seconds? Abs and a broad smile."
"Attractive for slightly longer? A good joke or an actual compliment."
"Attractive like boyfriend material? Being genuinely interested in my hobbies and knowing how to explain your own without making me feel stupid."
- Aggressive_Tear_769
A Unique Skillset
"Owns a llama farm."
- leviticusreeves
"Cries in Alpaca."
- Folhaki
True Humbleness
"Humble confidence."
- AwkwardFortuneCookie
"The kind of guy who never acts like he knows more than everyone but actually does. (Swoon)"
- shegedep
A Clean Look
"Personal grooming."
"While it might not make you attractive in the literal sense, there is little that is LESS attractive than a person who stinks and wears ill-fitting, ill-maintained clothing."
"Wash yourselves, dress yourselves like you care what you look like, and you will instantly look far more attractive than you would otherwise."
- EclecticDreck
Kind to Animals
"Petting a stray cat."
- ZealousIdealKing2736
"Oh my gosh yes. Men that are kind to cats are automatically sexy."
- pussnbootsmeow
"When I see a random guy petting a cat, I just melt."
- zerowo_
Self-Confidence
"Self-confidence."
- Emotional-Sorbet-759
"I learned recently that 'self-confidence' is the most misunderstood concept in our era, mystified and distorted by the red-pill movement, even up to hilarious levels."
"Self-confidence comes from how much you know yourself, how you accept your limits, and mostly, that you won't be shaken if others won't like you. Self-confidence is high when you are truly content and happy with yourself, and you don't need someone else to make you happy."
"'Didn't she talk to me? Fine, I'm happy anyway, because I can be content with myself anyway.'"
"But it takes a lot of work, possibly with a therapist, to work on your demons and kill them."
- Joonto
Unexpected Physics
"Enough mass that he generates his own irresistible gravitational pull."
- DoggoToucher
Self-Sufficient Human
"One that doesn’t 'need' a woman to be a happy, healthy individual."
- Aries-Corinthier
Personal Preferences
"For me personally: A good sense of humor, Confidence, and Nice hands (it’s the artist in me, I don't know)."
- Whiskeybreathh
Deeply Authentic and True to Themselves
"Intelligence and confidence, nice smile, sense of humor, sense of fashion. But especially authenticity, I like people that look different, I am into weirdos but in a good way. And I also love it when they are into art and music."
- art_baby
Period.
"No fragile masculinity."
- ForestGnomeX
Honors Boundaries
"Knowing his self-worth. This isn't to be confused with being a cocky f**ker... I mean one that can recognize when a person, place or thing isn't for him anymore, silently removes himself and can confidently articulate his reasoning when challenged."
"Boundaries are sexy... to me anyway."
- InhalingBacon
That About Sums It Up
"I am a man, attracted to women, so these answers are the best I can figure out based on experience. Everyone has preferences so these generalizations sometimes don’t apply."
"What makes men attractive to other men: fitness and how willing you are to bang."
"What makes men attractive to women:"
"How bright you are. Doesn’t necessarily have to be smart, but whether you're passionate about something and active. Blandness and docility are not attractive. You need a sense of purpose."
"Your looks. Looks are part of attraction for everyone who can see. THAT DOESN’T MEAN HUGE MUSCLES for the young men here. Fitness is part of the picture but grooming and self-presentation are key. A big giant slob is less attractive than a skinny but well-groomed man with a nice haircut and smile."
"How you make them feel. Women will pick up on your character. Is he possessive or is he protective? Patient and kind or quick to anger? Is he honest? Nurturing (yes, nurturing. That’s part of the reason men with healthy and well-behaved dogs are approached more)?"
"How does he respond to setbacks and to being disagreed with? Women want to know if they’ll be safe and loved in a relationship and will try to figure you out before they get involved."
"That’s the best I have been able to ascertain. Yes, wealth is a big plus for being attractive. That’s true for anyone. The points above are more actionable and universally applicable. Wealth can be hard to control and it takes a long time to change your status, but getting a haircut and a nice shirt can be done more easily."
"Having passion and being kind, honest, loving, trusting, and brave are free you just need self-awareness."
- WhatHadHapenedWas
Selective Listening Powers
"Women answering: Takes care of himself, sense of humor, and doesn't take himself too seriously."
"Men answering: Has money and is tall."
- my_son_is_a_box
"Women: no, seriously. We want well-groomed men who are funny and kind."
"Men: (not listening) MONEY and TALL."
- grapefruit_witchhh
While we're all attracted to distinctly different people, it's intriguing to see how often some of these, such as personal grooming, self-confidence, and kindness, were mentioned.
People Break Down The Male Equivalents Of Women Showing Cleavage To Seduce Someone
When people think of women being portrayed as "sexy," often big boobs with cleavage showing come to mind.
Men also have their appealing "moves" and "appearances," and the "AskReddit" subReddit did not shy away from sharing what they felt the male equivalents to showing cleavage were.
Redditor girlymuslimboy asked:
"What is the male equivalent of a woman showing her cleavage for seduction?"
Zombie Level: Unlocked
"The braaaaaain!"
- Suspicious-Squash237
Certain Facial Expressions
"Sexy side smirks and smiles. Y'all know exactly what you're doing with that."
- mtotheija
A "Clean" Appearance
"Rolling up sleeves (regardless of muscle mass). A fresh fade/cut and trim/shave. A clean cut, perfectly fit/cut outfit (doesn't have to be a suit/tux)."
"Biggest one: Clean, trimmed, and filed fingernails on clean, well-managed hands. Yes please."
- Sleepy_Little_Fjord
Possibly Chest Hair?
"I don't count rolling up sleeves because cleavage is far more scrutinized. Like I can roll my sleeves up in an office job and not be side-eyed."
"The V-line is a little closer, though also a little further on the spectrum of 'can't show it anywhere.' There's no subtlety."
"The closest I can think of is showing chest hair, but that's far less universally liked by women. Like a woman with any chest can do that and almost any man will like it, but chest hair is a very split decision."
- girhen
The V-Line or Adonis Belt
"My wife showed me a meme that had a picture of a guy with the pronounced V-Line. It said, 'I don't know what this muscle is called, but it makes smart girls stupid.'"
- d00mslinger
Grey Sweatpants
"A lot of my female friends go crazy over grey sweatpants. Nothing even sexy, just men wearing them. I don't understand it personally."
- PurpleMonkeyEdna
A Fine Suit
"My wife told me that a guy in a well-fitting suit is to her what a woman in lingerie is to men."
"ZZ Top was right. Every girl crazy 'bout a sharp-dressed man!"
- Matelot67
Driving in Reverse
"I’d like to formally submit: When they’re driving in reverse and they do that twist to look over their shoulder and they grip the back of the passenger seat."
"Especially if they do the little finesse on the steering wheel with the palm of their hand."
"I caaaaaan't."
- VoodooEmporium
In the Kitchen
"When you’re cooking and throw the towel over your shoulder and pick the pan up and shake it around a little."
- ThatSICILIANThing
Muscle Definition
"Either the happy trail or when their muscles get really defined when they do something."
- queenoovoov
Rolled-Up Sleeves
"Hairy forearms and rolled-up sleeves; wonderfully sl*tty behavior."
- chuckchuckthrowaway
An Illusion
"While working in an Emergency room several years ago, a fellow came through that was unconscious from an accident. The first thing the staff does is to strip the person down. When the staff cut his clothing off, it was noted that he had a cucumber taped to the inside of his groin, to, ah make it appear he had a rather large organ."
"I would think that was clearly his intent, as it was a Friday evening."
- Whorton59
Revealing Clothes
"I’m assuming wearing tight shirts that show off muscles."
- RathGodofWar
Communication
"A certain look in their eye."
- Love2Ring
Insightful
"Male cleavage, dude!"
"It's the same, but different, but still the same!"
- Inkydex
Based on these comments, it seems women's desires are just as stereotypical as men's. Where men may want swimsuits and lingerie, women want a finely-trimmed suit or gray sweatpants.
Things That Make A Man Instantly Attractive That They Don't Even Realize According To Women
While we all notice the way people look, the superficiality of instant attraction doesn’t last forever.
More often than not, a man with a good personality becomes more attractive while men who are rude or have an attitude become less attractive, regardless of their physical appearance.
Going along with that, there are some superficial traits or actions that make any man look attractive.
For example, I really like when a guy runs one hand through his hair when he is thinking about something.
The thing is, many men don’t realize these traits or actions are attractive to potential partners.
Luckily, Redditors are ready to share their opinions.
It all started when Redditor tgfree16 asked:
“Women, what are some things that make a man insanely attractive but they don’t realize?”
Speak Your Mind
"Standing up for what is right, especially when his friends don’t"
– BeautifulInfinite288
Paying Attention
"Attentiveness was something I noticed with my Husband right away. Little things like, I made a face of discomfort so he traded me spots when sitting in uncomfortable chairs or I had said earlier that day to no one in particular I would love a Yoohoo and he picked me one up. The thing that really made me fall for him though is he is like this with everyone. Strangers, family, friends seriously everyone. We have been together almost 10 years and married for almost 8, and he still does this so I know it's not just to win me over lol this behavior has also begun to carry over to my 4-year-old daughter who the other day notice me rubbing my lower back grimacing in pain (I'm almost 9 months pregnant) and she ran and grabbed my back massager without me realizing and started rubbing my back with it."
– bahamamama28
And Don't Say "Calm Down"
"Patience. If a guy is just calm and reassuring when sh*t hits the fan, that’s insanely attractive. Also if he’s teaching something and just gently aids without getting annoyed."
– miss_kimba
"It is SUCH an attraction killer to see a man become angry or frustrated with minor annoyances."
"A man who can handle circumstances calmly (addressing it when needed, showing empathy when that's the right response, or just letting it go when his attention is not needed or not likely to be productive) - whatever that circumstance is - is super attractive to me."
– itsybitsybiter
Listen Up!
"When a guy is a good listener, it’s really attractive"
– saltyy_spitoon
"I know she doesn't see it, but I'm a listener par excellence."
"Wife: Are you listening to me?"
"Me: Yes."
"Wife: What did I just say?"
"Me: Are you listening to me?"
– InsaneRabbitDaddy
Adulting
"They can take care of themselves. Clean house, cook, do laundry etc. They don't have to be perfectionist but just have a grown up ability to take care of their needs."
– carolizzy81
"In other words are capable of being an adult"
– eileen404
Be Kind
"Kindness, I find men of all shapes and sizes incredibly attractive when they show kindness when they think they are not watched."
"Absently minded petting an animal, greeting a child, very small gestures that show the kindness that is within them, not because they were taught it is the right thing, but because they feel it."
– Myilana
"I remember when I went to Petsmart with my then girlfriend and now wife and I hit donate 1 dollar for pets in need. She made mention that it was sweet that I did that, but I always did that cause it’s only a dollar and pets are cute. But it meant a lot to her that I did that."
– Shadow_Fox1216
The Hair Matters
"I don’t think a lot of men realize just how much a good haircut can help. Obviously it’s a a bit subjective, but a flattering haircut can make a massive difference."
"My partner got a bad hair cut once and although he is a handsome dude, he looked like a turnip."
– NoMrBond3
The Best Voice
"When he has that low, relaxed tone that says he's absolutely chilling. That's absolutely it."
– tif333"
"You just love deep voices. Me too. They are goddam sex in syllables.
– throwaway_messylady
Loyalty
"-When a man makes decisions, big or small. Love that. Also, something very attractive to me is when a man has had the same friend group for most of his life (and they're good people). Just a huge green flag to me that he is loyal and cares about his friendships."
– elmsa517
The Confidence To Be Nice
"Being confident enough to compliment other men without the need to say something stupid like "no homo""
"Like my boyfriend often tells our coworkers nice things, i.e : you looked nice today, I like your shoes, you have a nice smile, ect. and it's nice to see."
"Like as a woman, it hits different when another women compliments me. I'm sure it's the same for men."
– Anxious_Light_1808
"If another bloke walks past and has a nice smelling cologne I'll compliment the scent and ask what it is. Seems not all men can take a compliment."
– WokSmith
Crazy For You
"Not a woman, but something my wife shared with me after 17 years of marriage. She told me that I always have a smile on my face whenever we go to kiss each other. She said I always smile right before we kiss and it is always my genuine, happy smile. I didn’t realize I did it at all until about a year ago when she shared that info."
– Chopperkene
Dads Are The Best
"When they are hanging out with their offspring being good dads. Could be as simple as holding their kid in one arm and some groceries in the other. Like I'm a lesbian, but holy sh*t do dads turn me on. I obviously have daddy issues."
– scubaordie
"Wife and I were dating, I have two boys, they were 2 and 4 at the time, they were running around and had eaten some candy, wife and I were having a conversation about something, I quickly told the kids to stop running because they were going to get sick, as soon as I said that, the 2 yr old stops by the fridge and hurls onto the floor, I scoop him up, take him to the sink, clean him up, let him loose, clean the vomit up, and never stopped the conversation the entire time. That’s when she said she had fallen in love with me"
– surfdad67
Learn Something New Everyday
"Knowing a lot of cool facts about weird stuff."
– Breeblez
"The Doritos mush you get on your fingers isn't there for flavor. The creators say that it's for the "Doritos experience.""
– StayGlazzy
"Every 60 seconds, a minute passes in Africa"
– boy_with_reddit
Passion For What You Love
"When he is excited over his interests. My hubs can tell you anything about fish, like any fish at all. Sounds boring, but it's his favorite thing, and I love the way his face lights up when he talks about it."
– kwunschel316
The Roll Up The Sleeves Type
"That thing when they’re wearing a button down shirt and roll up the sleeves."
– echoIalia
"Ugh YES, especially when they take the time to roll them up properly, like sir, please."
– jadakissed143
"And highly concentrated on doing something that requires them to roll up the sleeves. Physical or mental. When I got my first job I pretty much had crush on every guy when they were trying to figure out a problem."
– javalorum
"Ah f**k I only have button up shirts. I need to do some shopping."
– Over_Necessary_738
I totally concur!
Well, what other attraction-worthy traits and qualities should we add? Let us know in the comments below.