In 1990, pop superstar Madonna released "Justify My Love." Despite reaching number one on the Billboard Hot 100, the single was censored on networks like MTV for its sexually explicit lyrics, themes, and video.
Right in the midst of the controversy, Madonna went on ABC News to defend her video, delivering a message about human sexuality that's still very relevant today.
Madonna's words were ahead of their time:
Madonna Nightline Interview December 3, 1990youtu.be
When asked about the possibility of a 10-year-old child turning on MTV and seeing her music video, which features Madonna being seduced into a threesome in a hotel room, she responded that anything that started an open dialogue about sex between parents and their children was a positive step.
Madonna pisando nos conservadores em 2 minutos de vídeo! Eu amo uma ARTISTA! ❤ https://t.co/bmihXJvz2u— Caio · resista como uma araucária no natal 🌲 (@Caio · resista como uma araucária no natal 🌲) 1544328398.0
MTV also took issue with Madonna openly displaying her nipples in 1990, a controversy that persists to this day in other forms. Tumblr recently enraged its user base by banning absolutely all images of "female presenting nipples" in an attempt to purge its site of NSFW content.
i just love how #Tumblr staff cares more about 'female presenting nipples' then they do about actual nazis and white supremacists etc.— danny's diddie (@danny's diddie) 1545030972.0
not the best look for tumblr to try cutesily distancing itself from "female-presenting nipples" while actually doub… https://t.co/oMPgyj8Xws— Rave Sashayed (@Rave Sashayed) 1545062343.0
When further asked about the "adult content" in her video, Madonna replied with sarcasm:
"I think MTV should have their violence hour and I think they should have their degradation to women hour. If we're going to have censorship, let's not be hypocrites about it. Let's not have double standards. We already have these videos that have violence and show degradation to women being shown 24 hours a day, but yet they don't want a video playing that deals with sex between two consenting adults."
Madonna - Justify My Lovewww.youtube.com
Fans loved Madonna's take on sexuality, surprisingly relevant years before its time!
I ♥️ Madonna! The world would be a poorer place without her in it. #authentic #fun #brave https://t.co/kFt1AqMVZg— Helen (@Helen) 1544880590.0
@Independent It's probably more accurate to say those issues were relevant then and have become relevant again. We… https://t.co/U6hmlx8ZNJ— Existentialism (@Existentialism) 1544885386.0
And, at the end of the day, her approach to sexuality paid huge dividends.
@cr_nna Fave Quote Interviewer:"But in the end you're gonna wind up makeing even more $ than you would have." Madonna: "Yeah so lucky me!"— Tranny Force (@Tranny Force) 1544905424.0
Madonna was, is, and will always be pop royalty. Though we likely haven't come as far as she hoped, the world owes her a debt of gratitude for starting conversations about human sexuality we weren't willing to have before.
Madonna - Secretwww.youtube.com
Madonna - Erotica (Official Music Video)www.youtube.com
Redditor Deviant55 wanted to talk about physical intimacy in relationships, so they asked:
"How important is sex to you in a relationship? Could you be with someone you love even if sex was off the table indefinitely?"
I learned how much sex matters in my last relationship.
Once I wasn't interested, it kind of killed everything.
Forever
GIF by moodmanGiphy"When my wife of 30+ years became too ill for sex to be even remotely interesting for her, I certainly did not end the relationship. I loved her and I took care of her until she died. No other course even occurred to me."
fvillion
Frustration
"When I met my wife we couldn’t keep our hands off each other. This lasted a few years. I was in my mid-twenties when we married. She developed a chronic medical issue. I’ve gone twenty years being sexually frustrated. There are stages and phases to this."
"What I came to realize is that I love my wife. Yes, sex is important in our relationship. But I would rather have her in my life with no sex than have sex without her."
"The thing is, I love her. She can’t help her situation. I can’t help it. One deals with it. Marriage is more than sex. It is building a life and memories, raising a family, and loving each other regardless of the challenges life throws our way. But sex is very important. It helps keep the closeness and the emotional bond. But it isn’t the only thing that does that."
QuietusNoctis
I Love Her
"It is complicated. I am in a near-sexless marriage. The wife needs antidepressants to function. And it kills her libido. So usually it is four to six times a year. My libido rages. And yeah, it sucks. I dream of more sex."
"But I love the chick. She loves me to the moon and back. I’m not willing to sacrifice her love so I can try dating again. Divorce rates these days? And I found a woman who more than tolerates me, she loves me. I’ll stay. And not to be crude but yeah I masturbate. A lot. She doesn’t begrudge me that. Occasionally she even encourages it."
"She went off her meds for a while. And man did we do it. But she was a mess. I need her healthy more than I need a shag. We travel together. We enjoy each other’s company. We actually like each other. I could claim that it is hell, but I choose to see all of the good I am blessed with."
painthawg_goose
Heartless
"Quite important. But I think it depends on where you are in the relationship. I've been married for 10 years. I have kids. If my wife suddenly couldn't have sex with me for some reason -- illness or injury or something -- I'm not divorcing her over it. That's heartless."
"Now, if she just decided we weren't ever having sex again because she didn't feel like it, that'd be different. Or if I was just starting to date someone and they told me they'd never have sex, I probably just wouldn't keep pursuing the relationship. Plenty of people out there who will."
Arkhangelzk
Necessity
"It depends on the circumstances. I LOVE doing it with my man but I love his heart and soul more. If we had to stop having sex for medical reasons or something I’d definitely stay with him and stay faithful. If I was single, I think it’s unlikely I’d start a new relationship knowing it would be sex free."
Fit_Technology8240
Heart and soul is just as necessary and hot and sweaty.
At least a lot of people recognize that.
Percentages
Giphy"Sex life is 10% of a relationship when it’s good and 90% of a relationship when it’s bad."
jakovichontwitch
"The other way I've heard it put is that sex is like the bathroom in your house. It's not the only reason you bought the house, but if it's not working it's a big problem."
molten_dragon
Age Related
"50-year-old here married for 27 years. It’s not important. It was important when we were younger but honestly, if sex wasn’t possible I would still love my wife and really nothing about our day would really change."
Kantforall
"I’ve been reading these comments and wishing that everyone’s age was flared on their post because I sense that there are a lot of under-60-year-olds. I am older than my wife but she is starting menopause and I can see the writing on the wall. Not super thrilled but I love her completely and understand. The real intimacy is in how we still (and will always) want to sleep touching each other and waking up next to each other."
caffeinated-hijinx
Kiss Me
"I honestly considered this before. I absolutely adored this guy. It was like a child relationship; we'd kiss and cuddle and hold hands and things, but he wouldn't have sex with me, nor would he commit properly. Any time we came close to sex, he'd go soft or back off."
"I couldn't understand it, wondered if I could keep doing that. My sex drive was wild. Why kiss and the rest but not sex?"
"Then one day he told me he was in love with me and asked me out properly. I said yes there and then, had a wonderful day with him, but when I went home, I was left questioning if I could possibly live without sex. I decided that yeah, I loved him but it would be tough."
"We had sex the next day. So yes, I think I probably could."
Adventurous_Train_48
Touchy/affectionate...
"It's very important. I'm a very affectionate and physical person and touch/caresses and anything physical is one of my love languages. I couldn't function with someone who is the opposite of me or who's uncomfortable with how I am. I already was in a relationship with someone who wasn't that touchy/affectionate and it created frustration for both of us."
Borboleta77
Don't Look at Me
"I am in a sexless relationship. He has erectile dysfunction and I really don't like sex in general. I'm really uncomfortable naked or even vulnerable. I'm shy around him despite the relationship being 10 years nearly, I'm even shy around my family and friends. Everything about sex makes me feel so embarrassed, and I feel nothing but negative feelings when I used to be sexually active. Not through choice of partner, I just hate that sort of attention."
NucularOrchid
Definitive!
Shake Handshake GIF by OriginalsGiphy"10/10. Sexual incompatibility is a deal breaker!"
oeeiae
Sex is important but not everything.
Until it is everything if it becomes an issue.
Good luck couples. Open and honest communication is key.