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People Share The Most Insensitive Thing Someone's Ever Asked Them

Yo, people are rude AF.

Like maybe they don't mean to be. We hope they don't mean to be. Be it rooted in curiosity, an inability to empathize, or a wicked case of mouth-moves-faster-than-brain, we've all been asked a question or two that made us cringe.

You know the questions I mean. The ones that make you lock eyes with the other people around you like "wait, you heard that too right?" or whip out your phone to text your best friend like "you're never going to believe this"

Except they will believe it because, like we said earlier, people are rude AF and nothing is even that shocking anymore. Anderson Cooper straight up asked Lady Gaga what genitals she has. People straight up ask for a play-by-play rundown of what sex with you is like if you're into anything other than hetero missionary for the purposes of conception.

Speaking of conception, my partner and I lost an advanced pregnancy in mid-October of 2018. By Halloween we had people asking us when we were trying again. I hadn't even been home from the hospital for 48 hours when the first person gave us an actual real-life wink, wink, elbow nudge and asked if we were excited that we get to do "the fun part" of having kids all over again.

Who TF asks that!?!

To honor the spirit of camaraderie (and WTF-ness) let's all hop over to this Reddit thread where people are sharing the most insensitive, wtf, glare-inducing, personal, way over the line, intrusive questions people have asked them.

Ever roll your eyes so hard you give yourself a headache? Well, you're about to. Brace yourself. You're about to enter a world where people think encouraging suicide, asking about children's remains, and questioning if someone's cancer diagnosis was just them being "melodramatic" are all totally normal.

They're very not.

Robbed At Gunpoint

"Why did you give him the money" my managers response to me telling her I got robbed at gun point in our store.

- omg_daisy

In Your Situation

I broke my back when I was a teenager and am paralyzed from the waist down. A girl from school asked me, "Are you planning on killing yourself?"

Me: What? No. Why would I kill myself?

Her: It's just... if I was in your situation...

- manualpropulsion

Double Whammy

When sitting my dad and step mom down to tell them I had cancer. "Are you sure? You're always over dramatic like your mother. She watched too many soap operas"

Then the following months after treatment and a major surgery they told people I didn't have cancer and I faked it. They were they there for the major surgery and the treatments...... So I get asked by family " did you really fake cancer?" Wtf.

- just-another-cat

The Receptionist

As a kid I got into a pretty serious accident that meant daily physical therapy for hours on end for over a year and a lot of time in a wheelchair.

I wasn't of driving age yet (and honestly, probably wouldn't / couldn't have driven myself even if I could).

One day my mum was late to picking me up so I was waiting in the lobby and the receptionist basically said, "Do you even say thank you? Your parents have to deal with a lot because of you, driving you in and out of here every day. Do you even show them you're grateful?"

Like yes, I do. But also, who the hell are you?

- RuleBrifranzia

Mama Bear Mode


"Oh, so you want a Twithx?"

I'm 30 now, but grew up with a lisp. Was in speech therapy for years. When I was about 8 yrs old or so, I went up to a concession stand at my brother's little league game. Asked to buy a Twix.

The teenage guy behind the counter, trying to impress his lady coworker, decided to repeat my words back to me. Made me cry. One of the only times in my life I've ever seen my mom go full Momma Bear. She asked me why I was upset, and when I told her, she marched up to that dinky little stand and tore the guy a new one.

But yeah, that's the first thing I thought of when I saw this question. Weird how little things like that stick with you. Some people fcking suck, but then you get to see the ones who don't. Like my mom. Defender of the little people. Love her.

- KLGAviation

A Daughter's Murder

They asked how my daughter was murdered. I said a knife. They then said "but i mean how? You found her tell me how. What did she look like. Was she tortured?"

This was not a member of law enforcement. They don't ask questions like that. This was a stranger who saw our story on the news and came up to me in a crowded public place when I was with my older daughter and newborn grandson.

I did not react with violence. I was still in shock and numb it was a surreal experience. I responded very loudly that her questions were inappropriate. She came up to me talking super loud that she had saw us on the news so she got everyone's attention.

I figured I'd speak loud enough for everyone to hear in case any of them didn't know it was rude to ask things like that they'd learn that day. She then walked away.

Took a picture (heard her camera go off as she pointed it at us) then called someone and proceeded to loudly tell them she talked to us. I wish I could say this was the only inconsiderate person we've dealt with sadly I cant. But I will say we have had more positive interactions with strangers then negative.

- justiceforosaura

Cremation Questions

Soon after I got home from cremating my child, someone asked if the cremation left chunks of bone and, if so, do they grind that down. Thankfully I saw the humor in it, largely because I could see his wife wanted to kill him.

- McHotSnakes

Arranging A Seizure

I have a seizure-like disorder: chorea-athetosis. They present themselves in these really inconvenient episodes where I lose partial control of body parts.

One time, I was on a date with a dude, and after I told him of my situation he said "Wow it'd be pretty hot to have you seize while we're doing it?. Think you could arrange that?"

Didn't bother with him after that.

- blue-eyed-bear

Hooray For A Miscarriage? 

"Well aren't you happy you had a miscarriage then...or you'd be a single mom now". Asked by my mom while trying to "comfort" me after my fiance cheated. Yeah, no actually, a late traumatic miscarriage + depression+ hormones does NOT make me happy even if he did cheat. But thanks!

- Emscifier



"How does it feel to know your mother is burning in hell?"

After telling my friends mom that my family didn't really subscribe to God or religion. She didn't miss a beat, and then tried to double down why she was right.

- Ithxero

The Perks Of Disability

As a 19 year old disabled woman, I've been asked tons of insensitive things- the most is probably a tie between someone asking me if I'm using a walker for the "perks", and if I'm faking my disability for better accommodation at university.

I cant handwrite, can barely walk without assistance, and cant stand for periods of time. What are the perks and where can I get them??

- mi_ugh

To Make Him Do It

"Why did you tell me? And what did you do to make him do it?"

Asked by a family member after I told them about the abuse I suffered from my ex husband...finally felt safe to talk about it after 6 years and that was the response.

- sweetmeggo22

Prettier When You DON'T Smile

When I was 16 I got asked by some random guy at my aunt's house if I knew that I was prettier when I wasn't smiling. I've always been self conscious of my teeth and he made it so much worse. I'm 28 now and still hate them but will at least smile in some pics.

- Hot_radish


My parents weren't in a good relationship and I was raised by my grandparents. My dad went MIA when I was very young (big shocker) Anyways in elementary school a teacher of all people asked "So you're parents didn't want you? How does that make you feel?" Which wasn't even true. My mother is a great and loving person, she just works night shifts and is scarred from her relationship with my father and couldn't take care of me.

- SMStarStudio


No question, but a statement.

My ex was a typical gaslighter who wanted to control every aspect of my life. He was against my family and friends and tried to kept me away from them. I was very unhappy and gained a lot of weight during that relationship. I had always issues with my weight and had an eating disorder in my teenage years.

After years of psychological abuse I found the strength to leave my ex (thanks to my mum and my best friend!). I've even met a wonderful, intelligent and very lovely new boyfriend. We are in a long distance relationship, but we are skyping every night. And sometimes we get... A little bit naughty during that cam sessions.

It was one of our first sessions.. After the smut.. I was naked and happy, so was he too and he told me out of the blue "I need to get used to your body volume"

Those were his exact words. It hit me like a ton of bricks, merely because my weight was never an issue before that day for him I thought. I felt sexy for him and if we have "real sex" it does never seem that my weight is bugging him at all. We are happy but the statement is still burnt in my mind..

Not as serious as most of the stories here. But that is my story.

- UsePinkFluffyCuffs


I've received plenty of rude comments from my family regarding my weight, but this one stands out.

My two sisters and I were on our hockey practice with our teammates. Our professor divided us by groups, and my oldest sister and I ended up in the same group.

One of our teammates at the time was an overweight girl, Marie, who let it slip once that she was there specifically to lose weight.

When we were in the group, my sister asked me: "Do you want to end up like Marie? Then lose weight."

This one is worse than the others because Marie was right next to us, in the other group. I hated that moment, and I'm sure Marie hated it even more. Marie quit playing hockey later in the year. It's sad, she's a really nice girl.

- notofuhkinkay

How Not To Act, Indeed

"Well have you at least learned your lesson now about how not to act around guys?" After I told an adult I trusted very much that I had been raped.

- chosen_loved

A Little Threesome To Cheer You Up

My boyfriend had taken his life 3 days prior and I was in a place of crying myself to exhaustion and someone who was meant to be my best friend phoned me asking if I wanted to have a threesome with her and her boyfriend to cheer me up now that I was single.

Safe to say we're not friends anymore.

- Deadpoolsgirl

People Reveal The Weirdest Thing About Themselves

Reddit user Isitjustmedownhere asked: 'Give an example; how weird are you really?'

Let's get one thing straight: no one is normal. We're all weird in our own ways, and that is actually normal.

Of course, that doesn't mean we don't all have that one strange trait or quirk that outweighs all the other weirdness we possess.

For me, it's the fact that I'm almost 30 years old, and I still have an imaginary friend. Her name is Sarah, she has red hair and green eyes, and I strongly believe that, since I lived in India when I created her and there were no actual people with red hair around, she was based on Daphne Blake from Scooby-Doo.

I also didn't know the name Sarah when I created her, so that came later. I know she's not really there, hence the term 'imaginary friend,' but she's kind of always been around. We all have conversations in our heads; mine are with Sarah. She keeps me on task and efficient.

My mom thinks I'm crazy that I still have an imaginary friend, and writing about her like this makes me think I may actually be crazy, but I don't mind. As I said, we're all weird, and we all have that one trait that outweighs all the other weirdness.

Redditors know this all too well and are eager to share their weird traits.

It all started when Redditor Isitjustmedownhere asked:

"Give an example; how weird are you really?"

Monsters Under My Bed

"My bed doesn't touch any wall."

"Edit: I guess i should clarify im not rich."

– Practical_Eye_3600

"Gosh the monsters can get you from any angle then."

– bikergirlr7

"At first I thought this was a flex on how big your bedroom is, but then I realized you're just a psycho 😁"

– zenOFiniquity8

Can You See Why?

"I bought one of those super-powerful fans to dry a basement carpet. Afterwards, I realized that it can point straight up and that it would be amazing to use on myself post-shower. Now I squeegee my body with my hands, step out of the shower and get blasted by a wide jet of room-temp air. I barely use my towel at all. Wife thinks I'm weird."

– KingBooRadley


"In 1990 when I was 8 years old and bored on a field trip, I saw a black Oldsmobile Cutlass driving down the street on a hot day to where you could see that mirage like distortion from the heat on the road. I took a “snapshot” by blinking my eyes and told myself “I wonder how long I can remember this image” ….well."

– AquamarineCheetah

"Even before smartphones, I always take "snapshots" by blinking my eyes hoping I'll remember every detail so I can draw it when I get home. Unfortunately, I may have taken so much snapshots that I can no longer remember every detail I want to draw."

"Makes me think my "memory is full.""

– Reasonable-Pirate902

Same, Same

"I have eaten the same lunch every day for the past 4 years and I'm not bored yet."

– OhhGoood

"How f**king big was this lunch when you started?"

– notmyrealnam3

Not Sure Who Was Weirder

"Had a line cook that worked for us for 6 months never said much. My sous chef once told him with no context, "Baw wit da baw daw bang daw bang diggy diggy." The guy smiled, left, and never came back."

– Frostygrunt


"I pace around my house for hours listening to music imagining that I have done all the things I simply lack the brain capacity to do, or in some really bizarre scenarios, I can really get immersed in these imaginations sometimes I don't know if this is some form of schizophrenia or what."

– RandomSharinganUser

"I do the same exact thing, sometimes for hours. When I was young it would be a ridiculous amount of time and many years later it’s sort of trickled off into almost nothing (almost). It’s weird but I just thought it’s how my brain processes sh*t."

– Kolkeia

If Only

"Even as an adult I still think that if you are in a car that goes over a cliff; and right as you are about to hit the ground if you jump up you can avoid the damage and will land safely. I know I'm wrong. You shut up. I'm not crying."

– ShotCompetition2593

Pet Food

"As a kid I would snack on my dog's Milkbones."

– drummerskillit

"Haha, I have a clear memory of myself doing this as well. I was around 3 y/o. Needless to say no one was supervising me."

– Isitjustmedownhere

"When I was younger, one of my responsibilities was to feed the pet fish every day. Instead, I would hide under the futon in the spare bedroom and eat the fish food."

– -GateKeep-

My Favorite Subject

"I'm autistic and have always had a thing for insects. My neurotypical best friend and I used to hang out at this local bar to talk to girls, back in the late 90s. One time he claimed that my tendency to circle conversations back to insects was hurting my game. The next time we went to that bar (with a few other friends), he turned and said sternly "No talking about bugs. Or space, or statistics or other bullsh*t but mainly no bugs." I felt like he was losing his mind over nothing."

"It was summer, the bar had its windows open. Our group hit it off with a group of young ladies, We were all chatting and having a good time. I was talking to one of these girls, my buddy was behind her facing away from me talking to a few other people."

"A cloudless sulphur flies in and lands on little thing that holds coasters."

"Cue Jordan Peele sweating gif."

"The girl notices my tension, and asks if I am looking at the leaf. "Actually, that's a lepidoptera called..." I looked at the back of my friend's head, he wasn't looking, "I mean a butterfly..." I poked it and it spread its wings the girl says "oh that's a BUG?!" and I still remember my friend turning around slowly to look at me with chastisement. The ONE thing he told me not to do."

"I was 21, and was completely not aware that I already had a rep for being an oddball. It got worse from there."

– Phormicidae

*Teeth Chatter*

"I bite ice cream sometimes."


"That's how I am with popsicles. My wife shudders every single time."


Never Speak Of This

"I put ice in my milk."


"You should keep that kind of thing to yourself. Even when asked."

– We-R-Doomed

"There's some disturbing sh*t in this thread, but this one takes the cake."

– RatonaMuffin

More Than Super Hearing

"I can hear the television while it's on mute."

– Tira13e

"What does it say to you, child?"

– Mama_Skip


"I put mustard on my omelettes."

– Deleted User


– NotCrustOr-filling

Evened Up

"Whenever I say a word and feel like I used a half of my mouth more than the other half, I have to even it out by saying the word again using the other half of my mouth more. If I don't do it correctly, that can go on forever until I feel it's ok."

"I do it silently so I don't creep people out."

– LesPaltaX

"That sounds like a symptom of OCD (I have it myself). Some people with OCD feel like certain actions have to be balanced (like counting or making sure physical movements are even). You should find a therapist who specializes in OCD, because they can help you."

– MoonlightKayla

I totally have the same need for things to be balanced! Guess I'm weird and a little OCD!

Close up face of a woman in bed, staring into the camera
Photo by Jen Theodore

Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.

Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?

But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.

It would be so great to be sure there is something else.

But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.

Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:

"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"


Happy Good Vibes GIF by Major League SoccerGiphy

"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."



"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."

"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."

"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."


Take Me Back

"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."

"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."



The Light Minnie GIF by (G)I-DLEGiphy

"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."


This is why I hate surgery.

You just never know.



"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."



"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."

"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”



"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"


"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"


The Fog

"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."

"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."


Through the Walls

"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."

"She's quite alive and well today."


Well let's all be happy to be alive.

It seems to be all we have.

Man's waist line
Santhosh Vaithiyanathan/Unsplash

Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.

The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.

Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.

Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:

"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"

Redditors didn't see these coming.

Shiver Me Timbers

"I’m always cold now!"

– Telrom_1

"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."

– r7ndom

"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."

– mr_remy

Drawing Concern

"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."

– dee-fondy

"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"

"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."

– LizardofDeath

Unleashing Insults

"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”

"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."

– alanamablamaspama

Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight

"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."

– KeltarCentauri

"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."

– KatMagic1977

"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."

– Jaew96

These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.


"I can buy clothes in any store I want."

– WaySavvyD

"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."

– ganache98012

No More Symptoms

"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."

– colleennicole93

Expanding Capabilities

"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."

– Ramblonius

People Change Their Tune

"How much nicer people are to you."

"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"

– LiZZygsu

"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"

"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"

– awholedamngarden

It's gonna take some getting used to.

Bones Everywhere

"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."

– Princess-Pancake-97

"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."

– bekastrange

Knee Pillow

"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."

– snic2030

"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."

– Strongbad23

More Mobility

"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."

"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."

– dma1965

People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.

But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.

That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.