Yo, people are rude AF.
Like maybe they don't mean to be. We hope they don't mean to be. Be it rooted in curiosity, an inability to empathize, or a wicked case of mouth-moves-faster-than-brain, we've all been asked a question or two that made us cringe.
You know the questions I mean. The ones that make you lock eyes with the other people around you like "wait, you heard that too right?" or whip out your phone to text your best friend like "you're never going to believe this"
Except they will believe it because, like we said earlier, people are rude AF and nothing is even that shocking anymore. Anderson Cooper straight up asked Lady Gaga what genitals she has. People straight up ask for a play-by-play rundown of what sex with you is like if you're into anything other than hetero missionary for the purposes of conception.
Speaking of conception, my partner and I lost an advanced pregnancy in mid-October of 2018. By Halloween we had people asking us when we were trying again. I hadn't even been home from the hospital for 48 hours when the first person gave us an actual real-life wink, wink, elbow nudge and asked if we were excited that we get to do "the fun part" of having kids all over again.
Who TF asks that!?!
To honor the spirit of camaraderie (and WTF-ness) let's all hop over to this Reddit thread where people are sharing the most insensitive, wtf, glare-inducing, personal, way over the line, intrusive questions people have asked them.
Ever roll your eyes so hard you give yourself a headache? Well, you're about to. Brace yourself. You're about to enter a world where people think encouraging suicide, asking about children's remains, and questioning if someone's cancer diagnosis was just them being "melodramatic" are all totally normal.
They're very not.
Robbed At Gunpoint
"Why did you give him the money" my managers response to me telling her I got robbed at gun point in our store.
In Your Situation
I broke my back when I was a teenager and am paralyzed from the waist down. A girl from school asked me, "Are you planning on killing yourself?"
Me: What? No. Why would I kill myself?
Her: It's just... if I was in your situation...
Double Whammy
When sitting my dad and step mom down to tell them I had cancer. "Are you sure? You're always over dramatic like your mother. She watched too many soap operas"
Then the following months after treatment and a major surgery they told people I didn't have cancer and I faked it. They were they there for the major surgery and the treatments...... So I get asked by family " did you really fake cancer?" Wtf.
The Receptionist
As a kid I got into a pretty serious accident that meant daily physical therapy for hours on end for over a year and a lot of time in a wheelchair.
I wasn't of driving age yet (and honestly, probably wouldn't / couldn't have driven myself even if I could).
One day my mum was late to picking me up so I was waiting in the lobby and the receptionist basically said, "Do you even say thank you? Your parents have to deal with a lot because of you, driving you in and out of here every day. Do you even show them you're grateful?"
Like yes, I do. But also, who the hell are you?
Mama Bear Mode
"Oh, so you want a Twithx?"
I'm 30 now, but grew up with a lisp. Was in speech therapy for years. When I was about 8 yrs old or so, I went up to a concession stand at my brother's little league game. Asked to buy a Twix.
The teenage guy behind the counter, trying to impress his lady coworker, decided to repeat my words back to me. Made me cry. One of the only times in my life I've ever seen my mom go full Momma Bear. She asked me why I was upset, and when I told her, she marched up to that dinky little stand and tore the guy a new one.
But yeah, that's the first thing I thought of when I saw this question. Weird how little things like that stick with you. Some people fcking suck, but then you get to see the ones who don't. Like my mom. Defender of the little people. Love her.
A Daughter's Murder
They asked how my daughter was murdered. I said a knife. They then said "but i mean how? You found her tell me how. What did she look like. Was she tortured?"
This was not a member of law enforcement. They don't ask questions like that. This was a stranger who saw our story on the news and came up to me in a crowded public place when I was with my older daughter and newborn grandson.
I did not react with violence. I was still in shock and numb it was a surreal experience. I responded very loudly that her questions were inappropriate. She came up to me talking super loud that she had saw us on the news so she got everyone's attention.
I figured I'd speak loud enough for everyone to hear in case any of them didn't know it was rude to ask things like that they'd learn that day. She then walked away.
Took a picture (heard her camera go off as she pointed it at us) then called someone and proceeded to loudly tell them she talked to us. I wish I could say this was the only inconsiderate person we've dealt with sadly I cant. But I will say we have had more positive interactions with strangers then negative.
Cremation Questions
Soon after I got home from cremating my child, someone asked if the cremation left chunks of bone and, if so, do they grind that down. Thankfully I saw the humor in it, largely because I could see his wife wanted to kill him.
Arranging A Seizure
I have a seizure-like disorder: chorea-athetosis. They present themselves in these really inconvenient episodes where I lose partial control of body parts.
One time, I was on a date with a dude, and after I told him of my situation he said "Wow it'd be pretty hot to have you seize while we're doing it?. Think you could arrange that?"
Didn't bother with him after that.
Hooray For A Miscarriage?
"Well aren't you happy you had a miscarriage then...or you'd be a single mom now". Asked by my mom while trying to "comfort" me after my fiance cheated. Yeah, no actually, a late traumatic miscarriage + depression+ hormones does NOT make me happy even if he did cheat. But thanks!
Burning
"How does it feel to know your mother is burning in hell?"
After telling my friends mom that my family didn't really subscribe to God or religion. She didn't miss a beat, and then tried to double down why she was right.
- Ithxero
The Perks Of Disability
As a 19 year old disabled woman, I've been asked tons of insensitive things- the most is probably a tie between someone asking me if I'm using a walker for the "perks", and if I'm faking my disability for better accommodation at university.
I cant handwrite, can barely walk without assistance, and cant stand for periods of time. What are the perks and where can I get them??
- mi_ugh
To Make Him Do It
"Why did you tell me? And what did you do to make him do it?"
Asked by a family member after I told them about the abuse I suffered from my ex husband...finally felt safe to talk about it after 6 years and that was the response.
Prettier When You DON'T Smile
When I was 16 I got asked by some random guy at my aunt's house if I knew that I was prettier when I wasn't smiling. I've always been self conscious of my teeth and he made it so much worse. I'm 28 now and still hate them but will at least smile in some pics.
Unwanted
My parents weren't in a good relationship and I was raised by my grandparents. My dad went MIA when I was very young (big shocker) Anyways in elementary school a teacher of all people asked "So you're parents didn't want you? How does that make you feel?" Which wasn't even true. My mother is a great and loving person, she just works night shifts and is scarred from her relationship with my father and couldn't take care of me.
Volume
No question, but a statement.
My ex was a typical gaslighter who wanted to control every aspect of my life. He was against my family and friends and tried to kept me away from them. I was very unhappy and gained a lot of weight during that relationship. I had always issues with my weight and had an eating disorder in my teenage years.
After years of psychological abuse I found the strength to leave my ex (thanks to my mum and my best friend!). I've even met a wonderful, intelligent and very lovely new boyfriend. We are in a long distance relationship, but we are skyping every night. And sometimes we get... A little bit naughty during that cam sessions.
It was one of our first sessions.. After the smut.. I was naked and happy, so was he too and he told me out of the blue "I need to get used to your body volume"
Those were his exact words. It hit me like a ton of bricks, merely because my weight was never an issue before that day for him I thought. I felt sexy for him and if we have "real sex" it does never seem that my weight is bugging him at all. We are happy but the statement is still burnt in my mind..
Not as serious as most of the stories here. But that is my story.
Marie
I've received plenty of rude comments from my family regarding my weight, but this one stands out.
My two sisters and I were on our hockey practice with our teammates. Our professor divided us by groups, and my oldest sister and I ended up in the same group.
One of our teammates at the time was an overweight girl, Marie, who let it slip once that she was there specifically to lose weight.
When we were in the group, my sister asked me: "Do you want to end up like Marie? Then lose weight."
This one is worse than the others because Marie was right next to us, in the other group. I hated that moment, and I'm sure Marie hated it even more. Marie quit playing hockey later in the year. It's sad, she's a really nice girl.
How Not To Act, Indeed
"Well have you at least learned your lesson now about how not to act around guys?" After I told an adult I trusted very much that I had been raped.
A Little Threesome To Cheer You Up
My boyfriend had taken his life 3 days prior and I was in a place of crying myself to exhaustion and someone who was meant to be my best friend phoned me asking if I wanted to have a threesome with her and her boyfriend to cheer me up now that I was single.
Safe to say we're not friends anymore.
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Have you ever heard of a certain job that people call a career and thought... "PEOPLE PAY YOU FOR THAT?!?!"
All hard, honest work is good work.
And then there is just trash work.
And I don't mean garbage collection, that is honest work.
I don't know how some people live with themselves.
Redditor MrTuxedo1 wanted to discuss the careers they don't believe people should chase. They asked:
"What job do you have no respect for?"
Ticket scalpers. How do you the audacity to say that's a job?
Actual burglars have more empathy.
Disrespectful
"There are debt collectors who call relatives of the deceased to pay off their debts when they are not legally obligated to."
Top_Gun_2021
Shady. Shady.
"Australian Real Estate Agents. Laws don't seem to apply to them. Just as dodgy in sales and rentals alike. Never seen anything like it overseas."
snave_
"I'm in the US, it can vary state by state but my state is pretty strict on realtor laws. Some states require attorney review and there are definitely penalties for being reported for shady sh*t. It does require consumer reporting though."
ilostmytaco
Etransfer
"Where I live, tax info was leaked and now scammers are targeting low income individuals/families (people earning under 30,000 per year) with etransfer scams. I got one the other day that was an etransfer warning that 240$ 'a family member sent me' was about to expire."
SnowyInuk
"That’s disgusting. The scammers know what they’re doing, they know the harm they cause people and yet they don’t care."
surelysandwitch
Should be illegal...
"MLM managers. Not the low level idiots that get suckered into it, they suck too for trying to bring new people into that sh*tshow, but the people who create them know exactly what they are doing and are pretty much the only ones who profit off of it. Should be illegal. Pyramid schemes are illegal. None of them ever get the just desserts except occasionally by vigilantes I assume."
Wereno
I hate debt collectors. Yeah, you calling me one hundred times a week is going to miraculously make money appear.
Animals
"Paparazzi."
VictorBlimpmuscle
"I met Jack Gleeson (King Joffrey from Game of Thrones) at a bus stop in Dublin. Really nice guy but he said he quit acting due to people being nasty online and constant hounding from paparrazi. He's happier now but it sucks that he was pushed away from a career he was quite good at."
goobi94
Scumbags
"The pastors at mega churches whom ask their followers for money for private jets. Absolute scum to abuse others faith for your own greed."
ichancho
"Brian Tamaki is a greedy freaking pig, he takes advantage of so many people who are already struggling. Every time he’s in the local news (which btw is often) I get more and more pissed off at him and his wife. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brian_Tamaki "
surelysandwitch
it’s a thing???
“'Dating Expert.' Sadly it’s a thing. It’s basically a self appointed title that requires no training or qualifications. What’s worse, is that I have a female friend who uses one. It’s very much a blind leading the blind situation."
Mean_Manufacturer_61
"Most of the self proclaimed “dating coaches” I know are women in their late 30s or early 40s who have never been married or had a longer relationship."
ipozgaj
EVIL
"Poachers. Especially big game poachers who purposefully hunt nearly extinct animals from species they know they are on the brink."
"I know there are poachers that come from rural villages who are trying to just put food on the table, which has my sympathy but poachers who come from money and hunt down animals minding their business in most shelters or restricted areas just to put a head on their wall as a trophy are absolutely heinous."
GetterdoneObiwan
I See It All
"Psychic Mediums. Specifically those who prey on the grieving."
JamesDeadite
"I've always found it interesting how many magicians go after people like this. I think it's because they know what it takes to trick people for the art. The slight of hand and mentalism. And they abhor people who use these tactics for such sh*tty purposes."
34HoldOn
I want so bad to believe in psychics and mediums. What say we on that topic?
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The nose is constantly being attacked by odors of the world.
Going through one day without having to hold my breath during a certain point, is a miracle.
Of course, I'm a New Yorker, so I maybe exaggerating for people in the countryside.
What's funnier is odors that are pleasant, that shouldn't be.
Have you ever looked and something and thought... "yuck."
But then you smelled it and it was like... "oh lovely,"
Redditor HappQueue wanted to know what aromas are arousing to the senses that may come as a surprise to many. They asked:
"What smells good but shouldn't?"
For some odd reason I love the things burning. Anything, food, pots, pans. You name it. Weird.
Blow
"Matches/candles on a birthday cake. I remember lighting matches as a kid purely to blow them out and inhale that sweet match-y smell."
semispooked
"guilty good"
"I work at a Chemical plant. We make a highly acidic product that is dark blue, viscus, highly corrosive, and smells exactly like Fruit Loops. It is incredibly disturbing."
Turin082
"Organic chemistry has many 'guilty good' smells. Thiophosgene (sulfur derivative of a chemical weapon used extensively in WW1) apparently smells like meat. Phosgene is used to make polycarbonate, thiophosgene is used to make some sulfur-containing molecules which eventually end up in therapeutic drugs."
HammerTh_1701
I can't huff it...
"Paint, specifically house paint. I love the smell. But anytime I hear that anyone is painting a room or their house, I volunteer. I just love sitting on the floor in a room that's been freshly painted, closing my eyes and just inhaling that slightly chemically, slightly creamy aroma."
Neowza
A Hint of French...
"A fish and chips shop burnt down as couple blocks from work a few years ago. The whole neighborhood smelled amazing for days. Just the slight hint of French fries. Nothing overpowering. It was so awesome. Until I found out someone was trapped in the fire and died."
stevey_frac
Drag
"Race fuel. Instantly puts me in a good mood as it reminds me of going to the drag races with my dad when I was young."
garfnodie
Fuel and matches get me too. And they sort of go together. Interesting.
Just like the Movie...
"The water from the Pirates of the Caribbean ride. Mmm, bromine."
Stalkerslovemy
"This is one of my favorite scents of all time, and Disney is very aware that people enjoy it. Evidently it’s a lot harder to recreate than just adding bromine to water."
cash4panties
"black widow".
"There's a chicken wing restaurant near my house that has a challenge sauce called "black widow." The owner claims it to be around 500,000 scovilles. A few years back some buddies and I decided to try them, the sauce was a dark molasses color and smelled almost like a BBQ sauce, no hint of the danger that lurked at all. We each grabbed one wing and it went terribly. I don't know how something so spicy could smell so innocent."
Final-Chapter
Endless Weekend
"Hotel/rented rooms whenever you go on vacation. There's this particular smell that just says 'you are on vacation,' especially on a beach/swimming trips/out-of-the-town vacays."
Yummy_Llama
"Bath and Body Works has a plug-in scent called Endless Weekend that replicates that scent (to my humble nose)."
Exxcentrica
"oh no..."
"Someone you are attracted to's body odors. Anyone else who is slightly unhygienic smells repulsive."
Mini_gunslinger
"I remember back in high school a girl leaned over, sniffed me, told me that I smelled really good, and asked me what cologne I was wearing. I asked if she was joking, and she's like, no, you smell really good. When I told her I had just gotten done with gym class, she gets a small 'oh no...' look on her face and turns away. I think we both had a revelation that day."
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That Smell
"The smell inflatable things give off. I have no idea how to describe it, but it’s… nostalgic? to me."
crestfxllen
I do love the smell of plastics and inflatables. Ahh....
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At one point in time, we've misplaced things that we've considered priceless possessions.
It's hard to imagine how to go on without the lost object–whatever it may be–but over time, it becomes a distant memory and we move on.
That is until we magically find ourselves presented with this opportunity proposed by Redditor mikehotel288, who asked:
"You find yourself in a room with everything you’ve ever lost in your life. What do you look for first?"
There are necessities people cannot do without.
No More Dry Lips Ever Again
"Gonna be a lot of chapstick in that room."
– camefromxbox
There are things that bring us comfort and are irreplaceable.
Safety Blanket
"My baby blanket. It became tattered over the years—to the point where I couldn’t reasonably wash it anymore—so I had to throw it away a little while back."
"I have heavily regretted that decision. I was really attached to it (hence it being in tatters), but I really wish that I kept what was left of it instead of throwing it away. Just knowing that I’d still have it would be a huge comfort to me."
– Uearie
Sentimental Heirloom
"The pendant my dad had made for me with my grandmother’s engagement diamond. It was 2 carats. It disappeared from a Las Vegas hotel room 20 years ago. It was hidden deep in a suitcase where it would not have been easy to find. It was just GONE. Cops didn’t do anything. Didn’t even come to take my statement. Cleaning lady said she thought she saw an elderly man enter my room. The guy I was with was not sympathetic in the least. Entire situation was f**ked. I’m still so upset about it."
– MaritimeDisaster
Lone Shark
"My plastic shark toy I lost when I was 10. Ain't no f'king way it just VANISHED."
– Guilty_As_Charged__
Not everything lost is tangible.
Tick Tock
"The time I wasted."
– shinyfennec
It Holds Value
"My private key with 6 BTC in it."
– Significant_Mirror19
"I didn't lose one, but I'll check my room for yours just in case."
– Smodphan
Finding Purpose
"The reason I walked into the room."
– Lloyd_lyle
Lost Opportunity
"That one girl i spoke to on omegle lol"
– h-amishh
If only we get to reunite with those we've lost.
The Loved Family Member
"My grandpa."
– Splatty_boi_420
Grieving Parent
"My daughter. She’ll be in my brother’s arms. So I’ll find both things I care to look for."
– SeeTheFence
Missing Mom
"My mom. She died of cancer in 2017. She never got to meet my daughter. I miss the hell out of her and wish she was still part of my family’s life."
– X-Arkturis-X
The Animals That Come Into Our Lives
"My pets that have passed: especially my horse, Blue. It's been 4 years, but it feels like just yesterday."
– Baciandrio
While many of these scenarios are unlikely, the thread gave people an opportunity to reflect on the things that made a strong impression on their lives.
Sometimes, the memories of the things we've lost–whether they are random objects or sources of love–is all we have.
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What's worse than returning home from a night out or a workday and discovering your home was broken into? Being home when the break-in happens.
Home invasions are a common trope portrayed in horror films like The Strangers and Funny Games, and they're absolutely terrifying because they are based on real-life incidents.
Redditor silentagent47 asked strangers to consider this horrifying hypothetical.
"You have 5 minutes to prepare before a guy breaks into your house with the intention to kill you. You can not exit your house. What is your strategy to survive?"
The hunter becomes the hunted, inspired by TV and movies.
Duplicating A Scene
"There was an episode of Burn Notice where Michael puts aerosol cans in the microwave with kitchen utensils and hits popcorn button. I really want to know if this works or not."
– JohnSterlingSanchez
Epic Burglar Trap
"Speed-watch Home Alone."
– pluribusduim
It's about the choice of weapon.
Jump Scare
"I get the vacuum cleaner ready in a certain room, I turn it on as hes about to enter to create a distraction, then I jump out when he's inspecting the noise and bonk the f'ker on the head with the piece of 2 inch steel tube I keep as a weapon."
– BustedBastard
Beware of Dog
"Unleash the Hounds"
– myassonreddit
Make A Weapon
"Duct tape a bunch of knives to the end of one of those tall lamps to make a spear of blinding and then proceed to go sicko mode."
– DubTheeBustocles
Preparing For A Thwack
"Turn shower on, for some reason I have a shovel behind my wardrobe?? So grab that. Wait for him to check shower, whack with shovel. Boom."
– hypersp00p
It's Just A Game
"Corner camp with a shotgun."
– Arrow3619
A Warm Welcome
"Hairspray and a lighter to his face."
– WorkingClassSheep
The effectiveness of these tactics are questionable, but points for creativity are warranted.
Stand Still
"Put a lamp shade on my head and stand in the corner of the room."
– Cannabis_Sir
Make It Erotic
"I turn on all the lights, take off all my clothes, rub butter all over myself, and start a fake conversation on the phone. As soon as he breaks in I say into the phone: 'I’ve gotta go, my next appointment is finally here…”
– FrankieTheAlchemist
Forget The Stairs
"Go to the LIVING ROOM."
– on-oath-never-again
Removing The Element Of Fun
"Draw an X on my forehead and grab a beer."
– Candycoatedmuffin3
And that's why I would opt for living in a commune or apartment complex.
People who own houses are just asking for forced entry.
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