People Explain Which Things They Always Loved Doing Until They Totally Lost Interest

People Explain Which Things They Always Loved Doing Until They Totally Lost Interest

If you love something it's supposed to be forever right?

Well, if you're one of my regular readers, then you know better by now.

One Reddit user asked:

What did you think you'd always enjoy doing, until the day came when you realized the spark was totally gone?

and the comments were honestly a little heartbreaking.

It's Reddit, so you're typically not looking for any real profound statement on the nature of mankind, depression, and capitalism.

Buuuuuuuuut that's exactly the hellscape we got. Come stroll with us through a graveyard of dead dreams and long-gone joy.

Gamer Growth

Video Games 80S GIFGiphy

Video games.

For most of the first 25 years of my life I loved games. And then one day I sort of just said "why?"

And have really touched any in the last 7 years and haven't had much of a desire to.

- thesheep_1

As much as I enjoy video games...I find as I get older...I have less time for it. Other priorities take place and before I know it...not much free time.

It also doesn't help that gaming companies that I grew up with...are now corporate asshats and not the 'revolutionary' icons they once were (looking at you Blizzard)...the constant 'made for multiplayer online'...f*ck that shit. (looking at you Rockstar).

All my gaming friends slowly move on with their respective paths (having kids, marriage, new job --> new hours, homeowner --> homeowner problems, school-related stuff with kids, maintenance, scheduling appointments with doctors for care of self, or a mechanic to fix your vehicle) the time I get home, I'd almost rather catch up on a TV episode of a popular TV show, because 30-45 minutes is more doable then trying to play Red Dead Redemption 2.

Also, relationships.

I will never forget being a 25 year old and witnessing a former co-worker...a 40-year old single, white, bald, male...who spent his free time playing 'Call of Duty', smoking cigarettes, and drinking cases of shit made me think "I don't want to be 'that guy' when I get older"

- Supaspex

7 or 8 Other Things 

Playing guitar.

I've played for 20 years and for the first roughly 13 years I could sit and play pretty much all day every day. When I went back to college and started taking my education seriously I started losing interest.

I still pick it up and play but I haven't written any new music in well over a year and most of the time there are like 7 or 8 other things I prefer doing instead.

There were certain people that I collaborated with a lot and some of them still play music and some of them don't but I moved far away enough from them that collaboration wasn't as easy. They were all people I knew in Orange County, CA but then I moved to Los Angeles after college and now I live in Idaho.

There is this one guy in particular that I used to play music with the most. Him and I always kind of understood each others' visions for a piece of music pretty well and just generally really understood how the other approached writing music.

He still writes and records all of the time and he's considering moving out here. If he does I wouldn't be surprised if that ends up being the push to get me really into playing again.

- tim_to_tourach

Doodle Depression

Drawing. I loved to doodle and try and draw whatever popped into my head. Even tried learning new styles to try out but eventually that feeling just slowly died. Drew a few things from a tutorial video a few months back, but that's about it. Pretty depressing honestly.

- staying_golden1

I used to love drawing and painting too, and aced AP art...but now I look at a blank piece of paper and have zero inspiration. It's sad.

- 5leeplessinvancouver

Happier As A Hobby

Nervous Season 6 GIF by Paramount+Giphy


Loved it as a teen. Made my own grad dress, won an award and a scholarship for my skills. Tried it as a job and it just killed any and all desire for it.

It stopped being fun. It stopped being a creative outlet for me.

It's really sad, cuz I had skills. I've tried to pick it back up in recent years, but I just can't seem to care like I did back then.

- alabardios

Same with knitting for me, which I picked it up as a hobby. Parents realized that I could make useful stuff and tried to push me into selling it. I never want to turn this hobby into a job; it would kill off all the benefits of being a relaxing way to pass the time.

- ladyoffate13

Are you me? Working in the fashion industry is such a goddamn soul suck. I'll probably never go back. I hoped to get my creative inspo back after a sabbatical but it's been almost 4 years since I quit my job and I've barely touched my sewing machine (except to make a handful of masks for a few close friends and family last year).

I hate when people find out I sew and ask me if I can make them something...

- sxeoompaloompa

Reading Used To Be FUNdamental

I was an avid reader since kindergarden up till uni. After that life just got in the way and I never picked up any books for the past 10 years....?

Still reads to my kids tho. Just, I don't have the energy to read mine.

- shfaeman

As child, schoolboy, and student I used to absolutely devour books. I always had one in my pocket or bag.

From Dumas to Dickens I lived in those pages and had travels, adventure, and experiences that still remain clear and potent for me all this time later. When the demands of later adult life made this impossible I felt the loss keenly.

I found that an Audible account was the solution, I can fit books into the interstices of my day, and a good unabridged reading doesn't leave you feeling dissatisfied.

It'll never be the same as the the intense personal connection I had with books from my days as a true reader. But it suffices for these years until I can again.

- DrNecessiter


In elementary and middle school I would burn through books like no tomorrow. I would read whenever I had free time. I would sit under the playground, in the library, at lunch, anywhere really. I would even read in secret when I was supposed to be paying attention in class.

I don’t have that passion for reading anymore and it genuinely makes me depressed. I’ve been trying to get back into it, but even with books I enjoy reading it takes much longer to get through it.

- ThatGamingKid45


When I was younger you could not pull my head out of a book. I took such joy out of it, staying up till 3am just to finish a book (a much more impressive feat for a 11/12 year old). I could read for hours and hours, my favorite books were battered and stained because of how many times I read them. I've been trying to do the same now but I've had 3 books on the go for a few years now and they never seem to get finished.

I took a break to focus on my education and never got the drive back, I miss the joy I felt from a good book. Hope I can find one that'll bring that back.

- oohlalalllama

Obviously a huge chunk of people lamented things they lost in childhood - but childhood wasn't the only lost joy people wanted to talk about. We kind of expect to outgrow things we loved in our younger years anyway, right?

A lot of folks had something they were passionate for even as adults only to have that slip through the cracks as well.

Like Prostitution

Writing. I always thought it'd be a passion I'd have for life, but in the past year or two everything I've tried to write has been sh!t.

Slowly I've stopped even trying.

- Without_Mystery

"Writing is like prostitution. First you do it for love, and then for a few close friends, and then for money. " -- Molière

- tamsui_tosspot

I have been writing since I was seven, got a BA in English, and thought for sure I'd be a famous writer someday.

I very gradually wrote less and less over the years and now I am almost fifty and can barely muster inspiration to to churn out so much as a short poem. Looking back I tend to wonder if it was passion or if it just happened to be something I was good at that earned me praise and that validation is what fueled my motivation.

Now I don't care what people think of me so much so I just watch Netflix instead.😃

- AmyKeeBee

All Of The Above

Everything here.

Playing guitar, writing, video games, I guess I just lost it all.

I'm not in my teens anymore when everything was so deep. I'm just going through the motions of life as a mid 30 year old. Working, and going home and repeat.

The friends have narrowed down to about 1, the job is tolerable at best. I'm drunk now so that's why I'm spilling. I can't find something that gives me that spark but I'm hopeful for the future.

- Omegawolf83

Dude aside from the drunk part and hopeful about the future. Are you me?!??!?!😲

Like for real, I lost interest in writing first, then gaming, have one good friend, work then home, mid 30's... duuuude. And to be honest, losing interest in so much stuff, has had me question if I'm secretly depressed, and just don't know it or what?

- LurkingAintEasy

It's been years since I legitimately looked forward to anything or enjoyed something for any decent period of time.

- Linchey1

Hostile Hostels

Staying in hostels.

I still love travelling and meeting people, but I just can't do the hostel life anymore. I'd much rather have a nice, private bedroom and my own bathroom.

Part of me still dreams about just saving up some money and doing it all over again, but I know I'd be switching to hotels in about 2 days lol

- ObjectivePassenger9

This. I loved it when I was 22 and could meet people and hang out with them, It was a great way to meet interesting people, make fun memories, and see a new city.

But now? F*ck no.

If I stay in a hostel now, I have to have a private room and bathroom because I am not f*cking around with other people.

- FreddieGregg


Under Water Swimming GIF by Outside TVGiphy

I fell out of love with SCUBA.

Firstly I live in England so the waters are somewhat different to the Red Sea.

But when I did do SCUBA, either in England or abroad, I realized a large part of SCUBA is spending time on boats with middle aged men with marital problems who still, nonetheless, need to keep reminding me that they are better than me.

Hence the marital problems, I'm sure.

I always thought it should be an easier and more pleasant experience.

I'm a casual, by the way. I really don't have the inclination to get up early on a Sunday and look at 4 non-descript fish in the English Channel (which I've done, by the way.)

Plus I'm not very good at bragging so this excludes me from 95% of on boat conversations.

I would, however, like to rock up to Jordan or the Caribbean and just say "Look I'm here for a week or so. Lets do 5 dives but I haven't done it for a while, so can we spend some time on the first dive working on my bouyancy?"

I've tried this a couple of times only to get to the dive shop to find out its being run by an English couple. And if there's one thing worse than a middle aged man with marital problems, its an expat middle aged man with marital problems.

- random_username_94

The worst thing about diving, especially in places where you need tonnes of gear, is the people. It just attracts a certain type of men - especially men who are "big strong men" in their own view but whiney b!tches with OCD to me.

These a**holes are sloshing around with fancy gear spending most time on the shore telling other people why they are doing it wrong.

I switched to free diving which I can do alone, and never looked back.

- ragefaze

Over Editing

Editing. Specifically videos.

I got a project freshmen year of high school where we had to read a book and then write an essay about it or make a short video commercial of the book. I chose the video and after filming some stuff with my friend in the backyard, my mom let me use her computer to edit it and I fell instantly in love.

I loved all the different combinations and things I could do. Throughout high school, whenever I could substitute a video for any project, I did it, just to edit.

I went to college for film with specifically wanting to be a professional editor and it all came crashing down a few years in.

I still liked to edit but was realizing that doing it professionally, I wasn’t gonna have much artistic freedom. And it was either be freelance editor, just relying on clients to hire me and do whatever they want, or go into the cut throat business with the studios.

I don't know, neither sounded appeasing, and while I edited a few student films for some festivals, I just wasn’t enjoying it anymore. More so the environment the the actual editing, but it’s soured me to the point I don’t feel any motivation to work any of my personal projects.

Currently taking a break from school. I wanna go back and finish my degree after the pandemic, but will probably change my major.

I have no idea what to change it too or what I wanna do though.

- KageNekem

No Criticism Please

I loved drawing up until I took an art class in college and I realized that everyone else was so much better than me.

I was almost embarrassed to share my work, even though the professor and my classmates were so supportive... I just felt like I didn't have the tough skin to handle any criticism, even if it was just meant to be helpful.

I finished the class with an A, but I haven't really drawn since.

- sad_gurl4

Bakery Blues

baking season 5 GIF by PBSGiphy


I always wanted to be a pro-baker, do the custom cakes and have a blast. I finally became head baker at a custom cake bakery, and it wore me out.

Being chronically ill definitely didn't help the cause, but I quickly lost my passion for it.

Now I can't even remember the last time I've baked something. And I feel horrible now that I'm a mom.

I want to be the kind of mom that bakes with her daughter all the time, and teaches her everything as gets older, but I just don't feel it, and I don't want that rubbing off on her while she's still so young and impressionable.

- HonourOfGreyskull_


I started when I was in my teens and made elaborate and insanely delicious desserts and pastries. After years of making all sorts of deliciousness I came to the realization on New Years Eve that I absolutely hated doing it.

For a family dinner I was asked to make the dessert. As I was deciding what to make it realized that it no longer brought me any joy.

So I went to the Bakery and bought something to take. Everyone was disappointed that I didn't make anything. They had been hinting at a Samoan bundt cake and pecan pie cheesecake.

- messicanamerican

Well that was kind of a bummer. Sorry about that. But hey lets leave you on a happy note - lots of people don't find the thing they really love until much later in life.

We guess it sort of depends. As who you are shifts, what you love should shift too, right? That's what growth and evolution are about.

Want to "know" more?

Sign up for the Knowable newsletter here.

Never miss another big, odd, funny, or heartbreaking moment again.

While school was everyone's favorite activity growing up, something that inevitably made the experience worse was an indignant teacher.

Occasionally a student might have a question the teacher can't answer, or they might know something the teacher doesn't. While it would make sense for the teacher to be the life-long learner they urge their students to be, and to address the new information, sometimes the new information leads to disaster.

Keep reading...Show less
Person wearing a Pride Equality cap
Elyssa Fahndrich/Unsplash

For closeted individuals, coming out is a rite of passage in life that LGBTQ+ people never signed up for.

Why is it that anyone who inherently identifies a certain way has to explain themselves to those who are confused and unwavering in their socialized ignorance?

Times have changed and while there have been advances made for LGBTQ+ people to find more acceptance and feel less like an "other," there are still many challenges to overcome.

Even with gay role models prevalent in pop culture, it can still be difficult for gay youth today to come out to a parent who chooses to live in the past and align themselves to antiquated ideals in society that prevents them from loving their child as they are.

But sometimes, the response after opening up to a parent in a vulnerable moment can prove that unconditional love is the best thing in the entire world.

Keep reading...Show less

Everyone loves a good mystery or ghost story, particularly one with a massive twist regarding one of the main characters.

But surely, stories like this never happen in real life?

Such as finding yourself stuck on the side of the road, when a guardian angel of sorts comes and helps you, seemingly out of nowhere, then disappears just as mysteriously.

Or getting a call warning you about something which sounds far-fetched, then happens three weeks later?

Surely, these are the types of situations only found in the work of Shirley Jackson or Edgar Allen Poe.

Or are they?

Keep reading...Show less

We've all made clumsy mistakes that we know could have been avoided had we used a little bit more good judgment and common sense.

Thankfully, these silly mistakes don't usually harm others or ourselves.

This is why it's hard to see people knowingly perform reckless or dangerous activities which they know might have serious consequences.

While we don't usually wish these people ill, we also have a hard time feeling bad for them, as they knew what they were getting themselves in for.

As some people might say, they "f*cked around and found out" or "play stupid games, win stupid prizes."

Keep reading...Show less