One of the most important things that we often seek at the end of a relationship is closure.
But rarely do we get an answer that feels anywhere close to that, and we're left wondering what happened.
So when one woman recently received an unexpected text from an ex of hers, it left her stunned. Especially considering that he sent it to her the day before his wedding.
Alexsa Sanchez Aguilar shared the emotional text exchange that left her "speechless" on Twitter:
i- i’m speechless https://t.co/i2EAiER60z— 𝙻𝚎𝚡 ♡ (@𝙻𝚎𝚡 ♡)1563598731.0
It all started innocently enough:
And then her ex laid it all out there:
Not exactly the kind of thing you expect to receive from an ex who you've lost touch with, let alone the day before they're about to tie the knot with another person.
Many people were genuinely impressed with Aguilar's ex.
@_xolexc This has to be the most beautiful thing Ive read. Shout out to both of y'all for being such damn good people.— Nickolas Rey Tamez (@Nickolas Rey Tamez)1563635578.0
@_xolexc @chimichangaval Imagine having an ex this mature 🤒— emily (@emily)1563631362.0
@_xolexc https://t.co/xsmwY5Cc6i— Josiah (@Josiah)1563638771.0
@_xolexc @venusancheta1 m a t u r i t y https://t.co/hwI5MgLRqe— jossy 💛 (@jossy 💛)1563646320.0
Admit it—you totally thought this was how the message would go.
@_xolexc @sssotoo I thought it was gonna be those “I’m getting married tomorrow if there’s any chance of us getting… https://t.co/YpW30VIigH— 🗿 (@🗿)1563634718.0
But there were a lot of people who were kinda weirded out by the whole thing.
@_xolexc Bro how do you respond to this message...”of course bro anytime! Congrats on the marriage!” Like what do you say?????— Ciara🌻 (@Ciara🌻)1563647726.0
@_xolexc Idk man if I was the new girl I’d be a little weirded out that you wanted to send a paragraph to ur ex gir… https://t.co/PK5BmaiVI6— bratty at it’s finest (@bratty at it’s finest)1563635293.0
@_xolexc This isn’t beautiful to me. BUT that’s me. I interpreted “even though we were both kids, you taught me how… https://t.co/WuEn0C50z8— theb**chinblue (@theb**chinblue)1563649367.0
Aguilar explained to one commenter just how close she was with her ex and why his honesty wasn't all that unexpected.
@m9riah @abbysevillaa we were extremely young. we lost our bestfriend to suicide which is why we have so much respect towards eachother.— 𝙻𝚎𝚡 ♡ (@𝙻𝚎𝚡 ♡)1563613663.0
And for those wondering, Aguilar did respond.
Here's what she said:
In an interview with Buzzfeed, Aguilar revealed why she shared the texts, saying:
"I wanted to show that just because things don't work out with someone, that doesn't mean you should have hate towards them. Regardless of everything, you were meant to be a part of that person's life, and them, yours."
Now that sounds like some solid advice.
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